Groom Returns The Dress His Ex-Wife Got His Daughter For The Wedding, Major Drama Ensues

He could have avoided any drama by just taking his daughter shopping and letting her choose what she wants to wear. The white dress could stay in its box or potentially be used for a debutante ball or homecoming formal depending on where they live. The ex wife doesn't need to know any more about it until post wedding photos show up, she can scream all she likes then and get exactly nowhere fast.

The thing about showing up to a wedding in inappropriate clothes is that some deluded people think, "Haha! I am sticking it to the bride! She's going to feel sooooo upset!" But what also happens is that everyone side-eyes, gossips about, and generally sneers at the person inappropriately attired. If that person comes out of their revenge fog long enough to notice, they are shocked (!) that no-one is inspired, Spartacus-style, by the 'bravery.' They are offended, surprised, and confused that people are disgusted. Now, here, the ex was trying to use her daughter as a proxy and would have invited all of that shame and disgust onto her poor daughter (who was, thankfully, saavy to her mom's attempted insult). Setting your kid up for that sort of public ridicule makes you a gross person and a bad mom.

Pretty annoying some of the comments on ops post has such an issue with age. Within certain limits, there's plenty of couples ten, twenty years apart. Mine were 16 years apart, had me, we're perfectly happy. As long as they're not like.. a child. Like a teenager. Then.. what. What's the problem. Also, these same people seem to not know wedding etiquette. You don't wear white to someone else's wedding, much less something akin to a full blown wedding dress. The hell are these people thinking? On top of it all, as much as everyone is saying "Oh poor daughter, oh poor Miranda", nobody seems to care that she formed her own opinion and agreed it should be sent back. She's 17, not 12. I'm pretty sure she's able to form her own thoughts at this point. Another thing, how is it so impossible for a father to know what his daughters style is? She's with him often enough I assume, a parent who actually pays attention to their child would see what she wears on her own?

I'd honestly document all of this and bring it to my attorney to sue for full custody. That woman is unfit to be a mother if she's ok weaponizing her daughter for her own petty jealousy.

At first I judged the age difference then I realised I've fancied a guy thats 26 years older than and I currently like someone 11 years older

This is so ridicolous. Sometimes I wonder if most AITA posts are just fabrications. You are senidng a white ball gown to your daughter to wear t the wedding of your ex-husband? Who whould do something like that and not realoize how batsh1t crazy this looks. Not to mention risking severyl damaging the relationship with your daughter by weaponizing her and making her look like a complete fool.

Why is BP censoring the word "p**n"? As in, from a game of chess? Or are the Reddit users misspelling it?

Ex wife is clearly using her own daughter as a p@wn in her little game with her ex husband. That in itself is so utterly wrong - stitching her up, ignoring her feelings, putting her in a really awkward position. If I were "Miranda" I'd be moving in with Dad and would be bloody fuming with my Mother.

Well, it appears there's a good reason Miranda's mom is an ex. She's a controlling, entitled double boobied screaming a*****e. Dad needs to tell daughter she needs to tell her mom she doesn't like the dress and has no intention of wearing it..period. Dad and fiancee can take her shopping for an appropriate dress. Ex can go pound sand as she has no place in the wedding and needs to get over herself. Maybe Miranda might have considered saving the dress to wear at her own wedding or dying it to wear at Prom but mom's nutso reaction and questionable decisions made that impossible. Sorry kiddo but your mom's wrong on so many levels.

Miranda would look like the a** if she wore a white gown to your wedding, not your bride. Why would the ex humiliate her own daughter??

Tell ex your daughter wants the dress back but don't let her wear it to the wedding.

I really think that the nutty ex is trying to make a statement with that white dress for a 17 year old to wear at her father's wedding to a *younger* woman...it's gross and she needs to let the ex go. I see this as her saying "Oh, so you like them young? How about your daughter? She's only ten years younger than your wife."

Does ex have the power to keep Miranda away? If not, tell Miranda she is welocme, you want her their but it's her choice. Do not have ANY family member help her shop as this could be seen as forcing a preference.Let Miaranda take any trusted non-relative with er. YOU have the right of refusal but other wise it's totally Miranda's choice.

There were 26 years between my aunt and uncle. They were married almost 40 years. Let it be

Shes the ex. Quit talking to her. Quit listening to her. Your wedding and your fiance's wedding. Do what you guys want to do. Your ex can push off. Unless you're the bride, only weirdos wear a wedding dress to a wedding. Your daughter didn't want to. Your ex is an oddball.

I would keep a record of everything your ex does. Especially video/audio. Judges don't like games

NTA, ex is TA, we are gonna ignore the age difference, I’ve seen worse.

Ex is OBVIOUSLY the AH for getting her daughter a white wedding gown to wear to her father's wedding. However he KNEW that sending that dress back would cause drama and yet he did it anyway! Now his daughter suffers because she's not allowed to go to her own father's wedding! WHY couldn't he have just quietly bought another dress for her, not sent the other dress back, and not said sh*t to his ex about it; and enjoyed his wedding day, without the extra drama? Really he should just get back together with his ex. They both clearly thrive on the drama and the back and forth, tit-for-tat relationship they share. But wait until the daughter is out on her own, because she doesn't need more of that toxic sh*t in her life!

NTA coming from a women in your situation. I'm the second wife. The minute you got engaged things changed, your not pining away for her anymore. She is going to constantly ruffle your feathers. The point is she is looking for your reaction. Just smile and ignore her. I would have purchased a separate dress for your daughter to wear and sent the white one back after the wedding, or not at all. Your ex is going to continue to antagonize you no matter what. The one thing you have on your side is your daughter is 17. This jealousy and insecurity is going to continue. The best case is don't react. This advice is coming from me who is the second wife with my husband's first wife is a wack.

She's probably mad because OP is marrying someone borderline young enough to be his older daughter..

Why didn't anyone give the daughter money and let her buy her own d*MN dress?!?!

I avoid weddings with a passion. If I could have not attended my own I'd have been fine with it, yet even I know you don't wear white at someone else's wedding. Not so much because of the bride, there may be brides out there that don't care, I wouldn't know. However, this being a very established custom, I'd think the 17yo herself would be miserable looking like a wedding impostor. Who does that to their daughter?

All these Reddit comment hobgoblins fidgeting with their charity/cause wristbands, with thinly veiled calling him a p@3d0 because he was 40 and she was 24. Then the chardonnay harpies clutching at their seashell/beaded necklaces start inventing the lies the OP left out because he's a Man. Untrustworthy he callously omitted the most salient points that he clearly cheated on his ex and is afraid that if his daughter wears a gown, his wrong-love of her will be revealed. Bet half of them think he'll approach his new and easily manipulated jailbait wife and newly of age daughter for a threesome, sometime in the future. The anti commenters in this thread are sick. Broken people will die alone or kill their family with their "love".

Stuff that dress in the bathtub with loads of fabric dye in a color that coordinates with the color theme of the wedding. Problem solved! Daughter wears the dress cray-cray ex bought and daughter is not weirdly awkward at the wedding. Ex will freak but apparently that's already a "thing". At least it's obvious why _that_ relationship crashed & burned already.

I skipped straight to comments as soon as I saw the age gap. The man cheated on his wife, divorced her, and married a child. Of course she sent a white dress for her daughter. What do you expect 😂

Yeah that age gap was the only thing I could think about through that. Very not okay imo

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I'm trying to see his ex as the crazy woman he's obviously painting her as, but I'd be creeped out if my ex husband was marrying a girl closer to his daughter's than his own age too.

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