People Who Regret Their Original Plan Of Being Nice And Working Really Hard Share When It Hit Them (30 Tweets)

Dude just described my entire employed life. Self employed now and never going back. It's less secure but so much better in every other way.

And take all the credit.

Nobody on their death bed says "I wish I'd worked more"

Agreed!

I hear similar sentiments that my younger brothers' work mates have shared with him: they're afraid to take time off as it will damage their rep with the boss and affect the amount of over time they will be able to work to pay for the things in their life they can ill afford and have no time to enjoy. [They're in Canada. My brother's been with the company 20 years and now has the right to a month's annual leave...]

This is the worst one to me for some reason. Your monthly pay shouldn’t be confused for a weekly pay. Half of these things wouldn’t be a problem if minimum wage was a normal, decent wage. Like at least $20. Imagine trying to live on less than that. There’s just no way. Not even if you’re single.

Yup. It's not about hard work, or even being talented. It's about who you know and where you come from.

What an awful teacher...

This! The last corporate job I had, my manager said she thought I could do more and take on more responsibility but for no pay increase all because I was doing a good job. I was contracted to work part time hours but kept creeping closer and closer to full time hours which resulted in me being stressed and had a full blown panic attack. The head of our department was surprised when I handed in my notice. Never ever give up more of your time for no pay.

Sandberg made that s**t up. When people actually looked at the data, it turns out that while men are rewarded for asking for raises, women are more likely to be punished - forget being given the raise she asks for, she might get fired for asking!

That shows just how little managers care about their employees, they just care about lining their pockets, and exploiting their workers to do it.

This takes messed up to a new level

That stings! Something similar has happened to me a number of times... I have issues with unfairness.

My wife went through that a few times, especially for county and state jobs. Apparently they prefer to hire morons for those positions.

Yep, this is supported by research. https://www.forbes.com/sites/victorlipman/2013/04/25/the-disturbing-link-between-psychopathy-and-leadership/

WTF? Shame on them

Name and shame please. Plagiarism in academia is unforgivable. We need to know who this person is so we never cite them.

And the men had permanent contracts?

That’s so sad😢😢

This one doesn't really fit....being nice and working hard has never been the formula we use for relationships. It sucks for poor Ben definitely, but it doesn't really belong on the list.

Free work for a business about to go under? That's why they sent 18YO in suicide attacks to face the machine guns in WWI. Too young to know better.

Good. I hope you got a better one, although I am not optimistic about it. The way many women are treated in the workplace is a blight on our societies.

This really is the hallmark of crappy corporate HR.

Exactly this! This is part of why I wasn’t really ever able to advance a career. I literally had to make my own businesses to solve this paradox.

Y'all are missing the point. This is nepotism. Not only did they place their friends in management positions, they poured salt in the wound by having a server (who could have done the job and probably deserved it) train them.

At 18,I was told I couldn’t work in a pet food store in the UK because I was going to get married and have children and that was not in their work ethic . I was too dumbstruck and naive to report them.

I was told I couldn't be given a good review because policy would have required them to give me a raise they hadn't budgeted for.

Samantha, you're a c**t.

Interesting Twitter handle... There definitely is a gender bias in the working world: males and females ARE treated differently in every field/profession/occupation, whether private or public. The OP now has the perspective from both PsOV.

Networking is the way to advancement today... in the old days it was schmoozing. If you aren't part of the "inner circle", you will not be rewarded. Many organisations, businesses and political entities are based on nepotism.

The effort and stress that goes into masking needs to be more widely known.

Try find acting roles in other countries or areas, make online content, etc. to get known. Just some ideas.

Don't do it anymore. If they ask you why you aren't doing that anymore, tell them you've started having a life.

They can only use you as a doormat if you lie there in the doorway. Unfortunately there are always people that will do whatever they can to keep you down there.

That is constructive dismissal, take it to a labour lawyer.

That should not be possible (though I know it is a reality for many persons and families): unfortunately the work, benefits and pension systems are set up in such a way that people have to work long hours or multiple jobs to (try to) get by. [In my vision of a future, utopian world, I see safe, clean and comfortable housing; enough clean water and nutritious food; basic free health care and education; affordable and subsidised public transport and fairly paid employment for everyone regardless of gender, age etc. everywhere on this planet. A basic, decent human level of existence for all].

I think every person can remember something like this from teen or adult years. It’s happened to me too, and at the time I accepted it like it was just normal.

Tip 1. Take a bit longer to reply to email than you want to. Tip 2. Never take a decision without asking your immediate line manager. It makes them feel important. Tip 3. Turn off your phone after 7pm and leave a voice note saying "Unfortunately I do not take calls after office hours, please send a text if there is anything urgent." Tip 4. Discuss Tip3 with your manager so he knows you don't tolerate it. Tip5. Never answer email on a weekend. If you see an urgent email, use text to answer it. That means you train them to not email you. Once that training is done, get them used to slow text replies over a weekend. Tip6. If they phone at an inappropriate time, say "Sorry just busy having an intimate moment with my partner can you call back in an hour". They will stop.

correct. You just get more peoples' work dumped on you. The only time initiative pays off is if you are the CEO or a salesperson.

which restaurant in which city please?

Bizarre. Sounds like a very insecure person. Start sending them links to therapy groups.

Sad but true.

Huh?

I don't think there's anything wrong with "making a little noise" to be heard when others overlook or disregard you for promotions, raises, etc. Standing up for yourself is an important life lesson to learn... and if your efforts fail, at least you can be proud of yourself for having been true to yourself.