“We Spent $700… My Night Was Ruined!” Woman Loses It After Staff Try To Save Dying Woman Instead Of Serving Her
Ilona BoredPanda staff
The ‘internet mob’ can be a dangerous and hateful phenomenon, with social media allowing localized disputes to quickly take on a global scale. In the name of righteous vengeance, the person who committed a wrong can suddenly find themselves bombarded with death threats, their place of employment bullied into firing them and their reputation in tatters, a new form of public shaming that can often be more hateful than the original offense. (Facebook cover image: Gail Frederick)
Image credits: Gail Frederick (not the actual photo)
This story from 2016 was a perfect example of this. After a women left a heartless and misguided rant on an Indianapolis restaurant’s Facebook page, the internet responded with fury. Yes, her post was hateful and selfish, and the restaurant manager was well within his rights to admonish her in the way he did. But people soon found her profile and business page online and began sending death threats and abuse. Some even found strangers with the same name and harassed them as well. The woman was soon fired from her job and has since disappeared from social media.
Now the post is going viral again, starting a new round of outrage and indignation about an isolated incident in a restaurant 3 years ago. What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more? Do we just like the idea of ‘doing our bit’ in the fight against bad behavior and injustice? In an interview with The Telegraph, Dr. Guy Aitchison of University College Dublin believes this might be the case. “It’s a relatively low-cost way to feel like you are doing something noble,” he said. “But there are also darker motivations at work: the psychic pleasure in seeing someone else brought low and humiliated.”
While online shaming does set social standards, sending a powerful message about the need for compassion and kindness through stories like this and the likes of BBQ Becky, for example, perhaps it’s time we began to think about the real-world consequences of ‘destroying’ people for their mistakes, and ask ourselves if there’s a better way to go about it.
Here’s what people had to say about the incident
"Now the post is going viral again, starting a new round of outrage and indignation about an isolated incident in a restaurant 3 years ago. What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more?" I'm wondering that, too, BP. But you don't have to share with us every similar story (be it old or new) that is "going viral". Although I'm glad for the update that it helped the old lady's gofundme campaign.
They actually answer that in the same paragraph lol: “In an interview with The Telegraph, Dr. Guy Aitchison of University College Dublin believes this might be the case. “It’s a relatively low-cost way to feel like you are doing something noble,” he said. “But there are also darker motivations at work: the psychic pleasure in seeing someone else brought low and humiliated.”
I know. Still doesn't mean BP has to post almost every single one of almost identical stories that "go viral". One or two per week or so would be more than enough for me. There are other materials that they can post too. If someone wants more stories like that, they can easily be found elsewhere too. I'd rather see less but more quality material here on BP. But that's just me and tastes vary. I also understand that a site needs clicks. And I know I didn't have to click on this article.
“What is it about these stories that keep coming back for more?” > sites like you BoredPanda, websites that aant to trigger a response from their community so they can milk ad revenue. I haven’t seen this “go viral” anywhere these days but here.
I think these kinds of stories are important to show that this horrid behavior is not acceptable. Most of these a**holes go around thinking everyone behaves this way and that the lower weaker of the population just need to suck it up. If this display of the consequences of bad behavior gets even a few of those self centered a**holes to step back and review/change their views..then it's well worth it.
They are not necessary. The fact that you already know this is not acceptable proves it isn't necessary. It's similar to disaster-porn...just voyeurs who want to weigh in on everything, even when it has nothing to do with them.
I agree that people need to know that this behaviour is not acceptable however getting hounded and fired from your job because of a mistake or misunderstanding is not. Seems like the internet is promoting medieval mentality. Are we going to publicly ridicule this lady and stone her to death because she did one thing wrong? I am sick of reading about the over the top reactions from idiot public. This lady's life was probably ruined by this and for what? One silly review of a restaurant? The dumb sheep Joe public need to get some sense.
maybe deeply we like hearing about people worse than us? or most likely we like part where they get right answer and be ashamed? maybe because we see bad people everywhere, maybe even we were abused by one of them, and had no chance to do anything, to tell them what we think about them, to make them understand how bad they act. so when we read about ones getting what they deserve we feel a little satisfaction
Germans use the word fremdschämen, vicariously shameful of someone else. And then there's schadenfreude, which is joy at someone else's pain or embarrassment. So they have it covered, either way.
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It's all for generating revenue. More people on the site = more people clicking ads etc.
And yet, here we all are, reading all of them :/
I also wonder how "righteously" indignant this restaurant would be had the couple walked out without paying the bill. It's only after collecting the money that they decide to pipe up about this and not welcome the people back. Just an aside, but some places on NYE you wouldn't know if an elephant walked into the room, they are so crowded and noisy. People don't hear everything that's said and someone else could have told the couple---in error---that it was an overdose. There is just something wrong with this one sided viral garbage. It's easy to see how there could be more to this, but there is no reply from the original poster.
sounds like if someone is dying with overdose they must serve clients and only after everyone is satisfied they can help dying person. how and why reason of death matters in this situation? woman is angry and saying they didn't help her with bill because some junkie was dead. what else she can add to make it clear, how can someone make this ugly attitude look better?
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This is actually a brand new story that happened in 2019
Why are you so fucking stupid?
That woman sounds so nasty I actually feel violated knowing she exists. The way she express herself, talking about "some junkie" and jumping to the conclusion that that "junkie" overdosed while she herself claims she has the right to good service...? I've worked as a waitress years ago and this woman is exactly the type of guest who we (me, collegues, and the resturants/cafés I worked for/with) would ask to take their business elsewhere. I thankfully have a nicer and calmer job now but I keep taking sides with service staff and I keep reminding people to act nice = get treated nice. Service staff are in no way obligated to put up with asswipes, remember that! The resturants response is just 👌
"What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more?" - perhaps being reposted at sites like BP over and over for easy internet points? Just a hunch.
"Now the post is going viral again, starting a new round of outrage and indignation about an isolated incident in a restaurant 3 years ago. What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more?" I'm wondering that, too, BP. But you don't have to share with us every similar story (be it old or new) that is "going viral". Although I'm glad for the update that it helped the old lady's gofundme campaign.
They actually answer that in the same paragraph lol: “In an interview with The Telegraph, Dr. Guy Aitchison of University College Dublin believes this might be the case. “It’s a relatively low-cost way to feel like you are doing something noble,” he said. “But there are also darker motivations at work: the psychic pleasure in seeing someone else brought low and humiliated.”
I know. Still doesn't mean BP has to post almost every single one of almost identical stories that "go viral". One or two per week or so would be more than enough for me. There are other materials that they can post too. If someone wants more stories like that, they can easily be found elsewhere too. I'd rather see less but more quality material here on BP. But that's just me and tastes vary. I also understand that a site needs clicks. And I know I didn't have to click on this article.
“What is it about these stories that keep coming back for more?” > sites like you BoredPanda, websites that aant to trigger a response from their community so they can milk ad revenue. I haven’t seen this “go viral” anywhere these days but here.
I think these kinds of stories are important to show that this horrid behavior is not acceptable. Most of these a**holes go around thinking everyone behaves this way and that the lower weaker of the population just need to suck it up. If this display of the consequences of bad behavior gets even a few of those self centered a**holes to step back and review/change their views..then it's well worth it.
They are not necessary. The fact that you already know this is not acceptable proves it isn't necessary. It's similar to disaster-porn...just voyeurs who want to weigh in on everything, even when it has nothing to do with them.
I agree that people need to know that this behaviour is not acceptable however getting hounded and fired from your job because of a mistake or misunderstanding is not. Seems like the internet is promoting medieval mentality. Are we going to publicly ridicule this lady and stone her to death because she did one thing wrong? I am sick of reading about the over the top reactions from idiot public. This lady's life was probably ruined by this and for what? One silly review of a restaurant? The dumb sheep Joe public need to get some sense.
maybe deeply we like hearing about people worse than us? or most likely we like part where they get right answer and be ashamed? maybe because we see bad people everywhere, maybe even we were abused by one of them, and had no chance to do anything, to tell them what we think about them, to make them understand how bad they act. so when we read about ones getting what they deserve we feel a little satisfaction
Germans use the word fremdschämen, vicariously shameful of someone else. And then there's schadenfreude, which is joy at someone else's pain or embarrassment. So they have it covered, either way.
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It's all for generating revenue. More people on the site = more people clicking ads etc.
And yet, here we all are, reading all of them :/
I also wonder how "righteously" indignant this restaurant would be had the couple walked out without paying the bill. It's only after collecting the money that they decide to pipe up about this and not welcome the people back. Just an aside, but some places on NYE you wouldn't know if an elephant walked into the room, they are so crowded and noisy. People don't hear everything that's said and someone else could have told the couple---in error---that it was an overdose. There is just something wrong with this one sided viral garbage. It's easy to see how there could be more to this, but there is no reply from the original poster.
sounds like if someone is dying with overdose they must serve clients and only after everyone is satisfied they can help dying person. how and why reason of death matters in this situation? woman is angry and saying they didn't help her with bill because some junkie was dead. what else she can add to make it clear, how can someone make this ugly attitude look better?
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
This is actually a brand new story that happened in 2019
Why are you so fucking stupid?
That woman sounds so nasty I actually feel violated knowing she exists. The way she express herself, talking about "some junkie" and jumping to the conclusion that that "junkie" overdosed while she herself claims she has the right to good service...? I've worked as a waitress years ago and this woman is exactly the type of guest who we (me, collegues, and the resturants/cafés I worked for/with) would ask to take their business elsewhere. I thankfully have a nicer and calmer job now but I keep taking sides with service staff and I keep reminding people to act nice = get treated nice. Service staff are in no way obligated to put up with asswipes, remember that! The resturants response is just 👌
"What is it about these stories that keep us coming back for more?" - perhaps being reposted at sites like BP over and over for easy internet points? Just a hunch.