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Entitled Kid Thinks He’ll Get Away With Doing Nothing On A Group Project, Gets Publicly Embarrassed
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Entitled Kid Thinks He’ll Get Away With Doing Nothing On A Group Project, Gets Publicly Embarrassed

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Group projects are a bit of a cursed prospect in many of our experiences. You often see some responsible people doing most of the work. Meanwhile, the rest of the group spends their time relaxing and definitely not contributing in any meaningful way. It’s frustrating!

However, some people decide to fight back against the injustice of it all. Redditor u/Draycos_Stormfang went viral after sharing how he publicly embarrassed his project partner, who had stubbornly refused to pull their weight. Scroll down for the story in full. The author of the viral story, u/Draycos_Stormfang, was happy to share his thoughts about what happened. Read on for Bored Panda’s interview with him.

One of the most frustrating aspects of group projects is that some people refuse to pull their weight

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One student came up with a revenge plan after getting saddled with a lazy partner

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You can find free riders pretty much anywhere in society

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According to the author of the post, there’s “not much you can do” if you’re saddled with lazy project partners in class who try to get everyone else to do the work for them.

“If your partners are true lazy bums, no amount of effort on your part will motivate them to do their own work,” u/Draycos_Stormfang shared his perspective with Bored Panda.

We were interested in getting the OP’s take on how someone can let go of anger against someone who’s wronged them instead of holding a grudge.

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“I’m the type of guy who decides to hold a grudge but typically forgets about it by the next morning,” he opened up.

“If you’re not constantly interacting with the person you’re holding a grudge against, and it doesn’t really make a change in your daily life, my best advice is to just move on.”

The author said that he honestly “didn’t expect” the story to blow up so much on the internet.

“I read a lot of Petty Revenge posts, so I kinda know what people enjoy reading. But who ever thinks that THEIR story could get that attention?”

Group projects are like a microcosm of society. They reveal a very persistent problem whenever you’re talking about a larger group of people. Namely, the so-called free-rider problem.

The reality is that you will never get to a perfectly equal situation where everyone’s doing the exact same amount of work. People have different work ethics and approaches to projects. However, you would expect that everyone would put in a significant amount of effort.

Alas! That’s not the case. Some folks refuse to put in any effort at all or do the absolute minimum. This means that other members of the group are left to shoulder most of the burden.

If the school or college group project is graded individually, then this is less of a problem. However, if the entire group of students is given a single grade, it means that anyone who’s lazy or unmotivated has more power.

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This is because their fellow students, who want a decent grade, have to finish the entire project. The responsible individuals end up sacrificing their time and energy for the grade. Meanwhile, the free riders get a good grade without having to sacrifice much of anything. They simply show up.

Your partners need to know what’s expected from them, right off the bat

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However, this doesn’t mean that everyone’s held hostage by these students. There are various ways to tackle the issue without resorting to public humiliation (even though that can be a valuable lesson they’ll never forget).

First off, set expectations and deadlines as soon as you start working on the project so that everyone knows what they’re doing. If someone is maliciously missing deadlines or dumping their work on the rest of the group, talk to them about their behavior and lack of effort.

Try to be as diplomatic as you can. If you start accusing them of being lazy, they’ll get defensive and probably won’t feel inspired to help out in any way. Be willing to hear them out and get to grips with their perspective. Offer some sort of compromise going forward.

At the same time, don’t shy away from drawing some common sense boundaries either. It’s not up to you to fix the other person’s life and attitude so they’re suddenly brimming with love for school. Again, reiterate the expectations and explain what will happen if they keep avoiding their share of the work.

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If your partner is at all reasonable, they’ll likely get a grip and change their approach. However, if they continue on the same path and you feel an unreasonable amount of stress from all of the extra work, it’s time to get serious.

Subtly reach out to your teacher or lecturer about the expectations for the group project. Ask them what they would personally do if someone was dodging their share of the work. Also, consider asking them to grade all of you individually.

It’s vital that you don’t let anger and resentment eat you up inside

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It sometimes takes an authority figure to step in to set things right. They probably have more experience getting to the bottom of issues, including demotivation and a lack of effort at school.

At the end of the day, no school project is worth holding a grudge over. Yes, it’s frustrating. Yes, it’s unfair. But life is so full of unfairness and people who don’t pull their own weight.

If we don’t change how we react to them, we’ll constantly be living in anger.

And chronic anger is just awful for both our physical and mental health. So, we have to make a conscious effort to tackle the issues we can but also let go of matters outside of our control.

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What has your experience with group projects in school and at college been like, dear Pandas? Did you ever have to deal with free riders? Or were you lucky enough to always be in a group of hard-working and passionate young academics? Have you ever called any of your fellow students out for being lazy? Tell us all about it in the comments!

The author engaged with a lot of the commenters. Here’s what they had to say

A few internet users shared their experiences working on group projects

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DarkViolet
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Revenge is sweeter than strawberry soda sipped through a red licorice straw. Also, the best way to make a fool out of someone is to let them do it for you.

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lwolf1952
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a partner in chemistry in high school that screwed up our experiment and then copied results off of someone else and hung me out to dry. I'm sure he's a politician today.

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Julia H
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a supervisor, who I call Umbridge, sabotage one of my presentations. She deleted the most important slide, then put me on warning for messing up. When I confronted her in front of her boss, of course she denied it. Stating if it wasn't in her "spreadsheet", it didn't happen. Learned a lot about covering my behind from her.

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DarkViolet
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Revenge is sweeter than strawberry soda sipped through a red licorice straw. Also, the best way to make a fool out of someone is to let them do it for you.

lwolf1952 avatar
lwolf1952
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a partner in chemistry in high school that screwed up our experiment and then copied results off of someone else and hung me out to dry. I'm sure he's a politician today.

juliah_3 avatar
Julia H
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a supervisor, who I call Umbridge, sabotage one of my presentations. She deleted the most important slide, then put me on warning for messing up. When I confronted her in front of her boss, of course she denied it. Stating if it wasn't in her "spreadsheet", it didn't happen. Learned a lot about covering my behind from her.

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