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Stories about toxic mothers-in-law are the stuff of legends. It's a common stereotype that every mother hates her son's wife or girlfriend, and women often return those feelings. In fact, 23.9% of women in the U.S. say they consider their MIL a "frenemy," while 12.9% think of their mothers-in-law as enemies.

You might think that such a label is harsh, but after you read some of the texts in this list, you might understand where the women are coming from. The recent trend on TikTok, where girlfriends and wives expose their toxic MILs for the crazy texts they've sent them, seems familiar to many women. "Sometimes you have to read a text from your MIL and then block her," the participants in the trend write.

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Unhinged text from a MIL criticizing meal planning apps and grocery delivery, showcasing extreme in-law behavior.

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    #2

    Unhinged text from a mother-in-law saying she will invite all her son's exes to holidays, calling recipient her number one DIL.

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    #3

    Screenshot of unhinged texts from a MIL insulting a tattoo makeup artist and referencing family disrespect online.

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    Unhinged in-laws are a pretty relevant topic at the moment, since it's the Thanksgiving weekend. For many people, the holidays are a time of heightened stress, and conflicts with in-laws can be a big contributor to that. If you have a mother-in-law who's similar to the ones on this list, you might not feel so thankful this holiday season.

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    Mental health experts explain that it is crucial to set boundaries if you want to survive the Thanksgiving weekend. The important thing here is that a couple should present as a united front, meaning that if one spouse finds a MIL's behavior inappropriate, the other should back them up.

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    Screenshot of unhinged texts from toxic MILs showing offensive and invasive messages that prompt women to block them.

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    #5

    Woman giving thumbs up next to baby's NICU bed with unhinged text from MIL about fixing her relationship with son.

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    Screenshot of unhinged texts from MILs causing women to consider the block button in a tense family conversation.

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    As evident from some of the examples on this list, toxic mothers-in-law like to be backseat grandparents. They think that because it's their son's child, they have a say in how they will be raised and cared for. PopSugar's Laura Lifshitz writes that it's important to let these types of MILs know that you hear their concern, but won't entertain their every whim and comment.

    "Just gently say, 'Thank you for caring so much about the kids. It means a lot to me that you care so much, but don't worry. They will be fine,'" Lifshitz recommends saying. However tempting it may seem, it's best to refrain from smirking, rolling your eyes, and using a sarcastic tone. In the end, that will only bring more drama.

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    Text message from a MIL criticizing meal planning app use, showcasing unhinged texts from MILs that prompt blocking.

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    #8

    Text message from MIL demanding homemade Thanksgiving sides and criticizing the use of an app, showcasing unhinged texts from MILs.

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    #9

    Text message from MIL asking not to breastfeed openly at Thanksgiving to avoid making family uncomfortable.

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    Even one evening with a toxic mother-in-law can be draining. That's why it's so important to practice self-care before and after, perhaps more intensely than regularly. Experts recommend spending more time with friends, doing activities that help you recharge and relax (be it working out, crocheting, or catching up on your favorite show), taking a moment to ground yourself in the moment, perhaps even meditating or doing some breathing exercises.

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    Meme with unhinged texts from MILs, featuring a shocked puppet and pregnant polar bear images reacting to awkward messages.

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    #11

    Text message from a MIL expressing anger and emotional distress, part of unhinged texts that led to blocking.

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    #12

    Woman smiling in car with text about unhinged MIL response during labor, highlighting awkward mother-in-law texts.

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    What are your relationships with your mothers-in-law like, Pandas? Have you ever received this sort of message from your unhinged MIL? Let's make the comment section into a group therapy session and share the worst things MILs have said to us. And after, if you're looking for more stories about how people deal with their toxic MILs, check out this one where a man got revenge at his overbearing MIL in the pettiest way possible!

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    Screenshot of unhinged MIL text messages showing controlling and accusatory behavior in a confrontational tone.

    Someone's mad & jealous that her son took me out for breakfast.

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    #14

    Text message from a mother-in-law demanding answers about keeping her son and grandchildren away from his parents.

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    #15

    Text message from a MIL accusing her son’s partner of manipulation, showing unhinged texts from MILs.

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    #16

    Screenshot of an unhinged text message from a MIL with emojis, illustrating crazy messages that made women want to block.

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    #17

    Unhinged text from a MIL asking about circumcision during a naming celebration, prompting reaction to block the sender.

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    #18

    Woman reacting to unhinged text message from mother-in-law about an ex, showcasing tense MIL texts blocking moment.

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    #19

    Text message from a MIL calling COVID evil and unwelcome, one of the unhinged texts causing women to consider blocking.

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    #20

    Text message screenshot showing unhinged texts from mother-in-law about a baby dressed in a turkey costume for Thanksgiving.

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    #21

    Text message from a MIL expressing concern about her grandson’s words, showing unhinged texts from MILs and reactions.

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    #22

    Text conversation showing unhinged MIL texts about an ultrasound image discussing chubby cheeks and resemblance.

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