Mom Hosts Thanksgiving For Ungrateful Fam And Draws A Line, Relatives Get Very Upset

Hosting family during the holidays can be both a joy and a test of patience. The cooking, cleaning, and coordination often fall on one person’s shoulders, and while we all hope for warm memories and laughter, sometimes the reality is far messier.

For today’s Original Poster (OP), she went all out to make hosting Thanksgiving perfect the previous year, but it turned out to be a stressful ordeal that left her home and her patience in ruins. So when she was asked to host again this year, she drew a boundary line that left her family furious.

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Hosting family and friends is often seen as a labor of love, but it can also reveal just how much effort goes unnoticed

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The author noted that the previous year, she hosted Thanksgiving for her extended family, spending over $500 and days preparing her home and food

Woman spends $500 for Thanksgiving, upset family treated her house like an Airbnb during holiday hosting.

Woman spends $500 for Thanksgiving, complains family treats her house like an Airbnb with no help or respect.

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Toddler drawing on a wall in a messy living room, highlighting family stress and house damage after Thanksgiving hosting.

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During the four-day visit, her brother’s family disrespected her space by leaving messes, stains, and even crayon on the walls without offering to help

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Woman spending $500 for Thanksgiving hugs family at home with suitcase at the front door after Airbnb-like experience

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After they left, she had to clean up the miss alone, receiving no apology or reimbursement for the damage or costs

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Woman looks stressed while sitting at a table filled with Thanksgiving food, after spending $500 on family guests.

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When asked to host again this year, she refused, and her brother accused her of holding a grudge while her mother insisted it had just been “one messy weekend”

The OP noted that every year, her family would rotate Thanksgiving duties. Last year, it was her turn and she went all out from cleaning, decorating, cooking, and accommodating five extra people, including three kids.

However, she got an experience from hell as her brother’s family left towels on the floor, a half-eaten turkey leg under the bed, couches stained, piled dishes in the sink, and let their kids draw on the walls with crayons.

When the next holiday rolled around, her mom naturally asked if she’d be hosting again, but her response was a hard no. However, that didn’t sit well with her brother, who accused her of holding a grudge over family.

Even after explaining her frustration, her mom insisted she was making things awkward and that it had been “just one messy weekend”. This left the OP upset especially because no one had ever even acknowledged the work she put into hosting the previous year, neither did they make efforts to reimburse the $500+ she had spent on their food.

Woman with pink hair in a red shirt looking frustrated while sitting at a table, reflecting on Thanksgiving expenses and family behavior.

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A survey conducted by Good Housekeeping found that nearly eight in ten women (78%) report feeling overwhelmed when preparing for family holidays. This figure underscores the considerable emotional and physical strain that often accompanies holiday planning, from cooking and cleaning to organizing events and managing family dynamics.

In fact, hosting family gatherings involves far more than just cooking and cleaning, according to Psychology Today. Successful hosting often requires weeks of preparation, including grocery shopping, meal planning, accommodating dietary restrictions, and organizing the home to make guests feel welcome.

Furthermore, the financial costs can be significant, with expenses for food and supplies sometimes putting hosts under monetary strain. Beyond those are physical tasks which involves managing family dynamics, anticipating needs, coordinating schedules, and maintaining a calm, pleasant demeanor despite stress and exhaustion.

Therefore, refusing to host family gatherings is valid even though it can be perceived as selfish. JL Counseling affirms that families accustomed to unquestioned time, energy, and emotional sacrifice may interpret a relative’s limits as rejection or neglect when in reality, asserting boundaries is not about withholding care but about practicing self-care.

Netizens agreed that hosting is already stressful, and having to clean up after inconsiderate guests takes it too far. Others pointed out the hypocrisy of the situation, questioning why she was even asked to host again when the family supposedly rotates duties.

What would you do if you were in the OP’s shoes? Would you give your relatives another chance after a disaster like that, or would you refuse? We would love to know your thoughts!

Netizens applauded her for setting boundaries and refusing to be treated like free labor

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