The human brain is a fascinating, complex mechanism that continues to puzzle us to this day. So in an attempt to shed some light on it, at least, from a psychological perspective, certified coaching practitioner Elisabeth Donatella, aka Coach Lisy, has started an educational video series on TikTok.
It's called "Psychological Facts You Didn't Know About Yourself."
Sharing everything she has learned through meticulously researching the subject, Coach Lisy answers such interesting questions, like "Why do we forget things the moment we walk into a room to get them?" or "Why do we prefer to park our car next to another one in an almost empty lot?"
Continue scrolling and check them out!
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It takes 5 positive things to outweigh 1 negative thing. Your brain has "negativity bias." This is why you quickly forget that someone praised you but keep dwelling that someone else made fun of you for something.
Why does it have to happen when I'm trying to fall asleep though? I remember everything cringe.
Always consider the source of praise and blame! People who don't know you from a bucket of paint don't deserve that much head space
It sounds simple in practice but if you can do this you have a valuable skill I think
Load More Replies...Huh. I'd heard that it takes ten "attaboys" to make up for one "aw s**t." I guess it's five.
I figure turn about is fair play somebody Hits you with a negative comment do unto others as they do unto you Sock-it-to-'em. Then nothing to worry about.
Your brain wants you to be lazy. Conserving energy is 1 of your brains top priorities. Its been 1 of the essential things for humans for survival.
It was never your fault. It is your responsibility though.
Load More Replies...And it wants others not to be lazy for the same reason. Making others work for you is a survival tactic for some individuals. Don't be too proud of your hard work for someone else's benefit...
So writing "1" instead of "one" falls into the category of energy saving? 😁
🎵 🎶~ we could be immortals… immortals~ 🎶 🎵
Load More Replies...Your brain uses the most energy when thinking, so lying on the couch doing "nothing", could still use up a lot of energy.
You forget what you went into a room for as soon as you get there. Because of something called the "doorway effect." The act of walking through the doorway makes you forget because you're changing your environment.
I forget if I flushed the toilet, when I am still washing my hands somehow
Because flushing the toilet is something you usually do automatically and not consciously because you do it often so your brain doesn't use up energy and space storing the information, same with turning off the oven, lacing up your shoes, closing the door behind you, locking up the door, etc.
Load More Replies...The nightmare of heading to and returning from a shop only to forget particular things you really needed. 😆 Oof. This is why I finally took shopping lists seriously. (even when I forget the lists themselves every now and then!)
I'll forget what I'm going into another room for before I even get off the couch. What does that say about me?
because your lazy brain checks the box when you go b through the doorway, like okay, that's done.
I think it's because we're characters in somebody's work of fiction. When we walk back out to remember, that's when the author is backspacing and re-writing the sentence.
I disagree, at least anecdotally. Everyone's memory works differently. I can forget what I got up for the instant I stand up from the chair; it doesn't take a doorway. Other times, I can remember a memorized list, even if I'm not completing the tasks in the list's order, and even if I've gone through several doorways.
That is not entirely true. People with extremely high innate SA (situational awareness) of have an environment that is demonstrably larger than just a room. Example: Taxi Drivers
You're programmed to love the music that you listened to the most in high school. The music that you like most hits you with dopamine and other "feel good chemicals." Age 12 to 22 everything feels more important, so we tent to emphasize those years the most and hang on to those musical memories.
I disagree, yes I enjoy a lot of the music from my school days but my favourite music era is the 80's. I certainly wasn't at school then.
No decade has ever been able to compete with the 80s in terms of music IMHO. IT WAS JUST BRILLIANT.
Load More Replies...I haven't liked the mainstream pop/rock I listened to as a teenager for a long time
Yeah I’m not buying this one. My music likes and dislikes have changed so much since I was in high school and many of the songs that I love I was listening to wait before I got into year 12 of my life. Besides I hate to be super picky but I really don’t like it when people say I’m programmed for something.
You mimic people that you're interacting with, sometimes without realizing it. Mimicking someone can make them like you more. This is called: the chameleon effect. This can be in a form of copying someones facial expressions and also their speech patterns and accents.
Omgosh! I do this too much, my accent changes. And sometimes people think I'm mocking them, but I'm not.
I moved around a lot as a child and learned to mimic accents. Have to be careful sometimes.
Load More Replies...But that means that others are mimicking myself, while I am mimicking them, so I become them and they become me?
LOL Not really. Depends who has the stronger personality and leads the interaction OR each of you become a little more similar to each other in the way you interact with one another and become little more like the other person
Load More Replies...I find this creepy. When I catch myself doing it I immediately stop.
Or if you're an Aspie, you do this because human behavior makes no sense to you and you need to do something to keep people from noticing that you're seriously different from them.
Again, nope. It does happen... sorta. The idea is the basis, so-to-speak, of a self-improvement concept referred to as NLP (neuro-linguistic programming)... the stuff Tony Robbins does.
This is one of the tips we were taught when I had a very sales focused job.
Your turn the volume off or lower it when you drive in unfamiliar places. In moments when you are focusing your attention on listening you are less aware of the visual information that your brain is getting.
Majority of the music I listen to is relaxing like jazz or new age. The music keeps me calm and more focused with my surroundings.
I do this fully knowing that louder music... shakes my nerves and rattles my brain. Too much love drives a man insane. You broke my will, but what a thrill. Goodness gracious, great balls of fire!
this is why "hands free" fones while driving are a false security....
Well yes, of course. I often hear people make fun of this, like "Oh, you turn off the radio so you can see better? Ha ha ha!" Umm, no, I turn off the radio so I won't be distracted by the sound when I'm trying to look for something. That's perfectly rational behavior.
I do this also, but only sometimes. People can laugh and say it has nothing to do with listening to the radio while driving, but I think it has to do with the voices on the radio. If I'm listening to something that is 100% instrumental, I don't need to turn down the radio. So I'm good with piano sonatas, but when the announcer is on I have to turn it down.
You don't take the last piece of pizza or donut. Because you don't feel like you have the right. Specialists called this phenomenon the diffusion of entitlement.
Only the shame of having eaten too much (again) afterwards.
Load More Replies...is it a "malfunction" of my brain that I never ever felt that?
I don’t know about you, but I was quite isolated from people for a long time, including during formative years, and I often wonder if that’s why I haven’t picked up various types of social guilt. I notice that when my volunteer group has lunch, a lot of other people are reticent about being the first to take something while it’s NBD for me. Maybe it’s because I’m used to being socially self-sufficient, or maybe it’s just because I didn’t spend enough time around people to pick up those habits by osmosis.
Load More Replies...I have been taught to never just grab the the last of anything and always ask first. In my case the 'phenomenon' is called childhood education...
Jesus! For a moment I thought something awful happened to his hand!
Nonsense. People consciously don't take the last slice. It's not a psychological "trick" of your mind. It's ex post facto rationalization.
Well my mother taught me that it was ill mannered because someone else may want it Even if it being offered one should refuse the first offer and only accept on the second offer if no one else has taken it.
You hold the door open for other people. Scientists have found this goes beyond us just trying to be polite. Meaning: we are all trying to spend less energy doing things. This show that we do try to treat others the way we want to be treated.
How is me holding the door open for others trying to use less energy doing things.
We want to use less energy when we can. We hold the door open for others because we know it will help them use less energy, thus we are treating them how we want to be treated, which is in a way that requires less energy use. But we may end up using more energy in doing so. Its odd.
Load More Replies...Wut? I live in LA and ppl rarely hold the door for each other (and if they see you coming for the elevator they push the "close" button a bunch of times). And this was before COVID. I grew up in the South and was raised to hold the door so I definitely notice when it is not -- and it is not in LA.
So wait you kind of contradicted yourself here. If I’m trying to spend less energy doing things than why would I go hold the door open for somebody??? And how does our body spending less energy correlate with politeness? Is it just me because I am lost here.
I think it means that you are helping others use less energy (by not having to open the door from closed), hence the treating others the way we want to be treated.
Load More Replies...There is a lot of nuance in who we hold doors for, and it is very culturally loaded. For instance, trans men have reported being surprised at how often people let the door go on them post-transition. They took the politeness for granted when they were women. There was some experiments done with people reacting to football shirts, where people only held the door for people in the same shirts, not that day's rivals.
Personally I hold the door open for everyone because I'm scared of it hitting someone in the face :/
Load More Replies...Treating others how you want to be treated is being polite. Think that scientist that found that might need to give their head a wobble.
I honestly hate when people do it. I know how to open the doors myself, it's not an issue, and it's preferable to rushing because the neighbour is waiting with the door.
You are more creative when solving someone else problems than your own. To understand this, we have to look into the construal level theory of psychological distance. The concept of self is closer to yourself than it is to other people. Other people are psychologically distant from you. That is why thinking for other people tends to improve problem-solving and even deter personal/emotional barriers to creativity.
This is written in kind of a confusing way, I get the gist of it though because I love brainstorming most any problem…Except math and politics.
I do too, and with the same exceptions. A lot of times people don't take time to figure the problem out. A lot of time it's just common sense and your different way of approaching the problem.
Load More Replies...Translation: People think differently, so you're more likely to come up with a solution that someone else hasn't thought of than a new idea for yourself
Tragically true. I once did a lot of creative thinking for a widow with two teen-age children, with lots of problems between the tree of them.. One day, I had a huge problem of my own and decided to call her for input. She just said, ''Well. you're so good at solving other people's problems; why don,t you just solve your own for a change?''. I was devastated. She later apologized in writing but, yes, I tend to keep my problems to myself.
Basically what it means is - when its your own problems you're less inclined to look at it from a different perspective due to biases and the like. But helping others out frees you from that constraint since you're now helping them from a more objective view. In short someone helping you out with a problem isn't dealing with the same biases/issues you that are subconsciously mentally blocking you from finding a solution.
You feel happier when you are busy. Your brain dislikes being idle. It prefers to stay busy. For each task you complete you are rewarded with dopamine.
Isn't this contradicting the other statement that was made about being lazy??
Brain likes to keep busy, body likes to save energy. So here we are, on BP.
Load More Replies...Learning things from bored panda is dangerous and very likely not fact checked.
My brain must not like my job AT ALL then. It's been witholding the dopamine for work tasks.
Brain likes to be busy ,my thoughts are not negative when I am busy ,I don't feel sadness whem am doing calculus but in some cases my anxiety levels reach the roof where my brain no my wntire being oppose my very existence.Lazy?Yes,all beings love to conserve their energy but this f*****g mind ,these torturous thoughts that tell me to kill myself and that doesn't happen during math.So either anxiety or ibedkfywkdhdufj for me. Brain,why do you do this? I am so tired. And done.
I believe in lifelong learning even if you have to just go out and buy a book and teach yourself. After I destroyed my leg a couple years ago I started learning about geology and could not get enough. I guess Im a learning addict. Let me guess there’s no 12 step programs for learning addiction
Food made by someone else tastes better than your own cooking. You are standing around it so long it's already feels less appealing by the time it's ready to eat.
I disagree, I seldom enjoy other people's cooking even in good restaurants. Besides, when you cook it yourself you know exactly what went into it and that it was hygienically handled.
Same here. We rarely go out to restaurants now, because we hate paying a lot of money for mediocre food that I could have cooked better myself.
Load More Replies...OMG this is so true! Not universally but there are certain things my husband "makes" that just taste better even though we make them the exact same way. Coffee for example is always better when he makes it. He says it is because I want him to wait on me, but it isn't true. Well only a little bit. :-D
I am a fussy eater for various reasons so I generally prefer my cooking. But I often have to cook 2-3 separate meals every night so that does frustrate me and makes me enjoy my food less. Plus I hate the cleaning up afterwards. So whilst I prefer my food I wish the whole cooking and cleaning side of things wasn't so damn annoying.
Well that's a load of crap. I prefer my own cooking (unless at a nice restaraunt.
Not reading anymore of this "this applies to me so it must be true for everyone" B.S. See ya !
What we need is factual information .you know ingo that is supported by research
Being forgetful is a sign of high intelligence. Scientists claim that forgetting is just as important as remembering. "Bad memory" = mechanism for making more space for more relevant information in your brain. And it keeps your brain from wasting space and energy.
Nice spin about the intelligence, though it can just be a sign of being overworked, under a stress or in a new situation (take pregnant mothers or grieving people).
...and all 3 of the situations you mentioned would drive your brain to "make more space for more relevant information in your brain. And (keep) your brain from wasting space and energy.".
Load More Replies...So, what does this tell me if I already forgot most of the brain "facts"
Sometimes it is about how it is stored and the problem may be retrieval and not a loss of information.
Load More Replies...I legitimately have the worst memory ever I forget what I was talking about all the time like midsentance I will like hear something and bam I have no clue what I was talking about :(
This sounds more like distraction than a bad memory.
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You thought you felt your phone vibrate in your pocket but there were no notifications. This condition is called Phantom Vibration Syndrome and 68% of us suffer from it.
What pocket are you referring to? Cause I’ve like never been able to fit my phone in a pocket.
Not so much the phone anymore. Now it's the Fitbit vibrating for a text or call.
For me it turned out it was my twitter account that i rarely used, all visual notifications were off, but the phone randomly kept buzzing. Found out, when i got a Xiaomi Mi Band, that was buzzing the same time, but said “Twitter:” on its screen.
What does your texting style say about your personality? If you write long texts, you are sensitive and thoughtful. You see words as a meaningful and powerful tool and put feelings and thoughts into it.
I think that goes both ways.... Sometimes long texts are meaningless, repetitive, and time wasting
...only to someone who doesn't see that data equally as "meaningful, powerful, or thoughtful" as the original author.
Load More Replies...Long texts can also be rambling incoherent nonsense devoid of any sensitivity or thought.
Depends on the culture :D In my culture, very long texts are considered awkward.
what, then does it say about me? I think in text messages. By that - every message is a new sentence. Each and every time i think that i wrote everything i wanted, but here we are - another 3 additional messages with additional information. Yes i do do the talk first, think later
You position your feet towards the person you are most interested in. It's a survival instinct. Your body is making sure your feet could react immediately if you feel any type of threat.
And you can indicate disinterest to your babbling colleague by turning your feet away from them though keeping your face looking at them. Makes them end the conversation faster.
No, according to this, the people you’re interested in are the people you would run to if any threat were to arise, meaning they’re the safe, non-threatening person. However, the reasoning given by the author isn’t totally accurate. We typically direct our feet toward what is grabbing our interest most, we feel pulled towards it. If someone’s feet are facing you while you talk, they’re interest in the conversation, but if they’re pointed away, they’re most likely uninterested and want to leave. It’s about what the person wants to focus on, not necessarily about danger or survival
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You are always late. People who are chronically late have tendencies of underestimating how long a task is going to take to complete. This is called "planning fallacy."
Usually yes but some people like me are purposefully incredibly early all the time which sucks too because I don’t want to be rude but I end up there like 2 hours early and if I’m after the other person I get really stressed
Load More Replies...You can also be a sign of passive aggressive behavior. I am never late I hate being late and I keep reading materials in my car just because I’m always early and to be early is as disrespectful as being late is
What a bind, I used to be early every time and now I'm late all the time. Whenever it's the weekend and I say I'm on my way my friends will say like "from your bed?" Do you have a cure? lol
Load More Replies...Do they also arrive too early? It has to work both ways, doesn't it?
I'm always late. Even worse if I wake earlier then my wake up ring. I tend to think that I have all the time of the world.
I think it is a habit - I was always taught you should always be 15 min. early for an appointment. Yesterday I was on time for my appointment, this chic same sauntering in she had to register and she was taken in before me which means she was late no I am late. Being the bitch that I am I told her next time to be on time no you have made me late. Of course if she was ignorant enough to be late you know you aren't going to get a respose!
You can't see smartphones in your dreams. Research suggest that since smartphones and other modern day devices are newer our brain haven't gotten used to them yet.
Buuuut .. I can't use it in my dreams. Like I always type in wrong numbers etc. Drives me nuts. Like my sleeping mind knows it can't realistically mimic a call to another person. @_@
Load More Replies...This is nonsense as there are people around who have grown up knowing smartphones, and their brain isn't any older than they are.
They often play a role in one of my most common nightmares. For reasons x y or z I am escaping and hiding and I must call the emergency number. I get the phone from my pocket but it's not mine and I don't know to open it, or I all of a sudden forget what the emergency number is, or the battery dies, or I get to call but the person answering does not want to help. My brains have serious suspicions against this modern day device and I give them credit for it.
I have kind of similar nightmares. It's an emergency or I have to call someone very urgently and my phone doesn`t work or I am not able to dial numbers.
Load More Replies...Out of all the bored panda stuff I've read, this has to be the number one for "random stuff I pulled out of my a**e and stated as a fact".
Load More Replies...I see smartphones in my dreams frequently, but they never ever work. I get pictures but no numbers or contact information. And I NEEEEED to make a phone call!
Considering how much people are on their phones these days, this sound like bullshit.
I can't dial a phone number in my dreams to save my life. It's very frustrating
I'm the same, it's horrible having those dreams, so stressful!
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You prefer to park your car next to another car in an almost empty lot. It's because we often follow the crowd. This behavior helps us to explain that we as humans are social beings.
Or because our brain prefers lazy and parking as close to the entrance as possible. Someone should test this by parking some group of cars in a not so optimal spot at the lot.
Actually this can be applied to a number of areas in our lives that we are not completely conscious of. When driving down the road we tend to drive in packs with other cars, if there are other cars on the road. So I think that this concept is true however like Delboy states there are going to be some situations where you choose to be farther from the crowd.
This is where I'm different, traffic is not very alluring to me
Load More Replies...This is nonsense. Now if this were about seating in a nearly empty restaurant, maybe. That would address one my personal peeves... going into an empty restaurant where you seat yourself, and the next couple that enters comes over and sits at the booth/table next to yours. Go away. When I enter a nearly empty place, I choose seating the furthest away from anyone already there. Even in places where you are seated by a hostess, they tend to seat you next to other people. No... just no.
Sound like an attention-getter to me. The waiter is more likely to be quicker with you then too
Load More Replies...NOPE. Assholes are out there. And some of those assholes have cars. If you park next to the ass, they just might slam your car with their door. And then asshole acts like an ass and blames it on you.
...unless you're trying to avoid door dings in a new or classic car!
Priorities: is there a space? Does it have shade? Close enough to destination? Can I use this opportunity to punish someone who is parked badly by parking really close to them, while still parking perfectly myself? Yes, sometimes I'm evil, but only to those who I think deserve it.
This one I believe. I’ve noticed this one in action, especially when I’m the first one to arrive and I park in the back of the lot. … OR, it could be that the spot I picked was part of a group the only 3 shady spots in the lot ;)
Yep, pretty sure my brain wanted to be lazy through all of it.
Load More Replies...Yup, the TikToker seems to have tried that bit too hard to create theories to support their own thoughts and pass it off as fact.
Load More Replies...Another unproven, undocumented, unresearched opinion. A good example of how generalised bs gets spread. Stay sceptical!
I get the gist of many of these the concept if there but the way they are worded it is a little confusing on some of them. For instance the last one to make the statement “you are always late.” To me that’s making an assumption and normally because I’m a smart a$$ and I would reply “please go seek medical attention immediately because you’re getting your only exercise by jumping to assumptions and conclusions”
It is amazing how most of TikTok articles have negative comments, yet the BP staff keeps shoving them down our throats. But like they say, anyone can write on Bored Panda.
Yep, pretty sure my brain wanted to be lazy through all of it.
Load More Replies...Yup, the TikToker seems to have tried that bit too hard to create theories to support their own thoughts and pass it off as fact.
Load More Replies...Another unproven, undocumented, unresearched opinion. A good example of how generalised bs gets spread. Stay sceptical!
I get the gist of many of these the concept if there but the way they are worded it is a little confusing on some of them. For instance the last one to make the statement “you are always late.” To me that’s making an assumption and normally because I’m a smart a$$ and I would reply “please go seek medical attention immediately because you’re getting your only exercise by jumping to assumptions and conclusions”
It is amazing how most of TikTok articles have negative comments, yet the BP staff keeps shoving them down our throats. But like they say, anyone can write on Bored Panda.
