48 Bonkers Things People Did After They Realized Their Partners Were Cheating On Them
You might have thought you were end-game, but your partner had other ideas (and people) in mind. Being cheated on is one of the most horrible, soul-draining experiences that anyone can go through in life. However, not everyone reacts in the same way. Some might feel depressed while others try their best to heal and move on. Still others look for creative and chaotic ways to get back at their exes.
In a viral post on TikTok, content creator Sierra Potter (@sierrasheaaa) asked everyone to share the most unhinged things they’ve ever done when they realized they were being cheated on. We’ve collected some of the most off-the-hook stories to share with you. Keep scrolling to check them out.
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Saw in his deleted that they were going to a bbq. Found her son on Facebook. He asked me on a date. Showed up at the bbq that my husband was at w/his mistress. At the bbq, we all fam!
I really want to know the ages. I hope OP was a lot younger than her husband and his mistress. Poor son being used as a prop for revenge.
It's a date, not a lifetime commitment - he literally brought a first date to a giant family barbecue🤣
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Found out he was taking a girl on a date so when they were on the date I moved his car to a whole different parking lot cause I had his other key.
Hope that lovely fellow walked all around the lot pressing the panic button on his car key fob, only to hear a faint honking noise off in the distance...
I would have moved it to a place where a vehicle shouldn't be and then have it towed
His business website was expiring, so I bought it. Made some … key changes.
Reminds me of the time I spent a whole evening - well spent! - and a bottle of Brunello signing his cheating a** up for hundreds of newsletters and alerts, for all of it: his private email, business email, phone etc. I even registered him for some very specific f****h sites. Best evening of my life.
Infidelity can completely break even some of the (seemingly) strongest couples. And yet, an affair doesn’t necessarily mean an end to love or your relationship.
Choosing Therapy states that relationships can actually survive infidelity. However, repairing your relationship will take lots of hard work and commitment. Not just from one person, but from both partners.
The first (and possibly obvious) step is for your partner to end the affair and cut off all contact with them. “The partner who was betrayed will have difficulty moving forward if they know their partner continues to see or communicate with the person they had an affair with.”
Found out she was a photographer so I booked a couples session to make it real awkward for him.
It would have been nice to get just a few more details, about just how that photo shoot went down.
My guess (hope) is it either got cancelled once he found out who the photographer was, or it went ahead and the cheaters were awkward as f**k while wife glammed herself up and made her best poses ever while feigning complete nonchalance.
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Signed him up for Jehovah’s Witness visits.
Disappointed in you op you should have added some spam websites as well.
I did that to one of my highschool bullies after he unwisely gave me his email address by sending me a really nasty email.
Load More Replies...I've heard of this, along with signing them up for p3nis enlargement info
Load More Replies...Whoa. Didn't the Geneva Conventions rule that this was inhumane punishment?
They're merely a tool in this, it'll be ok. Besides, cults are the most persistent.
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Made a PowerPoint and presented in front of both our families. Videos were included.
Next comes the rebuilding of trust. In order for this to occur, several things need to happen:
- The cheating partner needs to be accountable and feel remorseful for the pain their affair has caused;
- Both partners need to have a strong motivation to work on their relationship;
- The couple needs to be incredibly honest about all the issues in their relationship, not just their affair;
- Communication has to improve;
- There needs to be space for forgiveness.
Some of the reasons why people might want to try to heal their relationship after an affair include things like time already invested, memories of past times, finances, the impact on their kids, and a feeling of responsibility to work out the problems.
Got a divorce and still hang out with his family. Got remarried and now his family loves my new husband and treats him like he’s their son
Probably because their new chosen son isn't an AH like their old son.
I was lucky to have the most wonderful mother-in-law in the world. We remained friends till her death. I loved her very much!
Took only his LEFT shoes.
This is pure evil genius and I'm absolutely bummed that I've never tried it.
Better: Take all his left shoes. Then hide two or three of those left shoes, preferably from pairs he dislikes or doesn't wear, in the house. One somewhere he'll find it quickly, like the fridge, the second where he'll find it eventually, like at the bottom of the laundry basket. If you go for broke, put one somewhere he'll have to rip the house apart to find, like behind a vent. Then he will not only be missing shoes, but he will keep the right shoes, and rip the place apart trying to find more pairs to them.
Just cut a couple inches off one leg of all my ex's trousers. When they weren't left behind (closet or trash), I knew a surprise was in store down the road.
I put marbles in his gas tank and he spent thousands of dollars trying to figure out what the thumping in his car was
I bet you made him lose his marbles or at least made him think he may have lost his, for the unknown thumping in his car.
That's not how it works. I know, because I had the same hypothesis. Turns out they randomly block the gas intake. The person I did this to spent thousands until the mechanic took off the gas tank and dumped it out.
Depends on the size of the marbles and the age and make of the car. Most sending units have a domed shroud that would prevent this
Load More Replies...A step up from a whiffle ball in the tailpipe, which is what I usually recommend.
“Getting over being cheated on requires identifying and understanding, without accusing or blaming, what the issues are in your relationship. Reflecting on the truth of what happened and how it happened can help partners recognize and talk about the factors that contributed to the affair happening—while still acknowledging that the partner who cheated is wholly responsible for their choices and behaviors,” Choosing Therapy explains.
In some cases, it might be worth reaching out to a therapist for help. Couples counseling might help both partners understand what happened, why it happened, and then move on from the past.
He cheated on me with the bartender.. so I DM’d her bf and told him…. and we have been together for 2 and a half years.
Said nothing, he went to work, I took everything and left . Never to spoke to him again . By everything I mean even the stove !
I am picturing the scene from Charlie and The Chocolate factory where young Wonka comes home to an empty lot after his dad tells him "I won't be here when you come back"
I'm picturing the scene in "True Lies" where Tom Arnold asks "What kind of sick b**ch" takes the ice cube trays out of the freezer?"
Load More Replies...that requires quite some planning! Within a working day I just about get my denims organized
My ex wouldn't dicuss divorce so I had to pack and leave while he was at work. My coworkers, all guys, helped me move my stuff out and into the apt I had rented. Ex didn't know I'd left until he tried to pick me up after work. Bet he was surprised as hell - he was pretty sure he had me under his control. But NOPE
This is my favorite and most likely, should I be in that position. No warning, no discussion, just gone having blocked him on everything.
How does this not constitute theft if not larceny and grand larceny?
I showed up to the hotel him and the girl were at and HIS MOM SHOWED UP TOO
John Kim, LMFT, aka The Angry Therapist, explains in a piece on Psychology Today that if you want to take power back from your ex who cheated on you, then you need to humanize them. What they did might not be excusable, but they’re also “not a monster.” In some cases, the reasons for infidelity might have less to do with you and your relationship than with deeper issues that your partner is struggling with.
“Our actions stem from something deeper than what's on the surface. Infidelity then can be a form of running. Or hiding. Or coping,” Kim says.
“You were betrayed and a victim. He took something from you. Yes, that may be true. But if that is your mindset, it will always have power over you. To take the power back, you must deploy empathy, and you can't deploy empathy unless you understand. And to understand, you must humanize—him or her, but also you.”
Took him back so he could "make up" for what he did, had a shopping day courtesy of him, then after i got what i wanted, told him i was done
I had a friend who regularly shopped the want ads for cheap (<$50) cars. He drove them until they died. Twice he hit the jackpot on unhappy exes. A convertible late model miata and a vintage camero. This was the 90s
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Turned off his electricity without warning cause it was in my name.
Or when it's hotter than hell on a Sunday outside.
Load More Replies...I did that to a roommate once. ALL of the utilities were in my name and I got transferred to west Michigan so had to move. I gave them a week but I got another bill from the electric company (theirs came in first in the cycle) so I said fvck it and canceled them all. Cue panicked phone calls about the utilities (including internet) shut off. OFW.
Found out he cheated. With his cousin. Texted her from a text app telling her it was him. Asked her for the pics they took. Made a Facebook account with them pics of them kissing & added all his fam.
I wonder how cheater's/cousin's family responded, to the pics and news?? Anyone else hear what sounds like a distant banjo or something??
This isn’t uncommon in certain cultures. (A lot of my Indian friends tell stories about the cousins they’ve dated.) If OP was, say, an American woman, this may not have fazed his family much, but hers? That’s a different story!
Load More Replies...There are 19 states that it's legal to marry first cousins: Alabama, Alaska, California, Colorado, Connecticut, District of Colombia, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Maryland, Massachusetts, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, South Carolina, Rhode Island, Tennessee, Vermont and Virginia. To add to that: New Jersey and Rhode Island are the ONLY 2 states where incest is fully legal and Connecticut and Ohio have provisions on whether or not it's legal, depending on the familial connection. I'm from Oklahoma and ALL of that is illegal as f**k here and I would like to point out that certain Southern states are absent from this list. So, please stop with the damned stereotypes, that if your from the South, Appalachians or "Red/Republican" state, you must be down with cousin lovin' and inbreeding.
Thanks for this info, I had no idea incest was legal in so many states, in some form or another. As for the damned stereotypes, I don't see any comments on this particular post, that says anything about the South, Appalachians or red/Republican states, except for yours?
Load More Replies...There are still places in the US where it is legal to marry one’s first cousin. I don’t know about the rest of the world.
It seems to be more common for it to be legal than otherwise, but the trend is moving in a better direction
Load More Replies...It was just pics of them kissing, so it's not revenge p**n.
Load More Replies...Potter has a sizeable following online. On TikTok, she boasts 14.3k followers and has garnered 1 million likes across all of her videos on the platform. Her clip, which inspired a lot of people to open up about their love life, was viewed 690k times and got over 2k comments. We’ve reached out to the content creator for comment, and we’ll update the article once we hear back from her.
This is a very sensitive topic, but if you feel like opening up, you can do so in the comments below. Have you ever been cheated on? How did you react? Have you ever gotten revenge against your ex for their infidelity? What is the most unhinged cheating revenge story that you’ve ever heard in your social circle?
He hated milk. Despised it. Put ALL of his things in garbage bags and poured gallons of milk into it and let it in the sun.
I love milk but if I ever experienced all my belongings in it, all rancid and nasty. I'd probably end up hating it, too.
He hated milk BEFORE what the person did to his things, not after it was done.
Load More Replies...I hate milk, and I would full on CRY if someone did this to me. Fortunately, I think cheaters are scum of the earth and I would never be one.
Found out a guy I was seeing had a wife. Sent her a deepest sympathy card with your pictures/proof/explanation of what was going on
made him tell his mom in front of me because she hated me and always thought i was cheating
Threaten to ditch him if he doesn't tell her. Then ditch him once it is done.
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Found out I was the other woman. So sent his girlfriend AND his sister screenshots.
This - I feel more bad in a way when someone finds out they are the side piece. So many people blame the other person instead of the actual person doing the cheating.
I agree. If the other person doesn’t know that their partner is in a relationship already then they’re innocent and a victim of the cheater themselves. If the other person knows their partner is already in a relationship then they are a bad person, but the person cheating is way more culpable because they actually know and are supposed to care for the person they’re hurting. They’re the ones lying and being manipulative.
Load More Replies...One, OP discovered the guy she was with had a girlfriend; so she sent the GF and the sister of the guy the proof he cheated
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Contact the other woman, she didnt know that he’s with me. Me and that woman went for vacation somewhere, and post our pictures together. Left him mad and puzzled. Girl bestie til now lol.
Ex was always a little sulky his wife left him - she wanted kids, he didn't, he wanted her for himself. What he did not see coming was us ending up working together and sending him a selfie when it transpired. Interesting hearing her side of the tale which confirmed she didn't want to live with a manchild who was still attached to mom's apron - neither did I. Ironically his rebound from me was his BF, who was the ex of another boyfriend of mine from many years ago. I should write soap operas.
Took the labels off his canned foods, so he had no idea what was what.
Add rice, chicken and some peas and you've got a meal.
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He cheated with my friend/coworker. She had paid a sous chef 5k to marry her (illegal) I reported them, she got deported.
Ohh he DEFINITELY did. I believe thats a felony for him. Immigration fraud
Load More Replies...A loved someone very much who’d overstayed his student visa. He had a job that paid reasonably well, but his boss (a friend of mine who knew he wasn’t legal) underpaid him **horribly**. Could not convince to pay him at least better, if not properly, so got angry and reported boss to labor board. He got in a shitpile of trouble … and reported my boyfriend for being illegal, and he was deported. Waaah. I was only 22 so still stupid and didn’t think things through. Still wonder to this day what mightta happened had I not done that. 🤔😰
Because it was her friend and coworker, who clearly knew that they were married. I’m guessing that betrayal hurt almost as much as his.
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I sent an email to the mother of the girl he cheated on me with screen shots of her saying how much she loved going back door and that someone on the family got a colonoscopy and they described it as awful and she said she would love it. I told her mother “surely you did not raise your daughter to be like this”
I know they're trying to embarrass her by telling her mother, but they're also upsetting the mother who probably had nothing to do with the situation.
Colonoscopies are so awful that I was sedated for mine. No other option. Woke up and everything was history except for a lot of flatulence. Highly recommend!
My time to shineee. It was August in the midwest so iykyk, the day before it rained i put over $100 worth of instant mashed potatoes in his yard and waited for the rain to come
I did the math. Great Value mashed potatoes are $3.67 for a 12 serving size box. That's 27 boxes for approximately $100. So 326 servings of mashed potatoes on your lawn.
Still not as bad as prawns in the curtain railing or [seeds] in the carpet (can't remember, they are tiny and usually used in micro herb salads).
Forgive my ignorance, but why is this a big deal? Seriously, someone please enlighten me - it just sounds like a waste of mashed potatoes.
I believe instant mashed potatoes get their mushy consistency from water? By putting those in his yard before a rainstorm, the yard will literally be mashed potatoes and very hard to get rid of. I think.
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Found him liking a certain girls pics, showed up to the airport to pick him up dressed like her (skimpy)!! Asked if he’d like to grab food where she worked so we could both say hi in person
Called his P.O. A week after he finally got to unsupervised and told them everything he had been doing.. needless to say he was arrested for violation
? Ah: PO is parole officer. I shall add that to my abbreviations on BP
If he was unsupervised then he didn't have a PO anymore. This makes no sense.
Umm, cheating isn't a violation of parole and if he's unsupervised then by definition he wouldn't have a PO anymore.
Sprayed pepper spray in his duty boots in the middle of summer in Arizona. He didn’t notice until it was too late.
He loved to kayak so right before he came to pick up his things I put a bunch of small holes in the bottom of it.
I would have sanded a spot down so there was just enough hull left to make it to the middle of the lake.
Years ago, I heard of someone who was doing BF's laundry. When she found out he was cheating, she sewed all the buttonholes closed. This was before Tshirts were so popular, so there were a lot of buttonholes.
I got with his best friend and now I'm engaged to him and now they don't talk anymore.
He didn't cheat (at least i don't have proof he did..) but i got with my ex's best friend several months after the (messy) breakup where his best friend was struggling to stay friends with us both. They barely talk now but my now boyfriend tells me there were a lot of factors that made them stop getting along
I think the general rule of thumb is to not cheat...
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Load More Replies...My car was in his name. I would go through every camera light I saw. Racked up a lot of tickets in his name. (Allegedly)
Depends on the country. The Netherlands has a law, that if the driver can not be immediately identified, the tickets go to the person who is on the title. The burden of proof lies with said owner to put it on someone else. If you can't prove the violation was made by a specific person (and no,the pictures won't work, because because they are taken from behind) it reverts back to the registered owner
Load More Replies...My ex did that in the days before camera surveillance. He landed me with thousands of dollars worth of fines and no way to change the registration or prove it wasn't me.
Yeah I got a speeding ticket for North Carolina. Somewhere I haven't been in 20 years. And the date is supposedly happened I was actually in Miami. I contacted him and they realized the tag number was off by one digit
Sent my proof to him and set it as his lockscreen.
I logged into his electricity account, had the power immediately disconnected. Then I logged into his phone account and had his number changed and blocked every incoming text number except for his mom
I find it already slick if you store her number on his phone under your name
He was out of state so I drove his car to a place I knew it would get towed but before dumping the car I dumped out 7 bottles of blue cheese & milk then locked it.
If he has decorative curtain rods, slip the ends off, put two uncooked shrimp in each end, replace the cars, and then chortle mightily when you hear how much he's spending to get rid of "that nasty smell..."
Load More Replies...I sent the screenshots to his military leadership
Signed him up for Grindr.
Does that really affect you? Can!t you just uninstall the app? I assume they don’t give out any of your contact details and all contact is through the app.
Yeah I would not think it would have much effect, but I imagine there's a web version which she could have signed up for using his details, the worst though would be a few unwanted emails.
Load More Replies...he was straight with possible homophobia leanings - my best guess.
Load More Replies...I told him I was going to ruin his life when he cheated on me pregnant, my daughter is now 29 and I post him in the are we dating groups on the regular with his criminal record. I ain’t stopping now
To much anger. I had a professor say it takes more energy to be angry than forgive. She's holding onto 29yrs of anger essentially wasted energy.
Don’t even have to forgive necessarily. Just get past it.
Load More Replies...Hate is not the opposite of love. Both are a form of attachment. Cultivate indifference.
Seek therapy immediately. You shouldn't be obsessing about this guy 30 years later.
The full quote is “Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.”
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I showed up to her work (which happened to be my old place of work where everyone knew me) and made her cry for hooking up with him while she knew I was pregnant with his kid . Everyone sided with me
Then you've never been cheated on with someone who *knew* they were with somebody who was in a committed relationship.
Load More Replies...Sent her screenshots of what he was saying to me about her when I knew they were on a long road trip together. It was her birthday. I was deployed
She may not have known he was married when they got together. Then when she found out, she made sure his wife knew she was married to a d*****g. My vote goes to him being the b***h here.
Load More Replies...I went to marriage counseling and pretended I wanted to make it work so he would pay the bills while I went through my law enforcement hiring process then left. Looks like we both got played.
So it's okay to judge an entire group based upon a single person? Good to know!
Load More Replies...He cheated once but I heard “rumors” he was cheating with possible men, so I made a fake grinder account matched him. Made him meet “me” in a public setting, posted the conversations lmao
Honestly it's awful of him to cheat but outing someone still feels gross to me.
It's gross you're siding with the cheater.
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Made dinner and told him we were going on a last minute road trip, drove to the girls dads house knocked on the door with all of our children and him (neither one of them had no idea)
OP drove to the house of the side piece, who lives with her dad. She took the kids and the cheating husband with her when she went. As for neither of them had no idea, my best guess is: The cheater didn't know OP knew, the side piece didn't know the cheater was married and a dad & the girl's dad didn't know she was involved with someone (he might have that as a condiction for her to live with him?). At least that's what I think it might be
Load More Replies...Some apostrophes are missing...? She went to the house of the father of hubby's side piece wiith her husband and their children on tow? That's my best guess 🫤
You involved the children? You're as bad as he is and deserve one another.
Our 2 year anniversary was that weekend, in Tulum….. I racked up as much as I could on room service, anything and everything under his card I racked up, threw his passport in the ocean at some point
Wouldn't that be considered criminal? I'm all for revenge, but that could get someone jailed for life depending on the country they get caught in without a passport
Agree, Bora Bora a much nicer place ;-) But I agree
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The classic used his toothbrush to clean the toilet and watched him brush his teeth after. Also, used his towel to clean the toilet.
Staged my own "death", had my cousin in on it, believed i died, told his parents then like everyone in my hometown thought i died, i was with my grandparents in a different state.
it was the week before christmas. i destroyed everything i paid for in the house (everything but the couch) bleached his clothes, lotion in his work boots, garlic powder in the christmas tree
I used to put hand lotion on my boots to make the leather supple.
Destroying the tree is going to far. Just take it along with all of the ornaments. Make him replace them all. Sorry, but the tree I have every year means a lot to me
If your tree means a lot to you, then it’d hurt if someone destroyed it in an unhinged revenge plot, wouldn’t it?
Load More Replies...I would just get a dog in from a friend. One (or two) who like to chew on things
Made him become obsessed with me, he went to jail (unrelated) he started calling me hundreds of times a day. I called the jail and asked if they could block him from calling me and they charged him with felony stalking. I still think it’s funny
Calling BS on this - no jail anywhere would allow an inmate to make 100s of calls.
You do realize sneaking cellphones into jail is quite a common practice... don't you?!
Load More Replies...he often goes to bars where you can choose and pay girls inside the vip room. so i showed up one day as one of the girls who they can get to choose and pay, while wearing a skirt he hated on me
I don't think I've ever heard of a bad quite like this before? Interesting 🤔
Threw him a 21st bd party and then proceeded to show his messages and pics on the tv for everyone to see. The best part, I went to jail for domestic violence that night.
See? don't be surrised about women upon men DV: 40% of DV is female upon male. But the punishment for the woman is always repeat always half that of a man.
Also in the news today, the lady who set her male friend on fire during an argument and only got sentenced to 7.5 years, and will serve a minimum of 4.5 years in prison is planning to appeal and hoping for a lighter sentence. Crazy.
Load More Replies...Some of these strike me as weird. I understand being angry but there is a time where it becomes a failure to move on.
I guess I'm hinged, because I've always just extricated myself from the relationship and gone on with my life, forgetting they ever existed.
A friend of mine caught her baby daddy cheating. She threw him out and set his clothes on fire. He went to stay with his mother. My friend ratted him out to his mother and his mother threw him out too and set his remaining clothes on fire. I guess he picked a girl just like dear old mom! Yes, it was unhinged as she now admits.
A lot of poison being taken to make the other person die. Lots of immaturity. Sad. None of them should have been together to begin with.
I read stuff like this with the sole intention of judging the deviousness & comedic value of the revenge plot, and while I might say it sounds like something I'd do there's a 99.9% chance that I wouldn't. It's fun to think about exacting revenge, but the best revenge is moving on with your life, doing better, and not letting them take up space in your head.
What ever happened to the classic 55 gallon drum at the bottom of Lake Mead?
People a friend of mine knew. She found out he was cheating. He found out she found out so he just didn't go home, spent the weekend sleeping on the boat. Figured he'd go home Monday after she's had time to cool off. She cooled off alright, he went home to an empty, open house. She even took the covers off the light switches and wall sockets. I was surprised she didn't take the switches and outlets too. She even took the door knobs. And no, the one he was cheating with didn't last either.
Some of these strike me as weird. I understand being angry but there is a time where it becomes a failure to move on.
I guess I'm hinged, because I've always just extricated myself from the relationship and gone on with my life, forgetting they ever existed.
A friend of mine caught her baby daddy cheating. She threw him out and set his clothes on fire. He went to stay with his mother. My friend ratted him out to his mother and his mother threw him out too and set his remaining clothes on fire. I guess he picked a girl just like dear old mom! Yes, it was unhinged as she now admits.
A lot of poison being taken to make the other person die. Lots of immaturity. Sad. None of them should have been together to begin with.
I read stuff like this with the sole intention of judging the deviousness & comedic value of the revenge plot, and while I might say it sounds like something I'd do there's a 99.9% chance that I wouldn't. It's fun to think about exacting revenge, but the best revenge is moving on with your life, doing better, and not letting them take up space in your head.
What ever happened to the classic 55 gallon drum at the bottom of Lake Mead?
People a friend of mine knew. She found out he was cheating. He found out she found out so he just didn't go home, spent the weekend sleeping on the boat. Figured he'd go home Monday after she's had time to cool off. She cooled off alright, he went home to an empty, open house. She even took the covers off the light switches and wall sockets. I was surprised she didn't take the switches and outlets too. She even took the door knobs. And no, the one he was cheating with didn't last either.
