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Woman’s Showering Habits Become A “Biohazard”, Roommate Gets Her Evicted
Woman’s Showering Habits Become A “Biohazard”, Roommate Gets Her Evicted
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Woman’s Showering Habits Become A “Biohazard”, Roommate Gets Her Evicted

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Anyone who’s lived with different roommates may have at least one story of an unpleasant experience. It could be about stealing food, inconsiderate behavior, or, in the case of today’s story, deplorable hygiene. 

A Reddit user dealt with a roommate who had not showered for four months. After trying to dialogue multiple times, she had no choice but to threaten eviction. 

The woman now asks the AITA subreddit whether she took things too far.

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    Living with someone who refuses to practice proper hygiene can be a struggle

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    A woman shared a room with someone who had not showered in four months

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    She was forced to take drastic measures after her roommate continuously refused

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    A person’s refusal to practice proper hygiene may have deep-rooted reasons

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    The author didn’t specify why her roommate refused to shower. But as experts say, it’s not an automatic indicator of poor hygiene. For some people, it’s a byproduct of depression.  

    As explained by clinical psychologist Dr. Roberta Ballard, the brain fog caused by depressive episodes makes it harder for someone to take care of themselves. 

    “It is particularly common to have negative thoughts about self-worth,” Dr. Ballard told Medical News Today. “The confusion and memory problems make it more difficult to harness whatever energy a person may have, so it is not unusual for an individual who is depressed to feel that showering is too difficult and not important.”

    Dr. Ballard adds that the lack of energy brought on by their mental condition also plays a role. 

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    “When someone is depressed, their energy is so depleted that it is easy to feel overwhelmed by things that are usually a part of everyday life. 

    “As a result, things like routine hygiene often fall by the wayside.”

    Bringing up personal hygiene issues requires a tactful approach 

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    Experts recommend a tactful approach because poor hygiene can be a very personal issue. Behavior change expert Kerry Patterson shared some ways to go about it in an article he wrote for Psychology Today

    One of his tips is to try to give the person an out. He gave an example of two co-workers, one of whom wasn’t keen on practicing proper self-care

    “For example, ‘I get the feeling that maybe you’ve been exercising before work recently. In any case, we work so close together that I’m wondering if we can talk about a change that’s affecting our working environment.’ 

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    “At this point, you’ve delicately placed the problem in the open, and the sooner you finish the discussion, the better. This is all about helping the other person save face.”

    Based on her story, it appears the author exhausted all her options regarding diplomatic discussions. And as Patterson stated in his article, “You shouldn’t have to suffer in silence.” 

    She did what she had to do, and while it may have been harsh, it is what the situation called for at that point.

    The woman provided more info in the comments of her post

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    Most people sided with her

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    She says she was first threatened with legal action for discrimination, but her roommate eventually relented

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    Guy-Incognito
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her culture stops her from bathing? Does she culturally identify as 1500s Spanish conquistador?

    Littlemiss
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Going to call b.s on it being cultural. I'm betting she grew up in a dirty household and this was her normal. My cousin grew up like this and still does it in his 40s. They genuinely don't care and don't notice the stench because they're used to it. That and they get jollys from having people grossed out by them.

    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I genuinely can't think of any (modern) culture that would have rules about not bathing.

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    Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Due to my health issues and weight, it's very hard for me to shower, even using a chair. I've been a lot worse for about 8 or 9 months than I even realized. I hadn't been showering but once every week or two. Mind, other than my owners, I live alone. Well, I spent some time in the hospital, and just got home yesterday. Today I showered, and it was (relatively speaking) easy! It feels GOOD to be clean!

    TheElderNom
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope it will keep being easy for you, hopefully not just relatively easy but actually easy. I've had shower issues both due to depression and a broken leg and it really is nice to be clean.

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    mowgli
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It says that there is a possibility of depression but the she also goes for a 2-hour run everyday? I'm a medical professional, but not a mental health expert. I'm curious to as what I could be possibly be missing if it's truly a depression or depressive like illnesses.

    Loreta
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. I can't imagine a person who is truly depressed would even have the energy to go outside and run... Never mind a 2hr daily run

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    Spencer's slave no longer
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had one of my "extra", 27m, kids move into my old place a while ago. Literally everything he owned was absolutely minging. Sweat, foot odour, BO, bodily fluids etc. I pushed him, to the point of tears, to do laundry. He was convinced that bedding only gets washed every season, so 4 times a year. Socks, wear them daily and wash on day 7 etc, etc. The smell permeated the entire 3 storey house to the extent that, as soon as you opened the main door, all you noticed was him. 6 weeks and he had to leave. He was just lazy and dirty.

    Ru Bee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ewwwwww can these people not smell themselves!

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    T'Mar of Vulcan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What culture doesn't wash? Once when I was teaching (a huge mixed class of kids from at least 7 different cultures) and said something like they had to bath/shower once a day, they all went, "NOOOO! Twice! In the morning and at night!!!" So if a bunch of Zulu, Xhosa, Tswana, Hindu, Muslim, Coloured, Afrikaans and English kids know about hygiene, this woman is nuts!

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once had to go just a couple of days without showering because my shower was broken. And that was enough to make me start reeking like nobody's business. I could smell myself and it was AWFUL. Showering again after that was one of the best feelings in the world. And in what culture is not washing yourself considered appropriate?? This girl sounds completely unhinged.

    WindySwede
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing MHI, needs to see professional help, and maybe meds? Had a neigbour like this once, stinked up the whole corridore (used to get to the appartments). Sadest part were the to dogs having to not get any walks and living in that total filth. Hope both dogs and human got help!

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    María Hermida
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love it when people (even sometimes "professionals") find far-fetched excuses for people's unacceptable behaviour. Whether it is depression, a cultural thing or just plain laziness it's irrelevant. Nobody has to put up with such level of dirt. It's disgusting, unhigyenic and a health risk. I understand people have problems, but you either keep a minimum of "normality" or you need to live alone. I would have had her evicted after the first month, honestly.

    Elio
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! No one should have to put up with the roommate's nasty behavior. It doesn't matter what the root cause is.

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    Amy Ramli
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She hasn't showere in 4 months????? Wth?? Omg I can't even imagine the smell 🤮

    María Hermida
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apart from the "normal" body smells, she goes running every morning! I'm not surprised the landlord felt like vomiting!

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    Ephemera Image
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if she never showers, and has periods... OMFG she must stink to high heaven. I could not stand myself after a day with my period. How dangerous is that, the filth must be unimaginable. I've lived in the Middle East and many other countries - occasionally you would smell an individual who hadn't bathed, just as you do here in the west. There's no culture that prohibits bathing unless she's talking about pigs - and even they have mud baths!

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    Guy-Incognito
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her culture stops her from bathing? Does she culturally identify as 1500s Spanish conquistador?

    Littlemiss
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Going to call b.s on it being cultural. I'm betting she grew up in a dirty household and this was her normal. My cousin grew up like this and still does it in his 40s. They genuinely don't care and don't notice the stench because they're used to it. That and they get jollys from having people grossed out by them.

    CanadianDimes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I genuinely can't think of any (modern) culture that would have rules about not bathing.

    Load More Replies...
    Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Due to my health issues and weight, it's very hard for me to shower, even using a chair. I've been a lot worse for about 8 or 9 months than I even realized. I hadn't been showering but once every week or two. Mind, other than my owners, I live alone. Well, I spent some time in the hospital, and just got home yesterday. Today I showered, and it was (relatively speaking) easy! It feels GOOD to be clean!

    TheElderNom
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope it will keep being easy for you, hopefully not just relatively easy but actually easy. I've had shower issues both due to depression and a broken leg and it really is nice to be clean.

    Load More Replies...
    mowgli
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It says that there is a possibility of depression but the she also goes for a 2-hour run everyday? I'm a medical professional, but not a mental health expert. I'm curious to as what I could be possibly be missing if it's truly a depression or depressive like illnesses.

    Loreta
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. I can't imagine a person who is truly depressed would even have the energy to go outside and run... Never mind a 2hr daily run

    Load More Replies...
    Spencer's slave no longer
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had one of my "extra", 27m, kids move into my old place a while ago. Literally everything he owned was absolutely minging. Sweat, foot odour, BO, bodily fluids etc. I pushed him, to the point of tears, to do laundry. He was convinced that bedding only gets washed every season, so 4 times a year. Socks, wear them daily and wash on day 7 etc, etc. The smell permeated the entire 3 storey house to the extent that, as soon as you opened the main door, all you noticed was him. 6 weeks and he had to leave. He was just lazy and dirty.

    Ru Bee
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ewwwwww can these people not smell themselves!

    Load More Replies...
    T'Mar of Vulcan
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What culture doesn't wash? Once when I was teaching (a huge mixed class of kids from at least 7 different cultures) and said something like they had to bath/shower once a day, they all went, "NOOOO! Twice! In the morning and at night!!!" So if a bunch of Zulu, Xhosa, Tswana, Hindu, Muslim, Coloured, Afrikaans and English kids know about hygiene, this woman is nuts!

    Beak Hookage
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once had to go just a couple of days without showering because my shower was broken. And that was enough to make me start reeking like nobody's business. I could smell myself and it was AWFUL. Showering again after that was one of the best feelings in the world. And in what culture is not washing yourself considered appropriate?? This girl sounds completely unhinged.

    WindySwede
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing MHI, needs to see professional help, and maybe meds? Had a neigbour like this once, stinked up the whole corridore (used to get to the appartments). Sadest part were the to dogs having to not get any walks and living in that total filth. Hope both dogs and human got help!

    Load More Replies...
    María Hermida
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I love it when people (even sometimes "professionals") find far-fetched excuses for people's unacceptable behaviour. Whether it is depression, a cultural thing or just plain laziness it's irrelevant. Nobody has to put up with such level of dirt. It's disgusting, unhigyenic and a health risk. I understand people have problems, but you either keep a minimum of "normality" or you need to live alone. I would have had her evicted after the first month, honestly.

    Elio
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This! No one should have to put up with the roommate's nasty behavior. It doesn't matter what the root cause is.

    Load More Replies...
    Amy Ramli
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She hasn't showere in 4 months????? Wth?? Omg I can't even imagine the smell 🤮

    María Hermida
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Apart from the "normal" body smells, she goes running every morning! I'm not surprised the landlord felt like vomiting!

    Load More Replies...
    Ephemera Image
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if she never showers, and has periods... OMFG she must stink to high heaven. I could not stand myself after a day with my period. How dangerous is that, the filth must be unimaginable. I've lived in the Middle East and many other countries - occasionally you would smell an individual who hadn't bathed, just as you do here in the west. There's no culture that prohibits bathing unless she's talking about pigs - and even they have mud baths!

    Load More Comments
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