Someone Asks “What Makes You Not Want To Have Kids?” And 30 People Deliver Sincere Answers

This!

I’ve occasionally questioned my normal-ness: shouldn’t every healthy adult animal want to perpetuate the species, at least a little? Shouldn’t I have instincts to reproduce? But I don’t XD I want cats and dogs!

It concerns me that it is often regarded as ‘selfishness’. Your entire life is changed, completely. There is nothing wrong with looking after ‘you’. There are enough children in the world, focus on being a better human being for yourself, so the your own freedoms.

Good point. You need to be wanting kids 100%. You can’t take it back. Plus it’s important that a child is brought into the world and know they are absolutely wanted.

Yes! I'm also one of those people, and I'm taking your advice further and will cross the road over to escape children.

Thank you for being honest with your experience. Seriously

The worst are the people who tell you you'll change your mind once the kid is there. We now know that for a lot of parents this isn't true, most are just afraid to speak up. It's a dangerous thing for the potential children, and also a very condescending thing to say usually.

It’s not considered selfish if you’re choosing to look after yourself. Also, you’re thinking of the sorry world that hypothetical child will be left with in the future.

This is really important. Many illneses are inheritable but it is so normalised to have biological kids that many knew the risk and still choose to have kids. Knowing that they might live in pain for their entire life. There are alternatives like egg/sperm donnors or adoption that at least avoid the genetic issues. I cannot resoect a person that will force their diseases on a child just because they want a bio kid.

Oh my god, this

Yeah I won't lie, I find babies just downright creepy looking and their smell is in no way pleasant to me

For all people considering it the subreddit "childfree" has a huge and international list of sterilisation friendly doctors.

Getting tubes tied should be now allowed due to change in abortion law. Certainly better than forced pregnancy, why am I allowed to go through such a tough condition of i could eliminate the issue. Sterilisation should be option regardless of age and reasons. Nobody asks why you're getting cancer removed, or why you sterilised your pets but if you're human you must suffer as the people who have suffered worse than you feel left out. Disgusting behaviour. Sterilisation, assisted dying, and pregnancy are all very deep decisions that should be protected as Han rights to accept or decline when deciding the future of your body.

Unfortunately it was explained to me that even with a Tubal ligation ( which I requested when it was decided after 3 days of labour I was once again going to have a C-section) " while you are at it make sure I can't have anymore"; there is no way to make sure it worked to prevent pregnancy. My doctor told me the surgeon should have given me a hysterectomy to be certain I would not get pregnant again. A reversible Vasectomy however can be tested to ensure the job was done properly. Vasectomy is the best form or both birth control and abortion prevention.

unless you have at least two children doctor's will refuse to tie your tubes. and idk if this still applies but when i had it done if i had been married. i would have needed mu husbands permission he would have had to sign a form. and if he decided i wasn't done having children and didn't sign. i would not have been able to have it done.

Good luck with that

You may need to get permission from the man in your life first.

There are a lot of young adults, 20-25, who are getting those procedures done. What's surprising is that there are doctors willing to do it as 30 and 3 kids was the previous requirement. Idaho, Texas and Florida are the most dangerous states right now where all three don't cover safety to mother. A woman with a tubal pregnancy would have to wait until it ruptured and she can to be saved a only after that point. Texas and Florida also have the highest level of child deaths due to abuse and neglect. Anti choice advocates are misogynists and the more people who refuse to not have children the better.

If you're "allowed" to have that done. I've seen horror stories about doctors refusing to perform a tubal ligation on women recently. Men can get a vasectomy as long as their check clears.

OMG don't have tubes tied! You'd still get your period. Get endometrial ablation. They cauterize the inside of the uterus, preventing the endometrial lining from forming. No surgery/cutting. Quick recovery. And.... NO PERIODS ever again!

No correlation whatsoever!

I hope you can if you want to. Or really, I hope anyone who wants to can. I've heard horror stories of people not being able to because they're too young, don't already have children, etc. Just be aware, even that isn't 100% so use a backup.

I was going and naive when I had my firat. The Dr wouldn't tie my tubes because I was only 18 when I had her. Went on the pill and got pregnant. As soon as I had her, them tubes were burnt!

I’m a little disappointed that the sign doesn’t say “go f__k yourself.”

Getting tubes tied is illegal in my country 😰

Good for the Coourt

I think I have to agree.

I'm thinking of getting my tubes tied, and I'm 19. I just don't want them, the idea of having to form a decent human out of a screaming raisin is intimidating, and babies are so annoying to me.

I did. It took me years... many years of fighting for it, when I was 28 I finally had a doctor look over my medical history and say "yep we can do that for you". I cried tears of joy when someone finally respected my choice and didn't make me feel bad about it.

Is it still legal in your state

Great idea and have them put it in a slip knot so it can be undone "if" you change courses.

If you don't want children get those tubes tied. Then you will not have to worry further. Just make sure they fry them for double protection.

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Even after you have your tubes tied if you decide you really, really want kids, consider fostering or adoption.

Good luck if you're under 30. My daughter wanted her tubes tied after baby #2, but she was under 30 and "might change her mind". Where the f*ck do these Doctors get off telling women whether they "should/could/should" have more children if they don't want them? Needless to say - I now have THREE granddaughters.

I already grew up to that age I can, so I'm gonna go too even though I'm not American.. just because I want.

Good luck with that. You will have to go to another country to do it. The idiots in DC have made it impossible for a woman to get one unless she has a literal basketball team of kids.

I did and celebrate the decision frequently. Now 73.

I'm right there with you!

Abortion SHOULDN’T be a choice. IT SHOULD BE MANDATORY!

Good luck. Mine was a downright fight. At 34. Married. Having my 3rd child by c-section. Having had one miscarriage already. It was STILL an absolute FIGHT to get it done.

Please do.

Im a 51 year old female, I had a tubal ligation when I was 28. I would have done it sooner if I could. I had to convince my health care social worker to give me clearance for the procedure. I was expecting this kind of resistance so I was prepared. It is one of the best decisions I ever made. The freedom from worry of accidental pregnancy was such a gift! I would absolutely recommend this for anyone wanting a child free lifestyle!

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Get the tubes removed, ladies. Studies show ovarian cancer is more likely to actually originate in them and you don't have to worry about them growing back together...

Greetings from Poland, where an act was passed two years ago that de facto prohibits this procedure, unless it is a child from an illegal forced interaction action or sepsis does not appear, because doctors are afraid that otherwise it will be recognized as a different premise than "saving the mother's life." Yes, your baby may die minutes after it is born due to birth defects, but you still have to go through the pregnancy and give birth.