Much like how difficult it is to hire a good, trustworthy babysitter, it can also be challenging to find someone to look after your pets. And in some cases, like this story, it can be a problematic situation even when a family member is involved.
A woman hired her brother-in-law’s niece to watch over her cat. However, much to her great dismay, her precious pet ended up injured, all because the pet sitter ignored her instructions.
Understandably frustrated, the woman refused to pay for the weeklong pet-sitting, which created a rift within the family. Scroll down for the entire text.
Finding a reliable pet sitter can be difficult
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This woman hired her brother-in-law’s niece to watch over her cat while she went on a trip with her fiancé
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Upon returning home, she discovered scratches on her beloved pet because the sitter had ignored her instructions
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Out of frustration, she refused to pay for the week-long pet-sitting services
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The woman later clarified some parts of her story
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Hiring a professional for pet sitting is a more advisable option
The woman didn’t specify why she chose to hire a teenager to watch her pet instead of a professional or a company. Perhaps she was saving money, but what happened to her was an expected consequence of her decision.
As Ontario-based veterinarian Dr. Anneliese Heinrich tells CBC, professional pet sitters are not only more experienced, but they are also insured for their services. They are also likely more familiar with other important nuances, like a pet’s personality.
Dr. Colleen Fisher, who has three decades of experience studying animal behavior, also made a case for hiring professionals because they can easily figure out the pet’s needs.
But if you’re more keen on hiring a referral from a family member or friend, Dr. Fisher says it should be someone who has a close relationship with the pet.
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“In some cases, it could very well be a family member or friend who’s comfortable with that pet, who knows that pet,” she told CBC in the same interview.
In the story’s case, it didn’t seem like Ava had a connection with the woman’s cat, which is likely why she appeared indifferent. However, you can also argue that the woman may have been too trusting to hire someone she didn’t know to do the job.
While she may have been within her rights not to pay for the unsatisfactory services, hiring a professional instead of a 18-year-old may have been a more practical option for her. It’s a lesson learned, and fortunately, she was able to find a compromise.
The author also responded to some comments
Most people sided with her, with many giving some unsolicited advice
Some faulted her for trusting her cat with someone she didn’t know
While there were a few who blamed everyone involved
The woman shared another update
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She also proceeded to answer more reader questions
As more details emerged, people continued to side with her
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And that girl is 18 (!) years old? An adult? I would expect better judgment and responsibility from my 9-year-old. To let a cat out that is not used to this and to FORGET her overnight? JFC.
Agreed! Didn't she check for the cat before she walked out the door??
Load More Replies...Depending on where you live…letting an indoor cat outside overnight can be a death sentence. Here where I live the coyote population has exploded and cats are often on the menu :( …I make regular posts on my local Nextdoor site begging people to stop putting their cats out at night because of it. I don’t want to wake up to another carcass in my yard!
Yep, it's the same here (SoCal.) We have urban coyotes and hawks who will eat your cat or small dog if it's outside. I don't even leave my large-breed dogs outside overnight. My own sister is an inconsiderate a-hole and will come into my house (we live next door to each other) and will just leave the door open behind her for some reason and refuse to close it behind her. My oldest cat is a dasher and WILL run out the open door. One time my sister came into my house when I wasn't home and the door sat open for several minutes while my sister rummaged in my kitchen. My cat escaped and my sister didn't notice. Luckily I have a Tile tracker on my cat, and I was able to determine she was in the backyard of the neighbor behind me. They have a large-breed dog. My cat could have died. My sister's response was to get angry at me and yell "Well, she didn't DIE, did she? She's FINE, isn't she?" That is not the effing point! The YTAs here are, as usual, completely unhinged, just like my sister.
Load More Replies...For those who are saying the owner is an @$$hole clearly don't have pets. I'm in California and just to EXPRESS MY DOGS ANALS GLANDS COST $75.00. A full on vet bill with medication and diagnostics is in the hundreds. There is NO WAY there would be anything left over to give to the sitter who was careless.
I asked my "best friend" to watch my cat over the weekend, to feed her and clean the box. I came back and thanked her. Her response was "Oh I forgot about her" Never saw her the same way again.
And that's why I don't let just anybody look after my pets. I know people, that would happily do it, but I don't trust them enough, even if I like them. the sitter can be happy, that she got away with it without paying.
OP is kind, I would have taken Ava to small claims for any remaining vet bills. The girl is 18, legally an adult.
If I found out anyone did that to my dog (she's barely 7 pounds and very short. She's a chiweenie) I'd be so mad. There is no excuse. My dog gets annoying when she wants treats but I wouldn't even think of leaving her outside because of it and then to FORGET? That's just irresponsible.
That girl would have physically assaulted if she did something like that to my cat! You do NOT f**k around with my pets. 😡
It's fair to pay her, but only if there's anything left after vet bills. This isn't an accident or an illness that is not the sitters fault, it's the result of deliberate action - she put the cat outside, against the contract, and negligence - she then forgot and left the cat out overnight, and the cat is injured as a result. YTA responses seem to assume that "a few scratches" is the same as "unhurt", and that's not accurate. A cat that has been fighting is high risk for infection of bites or scratches, and needs to be seen by a vet to determine if they need treatment. The catsitter should have notified the owner and taken the cat to the vet imediately. Waiting could mean that the cat is already very sick - it's not always obvious, as cats often hide that they're ill. Even after insurance, there will be an excess/copay. Treat the cat, get the bill, then show it to the sitter. In this case, the sitter is lucky they aren't being asked to pay the vet bills that exceed the catsitting fees.
Its mot fair to pay her actually. She broke the contract effectively and was negligent
Load More Replies...As a former housesitter/petsitter, the pets were ALWAYS number one priority. I NEVER allowed them to roam freely through the neighborhood (stray dogs, raccoons, feral cats), they were fed before me, they were loved and cared for. If I was unwilling or unable to take on a job, I would decline. Ava, supported by her uncle, showed an extreme and alarming lack of maturity, responsibility, and empathy. I hope that in addition to covering the vet bill, Ava's parents gave her absolute h e l l for her actions. Even better, other pet owners have been warned about her and she doesn't get another petsitting job. No animal deserves that, or for that matter, ANY, kind of neglect.
In my city not only do we have coyotes roaming into neighbourhoods but also bobcats. I am still amazed at the amount of people letting their cats roam all day and night. Breaks my heart. The YTA's are nuts.
I didn't understand Ava saying that Daisy was yowling "during a drop-in when she was having a bad headache." A drop-in as in Ava had people over there?
“Drop in”- OP’s term for one of Ava’s visits to take care of, or check on the cat.
Load More Replies...Given that OP says Daisy doesnt usually howl and harass for food, I doubt Ava’s claims that she was. She had one instruction ‘do not let cat outside without her leash’ and she deliberately disobeyed it and made it worse by forgetting her outside and then dug the hole even deeper by lying. The YTA’s and ESH’s are nuts, OP is being kind by not taking Ava to small claims court.
I would still pay her but dock a days pay, and of course, never use her again. Daisy got some scratches and she's UTD on all her shots, so really a vet visit isn't needed. Ava is a grown woman so she does need to know there's consequences for her actions. She's also very lucky Daisy came through it relatively unscathed.
Just to be devils advocate- pls keep in mind I am a single & human-child-free vet, and have 5 indoor cats that are my life. A couple ESH/YTA comments made me think. If I screwed up and cost my employer a bunch of money (I absolutely have, early in my career I made a $5k+ mistake), I'd still get paid. I might get fired after that (I was not, employer was very kind and saw how I was beating myself up over it) or not rehired if it was a gig job, but I'd still get paid. Is this situation different? I truly don't know what I would do if I was the cat owner in this situation, and I'd be so upset I might not even be able to speak, so am not saying ESH or YTA by any means. Just that those couple comments made me think.
The devil doesnt need advocates, you just wanna say something s**t without being called out for it
Load More Replies...YTA. I don't believe your story about the scratches being infected at all. You didn't say this in your first update; I think you added this in after you read some of the comments and you realized that some people think YTA. I would sue you for my pay, court costs and emotional distress.
And you'd lose, because the vet bills would nullify it
Load More Replies...Maybe if Ava had actually done her job, she would deserve pay. Go to work for a week and *don't* do the tasks your boss tells you to do, and then demand to be paid at the end of the week. See what the boss says about how much you deserve to be paid when you didn't complete the tasks that your job entails. We'll talk then!
Load More Replies...That's because cats and dogs and other domestic pets have more empathy, love, and "human" emotions than you do.
Load More Replies...Here the problem wasn't that she tried to put a harness on her, she didn't even try, just let her out on her own, because she was annoyed by the continous meowing. She was irresponsible. She prepeared the cats food but wasn't it suspicious why the cat wasn't coming when she wanted food so much? She had clear instructions.
Load More Replies...And that girl is 18 (!) years old? An adult? I would expect better judgment and responsibility from my 9-year-old. To let a cat out that is not used to this and to FORGET her overnight? JFC.
Agreed! Didn't she check for the cat before she walked out the door??
Load More Replies...Depending on where you live…letting an indoor cat outside overnight can be a death sentence. Here where I live the coyote population has exploded and cats are often on the menu :( …I make regular posts on my local Nextdoor site begging people to stop putting their cats out at night because of it. I don’t want to wake up to another carcass in my yard!
Yep, it's the same here (SoCal.) We have urban coyotes and hawks who will eat your cat or small dog if it's outside. I don't even leave my large-breed dogs outside overnight. My own sister is an inconsiderate a-hole and will come into my house (we live next door to each other) and will just leave the door open behind her for some reason and refuse to close it behind her. My oldest cat is a dasher and WILL run out the open door. One time my sister came into my house when I wasn't home and the door sat open for several minutes while my sister rummaged in my kitchen. My cat escaped and my sister didn't notice. Luckily I have a Tile tracker on my cat, and I was able to determine she was in the backyard of the neighbor behind me. They have a large-breed dog. My cat could have died. My sister's response was to get angry at me and yell "Well, she didn't DIE, did she? She's FINE, isn't she?" That is not the effing point! The YTAs here are, as usual, completely unhinged, just like my sister.
Load More Replies...For those who are saying the owner is an @$$hole clearly don't have pets. I'm in California and just to EXPRESS MY DOGS ANALS GLANDS COST $75.00. A full on vet bill with medication and diagnostics is in the hundreds. There is NO WAY there would be anything left over to give to the sitter who was careless.
I asked my "best friend" to watch my cat over the weekend, to feed her and clean the box. I came back and thanked her. Her response was "Oh I forgot about her" Never saw her the same way again.
And that's why I don't let just anybody look after my pets. I know people, that would happily do it, but I don't trust them enough, even if I like them. the sitter can be happy, that she got away with it without paying.
OP is kind, I would have taken Ava to small claims for any remaining vet bills. The girl is 18, legally an adult.
If I found out anyone did that to my dog (she's barely 7 pounds and very short. She's a chiweenie) I'd be so mad. There is no excuse. My dog gets annoying when she wants treats but I wouldn't even think of leaving her outside because of it and then to FORGET? That's just irresponsible.
That girl would have physically assaulted if she did something like that to my cat! You do NOT f**k around with my pets. 😡
It's fair to pay her, but only if there's anything left after vet bills. This isn't an accident or an illness that is not the sitters fault, it's the result of deliberate action - she put the cat outside, against the contract, and negligence - she then forgot and left the cat out overnight, and the cat is injured as a result. YTA responses seem to assume that "a few scratches" is the same as "unhurt", and that's not accurate. A cat that has been fighting is high risk for infection of bites or scratches, and needs to be seen by a vet to determine if they need treatment. The catsitter should have notified the owner and taken the cat to the vet imediately. Waiting could mean that the cat is already very sick - it's not always obvious, as cats often hide that they're ill. Even after insurance, there will be an excess/copay. Treat the cat, get the bill, then show it to the sitter. In this case, the sitter is lucky they aren't being asked to pay the vet bills that exceed the catsitting fees.
Its mot fair to pay her actually. She broke the contract effectively and was negligent
Load More Replies...As a former housesitter/petsitter, the pets were ALWAYS number one priority. I NEVER allowed them to roam freely through the neighborhood (stray dogs, raccoons, feral cats), they were fed before me, they were loved and cared for. If I was unwilling or unable to take on a job, I would decline. Ava, supported by her uncle, showed an extreme and alarming lack of maturity, responsibility, and empathy. I hope that in addition to covering the vet bill, Ava's parents gave her absolute h e l l for her actions. Even better, other pet owners have been warned about her and she doesn't get another petsitting job. No animal deserves that, or for that matter, ANY, kind of neglect.
In my city not only do we have coyotes roaming into neighbourhoods but also bobcats. I am still amazed at the amount of people letting their cats roam all day and night. Breaks my heart. The YTA's are nuts.
I didn't understand Ava saying that Daisy was yowling "during a drop-in when she was having a bad headache." A drop-in as in Ava had people over there?
“Drop in”- OP’s term for one of Ava’s visits to take care of, or check on the cat.
Load More Replies...Given that OP says Daisy doesnt usually howl and harass for food, I doubt Ava’s claims that she was. She had one instruction ‘do not let cat outside without her leash’ and she deliberately disobeyed it and made it worse by forgetting her outside and then dug the hole even deeper by lying. The YTA’s and ESH’s are nuts, OP is being kind by not taking Ava to small claims court.
I would still pay her but dock a days pay, and of course, never use her again. Daisy got some scratches and she's UTD on all her shots, so really a vet visit isn't needed. Ava is a grown woman so she does need to know there's consequences for her actions. She's also very lucky Daisy came through it relatively unscathed.
Just to be devils advocate- pls keep in mind I am a single & human-child-free vet, and have 5 indoor cats that are my life. A couple ESH/YTA comments made me think. If I screwed up and cost my employer a bunch of money (I absolutely have, early in my career I made a $5k+ mistake), I'd still get paid. I might get fired after that (I was not, employer was very kind and saw how I was beating myself up over it) or not rehired if it was a gig job, but I'd still get paid. Is this situation different? I truly don't know what I would do if I was the cat owner in this situation, and I'd be so upset I might not even be able to speak, so am not saying ESH or YTA by any means. Just that those couple comments made me think.
The devil doesnt need advocates, you just wanna say something s**t without being called out for it
Load More Replies...YTA. I don't believe your story about the scratches being infected at all. You didn't say this in your first update; I think you added this in after you read some of the comments and you realized that some people think YTA. I would sue you for my pay, court costs and emotional distress.
And you'd lose, because the vet bills would nullify it
Load More Replies...Maybe if Ava had actually done her job, she would deserve pay. Go to work for a week and *don't* do the tasks your boss tells you to do, and then demand to be paid at the end of the week. See what the boss says about how much you deserve to be paid when you didn't complete the tasks that your job entails. We'll talk then!
Load More Replies...That's because cats and dogs and other domestic pets have more empathy, love, and "human" emotions than you do.
Load More Replies...Here the problem wasn't that she tried to put a harness on her, she didn't even try, just let her out on her own, because she was annoyed by the continous meowing. She was irresponsible. She prepeared the cats food but wasn't it suspicious why the cat wasn't coming when she wanted food so much? She had clear instructions.
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