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Dad Leaves His Fam For Affair Partner, Shocks Daughter By Asking Her To Stand At His Wedding
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Dad Leaves His Fam For Affair Partner, Shocks Daughter By Asking Her To Stand At His Wedding

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Family betrayals are rarely simple, and their effects can ripple far beyond the couple involved. When a parent cheats, it can shatter trust, reshape relationships, and leave children carrying emotional burdens for years.

Today’s Original Poster (OP) was left her shattered after her father’s affair came to light, however, duty to her younger brother left some space for interaction with him. It was during one of these interactions that her father dropped mentioned something that took her by surprise and lost it when she wasn’t on board with it.

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    Sometimes, the audacity of certain comparisons leaves us completely speechless, especially when they involve situations that are in no way equivalent

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    The author’s father had a five-year affair with a younger woman, ultimately leaving the mother when she became pregnant, which tore the family apart

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    She however maintained a relationship with her father mainly to help pick up and drop off her younger brother, despite her resentment

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    Her father proposed to his mistress, then asked the author to be his best woman, but she declined, citing her disapproval of the relationship

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    Her father accused her of hypocrisy over a brief teenage mistake, but she stood her ground, feeling conflicted yet justified in setting boundaries

    The OP shared that her father had a five-year affair with a younger woman while still married to her mother, ultimately leaving her after the mistress became pregnant. Naturally, this shattered the OP, and also left her mother heartbroken an still struggling a year later.

    Despite her resentment, the OP maintained contact with her father mainly to support her younger brother since she often had to drop and pick him up from their father’s place. However, it was during a pickup that her father revealed that he had proposed to the mistress and wanted her daughter to serve as his best woman.

    The request struck a nerve, and while she remained calm, she declined, explaining that although she respected his right to move on, she didn’t approve of the relationship or feel comfortable participating in the wedding. Her father wasn’t having it and accused her of hypocrisy because apparently, she was “a cheater too”.

    For context, ten years ago when the OP was still a teenager, she kissed someone else while intoxicated and immediately confessed to her then-boyfriend. This left the OP stunned because for her, the comparison felt not only unfair but dismissive of the damage he caused. Still, on the drive home, she questioned whether she had been too harsh.

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    Research helps explain why the OP’s reaction in this story is far from unusual. According to Scoot Scoop, the fallout from infidelity rarely stops with the couple involved. When a parent cheats, children who are exposed to a parent’s affair often develop trust issues, lowered self-esteem, and behavioral changes such as withdrawal or acting out.

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    That lingering impact is why boundaries become so critical later on. Melissa Macomber, a parent infidelity specialist, explains that adult children of divorced parents, especially in cases involving betrayal, often need firm emotional boundaries to protect their mental health.

    Research also clarifies why the father’s comparison struck such a nerve. According to Chadie, studies draw a clear line between isolated adolescent mistakes and long-term patterns of infidelity. Context, age, power dynamics, and duration all matter. A brief, remorseful teenage incident is not considered equivalent to years of deception in an adult relationship with shared responsibilities.

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    Netizens were appalled by the father’s manipulation and lack of accountability. They argued that she was well within her rights to refuse a role in a wedding that symbolized her family’s trauma. What do you think about this situation? Is refusing to be part of a wedding the same as “not respecting” a parent’s relationship? We would love to know your thoughts!

    Netizens pointed out that a brief, remorseful teenage mistake is not even in the same universe as a calculated, years-long affair that dismantled a family

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    Ifeoluwa Adesina

    Ifeoluwa Adesina

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    Tabitha
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dad’s affair and his blowing up his marriage over it IS OP’s business! Just like it’s OP’s Mom’s and brother’s business! Dad blew up ALL their lives by cheating and running off with his side piece. How arrogant of him to say it isn’t OP’s one their brother’s business, just because they were children at the time, when HE is the one at fault for uprooting and completely changing their lives too, as well as abandoning and completely shattering their mother’s life and breaking her heart. DAD is a 100% a*****e. I hope his side piece/new wife totally leaves him for someone better—-and younger. The grass is only greener where you take care of it.

    Janelle Collard
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely all of this! Well said!. 👍

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    sweet emotion
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would you still want someone to stand up for you at your wedding once you know that they do NOT support your marriage? Daddy dearest is delusional.

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    Chrystina Sumpter
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have heard the rationalization from APs that they aren’t doing anything wrong because they made no vows. Sure. But if you are sleeping with someone who did in fact make vows, particularly if children are involved, then you are knowingly engaging in behavior that will harm others.

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    Tabitha
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dad’s affair and his blowing up his marriage over it IS OP’s business! Just like it’s OP’s Mom’s and brother’s business! Dad blew up ALL their lives by cheating and running off with his side piece. How arrogant of him to say it isn’t OP’s one their brother’s business, just because they were children at the time, when HE is the one at fault for uprooting and completely changing their lives too, as well as abandoning and completely shattering their mother’s life and breaking her heart. DAD is a 100% a*****e. I hope his side piece/new wife totally leaves him for someone better—-and younger. The grass is only greener where you take care of it.

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely all of this! Well said!. 👍

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    sweet emotion
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would you still want someone to stand up for you at your wedding once you know that they do NOT support your marriage? Daddy dearest is delusional.

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    Chrystina Sumpter
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have heard the rationalization from APs that they aren’t doing anything wrong because they made no vows. Sure. But if you are sleeping with someone who did in fact make vows, particularly if children are involved, then you are knowingly engaging in behavior that will harm others.

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