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“Get Out Now”: Guy’s Predatory Nature Revealed After GF Sees The Texts He Sends To 19YO Ex-Student
Interview With ExpertI had some of the most amazing and helpful teachers in high school, so I am still in contact with a few of them. However, that does not mean I text them every day about my personal life, because that would be just weird, right?
Well, even this woman finds it really creepy that her 43-year-old boyfriend keeps messaging his 19-year-old former student. In fact, she saw some of their recent texts and felt highly uncomfortable as they didn’t seem normal at all. Read on to find out how these messages even shocked netizens!
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The 28-year-old poster read the texts between her 43-year-old boyfriend and his 19-year-old former student, who went off to college this year
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She felt that the texts were not normal at all, as they sounded more than just mentor-mentee, considering how emotionally charged their messages were
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She also clarified the 15-year gap between the couple, and that she was also his former student, whom he had pursued when she turned 18
Today’s story is quite irksome because of the original poster’s (OP) boyfriend, who is a high school teacher. The way this man interacts with his much younger former student is truly inappropriate, and some of the things that he messages her even sound creepy. After all, a “nice to see your face” or “missed you” or even a winking face doesn’t seem normal, does it?
The worst part is that they have been chatting like this almost every day, and the poster finds it really uncomfortable. In fact, she even told him so, but the man just brushed off her concerns thoughtlessly and gaslit her into believing that it was normal. Probably feeling confused by his manipulation, she vented online, and folks harshly judged him as being unprofessional.
There were a few netizens who felt that she might be reading too much into it. However, OP clarified that she was also his former student and that he pursued her when she was just 18 and he was 33. Well, these few folks immediately went back on their word and said that the 15-year gap between the two truly gave them the ick, and declared him a “predator.”
To get better insights, Bored Panda interviewed teacher and principal Jyoti D., who has been in the teaching profession for the past 22 years. She claimed, “This definitely does not sound like what a respectful teacher would message their ex-student. As their former mentors, we can of course cheer them on, give career advice, or celebrate milestones, but always keep a healthy distance.”
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Our expert also pointed out that many former students are still very young, often just barely out of high school, so the responsibility to keep things appropriate clearly rests with the adult in the situation. According to Jyoti, teachers are the ones with the maturity, authority, and experience to recognize where the boundaries are and to make sure those lines aren’t crossed.
“The power dynamic doesn’t just disappear the day a student graduates, which means it’s on the teacher to maintain professionalism and protect that young person’s well-being. Even if the student tries to be extra friendly, the adults should remember that they are their mentors, not their friends or personal therapists. In the end, it’s important to maintain a respectful bond,” she added.
However, this man just knows no bounds, considering he is not only chatting up the 19-year-old, but also did the same thing with his girlfriend. OP also spoke up about how he has isolated her from her family and friends, so she had nowhere to turn except the internet. Research suggests that gaslighting and isolating their victims are clear signs of an emotionally cruel person.
Folks were also quick to highlight this, and I think they are absolutely right. However, on a positive note, the poster got a reality check from netizens, so she is definitely planning to ditch the guy. She also commented that she has gathered evidence against him and plans to share it with his workplace and reveal what kind of person he really is.
I hope she succeeds, and this predator doesn’t get away with preying on another student. What about you? What would you do in such a situation? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
Even netizens felt that the texts were highly inappropriate, and they wasted no time in declaring that her boyfriend is a predator
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Sathe Wesker 1 month ago
I had a high school teacher I admittedly had a crush on, but he was also young, his first year teaching and I was able to confide in him some of the depression I was going through. He helped me a lot. I reached out to him after graduation to thank him, tell him I’ve grown up and doing mentally better. His response was professional, polite and heart warming but he never accepted my friend request. He wished me a good life and said “it’s always nice to hear from former students”… he never said he “missed my voice”, Jesus, that would have actually made me question everything.
Day Andie 1 month ago
This is EXACTLY what I thought, too. This is her replacement.
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Ellinor she/they/elle 1 month ago (edited)
EEEWWW !!! No it's bad, it's really really bad ! And a High School teacher ?! It means that she was a minor when OP's husband met her. That's EW, that's GROSS, that's WRONG.
megabeth 1 month ago
To whom? It's not illegal... Sus af but some creeps are really good at creeping.
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Lila Allen 1 month ago
I'm a teacher and I keep up with loads of my former students, but never like this. His subtle grooming using words of affirmation about her voice, body language, and praising her for talking to him all scream grooming. When added to the OP was 18 and he was 33 when they started dating and she used to be his student... this is full on predator behavior. The OP needs to contact student's parents and the school. Describe her original start of the relationship and send screen caps of all this. Once school investigates I am betting they will find numerous inappropriate relationships
Robyn Hill 1 month ago
I’m a college instructor, and this is SO wildly inappropriate, it would violate school policy. Hope she follows through with reporting him.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 month ago
Balance of probabilitkes it's gross. I miss you, great to hear your voice and I read your body language, are all problematic from a mentor when unprompted. They are categorically different from it was great to see you or you did a great job or looking forward to catching up. i have some former students and mentees that I keep I touch with, but definitely while they were still college age, and within a few years of being officially a subordinate, you have to be really careful not to misconstrue things. She's not a friend, she's a mentee. Maybe in ten years you can be more friend than mentor, but not when she's 19. So unless he's really dumb, in which case he shouldn't be teaching, he's crossed lines he shouldn't have and he isn't worried about it. Maybe there's no creepy intent. Maybe he just likes the ego stroke of a 19 yo cheerleading him. But all teachers these days know they need to be clear. OP should look into this there could be more students
Mark Childers 1 month ago
I teach at the university level, and I have become very close to students over the years where they have reached out to me after graduation to ask for advice or to be a sounding board for future research or potential future studies. It never, and I repeat, NEVER gets to the personal level. It is always very professional and appropriate and about giving the student the benefit of my experience or advice only. This is really inappropriate. He's definitely a groomer and a predator.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago
Let me condense and remove the emojis for you, and maybe it will suddenly become clear for you what the rest of us are seeing: "I missed seeing your face. I missed hearing your voice. I've really missed you." Does that sound like something a teacher would normally say to a student in a normal situation?
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Sathe Wesker 1 month ago
I had a high school teacher I admittedly had a crush on, but he was also young, his first year teaching and I was able to confide in him some of the depression I was going through. He helped me a lot. I reached out to him after graduation to thank him, tell him I’ve grown up and doing mentally better. His response was professional, polite and heart warming but he never accepted my friend request. He wished me a good life and said “it’s always nice to hear from former students”… he never said he “missed my voice”, Jesus, that would have actually made me question everything.
Day Andie 1 month ago
This is EXACTLY what I thought, too. This is her replacement.
Load More Replies... Ellinor she/they/elle 1 month ago (edited)
EEEWWW !!! No it's bad, it's really really bad ! And a High School teacher ?! It means that she was a minor when OP's husband met her. That's EW, that's GROSS, that's WRONG.
megabeth 1 month ago
To whom? It's not illegal... Sus af but some creeps are really good at creeping.
Load More Replies... Lila Allen 1 month ago
I'm a teacher and I keep up with loads of my former students, but never like this. His subtle grooming using words of affirmation about her voice, body language, and praising her for talking to him all scream grooming. When added to the OP was 18 and he was 33 when they started dating and she used to be his student... this is full on predator behavior. The OP needs to contact student's parents and the school. Describe her original start of the relationship and send screen caps of all this. Once school investigates I am betting they will find numerous inappropriate relationships
Robyn Hill 1 month ago
I’m a college instructor, and this is SO wildly inappropriate, it would violate school policy. Hope she follows through with reporting him.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 month ago
Balance of probabilitkes it's gross. I miss you, great to hear your voice and I read your body language, are all problematic from a mentor when unprompted. They are categorically different from it was great to see you or you did a great job or looking forward to catching up. i have some former students and mentees that I keep I touch with, but definitely while they were still college age, and within a few years of being officially a subordinate, you have to be really careful not to misconstrue things. She's not a friend, she's a mentee. Maybe in ten years you can be more friend than mentor, but not when she's 19. So unless he's really dumb, in which case he shouldn't be teaching, he's crossed lines he shouldn't have and he isn't worried about it. Maybe there's no creepy intent. Maybe he just likes the ego stroke of a 19 yo cheerleading him. But all teachers these days know they need to be clear. OP should look into this there could be more students
Mark Childers 1 month ago
I teach at the university level, and I have become very close to students over the years where they have reached out to me after graduation to ask for advice or to be a sounding board for future research or potential future studies. It never, and I repeat, NEVER gets to the personal level. It is always very professional and appropriate and about giving the student the benefit of my experience or advice only. This is really inappropriate. He's definitely a groomer and a predator.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 1 month ago
Let me condense and remove the emojis for you, and maybe it will suddenly become clear for you what the rest of us are seeing: "I missed seeing your face. I missed hearing your voice. I've really missed you." Does that sound like something a teacher would normally say to a student in a normal situation?
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