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Mom Furious After Teacher Punishes Her Daughter During Biological Urgency And Demands “Proof”
Being a teenager in high school is awkward enough. Between exhausting classes, friendship drama, and all the physical changes that come with growing up, most teens are just trying to make it through the day.
But one 14-year-old found herself in a nightmare scenario when she told her teacher she urgently needed the bathroom due to a period emergency, and was met with a response that turned an already uncomfortable moment into something humiliating.
According to her mom, the teacher didn’t believe her, refused to let her go, and even demanded “proof” from home while threatening disciplinary action over something completely normal.
Once the mom found out, she was furious and took to Reddit to share what happened. Read the full story below.
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The teen girl asked to use the bathroom because of a period emergency, but her teacher didn’t believe her and embarrassed her instead
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When her mom found out, she was absolutely furious
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Strict teachers may think they’re more effective, but they often end up doing more harm than good
Going to the bathroom seems like one of those things that should just be simple. At home or at work, when nature calls, you go. No explanations needed, no permission required. Yet in schools, this basic human need has become a battleground between teachers trying to maintain control and students who just need to use the restroom.
Many teachers worry that bathroom breaks are being used as excuses to skip class or get out of lessons. While that might be true for some students, it raises an important question: should every child be treated with suspicion? Should teachers default to being strict regardless of the situation?
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There’s a common belief that strict teachers are more effective and better for students, but research suggests otherwise. A study from the University of Essex found that students with strict teachers were more likely to rebel and experienced negative effects on their wellbeing. They were also less likely to open up about serious problems like bullying.
When teachers used controlling tones, children’s self-esteem dropped and they saw those teachers as less trustworthy. The study showed that supportive voices were far more effective at gaining cooperation than strict, controlling ones.
It feels like strict discipline is often used as a quick fix because it’s great at getting immediate compliance. If you scare a kid, they’ll probably follow the rules in the moment. But what’s the point of making them operate out of fear when they’re supposed to be learning? In the long run, this mindset simply doesn’t work.
For girls dealing with periods, an unnecessarily harsh reaction can make an already stressful moment even worse
This is especially true when it comes to bathroom policies for teenage girls dealing with menstruation. After all, what does restricting them from using the bathroom even teach them? The act of asking for permission alone already adds another layer of anxiety to an already uncomfortable situation.
Research suggests many girls feel uneasy about asking to use the restroom at school, particularly when it means revealing they’re on their period in front of classmates. Some describe feeling exposed when teachers couldn’t hear their whispered requests and they had to repeat themselves louder.
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Studies have also found that between two-thirds to three-quarters of menstruating girls regularly worry about pain, getting their period unexpectedly, bloodstains, and using school toilets. These are real concerns many girls deal with every month, and in some cases, it leads them to avoid the bathroom entirely, even when they need to change menstrual products.
A natural biological process doesn’t need extra embarrassment piled on top of it. Teachers need to understand that.
Perhaps the answer lies in recognizing that being a good teacher means more than following strict policies. It means understanding that students are human beings with real needs, both physical and emotional. It means creating an environment where students feel safe asking for help rather than fearing punishment.
Kindness and trust shouldn’t be seen as weaknesses in classroom management but rather as essential tools for building the kind of relationships that actually help students learn and grow.
The mom shared more details in the comments
Many readers said her reaction was completely justified given the situation
Others, however, felt she took it too far and overreacted
The woman later returned with an update, saying the vice principal backed her up and was horrified by what happened
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But it didn’t end there, because the teacher refused to let it go
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Crystalwitch60 1 month ago
No idea why you got a downvote but your totally right , like she’s bleeding ffs how else is she meant to prove it , sound disgusting YES COS IT IS ,n it’s the only way the poor less couldn’t have proved it isn’t it , boy I’m so glad my daughter never had to go thru this at all , I’d have been doing time if she had x
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Trillian 1 month ago
My daughter doesn't have to give specifics of her bathroom needs to her teacher. If she has to go, she has to go. It is not for the teacher to decide how urgent something is. And yes, I will be very happy to come to school and talk to the teacher, the headmaster and god if need be.
Tabitha 1 month ago (edited)
I would also go to the school board to see if they could enforce a rule that no teacher can arbitrarily decide to grill a student about why they need an emergency bathroom break (I would also go to the state to have the law about no cellphones scrapped, because what about in an emergency? I understand about cheating on tests and overuse of cellphones by teenagers—-as well as adults—-but if there’s a legit emergency like an active shooter, I want my kids to be able to call both 911 and me, ffs). I like the one high school teacher commenter who said they tell their students to say, or hand them a note (if they’re shy about blurting it out in class) saying, “Emergency” if they need to go to the bathroom all of a sudden, and they let them go. Simple procedure for an easily solved problem. I am 65 now, and periods are in my past, but I still very clearly remember accidents and emergencies back when I was still getting accustomed to my monthly period needs. I remember the ruined clothing and underwear that required a load of soaking, without a guarantee that the stain would come out completely (we’re talking the 1970s here, when clothes weren’t all stain resistant and they hadn’t invented laundry pre-treatments yet). I also remember carrying a sweater or light jacket that could be tied around the waist, just in case, for that particular week of the month. That was something all us girls did, because we all had—-and lived in fear of—-that kind of accident. I also do not remember ANY of the female teachers having any kind of problem with letting us go to the bathroom if we had that issue. Maybe some of the male teachers wouldn’t understand, especially if they were new to teaching, but the more experienced ones who had teenage daughters, or just open eyes in their heads, pretty much got it. The women, and the experienced men, could tell right away—-from our eyes and the expression on our faces—-that it was a legitimate, and embarrassing to say out loud—-emergency, and let us grab our purses and tend to it. I even remember some of the women asking if we “needed anything”, which was code for “Do you have a pad/tampon in your purse?”, because they were the ones who kept a box or two of those supplies in their desks (always smart to be prepared, for students, other female teachers, and themselves). And believe me, even though I didn’t have the greatest set of parents, my mother STILL would have marched right over to my school and torn the teacher and the administrators new a******s, because she would have been so incredibly livid if anyone tried this kind of c**p with me. Even bad parents have their limits of what kind of treatment they’ll let others give their kids. I woukd do the exact same thing if it happened to my child—-or to any kid I knew, whether they’re mine or not! Regardless, if schools could be THAT understanding of the issue more than 50 f*****g years ago, I just don’t understand why they can’t be that way now. I swear it seems like we were MORE civilized and forward-thinking in so many ways over half a d****d century ago than we are now.
GenuineJen 1 month ago (edited)
I'm only here to say that is the longest comment I've ever seen on BP! Wow!
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Tyke 1 month ago
The teacher's immediate reaction to a student she knows little to nothing about shouldn't immediately be "they're lying". And 5 mins is a ridiculous rule too.
Alex Martin 1 month ago (edited)
If the kid had the courage to tell you it was period related and you still denied her the bathroom you're just an idiot and a sadist. I was a baby teacher half a lifetime ago. I made this mistake once. Administration came hard down on teachers letting kids out of class and instituted a no pass policy. I was covering a colleague's class and a young lady asked to go to the bathroom just as the bell rang. I was an idiot, followed policy, and said no. She never said anything else to me. She had some type of period accident. Mom came into class after school and roasted me. Mom went to the same mf'ing assistant principal who threatened us if we issue passes and he roasted me the next day. That prince of asses was happy to pass the blame along and would not take accountability for his decision. I freely issued passes after that, no questions asked.
CK 1 month ago
The commenter saying "emergencies" are poor planning shouldn't be a teacher. That's just not true for everyone. Bodily functions can schedule themselves with no regard for your plans.
Anne Edwards 1 month ago
Emergencies with your period cannot be planned. When you have a first day rush every hour you cannot plan, you need the bathroom and quickly, I honestly cannot remember ever being told no through all of my school years. You'd ask to be excused as you were getting up to leave the room.
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Powerful Katrinka 1 month ago
Unfortunately, this happened to me more than once in high school. What the idiots who blathered about “time management” don’t seem to understand is that period flows can be unpredictable, particularly for young women. Mine certainly were, which made it impossible to predict when an emergency could happen. One of the teachers who refused to let me leave class to change my tampon was my P.E. teacher—a woman I was terrified of, I ended up with saturated gym shorts; the blood was even running down my thigh. The other response that infuriated me was the people who claimed that it was no big deal getting blood on your clothes. Kids in Jr. High and high school can be absolutely vicious, particularly boys. No woman should ever have to go through being publicly mocked for having bled through her clothing. On the bright side, after the gym teacher episode, my mom told me that in the future she not only gave me permission to leave class to go to the bathroom, but to come home as well.
CK 1 month ago
Even for girls who have predictable flows, it can still be predictably heavy enough that it needs to be dealt with more frequently than there are breaks. Even tampon+pad+thick shorts can't always be trusted.
Load More Replies... Sarah Belt 1 month ago
The "teachers" commenting at the top are bonkers. They all start from the belief that the child was lying in order to get away with something. What a miserable life to lead.
M M 1 month ago
On the other hand, nobody makes up such assumptions out of nowhere. Their trust must have been betrayed at one point of their lives and this miserable way of living is just a result.
Load More Replies... Min 1 month ago
My mom wet herself in class when she was a kid because a teacher wouldn't let her go to the bathroom even after she said multiple times that it was an emergency. Because of this, she told me from my first day of school that I absolutely had her permission to ignore a teacher who said I couldn't go to the bathroom and she would always back me up if I ever got in trouble. Luckily, I had sane teachers and never had to take her up on that offer.
Helena 1 month ago
Denying someone the bathroom is just a jerk move. i'm a grown adult and don't always think ahead until I'm doing a quick walk to the bathroom, and teens have almost no foresight, kind of a hallmark of the breed. If you notice someone abusing it, just record the number of in class bathroom breaks per student, and if it becomes a problem with one, send the records to the parents and let them deal with it.
K Barnes 1 month ago (edited)
That would involve good parenting. I had a boy a couple years back who would ask to go 5-10 times each day and claim it was urgent, and got caught repeatedly goofing off, playing, making a mess (throwing wet TP on the walls and roof, rubbing foam soap all over, playing with paper towels), and worse than that, he repeatedly hurt the younger kids who also used that bathroom. In a month I had little ones report that he choked them, hit them, pushed them, and so on. When I met with his parents to discuss it they said boys will be boys, you need to hire a staff member who can escort him to the bathroom if you're so worried about it. We can't even get support staff for kids who actually need it. He had no consequences from them. (edited a typo)
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Emilu 1 month ago
How TF is OP meant to prove that her daughter is on her period, if not for whipping out a bloody pad/tampon and being all "SEE?!" Seriously. This is one thing I'd take the kid's word for (unless they do it regularly, then one could make the argument of poor planning) because to let a girl -- particularly a teen, who's coming into herself and getting comfortable with her body and going through all sorts of hormonal rubbish, etc -- bleed through her uniform is a massive jerk move. I remember being a teen and not allowed to go to the bathroom on my period when I really had to. Without going into details, when I could finally go I cried in the bathroom because I was so embarrassed at what had happened. Please, teachers; don't make teenage girls feel that way -- it's just cruel.
Bi.Felicia 1 month ago
So almost this exact scenario happened to me back when I was in high school. I was in some computer elective type class and I suddenly felt my period start. This class was taught by a teacher that was known to be somewhat of a dîck to students, but he'd been teaching for many years and had tenor. I didn't get the best grades in school, mainly because of untreated ADHD but I wasn't a troublemaker and I wasn't one to constantly ask to use the bathroom or get out of class. I was waiting for the teacher to finish giving his instructions for us to start our work to ask to use the bathroom. Ofc I'm wearing beige/khaki pants that day but I asked to go to the br and he said no. So I got up and spoke to him privately/quietly explaining that it was a female emergency and he still refused to give permission to go. So at that point I just took the bathroom pass and briskly walked to the br. I tried to clean myself up but some did end up leaking through my pants, it wasn't a huge spot but
Bi.Felicia 1 month ago
It was enough to make me tie a shirt around my waist to try and hide it. I was very upset/embarrassed bc of the situation and how the teacher made me feel, I was trying to keep it together so I didn't end up crying, on my way back to the classroom. I walked back in and put the br pass back where it went and walked towards my seat. The teacher was not happy that I disobeyed him and said that he hopes I had fun and that it was worth it, then to grab my belongings and get down to the principals office. The principal listened but wasn't sure how the teacher wanted to go about it so sent me on my way. I went home and told my dad what happened and he was at my school first thing. Had a meeting with principal/teacher where my dad went off on him, loudly berating him and telling him what a pos he is, etc. I swear I thought the teacher was going to cry, which made me feel a bit better. The teacher didn't get fired, but his attitude def changed for the better, tho he's still a dìck.
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Xenia Harley 1 month ago
As a middle school teacher, I allowed children to go to the bathroom when they asked. A lot of teachers did not allow children to leave, and I think that's ridiculous, personally. The kids were expected to go in the three minutes between classes which also means getting to your next class in that time.
Kiss Army 1 month ago
I can't believe the people that thought she was overreacting!! When it was on the news that Amazon employees had to pee in bottles and such because they were denied bathroom breaks at work people were outraged. Why the H3LL would we feel any different about our children being treated that way in school?!? It should be illegal to deny use of bathroom "privileges" at schools and places of employment.
Earonn - 1 month ago
You go to class with a pair of bloody undies. Hold it up into the teacher's face and say "this is what it looks like when I bleed through a tampon. Explain to the class why it's okay to deny a young girl here in class to go to the restroom". Then go to the head of school. Demand that the teacher apologises to your child in front of all of the school, explaining in detail what they (the teacher) did wrong. Tell them that if something like this ever happens again, you will stuff the bloody undie into their useless pie hole. You see, it's good I don't have children. :D
Helena 1 month ago
If only I had had the steel ovaries to do this as a teen.
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Corvus 1 month ago
Speaking as someone who works at a university - yes, we generally require to see proof when students come to us with requests (e.g. to change exam dates due to illness or get deadline extensions), but always within the boundaries of common sense. If someone has an emergency, we would never deny help and just pretend nothing happened, which is what the teacher did - she flatly said "no" and didn't follow up in any way. Yes, rules are important and must be followed, however no classroom policy should be considered more important than a student's health and safety. So, I'm with the mother on this one... while being aware that she wasn't exactly on her best behavior (anger is a poor advisor). Asking for the teacher to be fired is overreacting.
Paula Glasscoe 1 month ago
I got the impression that the mother had kind of said “at the moment, in my anger, I want her fired but can we discuss this when I’m calm” I didn’t feel she’d actually demanded a firing but rather was expressing her frustration. Aside from that (purely personal feeling) I agree completely.
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Chaotic Good 1 month ago
Unfortunately, US schools prioritize teaching Obedience over Math, Literacy, and Science.
JSL 1 month ago
Permanently move that female teacher to teach kindergarten kids, since they are less likely to have "biological" problems like a monthly period. Seriously... does this female teacher not get periods and unexpected biological emergencies herself?
Helena 1 month ago
But that's how you get kindergarteners to pee their pants and have to sit in it all day.
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KrazyChiMama 1 month ago
Yeah this teacher should not be a teacher if they feel the need to police young ladies about their bodily functions. It sounds like she had no reason to not believe that she had an emergency. I do agree that mom wanting her fired was a little extreme unless the teacher has been disciplined for this behavior in the past. I find it really sad so many of the ADULTS seem to be on a power trip humiliating their students instead of teaching them.
Crystalwitch60 1 month ago
That is highly illegal well it is in uk ! this teacher is on a power move , as a mum if my daughter had had this happen I’d have found away to get to the school ,miles from me , n that teacher would t know what hit em ! periods n young girls are hard enough to navigate at is is ,without some hitler teacher ,doing this !! yes teachers have a hard time ,but this one is vile ! I need an update after ,the VPwas back ,cos it appears that teacher was not gonna back down ! also how else is she meant to prove she was leaking ffs ,seriously f ked in the head that teacher !m
FluffButt Central 3 weeks ago (edited)
I got my first period at age 10, 50 years ago. My mom wrote a note to the principal and teacher. It was an old style catholic school. Not one teacher had an issue or asked for proof when I asked to go to the bathroom. They were old nuns and still understood.
Mark Childers 1 month ago
These are bodily functions. There should never be a rule against letting someone take care of their bodily functions. After all, I doubt any company wants to deal with cleaning that up.
Raquel Rodríguez Roberts 1 month ago
I remember I was in the 7th grade and my teacher would not allow the girls to use the restroom as needed. He said we'd have to wait until a break between classes or until lunch or recess. All of us girls marched into the office and complained. This was in the mid-90s. His wife happened to be the secretary and the 7th and 8th grade teacher was also the principal. She pulled him into his office and hollered at him for what seemed like an eternity! After that, we were allowed to go to the bathroom as we needed to. We didn't have to specify why we had to go to the bathroom and the Only Rule was we couldn't go in groups.
Sylvia Baker 1 month ago
Many years ago I had started Grade 1. I was 5 as my 6th birthday was in October. I desperately had to pee and put my hand up and asked and was told no. I ended up peeing my pants at my desk. I am still extremely salty about it.
DC 1 month ago
Biological emergencies are emergencies beyond our control. Regardless of what exactly is happening - you need to pee, p*o, you're bleeding beyond your protction's capacity - you go. Whatever trouble you get into, you're not to accept at all, there's not even room for compromise. Given that the student acted reasonably, just outside the teachers' permission, that is, of course, but that, I see very clearly here, and in almost all other cases. You tell them to talk to your parents if they want to proceed with giving commands to biology - who NEVER listens anyway -, go, do whatever is due, return and act as if nothing happened, because that's closest to how it should have been handled. Unless there's very, very strong indication that the right to attend to biological needs is misused, this shouldn't even be in any sort of question.
Scott Rackley 1 month ago
Electronic Chest up there is exactly the kind of teacher that needs to find another line of work.
Petra Peitsch 1 month ago
I was in HS in the '90s. We just simply left the classroom, saying, we need 5 minutes. Not asking for permisson, not explaining ourselves. Just simply telling, we are out for 5 minutes. Even the most jerk teacher never ever made a remark about it. Yeah, times are changing.
BK BigFish 1 month ago
I agree that firing the teacher for this offense is wrong, and to even suggest it is ridiculous. I agree that this is part of the reason why only bad teachers stay, and good teachers leave.
FreePalestine 🇵🇸 1 month ago
Human biology doesn't stop for or care about arbitrary man-made rules. Your daughter was having a medical emergency, that supersedes any and all things going on. I'd have told the teacher to genuinely go F themselves.
Kate Johnson 1 month ago
I would have asked her why she thinks this kind of obviously a*****e behavior is a good idea. That she's opened the school to some serious liability and should consider another career if she hates kids so much.
Purple Gurl 1 month ago
So glad I am not related to this family and situation. I was a bit of a firebrand back in my day (25 years+ ago-good Lord), and I know I would have been on a ban list somewhere if this was a family member of mine. Age does give experience, though. The experience on how to not get caught, lol
KrazyChiMama 1 month ago
Just about every woman I know in my personal life has had a period bleed through at school at one point in their life, so it can’t be that rare. I suspect you’ve never seen it because the young ladies it happens to are too embarrassed to tell you. I’m not denying that some kids do lie to get out of class for whatever reason, but girls especially should never be told no when they ask to use the bathroom. Ps holding your urine can cause problems in both men and women. It puts you at a higher risk of developing an infection or neurogenic disorders of the bladder.
Load More Replies... Crystalwitch60 1 month ago
No idea why you got a downvote but your totally right , like she’s bleeding ffs how else is she meant to prove it , sound disgusting YES COS IT IS ,n it’s the only way the poor less couldn’t have proved it isn’t it , boy I’m so glad my daughter never had to go thru this at all , I’d have been doing time if she had x
Load More Replies... Trillian 1 month ago
My daughter doesn't have to give specifics of her bathroom needs to her teacher. If she has to go, she has to go. It is not for the teacher to decide how urgent something is. And yes, I will be very happy to come to school and talk to the teacher, the headmaster and god if need be.
Tabitha 1 month ago (edited)
I would also go to the school board to see if they could enforce a rule that no teacher can arbitrarily decide to grill a student about why they need an emergency bathroom break (I would also go to the state to have the law about no cellphones scrapped, because what about in an emergency? I understand about cheating on tests and overuse of cellphones by teenagers—-as well as adults—-but if there’s a legit emergency like an active shooter, I want my kids to be able to call both 911 and me, ffs). I like the one high school teacher commenter who said they tell their students to say, or hand them a note (if they’re shy about blurting it out in class) saying, “Emergency” if they need to go to the bathroom all of a sudden, and they let them go. Simple procedure for an easily solved problem. I am 65 now, and periods are in my past, but I still very clearly remember accidents and emergencies back when I was still getting accustomed to my monthly period needs. I remember the ruined clothing and underwear that required a load of soaking, without a guarantee that the stain would come out completely (we’re talking the 1970s here, when clothes weren’t all stain resistant and they hadn’t invented laundry pre-treatments yet). I also remember carrying a sweater or light jacket that could be tied around the waist, just in case, for that particular week of the month. That was something all us girls did, because we all had—-and lived in fear of—-that kind of accident. I also do not remember ANY of the female teachers having any kind of problem with letting us go to the bathroom if we had that issue. Maybe some of the male teachers wouldn’t understand, especially if they were new to teaching, but the more experienced ones who had teenage daughters, or just open eyes in their heads, pretty much got it. The women, and the experienced men, could tell right away—-from our eyes and the expression on our faces—-that it was a legitimate, and embarrassing to say out loud—-emergency, and let us grab our purses and tend to it. I even remember some of the women asking if we “needed anything”, which was code for “Do you have a pad/tampon in your purse?”, because they were the ones who kept a box or two of those supplies in their desks (always smart to be prepared, for students, other female teachers, and themselves). And believe me, even though I didn’t have the greatest set of parents, my mother STILL would have marched right over to my school and torn the teacher and the administrators new a******s, because she would have been so incredibly livid if anyone tried this kind of c**p with me. Even bad parents have their limits of what kind of treatment they’ll let others give their kids. I woukd do the exact same thing if it happened to my child—-or to any kid I knew, whether they’re mine or not! Regardless, if schools could be THAT understanding of the issue more than 50 f*****g years ago, I just don’t understand why they can’t be that way now. I swear it seems like we were MORE civilized and forward-thinking in so many ways over half a d****d century ago than we are now.
GenuineJen 1 month ago (edited)
I'm only here to say that is the longest comment I've ever seen on BP! Wow!
Load More Replies... Tyke 1 month ago
The teacher's immediate reaction to a student she knows little to nothing about shouldn't immediately be "they're lying". And 5 mins is a ridiculous rule too.
Alex Martin 1 month ago (edited)
If the kid had the courage to tell you it was period related and you still denied her the bathroom you're just an idiot and a sadist. I was a baby teacher half a lifetime ago. I made this mistake once. Administration came hard down on teachers letting kids out of class and instituted a no pass policy. I was covering a colleague's class and a young lady asked to go to the bathroom just as the bell rang. I was an idiot, followed policy, and said no. She never said anything else to me. She had some type of period accident. Mom came into class after school and roasted me. Mom went to the same mf'ing assistant principal who threatened us if we issue passes and he roasted me the next day. That prince of asses was happy to pass the blame along and would not take accountability for his decision. I freely issued passes after that, no questions asked.
CK 1 month ago
The commenter saying "emergencies" are poor planning shouldn't be a teacher. That's just not true for everyone. Bodily functions can schedule themselves with no regard for your plans.
Anne Edwards 1 month ago
Emergencies with your period cannot be planned. When you have a first day rush every hour you cannot plan, you need the bathroom and quickly, I honestly cannot remember ever being told no through all of my school years. You'd ask to be excused as you were getting up to leave the room.
Load More Replies... Powerful Katrinka 1 month ago
Unfortunately, this happened to me more than once in high school. What the idiots who blathered about “time management” don’t seem to understand is that period flows can be unpredictable, particularly for young women. Mine certainly were, which made it impossible to predict when an emergency could happen. One of the teachers who refused to let me leave class to change my tampon was my P.E. teacher—a woman I was terrified of, I ended up with saturated gym shorts; the blood was even running down my thigh. The other response that infuriated me was the people who claimed that it was no big deal getting blood on your clothes. Kids in Jr. High and high school can be absolutely vicious, particularly boys. No woman should ever have to go through being publicly mocked for having bled through her clothing. On the bright side, after the gym teacher episode, my mom told me that in the future she not only gave me permission to leave class to go to the bathroom, but to come home as well.
CK 1 month ago
Even for girls who have predictable flows, it can still be predictably heavy enough that it needs to be dealt with more frequently than there are breaks. Even tampon+pad+thick shorts can't always be trusted.
Load More Replies... Sarah Belt 1 month ago
The "teachers" commenting at the top are bonkers. They all start from the belief that the child was lying in order to get away with something. What a miserable life to lead.
M M 1 month ago
On the other hand, nobody makes up such assumptions out of nowhere. Their trust must have been betrayed at one point of their lives and this miserable way of living is just a result.
Load More Replies... Min 1 month ago
My mom wet herself in class when she was a kid because a teacher wouldn't let her go to the bathroom even after she said multiple times that it was an emergency. Because of this, she told me from my first day of school that I absolutely had her permission to ignore a teacher who said I couldn't go to the bathroom and she would always back me up if I ever got in trouble. Luckily, I had sane teachers and never had to take her up on that offer.
Helena 1 month ago
Denying someone the bathroom is just a jerk move. i'm a grown adult and don't always think ahead until I'm doing a quick walk to the bathroom, and teens have almost no foresight, kind of a hallmark of the breed. If you notice someone abusing it, just record the number of in class bathroom breaks per student, and if it becomes a problem with one, send the records to the parents and let them deal with it.
K Barnes 1 month ago (edited)
That would involve good parenting. I had a boy a couple years back who would ask to go 5-10 times each day and claim it was urgent, and got caught repeatedly goofing off, playing, making a mess (throwing wet TP on the walls and roof, rubbing foam soap all over, playing with paper towels), and worse than that, he repeatedly hurt the younger kids who also used that bathroom. In a month I had little ones report that he choked them, hit them, pushed them, and so on. When I met with his parents to discuss it they said boys will be boys, you need to hire a staff member who can escort him to the bathroom if you're so worried about it. We can't even get support staff for kids who actually need it. He had no consequences from them. (edited a typo)
Load More Replies... Emilu 1 month ago
How TF is OP meant to prove that her daughter is on her period, if not for whipping out a bloody pad/tampon and being all "SEE?!" Seriously. This is one thing I'd take the kid's word for (unless they do it regularly, then one could make the argument of poor planning) because to let a girl -- particularly a teen, who's coming into herself and getting comfortable with her body and going through all sorts of hormonal rubbish, etc -- bleed through her uniform is a massive jerk move. I remember being a teen and not allowed to go to the bathroom on my period when I really had to. Without going into details, when I could finally go I cried in the bathroom because I was so embarrassed at what had happened. Please, teachers; don't make teenage girls feel that way -- it's just cruel.
Bi.Felicia 1 month ago
So almost this exact scenario happened to me back when I was in high school. I was in some computer elective type class and I suddenly felt my period start. This class was taught by a teacher that was known to be somewhat of a dîck to students, but he'd been teaching for many years and had tenor. I didn't get the best grades in school, mainly because of untreated ADHD but I wasn't a troublemaker and I wasn't one to constantly ask to use the bathroom or get out of class. I was waiting for the teacher to finish giving his instructions for us to start our work to ask to use the bathroom. Ofc I'm wearing beige/khaki pants that day but I asked to go to the br and he said no. So I got up and spoke to him privately/quietly explaining that it was a female emergency and he still refused to give permission to go. So at that point I just took the bathroom pass and briskly walked to the br. I tried to clean myself up but some did end up leaking through my pants, it wasn't a huge spot but
Bi.Felicia 1 month ago
It was enough to make me tie a shirt around my waist to try and hide it. I was very upset/embarrassed bc of the situation and how the teacher made me feel, I was trying to keep it together so I didn't end up crying, on my way back to the classroom. I walked back in and put the br pass back where it went and walked towards my seat. The teacher was not happy that I disobeyed him and said that he hopes I had fun and that it was worth it, then to grab my belongings and get down to the principals office. The principal listened but wasn't sure how the teacher wanted to go about it so sent me on my way. I went home and told my dad what happened and he was at my school first thing. Had a meeting with principal/teacher where my dad went off on him, loudly berating him and telling him what a pos he is, etc. I swear I thought the teacher was going to cry, which made me feel a bit better. The teacher didn't get fired, but his attitude def changed for the better, tho he's still a dìck.
Load More Replies... Xenia Harley 1 month ago
As a middle school teacher, I allowed children to go to the bathroom when they asked. A lot of teachers did not allow children to leave, and I think that's ridiculous, personally. The kids were expected to go in the three minutes between classes which also means getting to your next class in that time.
Kiss Army 1 month ago
I can't believe the people that thought she was overreacting!! When it was on the news that Amazon employees had to pee in bottles and such because they were denied bathroom breaks at work people were outraged. Why the H3LL would we feel any different about our children being treated that way in school?!? It should be illegal to deny use of bathroom "privileges" at schools and places of employment.
Earonn - 1 month ago
You go to class with a pair of bloody undies. Hold it up into the teacher's face and say "this is what it looks like when I bleed through a tampon. Explain to the class why it's okay to deny a young girl here in class to go to the restroom". Then go to the head of school. Demand that the teacher apologises to your child in front of all of the school, explaining in detail what they (the teacher) did wrong. Tell them that if something like this ever happens again, you will stuff the bloody undie into their useless pie hole. You see, it's good I don't have children. :D
Helena 1 month ago
If only I had had the steel ovaries to do this as a teen.
Load More Replies... Corvus 1 month ago
Speaking as someone who works at a university - yes, we generally require to see proof when students come to us with requests (e.g. to change exam dates due to illness or get deadline extensions), but always within the boundaries of common sense. If someone has an emergency, we would never deny help and just pretend nothing happened, which is what the teacher did - she flatly said "no" and didn't follow up in any way. Yes, rules are important and must be followed, however no classroom policy should be considered more important than a student's health and safety. So, I'm with the mother on this one... while being aware that she wasn't exactly on her best behavior (anger is a poor advisor). Asking for the teacher to be fired is overreacting.
Paula Glasscoe 1 month ago
I got the impression that the mother had kind of said “at the moment, in my anger, I want her fired but can we discuss this when I’m calm” I didn’t feel she’d actually demanded a firing but rather was expressing her frustration. Aside from that (purely personal feeling) I agree completely.
Load More Replies... Chaotic Good 1 month ago
Unfortunately, US schools prioritize teaching Obedience over Math, Literacy, and Science.
JSL 1 month ago
Permanently move that female teacher to teach kindergarten kids, since they are less likely to have "biological" problems like a monthly period. Seriously... does this female teacher not get periods and unexpected biological emergencies herself?
Helena 1 month ago
But that's how you get kindergarteners to pee their pants and have to sit in it all day.
Load More Replies... KrazyChiMama 1 month ago
Yeah this teacher should not be a teacher if they feel the need to police young ladies about their bodily functions. It sounds like she had no reason to not believe that she had an emergency. I do agree that mom wanting her fired was a little extreme unless the teacher has been disciplined for this behavior in the past. I find it really sad so many of the ADULTS seem to be on a power trip humiliating their students instead of teaching them.
Crystalwitch60 1 month ago
That is highly illegal well it is in uk ! this teacher is on a power move , as a mum if my daughter had had this happen I’d have found away to get to the school ,miles from me , n that teacher would t know what hit em ! periods n young girls are hard enough to navigate at is is ,without some hitler teacher ,doing this !! yes teachers have a hard time ,but this one is vile ! I need an update after ,the VPwas back ,cos it appears that teacher was not gonna back down ! also how else is she meant to prove she was leaking ffs ,seriously f ked in the head that teacher !m
FluffButt Central 3 weeks ago (edited)
I got my first period at age 10, 50 years ago. My mom wrote a note to the principal and teacher. It was an old style catholic school. Not one teacher had an issue or asked for proof when I asked to go to the bathroom. They were old nuns and still understood.
Mark Childers 1 month ago
These are bodily functions. There should never be a rule against letting someone take care of their bodily functions. After all, I doubt any company wants to deal with cleaning that up.
Raquel Rodríguez Roberts 1 month ago
I remember I was in the 7th grade and my teacher would not allow the girls to use the restroom as needed. He said we'd have to wait until a break between classes or until lunch or recess. All of us girls marched into the office and complained. This was in the mid-90s. His wife happened to be the secretary and the 7th and 8th grade teacher was also the principal. She pulled him into his office and hollered at him for what seemed like an eternity! After that, we were allowed to go to the bathroom as we needed to. We didn't have to specify why we had to go to the bathroom and the Only Rule was we couldn't go in groups.
Sylvia Baker 1 month ago
Many years ago I had started Grade 1. I was 5 as my 6th birthday was in October. I desperately had to pee and put my hand up and asked and was told no. I ended up peeing my pants at my desk. I am still extremely salty about it.
DC 1 month ago
Biological emergencies are emergencies beyond our control. Regardless of what exactly is happening - you need to pee, p*o, you're bleeding beyond your protction's capacity - you go. Whatever trouble you get into, you're not to accept at all, there's not even room for compromise. Given that the student acted reasonably, just outside the teachers' permission, that is, of course, but that, I see very clearly here, and in almost all other cases. You tell them to talk to your parents if they want to proceed with giving commands to biology - who NEVER listens anyway -, go, do whatever is due, return and act as if nothing happened, because that's closest to how it should have been handled. Unless there's very, very strong indication that the right to attend to biological needs is misused, this shouldn't even be in any sort of question.
Scott Rackley 1 month ago
Electronic Chest up there is exactly the kind of teacher that needs to find another line of work.
Petra Peitsch 1 month ago
I was in HS in the '90s. We just simply left the classroom, saying, we need 5 minutes. Not asking for permisson, not explaining ourselves. Just simply telling, we are out for 5 minutes. Even the most jerk teacher never ever made a remark about it. Yeah, times are changing.
BK BigFish 1 month ago
I agree that firing the teacher for this offense is wrong, and to even suggest it is ridiculous. I agree that this is part of the reason why only bad teachers stay, and good teachers leave.
FreePalestine 🇵🇸 1 month ago
Human biology doesn't stop for or care about arbitrary man-made rules. Your daughter was having a medical emergency, that supersedes any and all things going on. I'd have told the teacher to genuinely go F themselves.
Kate Johnson 1 month ago
I would have asked her why she thinks this kind of obviously a*****e behavior is a good idea. That she's opened the school to some serious liability and should consider another career if she hates kids so much.
Purple Gurl 1 month ago
So glad I am not related to this family and situation. I was a bit of a firebrand back in my day (25 years+ ago-good Lord), and I know I would have been on a ban list somewhere if this was a family member of mine. Age does give experience, though. The experience on how to not get caught, lol
KrazyChiMama 1 month ago
Just about every woman I know in my personal life has had a period bleed through at school at one point in their life, so it can’t be that rare. I suspect you’ve never seen it because the young ladies it happens to are too embarrassed to tell you. I’m not denying that some kids do lie to get out of class for whatever reason, but girls especially should never be told no when they ask to use the bathroom. Ps holding your urine can cause problems in both men and women. It puts you at a higher risk of developing an infection or neurogenic disorders of the bladder.
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