Woman Cooks Her BF A Vegan Feast For His B-Day—Problem Is, He’s Not Vegan Or Interested At All

So, the girlfriend not only mocks OP's dietary choices; she knows it is his birthday, she knows he only tolerates her vegan food and she knows that he does NOT appreciate vegan imposters of real food. So what does she do? She makes vegan imposters of real food and then gets upset when - FOR HIS OWN D**N BIRTHDAY DINNER - he goes out and gets real food for himself. Why is it always a one-way street with these narrow-minded hippies?

Honestly, I hate it when people go straight to “break up” but it honestly sounds like their lifestyles are incompatible.

This reminds me of the time my partner really wanted a cat and I really didn't want a cat, so we compromised and got a cat.

This is like the grownup version of my childhood - on my birthdays when I was a kid, my mom always got the kind of cake SHE liked (incidentally it's the only kind of cake I can't stand: German chocolate. I love chocolate cake, but hate that coconut-pecan topping.) She would serve the food and drinks SHE liked/wanted. I know, it's a first world problem, but my childhood was a pretty abus!ve one and I always hoped (as a child does) that my birthdays would somehow be different and my mom wouldn't be so self-centered. Nope! My birthdays were all about what SHE wanted. Even in my older teen/adult years, she would take me out to eat at the restaurants she liked, or would "get me a gift" of something SHE wanted to do (e.g., tickets to the Lion King musical.) Now I have words for what she is: a narcissist with Main Character syndrome, but when I was a kid, I could not understand why I always had to have the cake flavor I hated on my birthday.

I'm vegan, my partner is not. When we go out we try to make sure there's something nice for both of us, but also if one of us REALLY wants to try something where there's not a lot of choice, we suck it up. My partner really wanted to go to a place in London's china town, where all I could have was rice. So I had two bowls and we still had fun! He's visited vegan places with me in return. And for birthdays? The birthday person gets to choose, no questions! This lady put her own feelings and choice above his, and if she can't understand why it upset him, then it might be indicative of a bigger problem.

She's trying to convert him and he doesn't want to be converted. Their values aren't compatible. Might want to think about whether continuing the relationship is a good idea

She crossed a boundary. She made an assumption and ran with it instead of communicating. There's no argument here that's even remotely valid. She was in the wrong.

They just needed to talk..."hey I know therev isn't good vegan food here, but let's make an exception for tonight" and "I'm sorry, but I don't know what I will do all evening at that restaurant, could I make you food instead?" And the compromise"should we take that food as take out and eat home instead?" Would've gone a long way. So immature.

One of my friends dated a vegan girl for about a year. Veganism is pretty rare here in Northwoods WI where we hunt before puberty lol. Friend grew up on the reservation hunting to help feed his family and this was known by his girl. He doesn't consider a meal food unless it has meat in it and is an excellent cook. They got along super well regardless and made plans to move in together, signing a year lease on a nice house where she was excited to garden. The first few days they were mostly eating takeout or easy food around unpacking. He planned to have a housewarming party making indian tacos and grilling steak when she dropped the bomb of he would NOT be cooking meat in their house. Not even on separate dishes or grill. He left, getting stuck with half the rent til they were able to break lease. She would not compromise because of the smell. You'd think people would discuss this ahead of time but no, they spring it on you to try to force their way of living. That's op's gf as well.

Gf is TAH here. She knows what he likes and yet makes her comments against his diet. He respects her choices and yet, she doesn't respect his. If it's such a big thing for her, then she shouldn't date non vegans. Being vegan isnt healthier. My German grandmother is 106 now and still kicking. She eats healthy, but that includes meat in her diet. This propaganda that meat is bad for you is very false. Meat is something that should be eaten in moderation and certain kinds of meat are better for you than others. Compromise? What did she compromise? I honestly think he should break it off and date someone who isn't adverse to his diet. Same goes for her.

But we are still talking about mu*dering innocent creatures just for .... taste? Sorry i have problems to eat d*ad babies and can`t understand how this is just something about eating habits. Ok she shouldn! t date him, because he is an insensitive a*hole.

Everyone the a*s here: 1. You picking a place you KNEW she wouldnt get to eat at was unfair even if its your bday. For context my mom if GF/DF we also have it where the bday person chooses dinner (either out or home meal). We still ensure anything picked is something she can do too so she can be fully included. 2. She was TA for changing plans without asking and coulda helped you to find a place for you both. 3. She was also TA for making stuff she knows you dont like and changing recipes you do like. 4. Your TA for not at least trying some of it. Not a vegan either but i have noted sometimes the alternatives arent that bad (again learned to like some GF/DF meals) Id recommend you both talk about your relationship as having this much of a differing dietary preference may not work long term.

I would have feigned excitement and said that I would love to pair this with my faves from the restaurant for side-by-side comparisons.

She is soooo trying to shove her Vegan c**p down his throat. It wasn't a "sweet gesture" at all. He said she barely comments but it sounds to me that she does it all the time. He CLEARLY stated he does NOT like Vegan food yet he took her for her Birthday to a Vegan only restaurant. Hmm sounds like he made a compromise for her but her idea of a compromise is no restaurant at all and crappy Vegan food once again for her only. He needs to find someone else this never was never will work. Vegans are mostly not healthy as they are missing so much from their diet so no it's NOT healthier.

The problem: "she thought it would be a good compromise." How is it a good compromise to make a man who loves meat an all-vegan meal with faux meat dishes? She's playing games (trying to change her BF) and we know how well that works. And the tears . . . . She sounds insufferable. Unless she's a 9 or 10 (appearance and in bed) or comes with a large future inheritance, dump her and find someone more compatible. Attempts to change you is probably the biggest red flag other than physical violence.