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Mom Learns 27YO Daughter Was The ‘Other Woman’, Now Her 43YO Hubs Wants 3rd Kid Against Her Wishes
It’s scary how cheating has become a “common” aspect of dating. A lot of my friends have been cheated on, and some have even had affairs. Sometimes, it makes me glad that I am single right now because I doubt I’d be able to get past such a betrayal.
Even this mom was shocked to find out that her daughter was the “other woman” for a colleague who was 16 years older than her. Now, the barely present man wants a third kid with her, and she’s just tired of struggling alone, so she came crying, asking her mom to speak with him!
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It’s honestly insane how cheating has become so common these days, and trust is barely present in relationships
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The poster’s 27-year-old daughter never dated anyone, but one day, she suddenly married a guy who was 16 years older than her
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Three years down the line, the couple has 2 kids, but the man wants another one; however, his wife is exhausted as she’s the one who struggles with them
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In fact, she has asked her mom to speak to him because she doesn’t want another kid, but wants him to be more present
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However, the poster was shocked to find out that her daughter was actually his “other woman” for a year before he divorced his wife
Today, we dive into the life of the original poster (OP), who is a mom concerned about her daughter. The mom kept trying to convince her to date and even tried to set her up with a few men, but nobody was ever good enough for her beautiful daughter. However, that all changed when she turned 27, and she shocked her mom with her wedding news.
Her husband is the Managing Director of the company where she previously worked, and the man is 16 years older than her. They also had a very hushed-up marriage with only signatures—no event or even a wedding dress, as he was recently divorced. Fast forward three years, and this is where the plot thickens, as the man now wants a third kid despite having two already.
However, OP’s daughter is simply exhausted as she’s almost parenting the kids solo, while he’s barely present for them. The poster claimed that he’s the “perfect man” who her generation might like, that is, the main provider, in control of everything, and has “status”. OP believes that is not what today’s generation wants, as they prefer a guy who is more involved.
In fact, her struggling daughter is so tired from bearing the parenting burden alone that she asked her mom to speak with him and ask him to be more present. However, OP gave a shocking update that her daughter confessed to being his “other woman” for a year—while he was married! The truth is that many netizens suspected as much and didn’t really have much sympathy for the woman.
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A lot of them strongly advised that the poster should not get involved in their issues. If she crosses any boundaries, it might hamper her relationship with both of them. However, they suggested that she be there for her when he cheats again with someone younger. Data shows that someone is three times more likely to cheat if they have cheated in the past.
Well, that’s proof enough that what they are saying might come true. Research suggests, “Relationships with younger women can offer men a sense of dominance and control that they may not feel in other areas of their lives.” Maybe he couldn’t really control his ex-wife, so the man was preying on a younger one.
OP’s daughter also cruelly mentions that his wife should have “given him babies if she wanted to keep him.” However, what she fails to realize is that she is stuck in the same trap, as now he is demanding another kid, which she is not ready for. Besides, a lot of people expressed concern for their two kids, who are growing up with an absent father.
Sometimes, children without fathers at home can suffer greatly. In fact, experts warn that such kids might have a diminished self-concept, face difficulties with social adjustment, have issues with friendships, and also face behavioral problems. Isn’t it enough that because of him, the two kids might go through this, and now he wants to torment another child?
Honestly, he sounds like an obnoxious person who will never change, even if the poster talks to him. What about you? What do you think? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
Netizens strongly advised the poster not to get involved with the couple, but asked her to be there for her daughter if he cheats on her
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Tabitha 1 month ago
If they cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you. That’s what I was told when I was a young woman (I’m 64 now). What OP’s daughter needs to do is take full advantage of her situation wheel she’s in it. Ask for a nanny—-but hire the biggest, ugliest, and meanest-looking MANNY she can find. No need to tempt the cheater with a pretty young nanny. OP’s daughter should also start throwing money and anything else he gives her into a bank account and bank deposit drawer—-in her name only, so he can’t seize it during the inevitable divorce when he trades her in for a newer model, like he did his first wife. She needs to be smart about it, not blinded by love and thinking she can change him because that’s it going to happen, so she comes out ahead and not behind.
Janelle Collard 1 month ago
All excellent points. Hope OP passes along similar comments to her daughter.
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Earonn - 1 month ago (edited)
So the homewrecker who considered herself better than others and said her husband's ex-wife "deserved" to be cheated on because "she gave him no babies" is "tired" with two children (she is NOT working. Right now she is at home, according to OP)? Looks like she got what she wanted and turns out she's just a whiny little bi.tch. She can live out her daddy issues with her hubby now - for the next ten years, until he'll leave her for a younger model.
weatherwitch 1 month ago
There is something Very wrong here. One, the daughter has a very weird attitude about others like herself. But two. She was 27 before her mother knew she was involved with someone. That's Odd. She might be Asexual/Demisexual. It sounds like a form of grooming on someone shockingly naive. I was groomed at 19 by someone Twice my age, he Knew Exactly what he was doing, I didn't have a clue. So this daughter is 27 is before she meets someone. That is So unusual so clearly she is very inexperienced at relationships. His guy is Twice her age. Uh oh. Also her Boss. Uh oh again. He has clearly known exactly how to manipulate her and she really doesn't understand W*F is happening. She thinks she does, but she clearly does not. Asking her mother to help in something like that, is highly unusual and again points to her being used. Mother states daughter he has his arm around her and she sits on his lap. Trophy young wife much anyone??? He knows what he's doing, he Knew all along. He saw ripe
weatherwitch 1 month ago
Inexperienced young woman and went for someone he could mould to his needs and wants. As to the mother, she doesn't understand what the hell is going on, she doesn't understand what is right and what isn't. Just because he looks the part of the perfect husband...... Doesn't mean he is. There's a Reason we're not marrying men twice our age (in general - there are a few sweet exceptions). And also the mother was always trying to set the daughter up, doesn't make her approachable Before the daughter got caught up in this. My guess is both his wives suffered by him...
Load More Replies... Tabitha 1 month ago
If they cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you. That’s what I was told when I was a young woman (I’m 64 now). What OP’s daughter needs to do is take full advantage of her situation wheel she’s in it. Ask for a nanny—-but hire the biggest, ugliest, and meanest-looking MANNY she can find. No need to tempt the cheater with a pretty young nanny. OP’s daughter should also start throwing money and anything else he gives her into a bank account and bank deposit drawer—-in her name only, so he can’t seize it during the inevitable divorce when he trades her in for a newer model, like he did his first wife. She needs to be smart about it, not blinded by love and thinking she can change him because that’s it going to happen, so she comes out ahead and not behind.
Janelle Collard 1 month ago
All excellent points. Hope OP passes along similar comments to her daughter.
Load More Replies... Earonn - 1 month ago (edited)
So the homewrecker who considered herself better than others and said her husband's ex-wife "deserved" to be cheated on because "she gave him no babies" is "tired" with two children (she is NOT working. Right now she is at home, according to OP)? Looks like she got what she wanted and turns out she's just a whiny little bi.tch. She can live out her daddy issues with her hubby now - for the next ten years, until he'll leave her for a younger model.
weatherwitch 1 month ago
There is something Very wrong here. One, the daughter has a very weird attitude about others like herself. But two. She was 27 before her mother knew she was involved with someone. That's Odd. She might be Asexual/Demisexual. It sounds like a form of grooming on someone shockingly naive. I was groomed at 19 by someone Twice my age, he Knew Exactly what he was doing, I didn't have a clue. So this daughter is 27 is before she meets someone. That is So unusual so clearly she is very inexperienced at relationships. His guy is Twice her age. Uh oh. Also her Boss. Uh oh again. He has clearly known exactly how to manipulate her and she really doesn't understand W*F is happening. She thinks she does, but she clearly does not. Asking her mother to help in something like that, is highly unusual and again points to her being used. Mother states daughter he has his arm around her and she sits on his lap. Trophy young wife much anyone??? He knows what he's doing, he Knew all along. He saw ripe
weatherwitch 1 month ago
Inexperienced young woman and went for someone he could mould to his needs and wants. As to the mother, she doesn't understand what the hell is going on, she doesn't understand what is right and what isn't. Just because he looks the part of the perfect husband...... Doesn't mean he is. There's a Reason we're not marrying men twice our age (in general - there are a few sweet exceptions). And also the mother was always trying to set the daughter up, doesn't make her approachable Before the daughter got caught up in this. My guess is both his wives suffered by him...
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