Woman Thinks Pregnancy Gives Her A Pass To Act Entitled, Gets A Reality Check From Neighbor
Living in an apartment building can be a strange experience. You technically share a home with dozens, or perhaps even hundreds, of other people. But you might not know any of their names or even say hello to them in the stairwell.
Regardless of how little you interact with your neighbors, though, it’s always a good idea to be considerate towards them. One woman learned this lesson the hard way after hogging her building’s washing machine for hours. After getting into an altercation, her neighbor reached out to Reddit to share the full story. Keep reading to find out how this situation escalated, as well as some of the replies invested readers left the author.
Sharing a laundry room with your entire building isn’t always easy
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When this man called out his neighbor for hogging the washing machine, she did not respond well to his criticism
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Later, the author shared more details about the situation
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Over 36 million Americans live in apartments
We all know that it’s not easy to purchase a home in this economy. Many Millennials can’t own their own homes until they’re nearly 40, and Gen Z is expected to have to wait even longer. So it’s no surprise that a large percentage of Americans are simply choosing to live in apartments.
In fact, in 2022, 36.8 million Americans were living in apartment complexes. And to meet the growing demand for apartment housing, the United States will need to build 4.3 million new apartment units before 2035.
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Now, most people have been sold the idea that purchasing a home as soon as possible should be their ultimate goal. But there are definitely some benefits to renting or living in an apartment first. According to SOBHA, choosing to live in an apartment can be a great way to save up for a future home.
Houses are always going to be expensive, but if you can manage to make your life work in a smaller space for a while, you can save hundreds of dollars every month. Plus, apartments offer the benefit of a low-maintenance lifestyle.
You won’t have a yard to take care of, and you won’t need to hire your own plumber when issues arise in your home. Simply contact your landlord or building manager, and they’ll promptly fix any issues you encounter. Plus, if you’re a person who travels often, for work or pleasure, you can easily leave your place for a few days with minimal hassle.
It’s important to be respectful towards your fellow building tenants
Another benefit of apartment buildings is that you won’t be in charge of your own safety and security. The building will likely have its own security system, CCTV, and surveillance. It’s very unlikely that anyone would be able to get in or out of the building without being noticed.
However, there are certainly some downsides to living in an apartment complex as well. One of the biggest cons is, unsurprisingly, the inherent lack of privacy. You might encounter neighbors every time you step outside your door; they might even be able to hear your conversations through the walls.
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Another potential issue may be the rules and restrictions imposed on tenants. You won’t be able to renovate your home, and you probably can’t paint the walls or pierce the walls with nails. There might be limitations on where you can park, and being dependent on a landlord or building manager can be frustrating if they’re not very efficient.
And, of course, you might have to live in close proximity to people that you don’t get along with. It’s important to follow apartment etiquette if you don’t want to end up on your neighbors’ bad side. Respect quiet hours, and keep shared spaces clean. Be considerate of other tenants’ privacy, and when you do communicate with them, do so respectfully. Overall, it’s crucial that you follow the rules of the building if you don’t want to make any enemies.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this man went too far by calling out his neighbor, or was he justified? Feel free to weigh in, and then, you can find another Bored Panda article discussing similar tenant drama right here.
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NTA, I've been the person waiting, have moved stuff and the other person didn't act like a d**k about and then flourish a pregnancy card as an excuse. And yesh, if you are pregnant, you might want to think about how you are going to cope with doing washing when you have a baby to care for. Pregnancy is not a pass for being a d**k. She came in swearing and all guns blazing. You don't usually do that if you are right.
I live in a building with 6 unit. We have a communal washing machine. Never had a problem because every person that is doing laundry leave a bag or whatever they use to move their clothes in the room. If someone else needs the machine and the cycle is finished, they empty the machine putting the clothes in the bag and it's done. Quite a simple solution, it's not exactly quantum physics.
Yeah, the place I live in before the new landlords has three units and and the people who used to live in the other two flats would share the washer and dryer in the garage. We never had an issue with getting our stuff out in a reasonable amount of time. If someone forgot after a day or two and I needed to use the drier, I would just single fold their stuff and put it on top of the drier. Sure, some people don;t like their laundry handled by someone else but I think folding it for them was a more polite than dumping just dumping it on top and a polite reminder to get their stuff if they don't want me touching it so I can used the drier.
Load More Replies...I owned a condo with this type of arrangement. But after rules got lax, outsiders were coming to our mostly adult community to bring their kids to our pool and do their laundry. There was one lady and her friend that brought around 6-8 kids that used our building to use the pool and do laundry. Someone must have confronted them, because when I came home, the police were there and one of the women was in the back of a cruiser. One of the kids had thrown a rock and broke someone’s window. The other lady was in the process of being read her rights. Neighbors were standing around me and told me the lady in the car attacked a resident for putting her load in because she had it in her car and pulled out a wad of her hair. Then the rocks started. They got charged with trespassing, vandalism, a*****t & battery, attacking a cop, attempted m****r (one had gotten in her car and tried to run over a cop), and resisting arrest. They added running an illegal business (doing laundry for pay) AND…
It turned out a “family member” of theirs did own a unit in the other building. She explained she was checking on it. So the cops go to knock on that unit’s door. She refused to go in and still got arrested for the other stuff. This 2nd floor unit was very weird because all the windows were lined in foil. No one answered. A week later, I came home from work and there were like 20 cop cars. It was a hydroponic pot lab.
Load More Replies...I love the response. If you can't even manage your laundry, how are you going to manage having a kid?.
I didn't think there were going to be any, but there they are kowtowing to the pregnancy card.
Load More Replies...I was thinking the same thing, that's actually a steal for apartment public machines and way cheaper than the laundromats where I live.
Load More Replies...The YTA people are people who have never had to share a laundry room. And while touching things you don't own is a bad thing, so is hogging public utilities. I get that maybe one could forget for an hour, but 5? The ironic thing is they could have moved her laundry, finished drying theirs, and put it back. Youngster wouldn't have even noticed.
I've been the person waiting. Gave my ditzy neighbors an hour and then moved the stuff. That's how I learned the husband wears red silk boxers. Lol
sweden is famous for their communal washing spaces. you book a time slot and that time is what you get. if you havent claimed your time within 20-30 min someone else is free to take it and your clothes WILL be moved if you go over your time. in my place no one but the person washing can even enter the space, so if you leave your clothes they are literally locked in until someone can help you out.
Nah, f**k people who pull the "I'm pregnant" at the end of an argument as a get out of jail free card. Aside from is that were the cause at hand, they would have brought it up immediately, W*F does YOU being pregnant have to with f*****g with MY life.
Nope. You get a half hour and your laundry is going on top of the machines and I am not interested in your excuse. Deal.
Communal laundry room? That must be a cultural thing. That would never fly where I live. Every apartment has its own washing machine and often also its own dishwasher.
I lived in an apt building @21 with my daughter. We had 2 washers and 2 dryers for the building. I was always considerate, waiting for the washer to ding to move it and get out of the way. One day I go down to switch it but it says it just started. Im confused, look inside and it's not our stuff? A neighbor comes in and says he HAD to wash his (he didnt work or anything?) He'd set mine *there* and had 4 more quarters for me to use. I thought "w*f how rude dont touch my stuff you freak!" But i was scared and just said "okay, ill be back" did it when he was done, brought it up to fold it and every single pair of my underwear were missing. I panicked and I called a very protective, very buff friend to come over to just be at my house that night bc I was scared. As my friend is walking up to the building he sees kids acting "funny" & the weird guy, in his windows, watching the playground and touching himself. When the cops came there was a mob waiting for him
When forced to share laundry facilities with so many others is a good reason to buy one of those mini-washers for your unit. Then all you need is the dryers. In my town, there's certain neighborhoods that have high density of apt buildings, and there are enterprising laundromat businesses that have opened up high-end facilities. The kind with really big washers for multiple blankets, and payment is put on a card, no coins. These places are really clean and well-run, and popular probably for the same reasons that the OP states in this story.
NTA, HE didn't get personal, she did, she insulted him several times. He answered her attitude, some people in the comments there think being pregnant gives them carte blanche to be a POS to everyone.
Thank god I’ve never ever had to share a communal washer dryer ,not really big thing here in uk, self contained units have them in the flats themselves mostly, n 1 washing machine n one dryer to 12 units bang outta order, needs to be one to 4 units max !! n that woman’s gonna be a shite mother if she can’t even handle decency whist pregnant that poor child, if she is actually pregnant that is ! Op NTA
Rubbish - I've lived in many MOH and there is not a washing machine in many of them because of how small the flats are. There are 6 of us in my house, one washing machine. Last house, same thing. Before that, no washing machine.
Load More Replies...You were doing so well until that socialist remark. 1. There needs to be plumbing available for the washing machine. 2. There needs to be space. 3. You might not be allowed to install appliances. When I was in a bedsit, I bought a mini washing machine that fitted under the table but it was a ballache and the laundrette was a better option.
Load More Replies...NTA, I've been the person waiting, have moved stuff and the other person didn't act like a d**k about and then flourish a pregnancy card as an excuse. And yesh, if you are pregnant, you might want to think about how you are going to cope with doing washing when you have a baby to care for. Pregnancy is not a pass for being a d**k. She came in swearing and all guns blazing. You don't usually do that if you are right.
I live in a building with 6 unit. We have a communal washing machine. Never had a problem because every person that is doing laundry leave a bag or whatever they use to move their clothes in the room. If someone else needs the machine and the cycle is finished, they empty the machine putting the clothes in the bag and it's done. Quite a simple solution, it's not exactly quantum physics.
Yeah, the place I live in before the new landlords has three units and and the people who used to live in the other two flats would share the washer and dryer in the garage. We never had an issue with getting our stuff out in a reasonable amount of time. If someone forgot after a day or two and I needed to use the drier, I would just single fold their stuff and put it on top of the drier. Sure, some people don;t like their laundry handled by someone else but I think folding it for them was a more polite than dumping just dumping it on top and a polite reminder to get their stuff if they don't want me touching it so I can used the drier.
Load More Replies...I owned a condo with this type of arrangement. But after rules got lax, outsiders were coming to our mostly adult community to bring their kids to our pool and do their laundry. There was one lady and her friend that brought around 6-8 kids that used our building to use the pool and do laundry. Someone must have confronted them, because when I came home, the police were there and one of the women was in the back of a cruiser. One of the kids had thrown a rock and broke someone’s window. The other lady was in the process of being read her rights. Neighbors were standing around me and told me the lady in the car attacked a resident for putting her load in because she had it in her car and pulled out a wad of her hair. Then the rocks started. They got charged with trespassing, vandalism, a*****t & battery, attacking a cop, attempted m****r (one had gotten in her car and tried to run over a cop), and resisting arrest. They added running an illegal business (doing laundry for pay) AND…
It turned out a “family member” of theirs did own a unit in the other building. She explained she was checking on it. So the cops go to knock on that unit’s door. She refused to go in and still got arrested for the other stuff. This 2nd floor unit was very weird because all the windows were lined in foil. No one answered. A week later, I came home from work and there were like 20 cop cars. It was a hydroponic pot lab.
Load More Replies...I love the response. If you can't even manage your laundry, how are you going to manage having a kid?.
I didn't think there were going to be any, but there they are kowtowing to the pregnancy card.
Load More Replies...I was thinking the same thing, that's actually a steal for apartment public machines and way cheaper than the laundromats where I live.
Load More Replies...The YTA people are people who have never had to share a laundry room. And while touching things you don't own is a bad thing, so is hogging public utilities. I get that maybe one could forget for an hour, but 5? The ironic thing is they could have moved her laundry, finished drying theirs, and put it back. Youngster wouldn't have even noticed.
I've been the person waiting. Gave my ditzy neighbors an hour and then moved the stuff. That's how I learned the husband wears red silk boxers. Lol
sweden is famous for their communal washing spaces. you book a time slot and that time is what you get. if you havent claimed your time within 20-30 min someone else is free to take it and your clothes WILL be moved if you go over your time. in my place no one but the person washing can even enter the space, so if you leave your clothes they are literally locked in until someone can help you out.
Nah, f**k people who pull the "I'm pregnant" at the end of an argument as a get out of jail free card. Aside from is that were the cause at hand, they would have brought it up immediately, W*F does YOU being pregnant have to with f*****g with MY life.
Nope. You get a half hour and your laundry is going on top of the machines and I am not interested in your excuse. Deal.
Communal laundry room? That must be a cultural thing. That would never fly where I live. Every apartment has its own washing machine and often also its own dishwasher.
I lived in an apt building @21 with my daughter. We had 2 washers and 2 dryers for the building. I was always considerate, waiting for the washer to ding to move it and get out of the way. One day I go down to switch it but it says it just started. Im confused, look inside and it's not our stuff? A neighbor comes in and says he HAD to wash his (he didnt work or anything?) He'd set mine *there* and had 4 more quarters for me to use. I thought "w*f how rude dont touch my stuff you freak!" But i was scared and just said "okay, ill be back" did it when he was done, brought it up to fold it and every single pair of my underwear were missing. I panicked and I called a very protective, very buff friend to come over to just be at my house that night bc I was scared. As my friend is walking up to the building he sees kids acting "funny" & the weird guy, in his windows, watching the playground and touching himself. When the cops came there was a mob waiting for him
When forced to share laundry facilities with so many others is a good reason to buy one of those mini-washers for your unit. Then all you need is the dryers. In my town, there's certain neighborhoods that have high density of apt buildings, and there are enterprising laundromat businesses that have opened up high-end facilities. The kind with really big washers for multiple blankets, and payment is put on a card, no coins. These places are really clean and well-run, and popular probably for the same reasons that the OP states in this story.
NTA, HE didn't get personal, she did, she insulted him several times. He answered her attitude, some people in the comments there think being pregnant gives them carte blanche to be a POS to everyone.
Thank god I’ve never ever had to share a communal washer dryer ,not really big thing here in uk, self contained units have them in the flats themselves mostly, n 1 washing machine n one dryer to 12 units bang outta order, needs to be one to 4 units max !! n that woman’s gonna be a shite mother if she can’t even handle decency whist pregnant that poor child, if she is actually pregnant that is ! Op NTA
Rubbish - I've lived in many MOH and there is not a washing machine in many of them because of how small the flats are. There are 6 of us in my house, one washing machine. Last house, same thing. Before that, no washing machine.
Load More Replies...You were doing so well until that socialist remark. 1. There needs to be plumbing available for the washing machine. 2. There needs to be space. 3. You might not be allowed to install appliances. When I was in a bedsit, I bought a mini washing machine that fitted under the table but it was a ballache and the laundrette was a better option.
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