Man Doesn’t Want To Pay This Babysitter, So She Shares Their Private Conversation In A Shaming Group

I had a friend (we are no longer friends by the way) who wanted a necklace I made for free so she could show it off at a party. She said it was good exposure and a lot of her clients would most likely ask her where she got it from and so forth. Well, three days later I found out she was in need of money and sold the necklace I made for $300. My husband told me to take her to small claims court but I knew it wasn't going to go my way because I did gift it to her. What I did do was put her on full blast at a dinner party and ended our friendship. This might seem petty but I worked hard on the necklace and for her to do something like that really hurted me. I am not as trusting as I use to be either.

Neither of them are your friends. Give yourself a gift and drop them like the bags of dirt that they are. This was so outrageous I thought it was fake. I honestly don't know how anyone could have balls that big and still manage to walk around.

No need to even engage sociopaths. Just ignore them completely. Time to put that bag down and walk away. Forget you ever met them and spent zero time even thinking about them. done means...done. move on and smile.

I need follow-up. I need to know if OP showed her friend this guy's whole convo, about wanting OP to paint a full family portrait AND watch their kids for free. Wondering what OP's friend would think about that?

How is it the artists/ babysitters fault if they coulnd'nt find a babysitter? If he wouldn't have been such a jerk, he would have one. It would have served him right if he lost his job over it.

this, fellow humans, is what is known as a Narcissist. You can NOT change them. They will be mean as hell, but as fragile as a snowflake. They throw MAJOR tantrums if they don't get what they want. If you like drama, feeling you're not good enough, and having to sacrifice everything about yourself - have one of these people in your life. If not.... RUN AWAY FROM PEOPLE LIKE THIS MAN!!!! Because there is NO changing them.

The conversation feels like there are missing pieces ..also, skip posting it online and go right to small claims court if they are not paying you. Why do people think posting stuff to reddit is going to solve their problems

I think this dude needs to grow a pair. I’m a 62 year old grandma and I’d have slapped that a*****e down after the second idiotic comment he made, the first would have been for “my friend” his wife. BTW, it looks like “your friend”, and her p**s poor excuse for a husband and a human, have been using you for some time by the looks of the after comments you’ve made. She never bothered to even call and get your side of the story? She knows damn well what he’s all about and still sides with him. Dump both of them, they’re the losers. SMH & laughing. This dude has all the gall of a classic text book narcissist, and like most narcissists his wife is well trained.

Oh. My Goodness. I have no words... how could someone be like that?!

End the friendship. It's not worth it. He's an a*s and she's clearly a pushover to him. It may implode one day but you will be far out of the range of that toxicity

What an entitled a*****e.

Quirky thing about gifts---the person GIVING them determines what she wants ,once it is something you are being TOLD to do, It's no long a gift but a demand. A barter deal is different. She NEVER said that she's available for every favor they needed from her. What kind of favors are given back in return? is it just one sided?

The first thing she should have done is called, not texted or emailed, her friend to let her friend know what the a*****e husband was doing, and demand payment. I would hope the second thing anyone would do is inform them they no longer have a babysitter.

I hope she showed this to the wife and demanded her babysitting payment.

To me, it sounds as though the man has a problem with addiction, either drugs or gambling that he is desperately trying to keep hidden from his wife. That is why he says he will spend such an outrageous amount on presents, and why he turns nasty when the plan to get a painting for free does not pan out the way he wanted it to. Of course, to everybody else, he would have claimed to have spent X amount of (lots of) money on it. If you were to warn your friend, there is a pretty large possibility that she won't believe it.

What. A. Total. Wanker. Another of those nasty selfish bastards who think that 'exposure' is a real thing and you can live off it. and as for the babysitting thing, well you ejacuated them mate, you take care of 'em. I'd try explaining to the friend, show her the messages and if she still sides with him, well, byeee!

Their kids are not your responsibility period! Tell them both to p**s off.

Oh, I'd have messaged this almost-a-sister friend and said he'd fired me. I'd offer proof if she asked. He is really a dreck.

The most degrading comment he makes to her is that, she isn’t thinking straight. She needs to let her friend know what type of man she is married to and let her know that if the two of you are to remain friends, she will have to set the record straight with her husband and have him apologize immediately!! Add some groveling in there too while you are at it. IF the best friend sticks up for her husband, you will know then where you stand in the friendship, and that is she does not respect you nor the friendship and let her know that the two of you can no longer be friends. If she asks why, let her know that a true friend would stick up for the friendship and not allow their husband to treat them like that. This way the end will be definite and you will have the opportunity to cut ties cleanly. I know that is not a popular opinion, but I find that when people are friends, it’s best to handle it in a mature manner.

I would find out where he works and go there saying "Oh..I was promised free stuff by (insert name of A**hole.) He said it shouldn't be a problem because you have a bunch of it just laying around..it's already there..so it's not like you're losing anything." And if his bosses flip out, explain that you are willing to post their generosity on social media and give them some exposure...after all (insert name of A**hole) said I should do the same for him when he suggested I paint a picture of his family for free with some of the materials I have "just laying around." Maybe his bosses can explain to him how commerce works.

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These people are toxic. Don't let them poison you. If you need a good listener, get a dog. I suggest a Rottweiler.

Nothing extraordinary here. Dude is simply a bad person with seriously f****d up mindset and lack of moral compass. That kind of people in different circumstances are very dangerous to others. That's science.

Maybe he should spend the 5000 on the babysitter ant painting instead of gifts. How does he even spend so much on gifts? Are they all getting an iPhone x for gods sake? I can't even imagine spending that much!

What an arrogant gasbag.

This seems like a staged meme.

This really seems like a doctored one sided conversation for self promotion.

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I am seriously beginning to not believe these call out texts anymore, especially when the topic is artist exposure. Seems like faking some texts and making them go viral could even be a ploy creating their own exposure. Click bait. The internet exists and I can't imagine people are still texting like this with the flood of these kinds of exchanges online.