“AITA For Refusing To Do My Husband’s Laundry Anymore After He Had A Go At Me After Surgery?”

Whether you live alone or with someone else, there’s always one thing waiting for you at home – laundry. It’s there on good days and bad, through thick and thin, calling your name from the laundry basket brimming with dirty clothing.

Unfortunately, laundry doesn’t care if you have health issues, which was the case with this redditor. But since she had a surgery to go through, her husband took over laundry duty. Though, the second she was back, he had comments about it. Scroll down to find the full story below.

Laundry is something that will likely be by your side for the rest of your life

Man doing laundry at home, viewed from inside a washing machine.

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This man made a comment about laundry after his wife had just come home from surgery, which didn’t make her feel any better

Text discussing refusing to do husband's laundry after gallbladder surgery, highlighting frustration over post-surgery comment.

Text about feeling groggy after surgery, recovering at home with family, and enjoying comfort.

Text about feeling tired and sore after getting home from surgery, with no more morphine, wanting to rest and see kids.

Text about a woman returning home, seeing laundry done by her husband amidst family challenges.

Text about husband speaking to wife after her surgery regarding laundry.

Text about laundry issue after surgery, highlighting frustration over putting football shirts in the dryer.

Text screenshot expressing frustration about discussing laundry after surgery.

Husband jokingly asks about laundry instead of wife's surgery recovery needs, leaving her angry.

Text about forgetting laundry tasks, mentioning washing machine and dryer.

Text about laundry mistakes and drying clothes, mentioning football shirts and a daughter's school cardigan.

Man in a kitchen comments on laundry, woman reacts angrily, illustrating post-surgery relationship tension.

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Text describing frustration over ruined uniform not replaced, related to wife's reaction after surgery.

Text from an angry wife addressing her husband's comments on laundry after returning from surgery.

Text discussing stay-at-home mom's thoughts on doing laundry and feeling petty after a comment post-surgery.

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Many couples argue over who should do the chores

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Whether we like it or not, there are always chores waiting for us. More times than not, there are dishes to be washed, laundry to be done, things to be put away, and if not that then floors to be mopped, you get the idea.

Having to constantly take care of things like that can be seriously annoying and even strain people’s relationships who live under the same roof who are also responsible for the chores piling up. However, the same people can make it easier to tackle it all, too, if the tasks are somehow shared among the residents.

A survey of adult Americans, carried out by Yelp and OnePoll, found that chores not only can but do strain the relationship of many couples living together – as much as 80% of respondents admit they have disagreements with their significant other over housework; one-fifth of the 80% say they have them often.

According to the survey, the most common causes of chore-related disagreements relate to the questions of when to do chores, how to do them, and who should do them. Seeking to avoid such disagreements—or to avoid having to do certain chores—some people go to great lengths and even lie to their partner or purposefully do a bad job at tidying up or cleaning.

Women are more likely than men to take on the responsibility of doing laundry

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Yelp’s survey found that men are more likely than women to make an effort to get out of doing chores. So, it’s no surprise that women continue to bear more responsibility regarding the main household tasks, Gallup reports. According to said source, married or partnered heterosexual couples (in the US, at least) tend to divide chores along largely traditional lines, with the females being primarily responsible for doing the laundry (58%), cleaning the house (51%), and preparing meals (51%), while men take on the responsibilities of keeping the car in good condition (69%) and doing yardwork (59%).

Gallup revealed that while 58% of respondents say that laundry is usually taken care of by the woman in their household, 13% say it’s the man who braves the laundry basket more often, and 28% tackle it as a team. Be that as it may, for many people—male and female—doing the laundry is not that big of a burden; some might even enjoy it. According to the American Cleaning Institute’s (ACI) 2019 National Cleaning Survey, laundry is the cleaning task Americans enjoy doing the most (followed by cleaning countertops, vacuuming, and doing dishes, respectively).

It’s unclear whether or not the OP or her husband enjoys doing the laundry, but it has to be taken care of, nevertheless. And while it is usually the OP that does it in their family (as she shared in the comments under the post), her husband took over when she had the surgery, which was followed by him making a comment that split netizens into camps about the situation.

The woman provided more details in the comments

Screenshot of a Reddit comment thread discussing laundry tasks done before surgery.

Reddit conversation about husband bringing up laundry right after wife gets home from surgery, causing frustration.

Reddit comments discussing a husband's reaction to his wife about laundry after surgery, with users debating the situation.

Comment discussing timing after surgery and questioning household chore split balance.

Text discussing relationship dynamics and communication after surgery, mentioning chores and time management concerns.

Reddit discussion about feeling undervalued after surgery, with comments on housework and post-op recovery.

Text discussing ADHD and autism, reflecting on neurodivergent individuals' connections.

Text post analyzing the impact of tone and context in communication about laundry after surgery.

Text post detailing a wife's frustration over a laundry comment after returning home from surgery.

Many netizens didn’t think the woman was a jerk in the situation

Text comment discussing laundry frustrations after surgery, with user sympathizing with both sides.

Reddit comments discussing handling relationship tensions after surgery, focusing on laundry and damaged shirts.

Text post discussing a husband’s untimely comment about laundry after his wife got home from surgery.

Text discussing a man prioritizing laundry over wife's surgery recovery, causing her frustration.

Reddit comment criticizing a husband's focus on laundry after wife's surgery.

Comment on Reddit post: "NTA. He's a grown man. He can do his own laundry.

Online comment about a husband complaining over laundry after wife returned home from surgery, sparking frustration.

Comment about husband unhappy with laundry results, leading wife to insist he do it himself.

Reddit comment about refusing to do laundry to avoid mistakes with delicate clothing, relieving a household chore.

Discussion post about a husband overwhelmed with household duties and a wife's reaction after surgery.

Text describing a wife frustrated with her husband's laundry demands post-surgery.

Some people believed that everyone involved was a jerk

Reddit conversation about laundry issues and misplaced football shirts causing tension after surgery.

Comment discussing a couple's reaction post-surgery, mentioning laundry and a suggestion to talk things over.

Some redditors took the husband’s side

Text exchange about laundry argument after surgery, showing differing perspectives on prioritizing household chores.

Comment discusses a man prioritizing laundry over wife's recovery, suggesting it's petty revenge and advising a mutual apology.

Screenshot of a Reddit exchange about a wife's frustration over her husband's comment on laundry right after she returned home from surgery.

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