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“Ruining It For The Kids”: Family Lets Their Entitlement Shine, Are Shocked The Person Doesn’t Want To Host
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Person Has To Prepare And Pay For Entire Christmas Dinner, Family Refuses To Help While Demanding They Host

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Hosting Christmas can be a lot of work, yet most families choose to celebrate at home. In the UK, 42% of Brits say they will host Christmas dinner themselves. People say that celebrating Christmas at home brings a cozy, relaxed atmosphere and feels more personal and meaningful.

But it can also be so tiresome that the designated family host would like to refuse. That’s exactly what this sibling did when family members asked them to host for the eighth year in a row. When they refused, the family ganged up on them, calling them “selfish” and accusing them of ruining the holidays for the kids.

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    Feeling like the family doesn’t at all help or pitch in, the sibling didn’t feel any guilt

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    The average cost of hosting Christmas in the UK is £1,626

    In the UK, Christmas is a pretty big deal. Nine in 10 Britons plan to celebrate this year, and, despite all the stress, most associate it with feelings of happiness, nostalgia, and joy. However, hosting Christmas and celebrating Christmas are two very different things.

    According to MoneySuperMarket, the average cost of hosting Christmas in 2025 will be around £1,626 ($2196). Hosts plan to spend the most on groceries (£138), turkey (£51.44), meals and drinks (£84.36), and alcohol (£78.08). Most hosts also spend a big portion of their holiday budget on energy bills, as all the preparation and hosting family members might cost an average of £105.97.

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    Costs of Christmas staples like turkey, mince pies, and chocolates have also risen due to inflation. Festive sweets are the biggest offenders, as some of them cost around 70% more in 2025 than the year before. In 2024, a Tesco Finest free-range medium bronze turkey crown cost £14.95, and this year it’s £68.77.

    Of course, people spend even more when they don’t have time to prepare. Last-minute gift and grocery shopping means that Brits have to open their wallets significantly wider, as many estimate that they lose £256 when they don’t prepare their shopping list and buy all the stuff in advance.

    So, asking for family members to chip in doesn’t seem so out of bounds. If one family member has to host year after year, it takes a toll on their finances, even if they are the most well-off in the family.

    Christmas hosting stress goes beyond the financial side of it

    But hosting Christmas isn’t all about the money. There are plenty of other things to worry about when you’re preparing dinner for a family of a dozen, if not more. In fact, in 2021, a YouGov survey showed that 24% of Brits find hosting Christmas stressful.

    Hosting isn’t all about food, either. People also name putting up decorations and wrapping gifts as major sources of stress, as well as having to see certain family members. In fact, 24% of Brits say that this is their biggest concern and stressor during the holidays. That’s especially true for young people, as they see family interactions as a source of stress.

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    In an age where most of our friends will be sharing photos of their Christmas table on social media, it’s natural for hosts to worry about how their Christmas feast will be perceived. 19% of Brits also say they worry immensely about the cleanliness of their house and whether their guests will judge them.

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    When you take all of that into account, it looks like being a host on Christmas isn’t just about the money and having the time to prepare a turkey. It might seem impossible to enjoy the last weeks of the year when stress seems so overwhelming.

    However, Natalie Mason, a lecturer in psychology at Arden University, tells The Sun that when it seems like everything is too much, it’s important to ground yourself in the present moment. “Identify things you can see, hear, smell, feel and taste. For example, seeing kids open presents, hearing laughter, smelling the Christmas dinner cooking, feeling a hug from a loved one and tasting the spices in the mulled wine.”

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    “This can help bring someone back to the present moment and identify positives in the current situation,” Mason explains. The aim isn’t to force yourself to feel festive, but to protect your peace, respond with compassion and make room for small moments of calm.”

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    Kornelija Viečaitė

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    Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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    Kornelija Viečaitė

    Kornelija Viečaitė

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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    Heffalump
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    4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's eight Christmases in a row when she hasn't been able to get away from family. For me that's the worst of hosting xmas: you can't leave. You have to put up with your family until the last one goes. These are not people you have chosen to live with, are they?

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    Auntriarch
    Community Member
    4 hours ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Terrible to have relatives who are cheap AND cheeky. We're hosting this year, my brother is bringing drinks and taking us for a pub dinner on Christmas Eve, his partner is bringing some food, my mother has told me to use her card. That's how it's done. Oh, and Mr Auntriarch is doing the cleaning. Happy days!

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish we had pub dinners here in the US now! They sound delightful, especially on a holiday when one doesn't want to cook, or in my case, when I'd be alone on the holiday otherwise XD

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    Heffalump
    Community Member
    4 hours ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's eight Christmases in a row when she hasn't been able to get away from family. For me that's the worst of hosting xmas: you can't leave. You have to put up with your family until the last one goes. These are not people you have chosen to live with, are they?

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    Auntriarch
    Community Member
    4 hours ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Terrible to have relatives who are cheap AND cheeky. We're hosting this year, my brother is bringing drinks and taking us for a pub dinner on Christmas Eve, his partner is bringing some food, my mother has told me to use her card. That's how it's done. Oh, and Mr Auntriarch is doing the cleaning. Happy days!

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    1 hour ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish we had pub dinners here in the US now! They sound delightful, especially on a holiday when one doesn't want to cook, or in my case, when I'd be alone on the holiday otherwise XD

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