22 “Plus-Size Travel Struggles” Skinny People Don’t Have To Worry About When Traveling
Meet Jae'lynn Chaney, a 25-year-old travel blogger, body positivity advocate, and content creator out on a mission to help society unlearn harmful biases. She believes that all bodies can be travel bodies and that everyone deserves to travel comfortably. By covering anything from her wanderlust moments to the hurdles she encounters on the way, Jae has captured the internet’s heart.
With over 108,000 followers on TikTok, Jae recently went viral with her 'Plus-Size Travel Struggles' series where she lists the things "plus-size travelers hate" and highlights the issues in an industry still hostile to all bodies, sizes, and shapes.
In the videos, which amassed more than 16 million views on the platform, the TikToker evaluates her experiences and sheds light on how airlines, hotels, and other businesses consistently fail to accommodate larger-bodied globetrotters. Below, we gathered some illuminating examples Jae shared with her audience, from towels that don’t fit to tray tables that wouldn’t come down. So continue scrolling, upvote as you go, and be sure to share your own stories in the comments below, we’d love to hear all about them.
Body positivity advocate Jae'lynn Chaney recently went viral for sharing "things plus-size travelers hate" that highlight how the travel industry is still hostile to bodies of all sizes
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You can watch Jae’s "Things Plus-Size Travelers Hate" series, which amassed over 16 million views, right below
@jaebaeofficial These are some of the struggles that plus size travelers face. Travel is possible for everyBODY, but it definitely comes with challenges and should be more accessible!! What travel challenges have you faced? #plussizetravel #plussizetravelblogger #flyingwhilefat #travellingwhilefat #travelingwhilefat #traveltok #plussize #plussizeedition #fyp ♬ Monkeys Spinning Monkeys - Kevin MacLeod & Kevin The Monkey
Here are some of the obstacles Jae faces when traveling
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Turnstiles and worrying you'll get stuck.
They've started replacing them with automatic doors in the Bucharest metro(subway)
I'm curious, are they revolving, do they swing open or slide open? It sounds like a smart way to do things.
Load More Replies...People have mass and weight. The airlines aren't "hostile". If your fat self takes up more space and weighs more then it costs MORE in fuel and you must by another ticket. OR...you could lose the weight.
Aren't there special wheelchair availabilities then to pass these? I honestly don't know because I never use any public transportation... but I can imagine there should be, the same for people that use a service dog, they need a little more space for their dog to pass these.
There is usually a manned gate with direct access for people with disabilities, wheelchairs, strollers, large luggage etc.
Load More Replies...I dont think this was done maliciously....they were probably trying to get as many slots as possible in so lines could move faster. I dont think this is a deliberate oversight.
Yes, These can be a problem for oversized people. They have to use the options for disabled instead. But this does not fit the header, because there are skinny people who have to use these as well. If the header was "Inconvenience fat people face when travelling": Well, yes, they do. Like someothers.
People staring all the time.
People need to remember that manners are free. I once met a cyclops and didn't make a thing about it.
I am trying to find the words to talk to my kid about things like this, not specifically obesity, but anyone looking different from you. There was a blonde girl in his swim class with some type of foot deformity and one day a brunette girl noticed (I guess she just didn’t pay attention before) and started yelling “oh my God! What’s wrong with your feet? Everyone come look at her feet!” Etc. Blonde girl in tears. Brunette girls parents did NOTHING! I was horrified. I talked to my kid about how people are made in all shapes and sizes and colors and our differences make us unique and interesting. We always need to remember that underneath it all is a person with feelings. We need to judge someone by what they do, how they treat others, not by how they look. At the same time, I’m torn with eye contact. I don’t want to stare and I don’t want to avoid making eye contact with someone I’d normally smile at because of a difference.
As a mother of a child with a craniofacial disorder, I very much appreciate it. Thankfully my daughter is too young to realize people stare, but I see it all the time. Kids are usually cool about it and will ask questions, adults gawk and sometimes make rude remarks.
Load More Replies...Some of the other posts are quite pointless but this is one is actually important. People should stop staring no matter what! Doesnt apply to just obese people. STOP STARRING AT ANYBODY, PEOPLE!
It's normal to stare ar anything that stands out from our normal surroundings. You don't have to be an ahole about it, and keep staring, but it's kinda unavoidable for people to take a longer look or two.
A slightly longer look and staring are two different things
Load More Replies...They're probably not staring at you because you're fat but because you're wearing Sandals on a hiking trail
Yes, let's all stare at someone's wardrobe choices when they are trying to exercise and have limited wardrobe options.
Load More Replies...I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but I wonder how much of this is just the individual feeling self-conscious. Everybody feels like others are more focused on them than they actually are, not just larger individuals. Whether it's being stared at, or how one talks and behaves in society. It's human nature to think people are paying attention to you. Usually, they're not.
Naw, it happens. Getting openly laughed at happens and yes you can tell when it's in your direction...they don't hide the fact they are doing it. Sometimes when people are being extra rude they don't try and hush their comments either.
Load More Replies...I don't understand the staring thing..at all..ever. Of course you might notice someone and give a quick look just like you would any other person you saw on the planet, but what is staring about? You going to stare them into non-existence? I truly don't get it..
The post is about traveling, so keep in mind that the amount of staring that is considered rude may vary by country.
Load More Replies...Jae’s incredible personality and powerful statements may have racked up millions of views, but they also deeply resonate with people struggling in a society obsessed with seemingly perfect looks and unrealistic beauty standards. This just goes to show just how absurd and flawed the travel industry is by failing "to realize that the average woman is no longer a size 14," as Jae said in an interview with BuzzFeed. "They are now a size 18 and beyond. Yet as we’ve gotten bigger, things like airplane seats, clothing, and everything else has gotten smaller or stayed the exact same."
To gain more insight into the struggles larger-bodied travelers face on their journeys, we reached out to animator, illustrator, and body positivity activist Stacy Bias aiming to amplify marginalized voices. "From running the Flying While Fat Facebook group for the last several years, I've witnessed thousands of concerns and I've learned that there are some experiences that are shared across the size spectrum," she told Bored Panda.
Not being able to find clothes your size anywhere.
As I mentioned on the "towels" post - using double or triple the material to create clothing that would "fit" an obese person costs double or triple the materials-cost to the company making it. Either companies are going to have to charge more for larger clothing sizes, as they literally use way more material to make them, or the cost of everyone's clothing, including normal-sized ones, are going to have to go up in order to cover the costs of manufacturing clothing sized for obese people.
Sure, more fabric more cost; fat people expect to pay more for it, but not being able to get clothes that fit is a real issue. Just because someone is really big, doesn’t mean they don’t need clothing. And for all occasions: casual, formal, parties, vacation, beaches, working out…all of it. Fat people are still human and deserve to be treated just as well as everyone else, though it’s horrifying to think that this is being “considerate” and not simply a basic need. What other option is there? A nudist colony?
Load More Replies...This is not only an issue for overweight people. All of us living in the imperfect realm are terrorized by the “standard size” principle.
Yep! I'm female, but I put on fat deposits in places where males usually do vs. where females usually do (I look like I have a "beer gut", but I have normal-sized thighs/legs/heiny). Thus most female clothing doesn't fit me well XD I'm overweight myself (though technically within "normal female range" for my height...??) so it's hard to find shirts that fit since I'm not built like a "normal" female.
Load More Replies...I have the same problem being tall and thin. Smaller waist sizes rarely fit my leg length as well as smaller long sleeve shirt and coat sizes hardly fit my arm length.
Exactly. Most things have to be tailored, which adds an eye watering extra price tag.
Load More Replies...Online shopping is your friend. Also, Old Navy now carries plus sizes with the same styles as the regular sizes.
I'm not even very big, but I have to buy clothes online because in Japan, the stores only have clothes that I haven't been able to wear since I had hair.
I feel ya. I lived in Japan for three years. I'd go shopping and see so many cute things that I couldn't wear since I was 12 years old. A Japanese "Large" is like an American "Small." :(
Load More Replies...Sorry, I have to weigh in. This isn't just fat people. I've always been right down the middle of average in both height and weight. 'Medium' is practically my middle name. But, guess what happens when you try to go to a store where the majority of people in your gender are the exact same size as you? Your size is the first to go. They're always out. They'll have every other size around it, but stores refuse to stock quantity that represents the actual demographic, they just order the same number of everything, and end up having to put a bunch of stuff on sale in the end. I think I maybe own three items of clothing that are actually in my size. Everything else is too long or too baggy, but I just have to deal with it unless I want to spend hours tailoring it to fit.
you're SO right!! this woman's size isn't stocked because it's something crazy like 6xl, which most shirts don't extend to. when i get to the store to buy a shirt, small & medium are gone, but large through to 3xl have plenty of options. stores DO carry very large clothes. it's the standard sizes that are hard to find.
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Chairs with armrests.
Let's be explicitly clear: @jaebaeofficial you are not the victim here.
She isn't playing victim, just pointing out that a lack of universal design in public places can be a problem for those who are not model thin or have a disability.
Load More Replies...So, I support LGBTQI folks, Black Lives Matter, Labor Unions, etc. I'm "liberal". However, unless the vast majority of the 7.9 billion people on the planet reach a similar size these demands will not be the norm. Expecting it to be so is delusional and honestly quite entitled. I get that in America there is an effort to normalize this, Ron Swanson said it best: “The whole point of this country is if you want to eat garbage, balloon up to 600 pounds and die of a heart attack at 43, you can! You are free to do so.” That is obviously hilarious, however, should you choose to actually do this you'll likely find an early grave. Most people don't want to die young so it won't catch on in any widespread sense. This woman is not oppressed. The seating on the plane, the chairs with their armrests, the turnstiles, not being able to find clothes that fit, worrying about breaking the toilet, all of this, it isn't oppression. She is abnormal. I'm going to catch heat for this, but it needs to be said.
Yeah, I agree. I am quite tall and I also don't fit in most of the airplane seats. I have to pay extra too, in my case to get seating with more leg room. I can't helpt it I am this tall (my country has the tallest people in the world) still I don't feel oppressed. And neither is this women, we are both abnormal. A buddy of mine was born with a muscle decease and is in a harnas and wheelchair. He needs assistance with basically everything, getting in and out of bed, taking a shower, cooking, (un)dressing, he even needs someone to wipe his *ss. He will never be able to travel in an airplane, he also doesn't complain about it. I have mixed feelings about this topic...
Load More Replies...Many older people need the arms to help themselves in and out of the seat safely
People with knee problems are thankful for armrests too.
Load More Replies...I don't understand people that come on here just to basically defend her right to NOT be able to travel or exist within the same comfort and style as anyone else because of her size. If you can't give her, her platform to speak ,move on. There's other topics of your interest. Kindness and compassion go a long way, where as ugly words show how unkind people really are behind the safety net of their computer.
Nobody's saying she can't travel in comfort. Just buy two seats? If not, then you're saying the person next to her doesn't get to travel in comfort.
Load More Replies...When I have a bad day I totally need the armrests to get up! Plus most places have chairs without armrests too, maybe not in the exact spot you want to sit, but I have never been in a place where there weren't normal chairs available.
Tall people have yet another set of inconveniences. I confirm
Load More Replies...I like chairs with arm rests. I don't get upset when they don't though.🤷🏻♀️
I came across her on yt before and I found it disturbing that she seemed proud while trying to normalize obesity. She even needs to use oxygen tube thing (I don't know what they call it) to help her breathe properly. I am overweight and also have asthma but I recognize that I need to exercise and eat healthy food. Meanwhile, it doesn't seem like she wants her health to improve at all. Well, at least she seems happy.
I'm morbidly obese. I can tell you, as a 45-year-old American woman, no amount of shame has EVER made me lose weight. Ever. It's only made me feel terrible on top of having an eating disorder. Yes, I believe all morbidly obese people have eating disorders. We certainly don't deserve to be shamed.
Being the creator of the research-led Flying While Fat documentary animation, she helps travelers make their voices heard by allowing them to share their experiences. And she was more than happy to chat about the infuriating, annoying, and stressful challenges plus-size people face.
According to Bias, anticipatory anxiety is a huge factor that affects folks' emotional well-being when flying — or even considering it. "What individuals anxiously anticipate does vary, but common themes are 'not fitting' and/or being re-seated or asked to deplane, needing to ask for a seatbelt extender and fearing potential humiliation at the hands of a potentially insensitive flight crew, or not having an extender available, rendering them unsafe."
Bias continued that needing to use the airline toilet can also cause dread: "Being afraid of not fitting through the narrow doors or having insufficient space to adequately engage in hygiene practices once inside." Moreover, fellow passengers seems to also be a source of anxiety as travelers may fear bumping or disrupting them "when traversing the aisles, or being seated next to someone who is hostile."
Getting ridiculous comments about being a fat traveler.
It's not a ridiculous comment when said obese person is literally spilling over into half of my seat .
If you are morbidly obese then dont buy a ticket for a plane seat you know you wont fit in. Its selfish.
Load More Replies...If you want more luggage you pay for it..the airplane company make you pay for the weight they transport on the plane, if you weight as two people and use the space of two people you must pay double..the same if I want to transport 2 suitcase instead of one..in the end the airplane company are transporting weight...
I'm a big guy in all dimensions. Long legs, very wide shoulders, and overweight. I travel first class because traveling in economy is a nightmare for me and the person next to me. I can only tuck my shoulders in so much. Even in first class my shoulders are much wider than the seat. I'm sorry but if you a really big person for whatever reasons you need to have consideration for the people around you. They don't deserve to be punished because genetics, medical condition, or a love or Oreos and a hatred of exercise made you a big person. The world is designed for average-sized people when you aren't average be prepared to be uncomfortable and pay more.
I appreciate your consideration. Shouldn't there be a less expensive option?
Load More Replies...if you are in my space, that i paid for, then you should buy 2 seats.
A lot of comments about buying two seats to accommodate a larger person-that only works if the airline doesn't play silly beggars. I 'm not obese, but I don't travel a lot because I have medical equipment that has to come with me. If I have to fly, I book two seats, partly to accommodate the equipment, and partly for privacy (you wouldn't believe the number of people who think it's entirely acceptable to pick up the equipment, or attempt to push buttons, or start asking intrusive personal questions).I make it very clear to the airline I need two adjoining seats. Of my last 5 flights, only one of them went without a hitch. For the rest, I'd been booked into 2 seats several rows apart, or booked into an aisle and window with a person in the middle, or I've got settled but then been told the flight is overbooked and they have to use my "empty" seat, or the person in the aisle seat attempts to put their own s**t on the seat, despite it being mine. I'm sure larger people have similar issue
Sorry Mabel, I'm gonna have to call B.S. on your story.
Load More Replies...Let’s give her the benefit of the doubt and she paid for the middle seat too. As you can see in the other photo her shoulder comes over to the middle seat nearly halfway, and it looks like she has something on the middle seat too.
If you're as big as two people, then you should buy two seats. This way, you're not smushing anyone. I had the window seat one time and the two seats next to me were occupied by two enormous men. I was smashed against the wall for the entire flight, it was awful. And the smell...In over 50 years, it's the worst flight I've ever taken.
She is talking about the ridiculous comments she gets, it's not about how many seats she bought, although I'm pretty sure she did buy two. Still doesn't give anyone the right to make comments to her about it.
Load More Replies...Those seats are not built for a person to actually fit, just to sit. More leg room!
Unless she has a medical condition that makes her this big, (which is true for less than 3% of obese people) she has made a conscious decision to be too big to fit in the space she has bought. The person next to her will have also paid for the space of 1 seat and should not have to give up 6 inches of it for free and have someone’s else’s flesh constantly pushed as haunt them the whole flight. She should also have made the conscious decision to buy enough space for the size she is. BUY ANOTHER SEAT, you’re extremely entitled and selfish if you don’t
There is a level of personal responsibility each human must exercise. If you have made choices that require you to alternative comforts you have to be responsible and understanding enough to pay for those. Complex question: Should we as a society make everything adaptable to large format risking more of the population becoming unhealthily large or do we try to maintain normal standards to remind ourselves what a healthy body weight actually is? America suffers from an insanely large population - and we are normalizing that while sacrificing our overall health. Also - other countries simply don’t have the obesity issues we have therefore don’t need to adapt their surroundings to larger standards.
Always wondering if you're going to "fit" (airplane seats, public transportation, etc).
Who thought this would be a good topic?? Non-obese people will be afraid of down votes, while obese people are ether in denial (I'm not fat, I'm just thick), or don't want to come out admitting they don't like having to buy 2 airline seat tickets for their un-accommodated booties? In case I get downvoted to death, it was fun while it lasted (leaving snarky comments). Btw, my profile pic was from before Covid. From the pandemic comfort foods, menopause, my rheumatoid arthritis, and my lower back now needing multi-level vertabrae fusion, I gained 30 lbs, but am looking to get more active once I am allowed to after my fusion surgery. So, I am not sure if I would classify myself as in denial or plus sized yet
I see at least two comments so far that are actual facts are already negative/downvoted. It's making me sad-laugh. I have many obese relatives, some of whom have died in their 20s due to obesity-related health issues, and it's not like they were born obese or with a medical condition that made them obese regardless of their caloric intake. Most obesity is caused by food addiction. Addiction is brutal and is a struggle. But pretending like obese people mysteriously have no fault in WHY they're obese is just people lying to themselves. I've commented a few times on some of these posts myself and I'm sure I'm going to get multiple -10 downvoted comments, so... this is probably my last comment on BP as I'll be permabanned XD
Load More Replies...I know! I have long legs and I often have to apologize to the person sitting in front of me. In public transport or even in a cinema. Sometimes I have to sit a little sideways and my back hurts. Small passenger cars are a small nightmare.
Load More Replies...I'm considered 'morbidly obese' but I am no where near that lady's size. You get that big from over eating [I'm guilty of this] so expecting an airline to make accommodations for a minority of overly large people isn't fair to the business.
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Load More Replies...I am professional interior designer/architect. Airplane seating should be required to match the same seat/space standers as ibc (international building code) auditorium seating, such as movie theaters, churches, auditoriums etc. Large numbers of people need to be able to evacuate quickly and safely. PERIOD. Also, people get larger each generation, this needs to be accounted for. I worked on a historical theater in Chicago, by today's standards it looked like child seating, even though the building had historical protection we had to change the seating to meet these safety codes. We were able to reuse the decorative end caps.
Flew on a long a*s flight to SE Asia with the first leg of the journey to Vancouver. The lady next to me was larger and tall. She kind of hunched over her tray table as she was barely able to get it flat down. She squashed my left shoulder for a few hours from NY to Vancouver. Was I relieved it happened on the shorter leg of the journey? Yes. Did I feel bad for her as she was clearly uncomfortable? Also yes.
Did you ASK her why she had not booked a seat with more legroom? I still think that people who do not have average sizes usually KNOW this. And while I"m not sure a theatre has the right seats: airplanes have them! They cost more, that's all. For someone like OP, who claims that everybody should travel comfortably, money obviously ist no issue.
Load More Replies...I was 65 pounds overweight when I booked a flight for the end of the year, four months in advance. I don't want to be uncomfortable on the 8+ hour flight, so I started dieting and exercising right after I booked the ticket. With 2.5 months to go, I've lost 25 pounds so far! It's empowering to realize that, as the only one who decides what your hands do, *you* are the one who controls what goes into your mouth! Take responsibility for yourself and, for Pete's sake, stop whining about the condition you put yourself in!
Well, people don't want the downvote warriors to come out and cancel them.
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Tiny airplane bathrooms.
I feel like half of these complaints completely overlook the fact that there is limited space on a plane to begin with.
There’s limited space because the airlines are maximizing space for profit. NO ONE is comfortable in plane seats. Plus sized people are just made to suffer and be embarrassed because they are unable to fit comfortably in a space that underweight people cannot fit comfortably either.
Load More Replies...Okay but in airplanes you have really limited space for bathrooms...
My bathroom too... for me, my husband and two kids 😅
Load More Replies...To be honest, there isn't much room on an airplane for the bathrooms. It's why whenever I can, I use the bathroom before getting on the plane, especially if it's a relatively short flight.
These are inconvenient for everybody in Economy class. If you really do not fit, you will be allowed - If asking and proofing - to use the bathroom of business class, which ist slightly wider (at least the door). The airline HAS to permit this. But as long as they can help you into the Economy cubicle - the'll do that. Of course.
That's the same overal, weather in a train or a plain or a tourbus.... They are not made for comfort, but for necessary use... Pee before you board, don't drink tea, and then pee after landing if that's possible. If not, well, those toilets are crammy for everyone.
They're ridiculously small for average sized people - I cannot imagine being plus sized and trying to use one.
"For some at the smaller end of the size spectrum (within fat activism, the relevant categories are 'small fats' or 'medium fats'), these fears sometimes or even often prove unfounded," Bias continued. "For those at the higher end of the size spectrum ('large', 'super' or 'infini' fats), those anxieties are more often realized and are accompanied by physical barriers to access and safety as well."
The fear of "not fitting" causes a great deal of stress for plus-size people, as they often feel pressured to make decisions that would ensure a smooth experience. But sadly, they don’t come without a cost, whether it be financial, social, or wellness-related.
"Some are forced to purchase two seats or to navigate uncertainty in using inconsistently applied Customer of Size policies. And some, in fact, 25% of my research participants, intentionally dehydrate themselves before getting on planes to avoid having to use the restroom and/or stand up and disrupt seatmates or other passengers in the aisle, and both dehydration and lack of movement are risk factors in developing DVT [deep vein thrombosis]," Bias explained.
Worrying you're going to break the toilet.
The amount of fat-shaming comments on this are staggeringly disappointing. I foolishly thought humans on BP were better than this.
Obesity is usually self-imposed, not inherited. Outsiders cannot be blamed.
Load More Replies...I swear this list is made by a skinny person, I have worked in health care for 20 years and had 600lb plus patients and never had someone break a toilet.
Do they come out of the wall like that or are they a normal toilet that rests on the ground? Completely different.
Load More Replies...To some extent, I can sympathize with the obese. There's some people who actively keep track of their intake and exercise, but seem to keep gaining weight and size. But the average person who does get obese doesn't try, and have no regard for the people around them. Again, I often sympathize with the problems they deal with. But if you have to worry about breaking the toilet you sit on, you should consider skipping part of your meals, going on a few extra walks. If I walked into an airplane toilet and saw the last person had actually broken the seat, and I had to use it sitting down, I would be beyond pissed
Oh! I hate these wall hanged toilets! The landlord installed one in my old apartment and I moved out right after - I heard cracking sound when I sat down every time - and I weighed 95 kg! Can't sit down completely, had to do a "wall sit exercise" every time.
Worrying about asking for a seatbelt extender.
Exactly! $20 on Amazon gets you a seat extender that fits all airlines except Southwest. Another $20 will get you one for Southwest.
Load More Replies...I’d be more concerned about the fact her oxygen tube seems to be under the belt!
So worrying is the problem here? Guess who else worries: everyone. I can see how some of these would make those unaware of how an obese person's life can be more difficult. This one seems a bit "thin" as far as content relative to the subject goes.
Don't worry, you can buy one and take it with you wherever you go.... Having more waist sometimes dares you too think creative.
When the tray table can't come down.
This used to bother me, the little fold down desks on the uni seats too. Then I lost weight…
You make it sound like losing weight is easy. My mum had a glandular condition. It didn’t matter what she ate or what exercise she did. She couldn’t lose the weight. It wasn’t an issue with calories.
Load More Replies...... then you should eat less. Oh sorry the way these posts are made feel like you want us to complete the sentences.
Plenty of overweight people try gyms only to get laughed at and fat shamed there. It's horrible really.
Load More Replies...I feel airlines have been greedy trying to fit too many people in one cabin ignoring the comfort of any sized people. Like someone said here in the comments- you’re uncomfortable in flights even if you’re skinny. There are many many plane related points in this post.
Wasn't fat the last time I flew, but the tray table wouldn't come down until I asked the guy behind if I could tilt the chair back for a moment. Big boobs. Then it sat at my waistline with no space to use it because it was full of boobs. Reclined seat again and put my drink on mum's tray across the aisle and used my lap
The idea that larger-bodied people should be granted the same respect and opportunities as anyone else isn’t new. But the overwhelming response to Jae’s video series makes you wonder why this important conversation is so rarely touched upon. When we asked Bias to share her opinion on the matter, she told us this topic pops its head up once every now and then with a new person going viral with their experiences.
But unfortunately, "the cultural conversation around whose suffering is legitimate and what space people are entitled to when that space is highly commodified is once again held on the backs of fat people with no meaningful change at the end."
"It tends to bring on haranguing abuse from one side and supportive comments from the other, but on balance, there's been no measurable movement in creating safer and more equitable travel for passengers of all sizes and abilities," the activist added.
Restaurants that don’t have seating options for plus-size people.
Downvote me into oblivion, but I will die on this hill: most of the time, obesity isn't a disability in the same way that cerebral palsy is. Or being paralyzed, needing a wheelchair due to spinal/brain damage, only having one leg (or none), birth defects, having had a stroke or injury that results in brain damage, being blind, etc. Many of my family members are morbidly obese, and none were born that way. All of them became obese due to over-eating. While it's not always their FAULT that they became addicted to food, it's their responsibility to lose weight. It is not the world's responsibility to make everything accommodating for obese people. I've struggled with drug addiction, so I KNOW what addiction is like and how hard it is to change and get healthy. But saying it's a "disability" that you can't help or change is absolutely untrue. (Final disclaimer: yes, there are medical conditions that cause obesity without massive caloric intake. Most obese people are not obese due to that.)
Upvote for some logic instead of pandering to pressure.
Load More Replies...The lack of compassion I’m witnessing in these comments is staggering.
I can't believe this is the BP community... I am shocked 😞 Surely, we are better than this?
Load More Replies...General FYI: commercial and hospitality spaces (including restaurants) are required to have contract grade furniture. Contract grade furniture must be able to hold 300 pounds.
I'm inclined to think it's more about fitting into the space than it is about weight limit.
Load More Replies...Obesity is a medical condition with complex factors, including genetic predisposition. Lifestyle is a component, just as it is for cancer, heart disease, and many other conditions that we rarely, if ever, hear/see shaming and blaming the way we do with regards to obesity. End the stigma. An inclusive world works for everyone!
my god are you really comparing cancer/genetic diseases with obesity you are delusional at this point ,comparing something completely outside of your control with good eating habits is madness, you cant be inclusive when people are harming themselves and destroying their bodies you cant tell them its a good job , what you need is encourage them to be better and actually put effort into keeping themselves alive and well, what father see a child eating themselves to the point it take effort to breathe and say great you are the best.....
Load More Replies...If we are talking about countries that don't have a problem with the obesity epidemic - why should they add some special seating if there's barely a demand for it
Simple fix, I bet they got a bucket you can plop your a*s down on while you eat you 5th meal of the day. Is "plus-size people" what we are calling them now? If they are plus sized they should have to pay plus sized prices.
Bunk beds.
Are bunk beds in the list because plus sized people are complaining about not being able to use the top bunk??
I'm just a regular sized adult (OK maybe a tiny bit chubbs) and I can't go up the top bunk to change my kids' sheets anymore without threat of.it collapsing I don't think they're meant for adults in general.
Load More Replies...Do you want to sleep on bunk beds? No matter the size I dont think anybody wants to sleep on bunk beds unless youre a kid. Also I have never travlhed anywhere where the only option was a bunk bed. I never slept on a bunkbed after the age of 10...
If you had a 400-pounder on the top bunk meant for 60-pound kids... Would you want to be on the bottom? I'm not one to body-shame, but there's "curvy" and then there's "very unhealthy".
They do make bunks and Loft beds out of sturdy materials..they're usually for colleges but you can buy them. They're as expensive as a Murphy bed/nice bedframe.
I think the largest people should avoid using the top bunk just in case..!
I’m old and arthritic and would just pull the mattress onto the floor
Getting stuck with two twin mattresses instead of a king.
Book a queen/king room at the time of booking. If the hotel tries to force you into a room with two twin mattresses instead, demand the room you paid for (king/queen bed). You paid for the king/queen bed, you should GET the king/queen bed!
Oh b******t. Hotels need to accommodate the greatest number of travelers. Two twins pushed together makes a reasonably functional king bed unless you are fat.
Load More Replies...Then you didn't book properly. When contacting a hotel you can specifically ask for a king. !
Sometimes hotels do this even when asking for a king. It's unfortunate and I'm not sure why they do it.
Load More Replies...In my country (Czech Republic) king/queen beds were unheard of when I was growing up. Married couples just slept in twin beds pushed together. Big beds with one wide mattress and one large duvet were something we only knew from movies. My mother bought queen bed some 20 years ago when they made their way in and had to make her own sheets for a few years before shops caught up. Sleeping in a hotel outside big cities you still have about 90% chance of getting twin beds pushed together even if you booked king/queen. I found it is similar in hotels in Japan.
Off Topic, this is a great solution re: restless leg stuff and not waking my partner
Most hotels do this , never had a double or bigger mattress in any of the hotels I've stayed in, especially mainland Europe. You book a double room, you still get 2 beds pushed together.
I just don't understand why hotels push two smaller mattresses together to make a 'king' 🤷♀️ The ridge down the middle makes for a pretty average night's sleep 😪
Load More Replies...Well, the opposte can happen as well: getting a King - or only Queen - size instead ofthe two requested beds. That would bei a no-go for me, but with more and more American influence in Europe it happens sometimes. Guess what: I now only book where two beds will be guaranteed. Simply letztem guaranteed your favorite form aß well, instead of complaining!
Unrelated to weight: In some places I've traveled two, their idea of a king IS two twins stuck together. Welcome to Not Your Comfort Zone, and enough with the hate, folks. YOu're all one bad day away from what you assume will never happen to you.
When asked about what kind of change is needed in the travel industry to make it more supportive of bodies of all sizes, Bias said, "I think the FAA [Federal Aviation Administration] needs to mandate an increase in minimum seat width and pitch and require that airplane safety testing and cabin design include a realistic distribution of body sizes, ages, and abilities."
Towels that don't fit.
Using double or triple the material to create a towel that would "fit" an obese person costs double or triple the materials cost to the company making it. Either companies are going to have to charge more for larger towels as they literally use way more material to make them, or the cost of everyone's towels, including normal-sized ones, are going to have to go up in order to cover the costs of manufacturing large-enough towels for obese people.
There is so much textile pollution out there that this is not the problem. Making textile recycling bins part of home recycling would take an enormous load out of landfill and reduce costs of landfill. The fashion industry is an evil culprit in so many areas of resources.
Load More Replies...There's extra large towels, even saw some at wall mart the other day for a decent price
We have them in my house, they’re called bath sheets. Want to know who loves them the most? My healthy bmi 6 yo, will wrap himself like 3+ times then waddle barely able to move. And I don’t mind paying for something that’s usable.
Load More Replies...That like complain the shoe doesn't fit if you buy them in to small size. Buy bigger towels
I'm a size 14 , I find bath towels only fit kids and dogs, I always buy bath sheets, I can tuck in everything then.
Boat ladders, pool ladders, all ladders.
Really, why do they do this, it’s not like they run out of metal or something.
If they made them wider, smaller people and children can't grab the handles on both sides
Load More Replies...I'm pretty average weight and I have always found these ladders awkward and uncomfortable to use and they are not great for lots of people with movement/strength issues.
My shoulders are damaged and I find it so painful to use these pool ladders.
That is just a cheap design problem, those ladders are hell on all feet.
too short for me, hard to get out f the water with your knees right under your chin
Load More Replies...Was on a friend's boat, came in to the dock, ladders had been removed for repair. People were hauling others up the wall. A guy reached out his hand to me and I said "Two people please, unless you just want to be dragged down here" That was when I was 15 stone of muscle with curves. Now I am 19 stone of mostly blubber (mobility issues for decades, lucky I am not a 32 stone duvet monster)
the ladder is not the problem. The problem is their poor movility range
Having little to no room to move.
You are literally half way into someone else's seat. Where are they supposed to sit?
Looks like she bought two seats, because her oxygen machine is on the seat next to her.
Load More Replies...Buy two seats as you are obviously taking up 50% of the seat next to you anyway. I feel bad for whoever has to sit there squashed due to no fault of their own.
Pretty sure she did since her oxygen machine is on the seat next to her.
Load More Replies...But this is a problem we all share. Planes are too small to be comfortable in.
That is a senseless response. Seats are much more narrow than they were 20-30 years ago. More butts in seats = more profits
Load More Replies...There is plenty of room, but you are filling it all up. Sounds like a you problem. Stop blanking and shaming everybody else.
Even average people have to ask their neighbours to compromise during the meals. "If I lean all the way over here, you can cut up your meal, then if you curl over your friend, I can cut mine. Almost like sharing a 4 berth camper van, please move your foot, I need to sneeze
Here's the solution. All you people who refuse to lose the weight, get together and make a Fat Airline company. You'll quickly see how fast that won't work out.
But it’s important to note that people can also seek change. "The FAA is currently accepting public comment on setting minimum seat widths and I would highly encourage people to voice their opinions."
Bias knows the FAA is not interested in the comfort of people in larger bodies, but they must pay attention to concerns regarding safety. "If a body does not have sufficient space or leverage to rise quickly, if a body has insufficient space to adopt a brace for impact position, if a body has insufficient space to overstep a neighbor or travel an aisle that may not be cleared of debris, then the plane is not safe for anyone," she said. "Current airplane configurations present a risk to wellness for all passengers and this must be rectified."
Very limited poolside seating/lounging options for plus-size people.
Try 'can't even get into the pool because it has no wheelchair hoist' that's the case for like 95% of hotel pools, even ones with accessible rooms! Least obese people can sit on the floor/ still access the pool!
Losing weight is much more than just changing your eating habits. It can be rly difficult for some people
Load More Replies...And all so low that there is no way for me to use them and get up afterwards
Getting pat down because you're fat.
It just happens to lots of people being overweight has nothing to do with it. I'm skinny and every flight I get pulled aside by airport security for additional screening, apparently I must look dodgy
The vast majority of my family members are obese/morbidly obese. I've traveled with them many, many times (even in modern times) and not once have any of them gotten patted down.
I'm right on the line between average-fat and plus size and I just flew and got patted down on both flights. Once for my L ankle ???? And the other was for my Back, I believe. It was because of shadows or something on the scan
Load More Replies...I have 8 steel screws in my right foot, and I have to always go through the TSA body scanning machine at the airport. Why would a plus sized person need to get patted down when they can just go through the same humiliation as me?
We do. When you go through those body scanners you remember how you wait for a moment on the other side before they wave you through? Well, I often have to get patted down because of something they see on their screens. The only time I got patted down instead of going through the scanners was when I was pregnant and was flying multiple times across the country. More radiation from flying than those scanners but I was just trying to minimize what I could.
Load More Replies...Getting patted down doesn't just happen to obese people. I get patted down because of metal in my neck, my back, and my knee. I get wanded, too. Every. Single. Time. And no, having a letter from your surgeon doesn't help. One lady agent was so vigorous that I told her if she kept it up I would have to marry her.
Lots of people are patted down for lots of reasons. I am plus size and have been patted down many times, usually somewhere around my bra which frankly I could absolutely fit a grenade and a couple knives under their so I never really questioned it. Doesn’t bother me. But I’ve also gotten my hands and bag zippers swiped several times, I think they’re looking for bomb residue? Maybe I look shady in some way like @Ivanh.
Try getting a full body pat down in wheelchair because you can't go through the scanner! Especially when you're in pain and moving around whilst sat down is hard and painful- yet you can't do a single thing to stop being disabled when many many obese people can take steps to lose weight!
i got a pat down cuz i was wearing a oversized sweatshirt (im skinny btw). lots of people have to get pat downs.
No, Not because you are fat but because the automatic systems are not good enough for your size. As an hapephobian, I really have issues with being pat down. I understand you do not like it. But you know IT will happen, and saying IT does Not happen to skinny people ist simply wrong: for them it does not happen every time, but it happens. Just look around you there!
That's because your visible size may be due to padding concealing weapons, drugs, etc. Security is paramount.
Narrow aisles and bulkhead seats.
Seats used to have more room before the companies put money over comfort. Even my tall friends complain about the lack of leg room now, vs "way back then."
Load More Replies...It's a plane, flying 25,000 feet in the air, 600 miles per hour, and consuming a $hit load of planet destroying fossil fuel in the process. The more people you can fit on the plane, the less overall environmental impact per person, and the cheaper the tickets are. What are they supposed to do? Make the whole plane "first class"? Yeah, lets lose one third the capacity, tickets will go from hundreds to thousands, and thousands to TENS of thousands, more flights will have to be added to move the same amount of people, the planet will die a little bit faster, but oh well right?
So you want bigger seats, but also wider aisles. This entire post is confusing
If it was like it used to be there were a lot of airplanes with two seats on either side of the aisle, which had bigger seats and more room for the aisle. Not saying they should do this, but it was like this at one point.
Load More Replies...And some women have large breasts that make their arms stick out into the aisles.
Load More Replies...Flew on a Bombardier CRJ900 for the first time a few weeks ago. Jeebus Christ, I'm 5'2" and it felt cramped to me.
I flew in one similar and I’m 5’7” and I felt like giant. I had to lean forward or on my wife so I wouldn’t encroach on the young woman next to me and she was tiny too
Load More Replies...Seriously though. I'm only 5'2" and not obese and even I struggle fitting down airplane aisles.
To anyone struggling with travel anxiety and fearing the industry will fail to cater to their needs, Bias offered some words of encouragement. "Find community. Ask questions. And don't put yourself in harm's way to avoid inconveniencing others."
"Understand that capitalism is the driving force in creating the medians upon which built space is constructed, and that very fat, very tall, very short, and disabled bodies are excluded from the processes of determining those medians. Bodies have always been and will always be diverse, and for a diversity of reasons. You are worth accommodation," Bias concluded.
Chub rub
Try a product like Megababe Thigh Rescue. There are also anti-chaffing fabric thigh bands. How do I know? /used to be obese. Practically speaking, it's hard work, and psychologically there's constant body disphoria.
Thanks for the advice! I am roughly a "normal" size and I still have this problem every summer
Load More Replies...Sorry, but chub rub isn't an industry obstacle. It's an individual's own responsibility to deal with it. Speaking as someone with a chub rub problem, I would never think it's another's job to fix my chub rub. I'll buy my Snag Chub Rub Shorts like an adult.
Your rolls rub together when you move, and they're a little damp from sweat, and there's chaffing. There are products that you can use to prevent it.
Load More Replies...🤨 What a stupid thing to say, there are a lot of reasons a person can be obese, hormones, medications, emotional trauma, other medical conditions. Blaming people for things outside of their control is not helpful.
Load More Replies...Snag tights. Chub rub shorts and thigh high thick socks in a size that fits lipoedema legs
Souvenir shops that don't have your size.
as a former fat woman who struggle this A LOT. Since childhood with awful comments an rejection let me tell you: its your life, that’s no way to live, we both know you want to feel better, i was not happy, ir hurts every day. I learned at the hard way hurting my self worried of what others see. They are not important, probably never see them again, you need to do it for you, not for others opinions. I know how hard it is, even coming from my mom who don’t even want to sit next to me on an airplane because she was ashamed of me. It’s not normal been so beautiful and young and need to use oxygen, if you need to talk I’m here, trust me you are not alone. I’m 35 now and I don’t care if anyone sees my cellulitis, scars, stretch marks, I love them because now I’m feeling better, that’s the only think that matter, the way I look to myself, no by others.
You realized your lifestyle was unhealthy and you took the steps to change it. You didn't lose weight because of awful comments or rejection. You did it for yourself, your health and your happiness. Barring health reasons (thyroid issues, etc) there is absolutely no reason for someone to be obese. It's a lifestyle choice. Nobody should have to accept someone because they choose to be unhealthy. Nobody should have to accommodate someone because they choose to be unhealthy. People need to fix themselves and their lifestyle and their health instead of expecting everyone to cater to them because they don't want to take the steps to better themselves. Also I'm proud of you. Not for the whole losing weight thing (although that is awesome. Good for you!) But for taking the steps to better yourself and your life and being happier as a result!
Load More Replies...A friend of mine is 2m15 or 7ft. Has the same problem. We once went to a festival and he didn't buy a t-shirt because his belly-button would be on constant display. They typically only stock what they are SURE they can sell.
This is because they don't sell them quickly and it isn't profitable to carry larger sizes when they can sell sizes that won't sit in inventory.
Then buy other souvenirs, not all souvenirs come with a clothing size... It's just what it is.
Try shopping the clearance rack when you are small or Xtra small. Nada. All XL, XXL, etc ,(at least in my area). Niwvthat I'm a medium of course the clearance racks are filled with XS and XXL only... Also, souvenir shops have NEVER had my name on a magnet. It was distressing as a child. ;)
True. It always frustrates me that theme parks, for example, don't seem to notice that many of their visitors are what Disney fans call "Pooh size," so they may want to buy a tee shirt in 4XL and up. Why turn away their dollars by failing to offer even one design in larger sizes?
Not being able to find accessible path and hiking trails.
You have to bring your heavy oxygen machine with you, and you're wearing open toe sandels. Why would you want to hike?
Maybe this is an unpopular opinon, but I don't agree with this. Nature should not be modified to accomodate people. I can't climb the Everest which doesn't mean I want an elevator to get to the top.
Due to the medical conditions that develop with obesity (no one is "totally healthy even though they're obese"), I think there would be a worry that obese people would not be able to last long on paths/hiking trails and would then have to be medevac/rescued. In the picture above, OP literally has a portable oxygen tank. I would fear that she would not be able to handle a even an "accessible" hiking trail.
seriously, this whole thing is ridiculous, she's nitpicking everything, even those things that someone her size wouldn't be able to do.
Down vote me if you want but do you actually want nature to accomedate to your obese body??? Like NATURE?
With very young children and an elderly dog we often look for such trails and have never struggled to find specific ones or tailor our walks by applying common sense.
If someone needs an oxygen machine with them all the time surely hiking trails, with often difficult terrain and limited access, are not sensible options.
But in the end, the content creator says the experience makes it totally worth it
Image credits: jaebaeofficial
Viewers jumped to the comments to express overwhelming support and chime in with their own experiences
I’ll say it…I’m all for body positivity, and I am fully aware that there are, at times, legitimate health issues (mental and/or physical) that cause obesity. We have to be honest though, there must be a point at which we temper our support by also saying that it is in no way healthy and should not be celebrated for the people that fall outside there being actual medical reasoning behind the obesity. Yes, it’s a grey area, a very broad one, and it’s complicated, but we shouldn’t just throw blind support and celebration behind people without acknowledging hard truths when necessary.
Most people are just fat. No excuses. 80% of their medical problems would go away if they lost weight. (From me, an overweight person.) yes thyroid and fluid edema etc. but MOST people are not fat for those reasons. To back you up, fat and the way we treat others should not go together. Everyone should be treated with respect.
Load More Replies...Coming from an obese person, the world doesn't owe you anything just because you eat yourself into obesity.
You should write a list about traveling when being in a wheelchair! It's harder than this list and we can't do a single thing to be none disabled yet 99% of obese people can make steps to losing weight. Yes I know some people are obese because of medical reasons but the vast majority of obese people can lose weight by eating less/ eating better/ moving more. People can choose to be whatever size they want, but if they are overweight because of a none medical issue then I'm sorry I have little sympathy if they struggle with the above- when they have a way to stop it being an issue.
Thank you for commenting, I came looking for someone else recognizing that accommodations while traveling are way worse for folx with disabilities. They can't or won't accommodate for persons in wheelchairs, people who are blind or even people who are over a certain height. To accommodate the morbidly obese, before fixing other discrimination, would be a slap in the face. I wonder if this woman has ever been asked to ride in the cattle car of a train, because that's how many train networks handle a paid passenger in a wheelchair.
Load More Replies...I don't know... feel a little hesitant about this. I get tall people have similar struggles in flights, toilets, clothing, etc, but they have no choice. My brother is about 270 pounds (120 kg) and about 6'1 feet tall (1.85 mt) and he chooses to be overweight. Even got to the gym so he could eat more. What i'm going to is that, unless you have a condition, being morbidly obese by choise is not rational at all, cause you'll have to adapt to a world suited to certain sizes, not the other way around. Sorry if I sound insensitive, cause I know food can be a coping mechanism to some people struggling with trauma, but just makes no sense to me for you to became a burden to yourself. It's isn't just starving to death, takes a lot of work to get into a more healthier diet, but try to make an effort, is not near good to use oxygen just to walk around or have open scalds around your thights every time you walk. Please take care of yourself a little better, not for others, but for yourself.
The sad irony is that in order to lose weight, people need to exercise which means they need oxygen to walk around and will end up with raw, irritated thighs.
Load More Replies...I see bored panda chose to leave out the comments from tiktok that are more negative. I understand body positivity is an important movement and I fully support it! However, my only concern is when being an individual's weight gets to a number where the person's health is at a significant risk due to increased risk of heart issues and other problems.
Bored Panda seems to do that a lot lately. Very one-sided posts/threads. Like with this one, there is an actual health risk involved. Advertising that obesity is fine (when it is not) can lead to a lot of health risks/fatalities.
Load More Replies...As a former obese person, I just CANNOT get on board with this "body positivity" business, no matter how hard I try. I've been obese pretty much all my life, and I KNEW that wasn't the way it should be, that it was an unnatural state to be in. The last thing I would have ever wanted was for the rest of the world to cater to my inconveniences, because I was the one who was responsible for them, and no one else. I finally lost 42 kilos last year (only 5 to go!), and I can wholeheartedly say that I finally feel fully human now. Even when I was still obese I couldn't get on board with this positivity c**p; it feels forced, and to be honest, like a massive joke.
I lost 34 kgs about 13 years ago, and have weighed the same ever since. Simply a matter of counting calories. It really does make you feel better about yourself.
Load More Replies...As an engineer we learn to solve for the 80%. Often times it’s impossible to solve for 100% of the problems. Air planes for example. What’s more important, passenger comfort, or passenger safety? If we start making aisles and seats and bathrooms larger, we have to make the entire plane larger, which means more fuel/fuel consumption. It means larger planes overall. I’m not an aerospace engineer but that sounds like a lot of problems to solve for a smaller population. Not to mention the economics of replacing an entire fleet of planes for the sake of comfort. I’m all for body positivity, but I’m also for people advocating for themselves. If you know you are afraid to fly, or it’s uncomfortable, find an alternative. Don’t wait in the world to solve your problems for you.
As someone who gained 3* her weight due to antidepressants and antipsychotics the comments on this posts are disheartening. I walk 8500-9500 steps per day, workout 30 minutes per day. Work full-time, have a family that needs my care and attention, plus volunteer work, I don't see what more I can do to not gain weight. Stopping my medication? The weight will melt from my body, but I would loose my family, my job, my drivers license, probably go psychotic or become so suicidal that I truly end life. With my medication I stay what is generally called "normal".
Yuki, don't stop your medication. You're doing fine and all you can do. Please don't take the nasty comments to heart. HUGS.
Load More Replies...My response to a lot of these is along the lines of "yeah, I guess that sucks for you, but what exactly do you expect anyone to do about it?" There's not a lot of room on planes due to, well, the size of planes. Clothing manufacturers/retailers shouldn't be expected to produce/stock clothes for every conceivable body size or shape - from a practical and economic standpoint it makes no sense. I'm tall - not freakishly, but enough that I'm an outlier - and have trouble finding clothes that fit, public transport is awkward, sinks and countertops are all too low causing me chronic back ache from bending down, I am prone to hitting my head on things, but I don't expect the entire world to reconfigure itself to accommodate me - there's a point where making stuff fit *me* better means it'll fit the majority of people worse. If you're overweight and it's causing you difficulties, maybe don't blame the world, maybe consider losing weight instead? At least you have that option.
I’ll say it…I’m all for body positivity, and I am fully aware that there are, at times, legitimate health issues (mental and/or physical) that cause obesity. We have to be honest though, there must be a point at which we temper our support by also saying that it is in no way healthy and should not be celebrated for the people that fall outside there being actual medical reasoning behind the obesity. Yes, it’s a grey area, a very broad one, and it’s complicated, but we shouldn’t just throw blind support and celebration behind people without acknowledging hard truths when necessary.
Most people are just fat. No excuses. 80% of their medical problems would go away if they lost weight. (From me, an overweight person.) yes thyroid and fluid edema etc. but MOST people are not fat for those reasons. To back you up, fat and the way we treat others should not go together. Everyone should be treated with respect.
Load More Replies...Coming from an obese person, the world doesn't owe you anything just because you eat yourself into obesity.
You should write a list about traveling when being in a wheelchair! It's harder than this list and we can't do a single thing to be none disabled yet 99% of obese people can make steps to losing weight. Yes I know some people are obese because of medical reasons but the vast majority of obese people can lose weight by eating less/ eating better/ moving more. People can choose to be whatever size they want, but if they are overweight because of a none medical issue then I'm sorry I have little sympathy if they struggle with the above- when they have a way to stop it being an issue.
Thank you for commenting, I came looking for someone else recognizing that accommodations while traveling are way worse for folx with disabilities. They can't or won't accommodate for persons in wheelchairs, people who are blind or even people who are over a certain height. To accommodate the morbidly obese, before fixing other discrimination, would be a slap in the face. I wonder if this woman has ever been asked to ride in the cattle car of a train, because that's how many train networks handle a paid passenger in a wheelchair.
Load More Replies...I don't know... feel a little hesitant about this. I get tall people have similar struggles in flights, toilets, clothing, etc, but they have no choice. My brother is about 270 pounds (120 kg) and about 6'1 feet tall (1.85 mt) and he chooses to be overweight. Even got to the gym so he could eat more. What i'm going to is that, unless you have a condition, being morbidly obese by choise is not rational at all, cause you'll have to adapt to a world suited to certain sizes, not the other way around. Sorry if I sound insensitive, cause I know food can be a coping mechanism to some people struggling with trauma, but just makes no sense to me for you to became a burden to yourself. It's isn't just starving to death, takes a lot of work to get into a more healthier diet, but try to make an effort, is not near good to use oxygen just to walk around or have open scalds around your thights every time you walk. Please take care of yourself a little better, not for others, but for yourself.
The sad irony is that in order to lose weight, people need to exercise which means they need oxygen to walk around and will end up with raw, irritated thighs.
Load More Replies...I see bored panda chose to leave out the comments from tiktok that are more negative. I understand body positivity is an important movement and I fully support it! However, my only concern is when being an individual's weight gets to a number where the person's health is at a significant risk due to increased risk of heart issues and other problems.
Bored Panda seems to do that a lot lately. Very one-sided posts/threads. Like with this one, there is an actual health risk involved. Advertising that obesity is fine (when it is not) can lead to a lot of health risks/fatalities.
Load More Replies...As a former obese person, I just CANNOT get on board with this "body positivity" business, no matter how hard I try. I've been obese pretty much all my life, and I KNEW that wasn't the way it should be, that it was an unnatural state to be in. The last thing I would have ever wanted was for the rest of the world to cater to my inconveniences, because I was the one who was responsible for them, and no one else. I finally lost 42 kilos last year (only 5 to go!), and I can wholeheartedly say that I finally feel fully human now. Even when I was still obese I couldn't get on board with this positivity c**p; it feels forced, and to be honest, like a massive joke.
I lost 34 kgs about 13 years ago, and have weighed the same ever since. Simply a matter of counting calories. It really does make you feel better about yourself.
Load More Replies...As an engineer we learn to solve for the 80%. Often times it’s impossible to solve for 100% of the problems. Air planes for example. What’s more important, passenger comfort, or passenger safety? If we start making aisles and seats and bathrooms larger, we have to make the entire plane larger, which means more fuel/fuel consumption. It means larger planes overall. I’m not an aerospace engineer but that sounds like a lot of problems to solve for a smaller population. Not to mention the economics of replacing an entire fleet of planes for the sake of comfort. I’m all for body positivity, but I’m also for people advocating for themselves. If you know you are afraid to fly, or it’s uncomfortable, find an alternative. Don’t wait in the world to solve your problems for you.
As someone who gained 3* her weight due to antidepressants and antipsychotics the comments on this posts are disheartening. I walk 8500-9500 steps per day, workout 30 minutes per day. Work full-time, have a family that needs my care and attention, plus volunteer work, I don't see what more I can do to not gain weight. Stopping my medication? The weight will melt from my body, but I would loose my family, my job, my drivers license, probably go psychotic or become so suicidal that I truly end life. With my medication I stay what is generally called "normal".
Yuki, don't stop your medication. You're doing fine and all you can do. Please don't take the nasty comments to heart. HUGS.
Load More Replies...My response to a lot of these is along the lines of "yeah, I guess that sucks for you, but what exactly do you expect anyone to do about it?" There's not a lot of room on planes due to, well, the size of planes. Clothing manufacturers/retailers shouldn't be expected to produce/stock clothes for every conceivable body size or shape - from a practical and economic standpoint it makes no sense. I'm tall - not freakishly, but enough that I'm an outlier - and have trouble finding clothes that fit, public transport is awkward, sinks and countertops are all too low causing me chronic back ache from bending down, I am prone to hitting my head on things, but I don't expect the entire world to reconfigure itself to accommodate me - there's a point where making stuff fit *me* better means it'll fit the majority of people worse. If you're overweight and it's causing you difficulties, maybe don't blame the world, maybe consider losing weight instead? At least you have that option.










