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Kayla Jones, 29 fromTexarkana, Arkansas, just wanted to start a family with her husband Cody. Unfortunately, she had undergone a partial hysterectomy aged just 17, which made her dream very difficult to realize, with grave pregnancy complications possible.
The solution was to find a surrogate mother. “My ovaries did not have to be removed so I am still able to have a child biologically mine, but I am unable to carry the child myself,” she told Love What Matters. “That’s why my husband and I had to use a surrogate pregnancy.”
Having tried unsuccessfully to find a suitable candidate, the couple decided to look a little closer to home. “My husband and I married in 2012 and my mother-in-law always joked about being our surrogate,” Kayla explained. “After a couple of our surrogate options did not work out, we started to take my mother-in-law more seriously.”
After a lot of tests, research and skeptical doctors, Cody’s mother Patty was cleared to carry the couple’s child. It didn’t work out the first time around. “We were devastated but decided to give it one more try,” she said. “In May 2017 we found out we were pregnant!”
7 months later, their baby boy Kross Allen Jones was born, delivered by C-section. “I am so amazed at this sweet miracle. Having him via surrogacy was not always easy, and definitely not easy for Patty, but having him here makes all the hard days worth it.”
Things have worked out so well, is there a temptation to go through the process again and get a brother or sister for Kross? “Right now it is hard to say if we will have any more, I would love a big family, but affording the process again will be tough,” Kayla told Bored Panda. “We have also discussed adoption in the future, but that is also expensive. We will just lay it in God’s hands and he will show us the way.”
The reactions to the family’s happy if a slightly unusual story has been interesting for Kayla. “For the most part we have had great reactions to our story,” she told us. “Some people find it ‘weird’ but if they understood the process it might not seem so weird to them.”
And finally, what about the hero of the day, Grandma Patty? “Patty is doing great! She starts back to work next week. She says she feels blessed to have been able to do the journey. She has been so great.” With Kross healthy and sleeping well, the story has a truly happy ending. “I would like to add that our whole family has been wonderful,” Kayla said to Bored Panda. “They financially and emotionally supported us. I love seeing Kross with all his grandparents.”
Scroll down to see Kayla, Cody, Patty, and little Kross’ pictures, and let us know what you think in the comments!
(h/t: Love What Matters)
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This would seem like an ordinary family photoshoot until you notice the signs
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Kayla and Cody had been searching for a surrogate mother with no success
Image credits: Kayla Jones
Until her mother-in-law, 50-year-old Patty Resecker, volunteered for the challenge
Image credits: Kayla Jones
“After much testing, my mother-in-law was cleared to carry our baby!”
Image credits: Helms Photography
Here is the fateful moment when the plan finally took off
Image credits: Kayla Jones
The next to know was the mother-in-law herself
Who, 7 months later, was expecting a healthy child
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An occasion that they marked with a heartwarming photoshoot
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“My ovaries did not have to be removed so I am still able to have a child biologically mine, but I am unable to carry the child myself”
Image credits: Helms Photography
“My husband and I married in 2012 and my mother-in-law always joked about being our surrogate”
Image credits: Helms Photography
“After a couple of our surrogate options did not work out, we started to take my mother-in-law more seriously”
Image credits: Helms Photography
“In May 2017 we found out we were pregnant!”
Image credits: Helms Photography
“I am so amazed at this sweet miracle. Having him via surrogacy was not always easy, and definitely not easy for Patty, but having him here makes all the hard days worth it”
Image credits: Kayla Jones
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Devin Robinson 7 years ago
I support that the parents wanted a surrogate, but choosing the mother-in-law seems a bit weird to me...
fckucarol 7 years ago
ikr just like shes gonna be a grandmom? mom/grandma
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Alusair Alustriel 7 years ago
From one hand it strucks weird at first, but when you think about it... I'd rather havea family member do that for me, than a complete stranger whom despite what they write or say about themselves, I do not know. I get there are legal arrangements, but I'd still feel more secure if it was someone close to me. And also mind, that bearing a baby triggers all tons of emotions, inlcuding the "I wish this baby was mine, I do not part with it after all I went through" that might happen. This can cause all sort of difficult situations with a stranger in the future.
Jeni Leigh 7 years ago
My biggest concern would be my MIL later deciding that she has the right to butt in about how we raise the child, etc. That could get pretty ugly.
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Christine B. 7 years ago
I get it, I really do. When you want to have a biological baby, you'll make anything work. But ..... Can you imagine the problems that this will cause with the family. When the daughter in law decides that she wants to home school and the mother in law opposes, or when the MIL becomes and anti-vaxer and the DIL is pro, this could lead to the MIL feeling like she has more of a say in how to raise the child. I'm not even going to go into the fact that this might be an awkward conversation for the child to have with his/her parents in the future, which I'm sure they could work out, but since they made this so public, it's not going to be fun for the child to explain it to his/her friends who might see this archived on the internet. All that being said, if for some biological reason the mom was the ONLY option, I guess.... I get it? Question, are the parents going to be in the delivery room, because that is something a son can not unsee.
Zenozenobee 7 years ago
1)surrogate isn't the mother, the ovule didn't come from her so the comment about incest are gross. 2)kids want to know their history and in France there are a lot of people fighting to know who is the sperm donor that helped their parents or biological mum in the case of a childbirth under X. In this case there is no stranger to find and this will not remain a taboo in this familly or they wouldn't have make the photoshoot. 3) I would gladly surrogate for one of my sisters or cousins, I wouldn't feel "mother" of their baby, I would do it because I love them, this woman doesn"t have to be a possessive MIL. She is probably a good person loving her son. 4) I'm less confortable about the stranger surrogate. It looks like an uterus rental. Doesn't anyone remember about the people going to rent a Thaï woman uterus and not taking the child because his dawn syndrome? Using woman's poverty to make them carry your child sound really better to me than asking some relative that just want to help?
Monilip 7 years ago
1) she is baby's bother because she carried baby for 9 month. Baby used her body to grow. Baby used her blood. She is not genetic mother but she is a mother.
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Hari Onago 7 years ago
I mean this is lovely and very generous but I still feel weirded out by the fact it was her mother in law… Like Phoebe being a surrogate to her own brother and his wife.
Sarmite Kraukle 7 years ago
If I would be able to do something for my children if they would struggle with something, I would do everything! Every available part of my body would be offered for them. And to be surrogate mother for your children happiness is more honor as task! That is, how mothers love their children!
Jewel Kong 7 years ago
It's just amazing how judgmental and ignorant people can be. In no way shape or form is this incest. The child that the MIL is carrying belongs to her son and his wife. So it's ok for a stranger to be a surrogate but not ok for a family member? Sure everyone thinks it's weird bc it's something you're not used to.
Susanna Vesna 7 years ago
I dont know how to feel. I guess it is a happy moment for all of them. It is a heroic thing to do for a woman not so young...It is like she gave birth to her son and then to his son..I think we shouldn't look at it in a sexual way, but think of it as a truly mother's instinct- you do whatever for your child.
Tracy Boyt 7 years ago
I think this was beautiful and amazing! What a sacrifice for all of them but what a strong act of love and trust! I’m sure they had their struggles at times but this was beautiful! At go MIL 50 years old and going through this!!
Emmer 7 years ago
It's nice but if it were me, I'd just feel so weird about it :/ Like she has to share the baby with the surrogate but anyway..
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
Legally, the surrogate, regardless of their relationship to the childs biological parents, has no legal claim to the baby, or any say in it's upbringing. https://surrogate.com/intended-parents/surrogacy-laws-and-legal-information/establishing-parentage-in-surrogacy/
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4Sunshine 7 years ago
I think this woman did an incredibly generous thing for her son and daughter-in-law. The whole process is clinical so I don't know what's so weird about it. Genetically, the baby is completely his parent's, not his grandmother's. Wouldn't it be a wonderful world if we all had or knew families that were so close-knit, giving, loving, and supportive.
Barbara Tucker 7 years ago
The mom didn't have all her uterus but had both functioning ovaries. The baby is 100 percent the young couples child. The mom in law loved them enough to carry the baby. Of course she was impregnated in vitro. It was a wonderful kind gift she gave them. I can understand it completely. My daughter had a difficult time carrying a child. I offered to carry her baby if she couldnt get pregnant. Thankfully after lots of fertility drugs, she got her baby girl. Family is family.
Tina Stalcup 7 years ago
I think this is a great and beautiful thing. A mother devoted to bring another life. It's not weird but amazing! That's takes a great sacrifice and love. She's a great mom and new grandma. My hat off to you! *standing ovation*
Nikki King 7 years ago
Here I will dumb it down for some of you....daughter-in-laws egg and sons sperm are put in a little dish to fertilize the egg....the egg is then moved into mother-in-laws womb kinda like a rented room for 9 months. Nothing weird or gross about it. Its biologically her daugher-in-law and sons baby, all she did was carry it.
Damien T 7 years ago
This is creepy. Guy picks a girl that looks like his mum, then get his mum pregnant.
Monilip 7 years ago
You're not only one (though I'm against all kind of surogacy, not only "family ones" like in this case)
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Shanna Westhof 7 years ago
Beautiful story. Crazy how much the surrogate soon to be grandmother looks like her daughter in law!
Keyondray Campbell 7 years ago
i can get pass the fact that mom is the surrogate .. even tho its weird, i'd rather know the person that's carrying my baby and everything about them .. i cannot get over the fact that mom and wife look extremely similar .. is it his parents or her parents ?
Laura Wesoff 7 years ago
Yes, too close for comfort. There's keeping it in the family and then there's this. Sister.Mother.Sister.Mother.
Joe Reaves 7 years ago
I'm not really sure why people are seeing this as weird. If they were using her genetic material then yeah that would be weird, but she's literally just providing a place for the embryo to develop for 7 months. And this way they can experience the baby kicking and so on in a way that would be much more difficult with a surrogate you weren't so close to. Kudos to the mother in law though - pregnancy is very stressful on the body, especially if you're an older mother. Going through all that for her son and daughter in law is very generous.
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
Yeah, WAAAAAAY to many weird people thinking about this as an incestuous situation, which says a lot about the people thinking such weird and ignorant things about the situation.
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iblowsheep 7 years ago
Okay. the guilt tripping Mother problem IS bad enough. This is insanity mean the oft used, "I carried and gave birth to you, raised you, and this is the thanks I get?" Can you imagine adding on "AND I carried YOUR kid as well" No. Just shoot me please.
Faith Stroup 7 years ago
I think this is super sweet. To have a child to raise is a blessing. The MIL was just tryin to be helpful..dang people, let them have their happiness without judging them -.-
Jim Mulholland 4 years ago
Consider organ transplant. There are countless stories of a family member donating an organ for another family member. Suppose a son donates a healthy liver to his mom, is that weird? Or a brother donates an organ to his brother, is that weird? The MIL is donating her uterus to her DIL. Is there uterus being removed? No. But the DIL is still using her MIL's uterus. The uterus is a specialized organ that has only one purpose. I've heard of stories where instead of the grandmother carrying her grandchild, it's the aunt carrying their neice/nephew. Odd, unusual? Yes. But I don't see anything wrong here.
Peggy Sharp 6 years ago
I think this is fabulous. The embryo is not the surrogates child so choosing a mother to surrogate is a wonderful option. If you understood the whole IVF process and the emotional upset of seeing your child not be able to conceive you would then understand a mother wanting to surrogate.
Nora Commisster 6 years ago (edited)
Great article! Regarding surrogate motherhood - in addition to the traditional method, there is also a surrogate frozen embryo transfer. Cryopreservation - freezing in liquid nitrogen in compliance with the technology - allows you to save embryos. Subsequently, embryo replanting after cryopreservation is possible in the natural cycle, that is, endometrial stimulation is not needed. If a woman has an irregular cycle, then stimulation is indicated, and then embryo transfer is performed after cryopreservation. Read here more info about this procedure: https://ivf-international.com/program/surrogacy-with-frozen-embryo-transfer-fet
LtTawny Madison 7 years ago
I think this is beautiful and I'm sure the child will be just fine with everything!
Rafaella Bueno 7 years ago
I don't think it's weird at all, and indeed if you're gonna have a surrogate, better be someone you know and trust. But I still don't understand why people are so terribly fixated on having biological children to the point they'd go this far. I can understand fertility treatments and wanting to experience pregnancy... but in a case like this it's all about genetics alone, and that I can't really understand.
Laurie Price-Soto 7 years ago
“Oh, that is great news, honey. I mean, it’s not such great news for the 600,000 kids in foster care, but if she wants a fresh one…Oh, jeez, everyone wants one that looks like them, it’s so selfish.” - Maria Bamford's mom
Aish Siva 7 years ago
It definitely is weird BUT it is only strange because we usually associate pregnancy with naturally conceived children and not invitro and other fertilization methods. I just thought it was so unbelievably amazing of the mom to give birth to her grandchild...It's NOT easy and not a fun thing to do. Wow
Barbara Tucker 7 years ago
I think it is beautiful. The moms ovaries still worked. So it was the couples baby all the way. The mom in law just carried it because the mom didn't have a complete uterus. . What a sacrifice to be pregnant at 50.
Sarah Figini 7 years ago
To each their own... but.... i find it conflicting that they are "praying" for the baby, when its science that has made this dream come true for them
Full Name 7 years ago
What if they're praying to the Lord to thank Him for blessing the scientists with the intellectual curiosity and smarts to be able to pull off such a maneuver? It definitely can be both.
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Chess Wizard 7 years ago
It's possible she was actually pregnant for several weeks before they were certain she was.
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Noney Martin 7 years ago
Id be concerned with the baby coming out with some sort of inbread deficencitiey
Rixster 7 years ago
In what world is this not weird? If I leaned any further Left, I'd tip over... But I certainly do acknowledge there's an intersection between Progress and DTM (Doing Too Much). If it were a "this is the only possible match" kind of situation, that'd be different -- but from the sounds of it, they just went this route out of convenience. That's quite strange, given the evidently taboo nature of a situation like this. Especially considering that they're from Texas, and are already fighting against the stigma that they're a genetically circular lot. So, ya...Major no, here. Not that I judge the results; it's wonderful that he's a healthy baby and that they have a family. But the decision-making that went into it leaves a lot to be desired, IMO.
Sarah Maslowski 7 years ago
And hem.... no consanguinity ? Is it legal ? Sorry, it's also too weird for me...
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
There is absolutely NOTHING illegal about using a surrogate. All they do is take an embryo and implant it in her womb. She is simply carrying the baby that the couple has already created.
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Anxious Monster 7 years ago
I really want to think this is beautiful, but its just not.. I had a super overbearing mil when my baby was born, for the first year she acted like my baby was hers. I couldnt even imagine how nuts this mil was with all the hormones too.. It just seems gross to carry your own kids baby, just no.. Too incestuous.. I dont think any mother in her right mind would do this for their kid. I want to do everything for mine, but id never do this. There's some lines you just don't cross and this is one of them.
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
It's weird that everyone goes straight for the incest angle on this. It says a lot more about everyone thinking about him having sex with his mother, than her carrying the baby for them.
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India Jula 7 years ago
That’s really creepy. I mean kids are great and all and they seem like wonderful people, but wouldn’t it be a bit weird for the kid?
Arin 7 years ago
Why not adopt a child that needs a home than make an inbred baby? This is f*****g disgusting!
Jewel Kong 7 years ago
It isn't inbred. The sperm is from the son and the egg is from wife. It's just that the mother is carrying the baby. Please educate yourself before making such a judgmental comment.
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Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No, it's still only his and his wifes child, as his mother provided neither the sperm, nor the ovum needed to create it. She was just a womb, that's it.
Load More Replies... Camille Kingsley 7 years ago
At first I thought the son's sperm was combined with the mom's egg and I was uncomfortable
asdrubale 7 years ago
I am happy for the new born but I really wonder if we should push nature so far... nobody will ever convince me that this persons are driven by an egoistic/egocentric will rather than love... just my 2 cents of course
Full Name 7 years ago
An appendectomy is super duper "unnatural" but I tell ya I'm sure glad we have the medical know how to pull them off.
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هاجر بن عافية 7 years ago
This act is beyond instinct How does a mother carry Her son's child that's ?it 's like he committed adultery with his mother He put his sperm into his mother's womb instead of his wife...
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No, a fertilized embryo was placed in his mother uterus, by a doctor, at a clinic. It says more about you though, that you think about him having sex with his mom.
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Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No. It's his and his wifes genetic material. All his mother is doing is providing a womb.
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Katinka Min 7 years ago
This kinda makes me shudder. It's what everybody wants and they are all adults, but the incest overtones makes this story not quite so cute as the title wants us to take it. I do like the photo with all the syringes. It shows the insanity of what people are willing to do to have a child. (PS To all desperate childless couples: It really is possible to be happy without having children. Yes, sad moments, sometimes, but life really isn'T empty or meaningless without procreation.)
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
It's so bizarre that everyone goes straight to incest with this. He didn't have sex with his mother or anything. She is simply carrying the baby for them. It does, however, say tons about all the sick people who see this as incestuous.
Load More Replies... Monilip 7 years ago
That is just wrong. Poor baby. Nine months in its mother belly, learning her voice and heartbeat only to be separete form her after birth (becasue I assume their genetic parents will care for this baby after birth as mother and father?)
Chyppa Homer 7 years ago
Show this to Foxworthy XD If you are the brother of your own son, you might be a redneck ! Sorry :D
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
Buuuut the grandmother being a surrogate, doesn't make him the brother to his own son.
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Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No, a fertilized embryo was placed in his mother uterus, by a doctor, at a clinic. It says more about you though, that you think about him having sex with his mom.
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Chess Wizard 7 years ago
Says a lot about you that you believe it's incestuous. He didn't have sex with her. Stop thinking gross things.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
There's no incest going on here. He didn't f**k his mother. They went to a doctor, and implanted an already growing embryo in her uterus. It does say loads about you though, that you automatically though about him sleeping with his mum.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No, a fertilized embryo was placed in his mother uterus, by a doctor, at a clinic. It says more about you though, that you think about him having sex with his mom.
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Chess Wizard 7 years ago
How is this in any way, shape or form, incest? I think you may need to actually look up the definition of incest, because this ain't it.
Load More Replies... Prin PK 7 years ago
I agree with your position, but I wouldn't go that far... Shaming and insulting other people because of their choices is offensive. But we can discuss this with people around us and advocate for adoption that way.
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Devin Robinson 7 years ago
I support that the parents wanted a surrogate, but choosing the mother-in-law seems a bit weird to me...
fckucarol 7 years ago
ikr just like shes gonna be a grandmom? mom/grandma
Load More Replies... Alusair Alustriel 7 years ago
From one hand it strucks weird at first, but when you think about it... I'd rather havea family member do that for me, than a complete stranger whom despite what they write or say about themselves, I do not know. I get there are legal arrangements, but I'd still feel more secure if it was someone close to me. And also mind, that bearing a baby triggers all tons of emotions, inlcuding the "I wish this baby was mine, I do not part with it after all I went through" that might happen. This can cause all sort of difficult situations with a stranger in the future.
Jeni Leigh 7 years ago
My biggest concern would be my MIL later deciding that she has the right to butt in about how we raise the child, etc. That could get pretty ugly.
Load More Replies... Christine B. 7 years ago
I get it, I really do. When you want to have a biological baby, you'll make anything work. But ..... Can you imagine the problems that this will cause with the family. When the daughter in law decides that she wants to home school and the mother in law opposes, or when the MIL becomes and anti-vaxer and the DIL is pro, this could lead to the MIL feeling like she has more of a say in how to raise the child. I'm not even going to go into the fact that this might be an awkward conversation for the child to have with his/her parents in the future, which I'm sure they could work out, but since they made this so public, it's not going to be fun for the child to explain it to his/her friends who might see this archived on the internet. All that being said, if for some biological reason the mom was the ONLY option, I guess.... I get it? Question, are the parents going to be in the delivery room, because that is something a son can not unsee.
Zenozenobee 7 years ago
1)surrogate isn't the mother, the ovule didn't come from her so the comment about incest are gross. 2)kids want to know their history and in France there are a lot of people fighting to know who is the sperm donor that helped their parents or biological mum in the case of a childbirth under X. In this case there is no stranger to find and this will not remain a taboo in this familly or they wouldn't have make the photoshoot. 3) I would gladly surrogate for one of my sisters or cousins, I wouldn't feel "mother" of their baby, I would do it because I love them, this woman doesn"t have to be a possessive MIL. She is probably a good person loving her son. 4) I'm less confortable about the stranger surrogate. It looks like an uterus rental. Doesn't anyone remember about the people going to rent a Thaï woman uterus and not taking the child because his dawn syndrome? Using woman's poverty to make them carry your child sound really better to me than asking some relative that just want to help?
Monilip 7 years ago
1) she is baby's bother because she carried baby for 9 month. Baby used her body to grow. Baby used her blood. She is not genetic mother but she is a mother.
Load More Replies... Hari Onago 7 years ago
I mean this is lovely and very generous but I still feel weirded out by the fact it was her mother in law… Like Phoebe being a surrogate to her own brother and his wife.
Sarmite Kraukle 7 years ago
If I would be able to do something for my children if they would struggle with something, I would do everything! Every available part of my body would be offered for them. And to be surrogate mother for your children happiness is more honor as task! That is, how mothers love their children!
Jewel Kong 7 years ago
It's just amazing how judgmental and ignorant people can be. In no way shape or form is this incest. The child that the MIL is carrying belongs to her son and his wife. So it's ok for a stranger to be a surrogate but not ok for a family member? Sure everyone thinks it's weird bc it's something you're not used to.
Susanna Vesna 7 years ago
I dont know how to feel. I guess it is a happy moment for all of them. It is a heroic thing to do for a woman not so young...It is like she gave birth to her son and then to his son..I think we shouldn't look at it in a sexual way, but think of it as a truly mother's instinct- you do whatever for your child.
Tracy Boyt 7 years ago
I think this was beautiful and amazing! What a sacrifice for all of them but what a strong act of love and trust! I’m sure they had their struggles at times but this was beautiful! At go MIL 50 years old and going through this!!
Emmer 7 years ago
It's nice but if it were me, I'd just feel so weird about it :/ Like she has to share the baby with the surrogate but anyway..
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
Legally, the surrogate, regardless of their relationship to the childs biological parents, has no legal claim to the baby, or any say in it's upbringing. https://surrogate.com/intended-parents/surrogacy-laws-and-legal-information/establishing-parentage-in-surrogacy/
Load More Replies... 4Sunshine 7 years ago
I think this woman did an incredibly generous thing for her son and daughter-in-law. The whole process is clinical so I don't know what's so weird about it. Genetically, the baby is completely his parent's, not his grandmother's. Wouldn't it be a wonderful world if we all had or knew families that were so close-knit, giving, loving, and supportive.
Barbara Tucker 7 years ago
The mom didn't have all her uterus but had both functioning ovaries. The baby is 100 percent the young couples child. The mom in law loved them enough to carry the baby. Of course she was impregnated in vitro. It was a wonderful kind gift she gave them. I can understand it completely. My daughter had a difficult time carrying a child. I offered to carry her baby if she couldnt get pregnant. Thankfully after lots of fertility drugs, she got her baby girl. Family is family.
Tina Stalcup 7 years ago
I think this is a great and beautiful thing. A mother devoted to bring another life. It's not weird but amazing! That's takes a great sacrifice and love. She's a great mom and new grandma. My hat off to you! *standing ovation*
Nikki King 7 years ago
Here I will dumb it down for some of you....daughter-in-laws egg and sons sperm are put in a little dish to fertilize the egg....the egg is then moved into mother-in-laws womb kinda like a rented room for 9 months. Nothing weird or gross about it. Its biologically her daugher-in-law and sons baby, all she did was carry it.
Damien T 7 years ago
This is creepy. Guy picks a girl that looks like his mum, then get his mum pregnant.
Monilip 7 years ago
You're not only one (though I'm against all kind of surogacy, not only "family ones" like in this case)
Load More Replies... Shanna Westhof 7 years ago
Beautiful story. Crazy how much the surrogate soon to be grandmother looks like her daughter in law!
Keyondray Campbell 7 years ago
i can get pass the fact that mom is the surrogate .. even tho its weird, i'd rather know the person that's carrying my baby and everything about them .. i cannot get over the fact that mom and wife look extremely similar .. is it his parents or her parents ?
Laura Wesoff 7 years ago
Yes, too close for comfort. There's keeping it in the family and then there's this. Sister.Mother.Sister.Mother.
Joe Reaves 7 years ago
I'm not really sure why people are seeing this as weird. If they were using her genetic material then yeah that would be weird, but she's literally just providing a place for the embryo to develop for 7 months. And this way they can experience the baby kicking and so on in a way that would be much more difficult with a surrogate you weren't so close to. Kudos to the mother in law though - pregnancy is very stressful on the body, especially if you're an older mother. Going through all that for her son and daughter in law is very generous.
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
Yeah, WAAAAAAY to many weird people thinking about this as an incestuous situation, which says a lot about the people thinking such weird and ignorant things about the situation.
Load More Replies... iblowsheep 7 years ago
Okay. the guilt tripping Mother problem IS bad enough. This is insanity mean the oft used, "I carried and gave birth to you, raised you, and this is the thanks I get?" Can you imagine adding on "AND I carried YOUR kid as well" No. Just shoot me please.
Faith Stroup 7 years ago
I think this is super sweet. To have a child to raise is a blessing. The MIL was just tryin to be helpful..dang people, let them have their happiness without judging them -.-
Jim Mulholland 4 years ago
Consider organ transplant. There are countless stories of a family member donating an organ for another family member. Suppose a son donates a healthy liver to his mom, is that weird? Or a brother donates an organ to his brother, is that weird? The MIL is donating her uterus to her DIL. Is there uterus being removed? No. But the DIL is still using her MIL's uterus. The uterus is a specialized organ that has only one purpose. I've heard of stories where instead of the grandmother carrying her grandchild, it's the aunt carrying their neice/nephew. Odd, unusual? Yes. But I don't see anything wrong here.
Peggy Sharp 6 years ago
I think this is fabulous. The embryo is not the surrogates child so choosing a mother to surrogate is a wonderful option. If you understood the whole IVF process and the emotional upset of seeing your child not be able to conceive you would then understand a mother wanting to surrogate.
Nora Commisster 6 years ago (edited)
Great article! Regarding surrogate motherhood - in addition to the traditional method, there is also a surrogate frozen embryo transfer. Cryopreservation - freezing in liquid nitrogen in compliance with the technology - allows you to save embryos. Subsequently, embryo replanting after cryopreservation is possible in the natural cycle, that is, endometrial stimulation is not needed. If a woman has an irregular cycle, then stimulation is indicated, and then embryo transfer is performed after cryopreservation. Read here more info about this procedure: https://ivf-international.com/program/surrogacy-with-frozen-embryo-transfer-fet
LtTawny Madison 7 years ago
I think this is beautiful and I'm sure the child will be just fine with everything!
Rafaella Bueno 7 years ago
I don't think it's weird at all, and indeed if you're gonna have a surrogate, better be someone you know and trust. But I still don't understand why people are so terribly fixated on having biological children to the point they'd go this far. I can understand fertility treatments and wanting to experience pregnancy... but in a case like this it's all about genetics alone, and that I can't really understand.
Laurie Price-Soto 7 years ago
“Oh, that is great news, honey. I mean, it’s not such great news for the 600,000 kids in foster care, but if she wants a fresh one…Oh, jeez, everyone wants one that looks like them, it’s so selfish.” - Maria Bamford's mom
Aish Siva 7 years ago
It definitely is weird BUT it is only strange because we usually associate pregnancy with naturally conceived children and not invitro and other fertilization methods. I just thought it was so unbelievably amazing of the mom to give birth to her grandchild...It's NOT easy and not a fun thing to do. Wow
Barbara Tucker 7 years ago
I think it is beautiful. The moms ovaries still worked. So it was the couples baby all the way. The mom in law just carried it because the mom didn't have a complete uterus. . What a sacrifice to be pregnant at 50.
Sarah Figini 7 years ago
To each their own... but.... i find it conflicting that they are "praying" for the baby, when its science that has made this dream come true for them
Full Name 7 years ago
What if they're praying to the Lord to thank Him for blessing the scientists with the intellectual curiosity and smarts to be able to pull off such a maneuver? It definitely can be both.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
It's possible she was actually pregnant for several weeks before they were certain she was.
Load More Replies... Noney Martin 7 years ago
Id be concerned with the baby coming out with some sort of inbread deficencitiey
Rixster 7 years ago
In what world is this not weird? If I leaned any further Left, I'd tip over... But I certainly do acknowledge there's an intersection between Progress and DTM (Doing Too Much). If it were a "this is the only possible match" kind of situation, that'd be different -- but from the sounds of it, they just went this route out of convenience. That's quite strange, given the evidently taboo nature of a situation like this. Especially considering that they're from Texas, and are already fighting against the stigma that they're a genetically circular lot. So, ya...Major no, here. Not that I judge the results; it's wonderful that he's a healthy baby and that they have a family. But the decision-making that went into it leaves a lot to be desired, IMO.
Sarah Maslowski 7 years ago
And hem.... no consanguinity ? Is it legal ? Sorry, it's also too weird for me...
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
There is absolutely NOTHING illegal about using a surrogate. All they do is take an embryo and implant it in her womb. She is simply carrying the baby that the couple has already created.
Load More Replies... Anxious Monster 7 years ago
I really want to think this is beautiful, but its just not.. I had a super overbearing mil when my baby was born, for the first year she acted like my baby was hers. I couldnt even imagine how nuts this mil was with all the hormones too.. It just seems gross to carry your own kids baby, just no.. Too incestuous.. I dont think any mother in her right mind would do this for their kid. I want to do everything for mine, but id never do this. There's some lines you just don't cross and this is one of them.
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
It's weird that everyone goes straight for the incest angle on this. It says a lot more about everyone thinking about him having sex with his mother, than her carrying the baby for them.
Load More Replies... India Jula 7 years ago
That’s really creepy. I mean kids are great and all and they seem like wonderful people, but wouldn’t it be a bit weird for the kid?
Arin 7 years ago
Why not adopt a child that needs a home than make an inbred baby? This is f*****g disgusting!
Jewel Kong 7 years ago
It isn't inbred. The sperm is from the son and the egg is from wife. It's just that the mother is carrying the baby. Please educate yourself before making such a judgmental comment.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No, it's still only his and his wifes child, as his mother provided neither the sperm, nor the ovum needed to create it. She was just a womb, that's it.
Load More Replies... Camille Kingsley 7 years ago
At first I thought the son's sperm was combined with the mom's egg and I was uncomfortable
asdrubale 7 years ago
I am happy for the new born but I really wonder if we should push nature so far... nobody will ever convince me that this persons are driven by an egoistic/egocentric will rather than love... just my 2 cents of course
Full Name 7 years ago
An appendectomy is super duper "unnatural" but I tell ya I'm sure glad we have the medical know how to pull them off.
Load More Replies... هاجر بن عافية 7 years ago
This act is beyond instinct How does a mother carry Her son's child that's ?it 's like he committed adultery with his mother He put his sperm into his mother's womb instead of his wife...
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No, a fertilized embryo was placed in his mother uterus, by a doctor, at a clinic. It says more about you though, that you think about him having sex with his mom.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No. It's his and his wifes genetic material. All his mother is doing is providing a womb.
Load More Replies... Katinka Min 7 years ago
This kinda makes me shudder. It's what everybody wants and they are all adults, but the incest overtones makes this story not quite so cute as the title wants us to take it. I do like the photo with all the syringes. It shows the insanity of what people are willing to do to have a child. (PS To all desperate childless couples: It really is possible to be happy without having children. Yes, sad moments, sometimes, but life really isn'T empty or meaningless without procreation.)
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
It's so bizarre that everyone goes straight to incest with this. He didn't have sex with his mother or anything. She is simply carrying the baby for them. It does, however, say tons about all the sick people who see this as incestuous.
Load More Replies... Monilip 7 years ago
That is just wrong. Poor baby. Nine months in its mother belly, learning her voice and heartbeat only to be separete form her after birth (becasue I assume their genetic parents will care for this baby after birth as mother and father?)
Chyppa Homer 7 years ago
Show this to Foxworthy XD If you are the brother of your own son, you might be a redneck ! Sorry :D
Chess Wizard 7 years ago
Buuuut the grandmother being a surrogate, doesn't make him the brother to his own son.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No, a fertilized embryo was placed in his mother uterus, by a doctor, at a clinic. It says more about you though, that you think about him having sex with his mom.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
Says a lot about you that you believe it's incestuous. He didn't have sex with her. Stop thinking gross things.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
There's no incest going on here. He didn't f**k his mother. They went to a doctor, and implanted an already growing embryo in her uterus. It does say loads about you though, that you automatically though about him sleeping with his mum.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
No, a fertilized embryo was placed in his mother uterus, by a doctor, at a clinic. It says more about you though, that you think about him having sex with his mom.
Load More Replies... Chess Wizard 7 years ago
How is this in any way, shape or form, incest? I think you may need to actually look up the definition of incest, because this ain't it.
Load More Replies... Prin PK 7 years ago
I agree with your position, but I wouldn't go that far... Shaming and insulting other people because of their choices is offensive. But we can discuss this with people around us and advocate for adoption that way.
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