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30 Questions To Reveal If You’re A People Pleaser Or Just Nice
People-pleasing refers to the tendency to please & seek validation from others, even at someone’s own expense. People pleasers are usually people who find it difficult to disappoint others and fear being rejected or abandoned eventually. People pleasers tend to seem very friendly and kind, the type of people who go to great lengths to help others even if they aren’t asked to do so. These people tend to care whether others like them and approve of their actions in general. People-pleasing tends to become a pattern that people unconsciously adapt in order to avoid criticism, embarrassment, or rejection. Answer 30 questions and see how much of a people-pleaser you are!
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Nikole 10 months ago
This is 44 year old Nikole though. Good to know I’ve changed: You are definitely not a people-pleaser. You seem like the type of person who is quite assertive, bold, and honest. Your honesty is sometimes known to offend people, even if your intentions are good. You don’t do things for other people to like you; in fact, you do things even if you know they won’t like you. People-pleasers should take lessons on how to be assertive from you.
Auntriarch 10 months ago
I got this answer too. Makes me sound quite a bulldozer. I used to be a people pleaser, but I think I've grown beyond that now. I still do my best not to upset people, but not at the expense of my self worth or principles.
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G Bono 10 months ago
I have the tendency, but I’m not chronic: “You may have the energy to resist this people-pleasing urge, yet sometimes, you find yourself getting stuck in this pattern of behavior. You may need to assert yourself when necessary so as not to feel as if you’re a doormat later on. In the long run, you may feel frustrated and resentful by giving in to your people-pleasing tendencies.
Son of Philosoraptor 10 months ago
When I first went into supervising it was so hard to tell other adults what to do. I'm a born pleaser; I had to fake it till it became comfortable. It's just like being a coach - needs friendly assertiveness. Hard for an introvert people pleaser!
Mason Kronol 10 months ago
I took over as manager for a pub and one of the former managers stepped down to be a shift leader and later a day manager. I had worked for her as a shift leader. I was afraid it would be awkward. She was one of the best person I ever worked for/with/over. I could trust her on my days off and know if she was calling it was serious. I haven’t found that type of coworker/boss in over 20 years. It’s a shame it seems a lot of people can’t work towards the same goals anymore and hold each other up. So much greed.
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Kristine Johnson 10 months ago (edited)
This is nice. It took some work to get here, though. I have to remember that modeling healthy boundaries will only make my relationships stronger because it’s more authentic. I want people to be honest with me if and establishing that in our friendship it’s okay to say no is only a good thing. My result: You are just a nice person who might be labeled a people-pleaser by others. You give great importance to your loved ones, and you go to great lengths when necessary to cheer them up or make them feel special. However, it is not because you’re a people-pleaser but simply because you are a nice person who is kind, caring, and loving.
Jennifer Drake 10 months ago
I’m so screwed. 🫣 45 years old, and no undoing it. 😩 You are 100% a people-pleaser. You put too much value in what otherts think or feel about you. Even if someone mistreats you, you tend to blame yourself first. You sacrifice a lot to make other people feel happy and appreciated, which you might deserve more of. This tendency may make you feel tired and frustrated at times.
Auntriarch 10 months ago
Spoiler alert: I was a people pleaser in my 40s.... Good luck to you Jennifer!
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Sea Squirrel 10 months ago
Oh wow, people-pleasers should take lessons on how to be assertive from me ... I love compliments like this!!!
Crystalwitch60 10 months ago
Lmao spot on I don’t got a filter lmao after decades of being mentality and physical abuse from age 18 two marriages I learn to stand up for myself now aged 60 I’m the strongest person I know I hate people lol n if I something needs saying I say it ,if people don’t like it that’s a them problem lol not a me problem im housebound out in the sticks in a lovely little village my comfort zone im farm born n bred n loath towns can’t handle so many people lol my days of pleasing anyone but my kids and me n my dogs is well over ! my kids n dogs are all that matter to me now im also a white witch blessed be to all x
Nikole 10 months ago
This is 44 year old Nikole though. Good to know I’ve changed: You are definitely not a people-pleaser. You seem like the type of person who is quite assertive, bold, and honest. Your honesty is sometimes known to offend people, even if your intentions are good. You don’t do things for other people to like you; in fact, you do things even if you know they won’t like you. People-pleasers should take lessons on how to be assertive from you.
Auntriarch 10 months ago
I got this answer too. Makes me sound quite a bulldozer. I used to be a people pleaser, but I think I've grown beyond that now. I still do my best not to upset people, but not at the expense of my self worth or principles.
Load More Replies... G Bono 10 months ago
I have the tendency, but I’m not chronic: “You may have the energy to resist this people-pleasing urge, yet sometimes, you find yourself getting stuck in this pattern of behavior. You may need to assert yourself when necessary so as not to feel as if you’re a doormat later on. In the long run, you may feel frustrated and resentful by giving in to your people-pleasing tendencies.
Son of Philosoraptor 10 months ago
When I first went into supervising it was so hard to tell other adults what to do. I'm a born pleaser; I had to fake it till it became comfortable. It's just like being a coach - needs friendly assertiveness. Hard for an introvert people pleaser!
Mason Kronol 10 months ago
I took over as manager for a pub and one of the former managers stepped down to be a shift leader and later a day manager. I had worked for her as a shift leader. I was afraid it would be awkward. She was one of the best person I ever worked for/with/over. I could trust her on my days off and know if she was calling it was serious. I haven’t found that type of coworker/boss in over 20 years. It’s a shame it seems a lot of people can’t work towards the same goals anymore and hold each other up. So much greed.
Load More Replies... Kristine Johnson 10 months ago (edited)
This is nice. It took some work to get here, though. I have to remember that modeling healthy boundaries will only make my relationships stronger because it’s more authentic. I want people to be honest with me if and establishing that in our friendship it’s okay to say no is only a good thing. My result: You are just a nice person who might be labeled a people-pleaser by others. You give great importance to your loved ones, and you go to great lengths when necessary to cheer them up or make them feel special. However, it is not because you’re a people-pleaser but simply because you are a nice person who is kind, caring, and loving.
Jennifer Drake 10 months ago
I’m so screwed. 🫣 45 years old, and no undoing it. 😩 You are 100% a people-pleaser. You put too much value in what otherts think or feel about you. Even if someone mistreats you, you tend to blame yourself first. You sacrifice a lot to make other people feel happy and appreciated, which you might deserve more of. This tendency may make you feel tired and frustrated at times.
Auntriarch 10 months ago
Spoiler alert: I was a people pleaser in my 40s.... Good luck to you Jennifer!
Load More Replies... Sea Squirrel 10 months ago
Oh wow, people-pleasers should take lessons on how to be assertive from me ... I love compliments like this!!!
Crystalwitch60 10 months ago
Lmao spot on I don’t got a filter lmao after decades of being mentality and physical abuse from age 18 two marriages I learn to stand up for myself now aged 60 I’m the strongest person I know I hate people lol n if I something needs saying I say it ,if people don’t like it that’s a them problem lol not a me problem im housebound out in the sticks in a lovely little village my comfort zone im farm born n bred n loath towns can’t handle so many people lol my days of pleasing anyone but my kids and me n my dogs is well over ! my kids n dogs are all that matter to me now im also a white witch blessed be to all x
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