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“No Contact For 5 Peaceful Years!”: 91 Wildly Toxic Things Mothers-In-Law Said And Didn’t Even Stutter
Physical pain, like stubbing your toe or getting punched in the face, hurts. But words can injure even worse. If you had to remember the worst insult you’ve ever received, who was the person chucking it at you? Was it your worst enemy? Was it an ex who wanted to hurt you as much as possible? Or was it your partner’s parent who knew just the kind of buttons to push that would bruise the most?
For many people, mothers-in-law are the people who have uttered things so hurtful they can’t forget them to this day. Bored Panda came across several TikTok videos in which people shared the absolutely worst things their in-laws have ever said to them. Forget showing up in a white dress to upstage your daughter-in-law — these comments are so brutal that most of these MILs deserve to go straight to jail.
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#1
She introduced me to people as “This is the person carrying my grandbaby.” I laughed one time cause someone’s response was “Does the incubator have a name?”
tresgatos72 17 hours ago
"And this is the person who gave birth to my husband. Don't mind her - at her age, she doesn't know what she's saying sometimes. "
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#2
She got mad at my husband for wanting to see his wife and kids first when he returned from rehab. We cut her out. Also shout out to my husband for 4 years sobriety!
#3
She told me that she had a "hard time bonding" with my son (her first grandchild), because he looked too much like me. They completely ignored him as he grew up. He is now 34 and when she recently passed away I asked him if he was going to her funeral. He said "I don't know this person".
#4
My son passed at 2 days old. At his funeral in front of his casket said “eh I have 14 other grandkids anyways.”
#5
The day my mother [passed away], my MIL said how excited she was to be the only grandma.
#6
After I had a miscarriage, I struggled with my mental health. My MIL told me to unalive myself because I went months without wanting to try again, depriving her of grandchildren. She’s never met my child btw. No contact for 5 peaceful years!
#7
She called my now husband while he was 2 states away for work and told him she saw me running around town all over some guy and he was driving my car…. She didn’t know I was sitting next to him 2 states away.
#8
She was livid when she found out he had a vasectomy because “what if you want more kids in your next marriage” … while I was in the room.
#9
My MIL ( she passed away a while back) asked me to have my C section time moved to later in the day so she could sleep in. Baby was born at 7:35 am she showed up at Noon asking why we didn't wait for her.
#10
"I was going to give you a mother's day card but you're not pregnant anymore"....6 weeks after a fetal demise.
#11
She told me that if she [passed away] before her dog to have the dog put to sleep. Of course I just took Buttercup home and she’s now living her best life.
#12
We went no contact with my grand mother after she called my daughter her "first" grand baby in front of our oldest son. That's how he found out he was adopted at 7.
#13
When I broke the news about my miscarriage, she said “Well, I wasn’t ready to be a grandma anyways.”
#14
I became desperately ill at her house, and asked her to call 911. She said, “Stop being such a baby.” I had sepsis.
#15
At my wedding reception she was walking around telling people our marriage wouldn't last longer then 6 mths. Married for almost 24 years.
#16
I have a mango in my insta bio. She accused me of having it as a secret message because I want my fiancé to leave “man-go”… not because it’s my favorite fruit. That would make too much sense.
#17
"We liked his first fiancée better. She was a better fit with our family." We’ve been married 35 years now. I think it’s going to work out.
#18
My ex MIL did some crazy voodoo ceremony and cut off a chicken's head wishing for my [demise]. true story. She was so horrific that we were guests on Oprah in 2020 on an episode about bad in-laws.
#19
Told me she hopes she never has any red headed grandchildren after meeting my mom who has red hair. Joke's on her- my youngest is a beautiful red head who gets nice comments anytime we are in public!
#20
She stopped my husband on the way to the car after our wedding and said, "This is the worst day of my life, and I will never forgive you for this!" We have been married 35 years.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago (edited)
"And I will never forgive you for what you just said. Goodbye." BLOCK.
#21
When I was in labor I told her I didn’t want her in the room when I was pushing and she said I don’t care what you want that’s MY grandchild and I’m going to be here when she’s born nobody is gonna make me leave. The nurses gave me a safe word and had her removed.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"Well, too bad you'll never get to meet her until you apologize and learn some manners!"
#22
Ex mother in law would tell people “she doesn’t know how to be a mom because she doesn’t have one” my mom passed away when I was a baby.
#23
She said she felt very unwelcome and disrespected when she showed up to our house late at night while we were sleeping and the front door was locked…
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"Oh, so if we showed up at YOUR door in the d**d of night, your door would be unlocked?" 🤨
#24
Mine tried to call my doctors office to get my therapy records to try and prove that I was an unfit mother because I was getting treated for PPD.
#25
She asked me to send her my period schedule so she could track my ovulation and let me know when it “was a good time.”
#26
ON MY WEDDING DAY she said there was nothing to celebrate and told my husband this was his “last chance” to leave with her or he will lose everything. I opened our wedding gift from her and it was a card that didn’t even have my name on it. Haven’t heard from her since.
#27
My in-laws are Jehovah's Witnesses. When my first son was [passing], I allowed the hospital to give him a blood transfusion. He still ended up passing and so my inlaws told me it was my fault because I allowed him to get the blood transfusion.
#28
Introduced me as his “first wife.”
#29
She told me that my son's autism wasn't real and we just needed to discipline him more.
#31
“Don’t forget you’re not pregnant anymore” threatening to hit me while I was less than a week postpartum, holding my newborn, standing between her and my 5 year old who she had just tried to hit for being whiny. The 5 year old who was adjusting to starting kindergarten and having a newborn sister all at once and wasn’t sleeping well.
#32
The family left my cat outside in a cage (mind you it’s 106 in New Orleans) I get home and he is stiff. She told me “yall had too many animals anyway, it’s just a cat” as I’m crying hysterically! That was my first baby man, I raised him from a kitten!
#33
while i was in labor with my son i was kind enough to let her in the room with us. she tried getting my fiancé to leave the hospital and go home (an hour away from the hospital). when we told her he wasn’t going home, she said “you’re being selfish not letting him go home and get rest when you know he has to go to work tm. you’re not in that much pain, you’re jus giving birth” i had our son on a tuesday and he had off for the rest of the week. she also tried to get in between me and my mom while i was in labor. like physically tried moving my mom away from the bed. i haven’t spoken to her since.
#34
She didn't say it to me. She said it about me to her whole family. I had an ectopic pregnancy and needed emergency surgery. She told everyone I had an abortion.
#36
My MIL asked when we will have real kids, after adopting 3.
Elladine DesIsles 18 hours ago
I have two, and I assure you, they are not paper dolls, mannequins, action figures or holograms. They are quite real. They didn't grow in my belly, but they landed in my arms and took root in my heart.
#37
“You are not a daughter. You are not a sister, you are not a granddaughter. You need to learn your place in this family.”. She got her son back a couple years later.
#38
I was in foster care multiple times due to neglectful parents. She made a comment saying I could never understand the bond she has with my husband bc my parents don't love me.
#39
Bought me a pair of xxxxxl pyjamas bottoms for Christmas and told me I could return them if they was too small HAHAHAHAHA so then I returned her son ……
#40
Asked me 3 days post partum with my son still in NICU if I was sure it was my husband's because he has red hair. My family has red hair. This was after she tried to kidnap him the night he was born and the hospital went into lockdown.
#41
My MIL got gifted a package for family pictures for her birthday and begged us to be there but didnt want me to be in the pictures because "someday you guys might not work out" my husband and I had been together for 10 years and had a 6 month old daughter at the time.
#42
“Surely there’s a reason he hit you.”
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"Yes, there is. His mother didn't teach him to have respect for women."
#43
She uninvited me to Thanksgiving because she “misses the way it used to be.”
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"That's fine. I'd rather stay home and be thankful that I don't have to see *you*."
#44
Called my daughters her “second and third favorite granddaughters” in front of them and never apologized or acknowledged that it was a hurtful and awful thing to say.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"That's ok. Mommy says we have to be nice to you because you're old and starting to go crazy." 😉
#45
She leaned on me after thanksgiving one year and said “Boy Nicki, if I keep eating, I’ll end up as fat as you.”
#46
Told me I wasn't actually a real mother because I had a c section.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"Then I guess it's not a *real* baby either, so there's no point in you seeing us again."
#47
She paid to fly the girl she always hoped he would end up with in for our wedding and then encouraged my husband to “spend time with her” the night before our wedding.
tresgatos72 17 hours ago (edited)
Again, hope the husband kicked her to the curb. And why was the slaggy ex allowed into the wedding?
#48
I lost twin boys and was still having a hard time with it six months later. I was talking about them while at her house and she out of nowhere said, can you just get over it already?!? I didn’t talk to her for a year.
#49
My mother in law announced she was wearing white to my wedding. My mother told her that if she did she would regret it. We had a photographer for the whole weekend and I wanted shots of us all getting ready in the castle I got married in..when I got the photos back there were loads of photos of my mother on the morning of my wedding just lurking about in corridors with a large glass of red wine..
#50
I’m not married anymore, but when I was married my mother-in-law pulled me into her quilt room on Christmas Day. Showed me all the quilts she made for all of the other people. Then she looked me in the eye and said, “you’re the only one not getting one because you don’t love me” she was not wrong!
#51
She looked at my one week old son & said “well I don’t know who this baby looks like but he doesn’t look like you or my son.” Hes 2 1/2 now & that’s the first & only time she’s ever seen him.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
Considering that most newborn babies look like little red wrinkly boxing gloves for the first week or so, how the heck is he supposed to resemble anyone?🥊
#52
Said I ignored her. I’m deaf.
#53
“If you genuinely had cancer you would’ve lost more weight. You need to stop worrying my son” - said to me two days after I was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer.
#54
I broke up with her manchild and she looked me dead in the face and said ‘but who’s going to cook his dinner now.’
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"I guess he'll have to move back in with Mumsie and have her do it." 🙄
#55
She asked me if I ever sleep walk… I’m a full-time wheelchair user.
Lukas (alt) 16 hours ago
I hate to say it but I feel like I'd manage to ask something this stupid without thinking
#56
“When is this thing gonna be over.” It was my wedding day lol.
tresgatos72 15 hours ago (edited)
"There's the door. Don't let it hit you in the b**t on your way out."
#57
My mother-in-law told my precious seven year-old daughter that she was hard to love. That was seven years ago and I have not spoken to her since.
#58
I can create a giant list but the one that makes me cringe the most is when she told me my engagement ring would look better on her and asked me if she could try it on.
#59
My MIL was asked if she wanted a picture with her 3 daughter in laws at the 3rd ones wedding. She told the photographer she only has 2. The photographer laughed and said well by the end of the day it will be 3. When she looked confused I had to tell the photographer she wasn't including me.
#60
“I can’t wait until *her daughter* has a baby! That baby will be like my real grandchild.”-said to me while I was 8 months pregnant with apparently her fake grandchild.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"I can't wait for my baby to meet my mom, her REAL grandmother!" Then BLOCK.
#61
At my gender reveal (after she already told my husband the gender beforehand by “accident”), we were waiting for his friend to get there and I said it’s fine to wait it’s one of SO’s most important people! She said “I am the most important person in his life”, his uncle laughed SO LOUD and said umm not not anymore.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"I hate to break it to you, MIL, but only someone who's committing emotional incest with their son would be crazy enough to think that said son still considers his mom #1 in his life, as a grown-âśŝ man." 🙄
#62
I was pregnant with her first grandchild, a girl. She didn’t have girls. She said, “I’m not a girl person. I will never go to her dance recitals or girly things.”
#64
“Oh your wedding dress is a size 2, mine was a 00.”
#65
After praising my husband (a chef) for how delicious the dinner was, my husband responded with “she (me) made dinner, I wasn’t even here” and her response was “oh, it was okay.”
#66
When my husband saw me in my wedding dress he teared up and she declared " I told you he didn't want to marry her!" while I walked down the aisle.
#67
The day after I had a miscarriage, she told me I was lucky because now I can have weight loss surgery.
#68
Got married and she said to my husband “You’ll be back” to him. We hit 33 years this year.
#69
In front of my oldest daughter before my husband and I were married “she’s not a real grandchild anyway”—Took both my daughters shopping for dresses. Hands them size smalls and says “it’ll give you something to work for.”
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
I never would've allowed her around my girls again. My crazy grandmother said something similar to me when I was 17, and I've never forgotten it. I'm 54 now, and she's long gone, but it still stings.
#70
My MIL told me that our kids will be hers if we ever divorce and I have no say. I told her never will any of this happen. They made bets how long we would stay married. They said 2 years. It's going to be 23 years in August.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"You do realize that there are legal ways I can protect my kids from seeing you, right?"
#71
“Its my right to tell family and friends that I’m going to be grandma, not yours” after she got called out to for announcing my pregnancy before my husband and I got to. She also announced the birth and her response was “ oops, did I mess up again.”
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"Yes, and since you're obviously not mentally stable, it's best that we keep the baby safely away from you."
#72
When my husband and I named our youngest Oliver after him (HER SON WHO SHE NAMED HERSELF), she insisted that we better not call him Ollie because she doesn’t like that nickname and when my daughter called her brand new brother that in front of her, she said “fine, traumatize me” to my 9 year old.
tresgatos72 15 hours ago
"MIL, if you're going to traumatize your granddaughter, you can leave."
#73
“It’s a real shame I can’t pick who my sons marry.”
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"Oh believe me, your sons' spouses feel the same way about YOU." BLOCK.
#74
My first baby was born with a nasal cleft. She walked in the recovery room, looked at him, and said “what’s wrong with him?”
#75
“You should abort that baby cause I want my son back with his ex.”
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"The only thing that's being aborted around here is our relationship with YOU." BLOCK.
#76
A few days after having a miscarriage “yall didn’t need another baby anyway” “you can always have more later.”
#77
After becoming a vegetarian for medical reasons she gave me a gift card to a steak house for Christmas.
The Goo King 12 hours ago
I too have been to weddings that went on far too long. You just have to resist saying it out loud.
#78
my MIL made a heartfelt video about her grandkids when she was fighting breast cancer. she included my son in it but not my daughter because she is not biologically my husband's even though he adopted her and has been in her life since she was born.
#79
My MIL was VERY upset about our wedding date because she was wanting to go on a cruise that time. Made it WELL known how mad she was about this.
tresgatos72 15 hours ago
"Oh, feel free to go on your cruise, MIL. We'll explain to everyone why you weren't there!" 😉
#80
That I put myself into labor to cut her time with her son.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"No, my labor started because I was giving bierh to my child, the grandchild you are never going to see."
#81
After her son battered me black & blue, she sat there and said “well thats just what he’s like” I BEG YOUR FINEST PARDON.
#82
I asked mine to watch my kids for an hour so I could make an appt and she said “I’ve raised my kids I’m not raising yours.”
#83
I was in my graduating year at University & got pregnant. I decided to take a break because my iron was so low. I didn't want the severe fatigue & brain fog to affect my grades. She told me, "I am disappointed in you." I literally got up & went to another room to cry. My husband defended me. My parents were actually the people who encouraged me to take a break, have a baby, recover & try again.
tresgatos72 15 hours ago
"I'm disappointed that the health of your future grandchild isn't more important to you. I guess it's better that we know now that we won't be seeing you very often."
#84
My grandma on my father side told my mom (already married and pregnant with my brother) that “if only my son didn’t go to switzerland he would still be with his ex, I still have all the letters that they used to send each other.”
#85
While pregnant with my first, I had no desire to be intimate with my husband, he must’ve vented to her about it because one day she invited me to lunch and went on about how as his wife I was obligated to be intimate with him whether I was in the mood or not, otherwise I was giving him the green light to cheat. She went on to say she’s been intimate with her husband plenty of times out of fear that he’ll be with someone else. Insane.
tresgatos72 16 hours ago
"Wow, I'd never want to be married to someone who thought SA and infidelity were options." And then I'd have had a *serious* talk with the husband for whining like a little mummy's boy. 🤨
#86
“You should NOT have a bigger ring than me” I hit her back with a “tell (husband) to buy you a bigger one then.
#87
I rang her to tell her I’d had a miscarriage and she replied with ‘ok but have you got that £6 you owe me.’
#88
"who baby is that? no one on our side has blonde hair" me with blonde hair and many family members with blonde hair...... "I just had to ask if it was his" like we hadn't been dating exclusively since the age of 15..... he's literally always at my house or I'm at your guys house how would I even have time or energy to find another dude. we're 33 now and have 4 kids.... she skipped our wedding.
#89
I brought my 3 month old human baby over to visit wearing little tutu pants and she said it reminded her of when they put outfits on shelter dogs "to make them more attractive for adoption."
#90
Her name is Sharon — Me, “Happy birthday to my second mom!” — Her, “Thanks dear, but I think I prefer Sharon.”
#91
She kept calling me by his ex wifes name.... the ex that she hates with a passion.
tresgatos72 15 hours ago
Every time she used the wrong name, you should've said, "Oh, poor MIL, you're confused again. I'm DIL not ex gf. We should get you in to see a doctor and get checked for dementia."
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Laserleader 17 hours ago (edited)
His grandmother wanted grandkids, and neither he nor I wanted kids. She called me a muurdererr to all her friends because I had medically nessisary abortions first trimester (Dibeties, PCOS, uterous fibrosis, hormone imbalances, and extreme pain requiring 8 months of bedrest, with less than 10% fetal survival). Didn't visit her again.
Breadcrumb. 17 hours ago
I told mine she needs to call or text before coming over, no unexpected visits. "She's trying to take my son away from me!" Was her complaint.
Laserleader 17 hours ago (edited)
His grandmother wanted grandkids, and neither he nor I wanted kids. She called me a muurdererr to all her friends because I had medically nessisary abortions first trimester (Dibeties, PCOS, uterous fibrosis, hormone imbalances, and extreme pain requiring 8 months of bedrest, with less than 10% fetal survival). Didn't visit her again.
Breadcrumb. 17 hours ago
I told mine she needs to call or text before coming over, no unexpected visits. "She's trying to take my son away from me!" Was her complaint.
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