“Being A Less-Than-Perfect Parent”: 50 Things Men Can Get Away With But Women Can’t, As Shared By People Online

Honestly, no uterus no opinion. (Hope I don't get downvoted) And trans women are women. Trans men are men. There are no strict definitions on what makes someone a man or woman.

Vasectomies prevent abortions

Everyone remember this when election day comes.

I've said this a long time. A man can make HUNDREDS of babies a year. A woman? 1. Therefore, if you want to prevent unwanted pregnancies -- snip the men. All of them. Vasectomies are reversible. And only allow the reversion of a vasectomy if the man is a responsible adult who will take care of the resulting kid.

Best idea ever! But i won't hold my breath.

I've never heard anyone propose to Congress a mandatory tube tying bill, the most natural equivalent

I'm picturing the abortion wards opening again in the states which have outlawed it...just like back before RVW....full of women dying from sepsis and hypovolemic shock. Yeah such a great and free country we live in..../s

Also play safely!

As long as no one is sleeping with any body else spouse not just yours

Maybe reserve those "claws you got" for your husband because if someone else is sleeping with him he's obviously doing his part...

That would make it a promiscuous spouse problem

Women are part of society, thus they develop the same ideas...

Varies by culture. Were they in Awe maybe of you being hands on or they were judgy saying you shouldnt have to?

It seems you may live in a bubble of acceptance. And that's wonderful that you haven't been subjected to what this post describes. I can assure you though, that women are widely questioned about their intent to have children, even to the point of women being denied sterilization surgeries on the basis of "regretting it later", or because they "haven't met the right person" to procreate with yet. It is still common practice for a woman to be refused a tubal ligation unless her husband is in agreement with the procedure. Beyond that, it is common for people to ask WHEN a woman will have children, not IF they even want to.

I think you would not be aware. It is not that there is a concerted disapproval from society but many people with children automatically assume you have regrets and will say so directly to your face. I don't think you can say that that never happens where you live.

That's nice where you are, but I had total strangers walk up to me in the US and ask why I didn't have children back when I was in my 20s and 30s. Not just one location, either. Also happened to me in other countries. It was assumed I was a married female, ergo I have children. I don't. I can't. The end.

I'm glad you never had to deal with this. That's not being said sarcastically or in a demeaning manor either, however, it isNOT the norm. I'm 36 and people STILL tell me I'm going to change my mind when I say I don't want children. I also cannot tell you how many times people ask me "why" when I say I don't have them as if it's baffling that someone may just not want them. Also people PLEASE don't corner a childless woman and drill her about why she doesn't have children there are so many reasons but some women may really want kids but can't have them what gives anyone the right to invade someone's privacy like that? I also refrain from saying Happy Mother's Day yo every female I see because you never know if that woman has been trying her whole adult life to have a baby and just found out she can't. Common decency is all I'm saying...

I'm sorry you're getting downvoted for merely expressing your (innocuous) opinion. Canada must he much more enlightened than other places are!

Thanks Margot! I'm 46 and it never worked out for me to have kids. I just didn't care enough and then I couldn't. Throughout everything I've expended so much energy worrying. Thank you for the hope your comment gives me.

Sounds like BC is evolving a better view of human beings. Hope USA eventually gets this way too!!

Just because it never happened to you or you have never heard it doesn't mean it isn't an actual stereotype. In fact there are still lots of articles about his particular one. When I was married the first time everyone kept asking when we were gonna have kids. After my divorce everyone kept asking me if I was dating again when I was going to remarry. At 45 I get a lot of b******t on this especially from family members who don't really know me. I knew as a teenage I never wanted kids and my ex husband knew that when we married. Also I knew after my divorce I would never get remarried. So nice bubble you live in there.

True, but your experience does not negate hers. It's two people having divergent experiences - and one is more common than the other. Count your blessings; but empathize with where those less fortunate are coming from.

Indeed! I upvote that! I'm nearly 75. I had my last child at 30 and had my tubes tied immediately. I could not imagine raising children into my senior years. In this day and age I'm surprised ppl still go for large families... most of us just can't afford it, esp. on fixed incomes!

The point is the *perception* of reality, not the reality itself. We're not saying that women are not fulfilled.

I guess it varies from place to place, but it's definitely something that's been changing over the years. I daresay it's become far more accepted to not have kids in the last decade or so.

Thank you for this. I just turned 39, my boss just turned 50. Neither of us have children, and it's only strangers who 'feel sorry' for us. Our close friends (of which we have many) know how fulfilled we are with our lives.

In my country, it is normal to have married and have children before 30. People will insult you saying there might be some fault in you that's how you end up single.

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sure you do

This sounds weird but I might choose to wear men’s cologne and/or deodorant because I’ve always liked how my dad smells 😌 it reminds me of safety

I (M) on the other hand, used to use my ex's (F) baby powder scented Degree deodorant. I liked that smell.

Same. I use Old Spice deodorants exclusively nowadays, as they 1. Smell better than women's products, 2. Are stronger antiperspirant-wise (I'm the owner of nasty body odor) and 3. Are sadly CHEAPER than most women's deodorants.

Smell better and are less irritating on my sensitive skin than womens.

yea female products are too floral and strong

Women’s scents are overly strong in their fruity flowery scents. I use men’s products so I can get a nice clean sandalwood.

I totally agree. Dove has a fresh scent body wash for men that is so nice. I've used it for years. I don't want to smell like a watermelon flower baby whore, which seems to be one of 3 scents women are allowed. Baby whore, sticky candy, and an occasional nice clean scent that lasts a whole 30 seconds no matter how much you spray.

I think in general the men's showergels and bodywashes seem to have a stronger smell. I don't mean an offensive smell but a more intense and longer lasting smell. I can see why women would choose that option

i feel like womens is a very very light scent. and men get BLUE BODYWASH? when we get WHITE? thats not fair i want color too 🥲

Oooh yes, like the smell of Badedas & Bvlgari Eau Parfumée au Thé Vert (although I think both are unisex?🤔) I love those woodsy/ earthy "men's" scents.