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However close we are to our loved ones, some things we still keep only to ourselves. Dr. Michael Slepian, an expert on the psychology of secrets, says that keeping secrets is a universal thing – we all do it. We keep secrets about ourselves and about the people we know, and it's all about what it means to live in a community.

But secrets also come with a lot of anxiety and isolation. Confessing, even if anonymously, can give the keeper a great deal of relief. That's why these two threads got as many comments as they did – people were rushing to share their burdens with strangers. Folks had some disturbing secrets they wanted to get off their chests, and others confessed what they would never tell their significant other. Curious to know what secrets they were? Scroll down and see for yourself!

Bored Panda reached out to one of the Redditors who posed this question about secrets on the Ask Reddit community. Check out our short conversation with the user u/Waltef_j below!

#1

"I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets My husband passed away a few years ago. I tell everyone how much I loved him and only talk about the good times we had and how great he was. In honesty I hated him for every bit of the 33 years we were together. He was so mean to me, both physicaly and mentally-every single day. He hid it well and in front of anyone he was okay to me but when we were alone he was terrible. I hated him so much I live alone now and am just finding myself. I moved to a different state and have made new friends and everyone seems to really like me and I even like myself now too. It's been really hard to tell myself that I am okay. I have never said any of this out loud. I feel bad that I am happy he is gone.

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Mela (qu33nwh0)
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes it's hard to see how bad it really is while we're in the thick of it. You're gonna have an amazing adventure finding who you are 💗

Simon T
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The person who wrote that probably won’t see ur comment

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setsuriseikou
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See? You're not happy he's dead, you're happy he's gone. And that's an absolutely and totally valid reason to be happy. Take your time, find yourself, be with people you're happy to be with. You matter, you're enough, and you're precious.

SkippityBoppityBoo
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1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ernie N, will you please stop saying that they won't see your response? It's often not even about responding to the person who wrote the original post, it's about relating to the situation... Opening up and talking about it... Sometimes people are talking about something for the very first time and don't need any discouraging remark made towards them when they're showing Absolute Bravery just by talking about it.

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censorshipsucks
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yep when I got my divorce it felt like someone had taken a millstone off my neck.

arthbach
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please, if you are in a situation like this, you do not have to maintain the lie. You can be honest. You don't have to go into all the details, but you can say things like, "Yes, he was kind and considerate, when we were in public." and leave it at that. Another is "Every marriage has it good parts and bad. All of our good parts were seen by others."This sends the message that whilst the dead partner presented one side of their personality, there was another side not seen by many.

vicmoo2024
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was in a similar situation and in response I always would say "Well its one time to be with friends with a person l, it's a whole other to be married to them" I feel it serves a similar purpose.

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Deborah B
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish you'd left him right at the start. No one should be trapped with someone who's mean to them.

Weronika
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. My mother had such a glowup after she divorced my abusive father. I wish she did that sooner, but she needed a lot of time to realize that it's the way to go.

Almost sunny
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He sounds like my step dad, and I am looking forward to his departure.

James Howell
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

LOOK!! LISTEN!!! Don't you for one second feel anything but relief and gratitude!! You are free from living with a monster. The Universe took care of him, and now you!! I got away, with my Momma, from a cruel monster, my dad. We never looked back. This is a gift, the gift of a life without abuse.

Sheila who?
Community Member
1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you making your own happy ending. I'm more than proud of you, I'm happy for you. When someone can fool everyone around them to that extent, but doesn't even bother with you, on the premise that you wouldn't be believed,and they are CORRECT,it's very,very, scary. Go get em ladybug. You deserve all the happy, all the love, all the puppies and kitties and birds if you want them, everything you dreamed about during your enslavement. Much love from an old Christian lady.

OnlyMe
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hated my husband too. I lasted 12 years. So f**king happy now. Single and staying that way.

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The author of this thread, u/Waltef_j, kindly agreed to answer a few of our questions. We were curious how the idea of this particular question came to the Redditor. "I was laying in my bed and was bored as always."

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"So I thought about [something] which would entertain me. Scrolling through Reddit I landed on the r/AskReddit sub and wondered what question could let people tell some interesting stories." So they landed on the one about secrets.

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    #2

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I’m terrified of going into work….not work itself, I’m a hard worker, but I despise sitting in an office full of people I barely know, constantly being ‘on’, being evaluated in person, and pretending I enjoy not being warm and safe in my cozy home. For some of us the pandemic was a blessing.

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    Lavendar rose
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I miss the pandemic. The only negative was that my son needed to be out and about and got anxiety. But, if not for him, I’d welcome another shutdown.

    censorshipsucks
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yep I loved not having to deal with people and getting paid.

    MsLou
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was one of those people who thrived during the pandemic. I was the healthiest, physically and mentally, than I had in when I worked in an office surrounded by people.

    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here. Now that I WFH I almost never call out sick. But the office burned me out so badly I needed frequent mental health days.

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    Iampenny
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Over 4 years later and I am still working from home, and I love it.

    J-Stryker666
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed! I was considered an essential worker - I work in Security - so I was required to go to work but man I do miss the social distancing and quietness...

    Yellie Quez
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I loved Covid times and never having to be anywhere. I could lose the mask I always wore in public (autism/ADD). Now that everything is back to normal, I dread going out even more. I especially hate going to my kid’s school things where I have to see other parents who have it together a lot more than me. I love supporting my son and will always be there for him, but it takes a lot of effort to be “on” and make small talk with the other parents. Now I just go but keep to myself mostly.

    Enuya
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I so miss office work. My office switched us to working from home in April 2020 and they still don't want us back in the office. I miss human contact. I miss lunch breaks. I miss seeing other people than just by sister and my bf on daily basis. Honestly, I HATED working from office... until I had to work from home and realised how inportant for my mental health was office work. I try to change a job but it's hard to find one nowadays in my area.

    Barong
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed. I missed the collaboration. Knowing what is happening in another department or with others in my group is useful. When I go to work I dress appropriately and act and feel like a professional. It’s a good feeling. Having a space that is for work only and no distractions from home life is great too. When I come home, I know I can relax, not muddled by feelings of work. My home is my resort. Working from home has some benefits, but for me it was more lonely, more distractions, less connected to the work, and no change of scenery.”.

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    Upstaged75
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The pandemic is the best thing that could have ever happened to office work! I feel exactly like the person who posted this. Since having a virtual job I almost never call out sick, while when I worked in an office I needed frequent mental health days. I'm way more productive at home too. Office culture is torture for some people!

    Farnzy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never has a comment resonated so deep with me. Guh...it's so exhausting. My weekends are basically shot because I spend all week "on" for 9-10 hours a day. It. Is. Draining.

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    #3

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets My ex-husband told me one time that he didn’t think it was wrong for a father to be sexually intimate with his daughter, as long as she was “old enough.” No one will ever know why we truly divorced, because I don’t think anyone would believe me. He started talking about children. I’d never let my daughter be his.

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    Annabel Wood
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    glad you left so that your future children were safe

    ZGutr
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    agreed! What's keeping me awake now is the questions ....where is he now...what is he doing.

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    CK
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad she's a divorcee now but I do think it might have been better if she were a widow.

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What the Kentucky Fried Fornicate?????? Um, please let your local law enforcement know he said that. He needs to be on a watchlist.

    Tamra
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is horrific. And honestly, I'm wondering if there's anything further she could have done. Police can't act on words alone, in the absence of a crime. They can't put anyone on a list without a crime also being committed. So it seems this guy is just a ticking time bomb. Awful.

    Jcusack
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is one of the most F'd up thoughts... Ew. And he said that out loud!?! Ew...

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    Deborah B
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really hope this guy never has kids.

    Kylie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He's probably hooked up with someone who already has kids.

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    Sue Denham
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I congratulate you on having the sense to get out.

    María Hermida
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are a wonderful human being and a wonderful mother. Soooo many idiots would have stayed and find excuses! "Oh, yes, he's a potential pederast but I love him so much!" Some people make me sick. I'd have reported him, though. These bastards seldom stop, unless they are forced to.

    Tobias Reaper
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    what in the sweet home Alabama did i just read

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    "I was very surprised by the reactions," the Redditor tells us. "I never thought it would get that big. It's really shocking to read what some people have/had to deal with in their life." However, the user also feels happy that they could provide a place for people to get their secrets off their chest.

    #4

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets A few years ago one of our cats died after we had her for 14 years. We were all heartbroken and devastated by her loss. We noticed something was wrong on Thursday, took her to the vet on Friday, and she died late Sunday night. The night she died, I sent everyone to bed and I stayed up with her. She kept getting into the bathtub and lying down as opposed to a bed we had set up for her. Just before she died, she let out a horrible scream and went into convulsions. Then she just stopped breathing. I never told my spouse or kids about that last few moments. I just told them she just slipped away. I still want to cry every time I think about it. I will never tell them about that.

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    Mitchell
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a cat who died the same way. It was so upsetting. I feel you. Thanks for being with her, it was kind that she was not alone at the end.

    me myself and i READ BIO AGAIN
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    as a fellow cat owner, I cant imagine how much it would hurt. im so so so sorry for your loss.

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    María Hermida
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She chose the most comfortable place for her needs. She died next to you, surrounded by love. It was her time to go, and you could be there with her. Horrible moments, but she didn't die alone.

    Jason
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel you! My dog emergency had to be put down. Thought I was bringing to the vet for a bladder infection, put down hours later. I held her in my arms as they gave the shot. They messed up, convulsions, whining, etc. Took 3 doses. Was miserable. Lasted what seemed like hours

    Apachebathmat
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dear old cat did the same when she passed, my grown children think she passed in her sleep quietly

    Bobby Howie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You were with her though. 12 years ago, I found my Airedale dead in the morning. I got up twice as I heard him pad about through the night but the 3rd time I left him in peace. I still regret not getting up and lie beside him.

    Lantana Howell
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're a great parent and partner for this. Maybe talk to a therapist to work through it since you can't talk to your family.

    Lavendar rose
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My heart bleeds for you. I am so sorry ♥️♥️😢

    Sheila who?
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm proud of you. I still cry over the hamster I had to put to sleep with a pinch of Valium 30 years ago. Vets didn't even take hamsters back then. A neighbor child dropped it and the poor Lil guy was screaming in pain. I did it while my husband took my daughter out to get her mind off the situation. FTR, the child wasn't supposed to be handling the hamster. He snuck in her room during the birthday party.

    Violet1854
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes, it’s best not to tell the truth. I am so sorry for your loss, OP

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    #5

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I can login to the jukebox at my local bar from my apartment. I often login from home and require it to play “what does the fox say” on repeat.

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    Joe Bloe
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    1 year ago

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    He's the worst. Can people have some quiet time without an AH doing something like this?

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    Lindsey Rose
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Omfg, bwahaha..! I think I'd do baby shark or some other similar nonsense..

    PFD
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you know a jukebox that has Baby Shark on it, I think you're legally required to burn it down.

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    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When we were teenagers, right before we left the bowling alley, we'd plug in "Cotton Eyed Joe" to run 10 times over. And those things were analog, so you couldn't just use a computer to reset it. It was such a pain for management to do that they just stopped bothering. And "Cotton Eyed Joe" did eventually disappear from the offerings.

    Bill Hankel
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once or twice might be funny, but if you "often" do it as you say, not cool! My wife and I have walked out of bars because someone decided to dominate the jukebox with horrible songs ... not regular songs that are just a matter of taste, but supposedly "funny" songs with terribly sexist lyrics or ridiculous amounts of foul language. You could potentially hurt their business ... just saying.

    Robert T
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reminds me of a story on here about a guy whose wife was on a night out and he requested "Tub Thumping" in every place she visited.

    A S Mora
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is the level of chaotic mischief to which I dream to ascend.

    SkippityBoppityBoo
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To all those who are finding this funny?... Have some empathy for the workers at the bar. They can't leave whereas the customers can, the workers are forced to have to endure that... They'll lose out on tips as customers leave, it could seriously affect the business because people probably won't come back there which results in loss of revenue... Which could potentially lead to the bar closing down. It may seem like a "hilarious joke/prank" but when you start messing with peoples livelihoods? No it isn't... P.S? How do I know this? One day there was a glitch with the computer that controlled the music at the pub I was working at. It played the same song, All I Want For Christmas Is You by Mariah Carey. It went on for ages and quite a few people did get up and leave. We managed to fix it but took a hit monetary wise.

    Wendy Melissa
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We can do that here too. One of our friends constantly plays Tiny Tim's Tiptoe Through the Tulips or Elvis' Blue Christmas. So annoying but so very funny!

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you don't play the narwhal song 8 times in a row you don't have a hair on your a*s

    tuzdayschild
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I have anything to say about it, you're moving higher up in this post my friend.

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    #6

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets A few years ago I used to work at Home Depot at the returns desk. It was mostly very elderly people who worked alongside me in our store. I was the youngest in the team.

    We had a lady, Margaret, who had issues with bowel control due to her medications. She used to fart without even realizing she's farting. Usually loud but harmless ones even when she was having a normal conversation. So we got so used to her doing that, even though it was awkward in the beginning.

    One day we were having a team huddle and it started to smell like fresh manure..such a strong stench..and then one more with different flavor this time. The manager dismissed the team huddle...and one of the team members murmured "My God, Margaret, what was that!!"

    It was me. I did that Margaret, I'm sorry. 

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    Eric S.
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reminds me of this old lady who goes to see her doctor complaining about constant gas, which thankfully is super quiet and doesn't smell. Doctor says take these pills and come back in a week. Lady comes back and says I don't know what you gave me, I still fart just as much but now the stench is unbearable! Doctor says great, now we've cleared your sinuses I'm going to refer you to an excellent audiologist.

    Irishwoman abroad
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry if it looks like I downvoted you! My phone has gone mad and instead of upvites, keeps adding more downs!! Truly sorry, I liked your joke!

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    Kevin the Manager
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You concealed your fart behind the farts of a chronic farter? *APPLAUSE!*

    Alexia
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel bad for laughing so loudly :)))

    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Get this higher please I haven’t laughed this hard for ages

    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad had a coworker like that. I can only imagine how embarrassing it is for the person!

    Lotekguy
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    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people blame them on their dogs. This had more consequences than your apology here remedies.

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    "I saw that some were happy that this thread existed because it gave them a place to share their problems or traumas anonymously," they said. "And also [there] were some Redditors who offered help."

    "So it wasn't only a place where people shared their secrets, but also could get help or feel [relieved] by telling others about it," the Redditor added. "It shows that a lot of people [want] a safe space where they don't get judged for their secrets."

    #7

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets All day, every day, relapsing is all I can think about. I’ve been clean for 3 1/2 months but oh boy is it difficult. I crave the relapse. The ONLY reason I haven’t is because it would hurt my boyfriend to see me relapse.

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    Mela (qu33nwh0)
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You've got this. You're stronger than you know, trust me, I know 💗

    Stannous Flouride
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Depending on the substance it takes quite a while before your body shakes off the cravings. (Nicotine is one of the longest) But it DOES get easier. Last month marked my 35th year but if it weren't connected to my 34 y.o. daughter's conception (celebrating 3 months) I'd have lost count years ago. One day at a time.

    similarly
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I quit smoking 3 months ago. It IS hard. I smoked off and on for over 30 years.

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    Jill Rhodry
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They say 'one day at a time' - sometimes it's just one minute at a time. And do this for you, the future you, not for anyone else.

    Sue Denham
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Three and a half months is a great achievement. Keep going.

    Ge Po
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please, do it for yourself. Because you realize it would steal your relationships, your life, health and real happiness and exchange it for moments of fake pleasure, only to cast you into a deeper and even more grim reality where your body and mind are slowly being eaten away by this substance. And tell the people you love that you struggle. Be honest about it to your boyfriend and other people that are close, especially when it is hard to stay patient, kind or calm.

    arthbach
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope this person has a good, strong supportive network., and can, over time, find other reasons not to relapse, including themselves.

    Upstaged75
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But if you DO relapse please don't give up! Most addicts will slip at least once before they finally get sober. It took me 3 tries, but I finally did it. 10 years now! :)

    Leon Lacy
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    talk to another alcoholic/addict with some time in sobriety I promise WE WILL UNDERSTAND and can talk you through it. WE ALL have done it. Keep talking we WILL listen .

    Tamra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, that's a special kind of hell during recovery. Not everyone goes through it, but enough do that it's considered common. Keeping your body and mind busy and occupied can be helpful, and it's also very helpful to be connected to other people in recovery, and really be honest about what you're going through. And try not to listen to the little voice of addiction that tries to tell you how good it's going to feel if you use "just one more time". It's a lie. It's always a lie.

    Robin DJW
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hang in there, honey. It may take a while, but it does get better. You've made it through the most difficult days. One of the ___ Anon groups might be helpful. Support of people having the same struggle can really help.

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    #8

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I walk around the house and monologue. Like, a lot.

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    Surenu
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always talk to myself when I need an expert opinion

    Kylie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought this was just normal?

    Stannous Flouride
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as you keep the arguments to a minimum I see no problem.

    Robert T
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm alone in the house most of the day - who am I supposed to talk to?

    Corvus
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You'd be amazed how many people do this, myself included ;)

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    #9

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I have a good friend who is a very shy pooper. Like, we’ve been on trips together and he won’t s**t for days, he says he just can’t relax and go because he’s in public. But one time in college, about six years ago, he was super drunk and fell asleep s******g on my toilet. And the s**t got all over my toilet, not sure how but most of it did not go in the bowl. I got him up, cleaned him and the toilet up, and put him to bed. He was blackout drunk and doesn’t remember it at all. I don’t have the heart to tell him. He’d be mortified. It wouldn’t do anyone any good. But when he’s shy about pooping around me, I can’t help but chuckle at the irony.

    I-heart-diet-coke , Farhan Abas / Pexels Report

    Roger9er
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're a kind person not telling him.

    JustPanda
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are a good friend and a hero.

    Bewitched One
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reminds me of the time I was out working, delivering groceries for Walmart and all of a sudden just started feeling terrible. Went home. Pulled in at home, opened the driver door of the car, started puking. Got inside and laid down and just felt completely exhausted. Passed out in literally seconds. Well at one point I had to get up and run to bathroom cause it was starting at the other end. My finance and I had just started dating and he was worried. I was delusional at that point and couldn’t hardly keep my eyes open and fell asleep, on the toilet with my head in the trash can. Bless that man, he helped clean me up and got me back to bed and never said another word about it. I’m sure it was terrible. One of those sickly smelling ones. I knew even before then that I was gonna marry him one day, but that helped confirm it for me. 🤷🏼‍♀️

    Bewitched One
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had it not been for him I would’ve slept all night there most likely. lol and had I had any energy at all to fight him on it I definitely would’ve

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    weatherwitch
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Toilet Phobia is a real thing 🚽 You are a fantastic friend to him ❤️

    Tiilynn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The world needs more people like you.

    A S Mora
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Hi, Vatican? Yeah, get me the Pope! I wanna nominate this poster on Bored Panda for sainthood!"

    respulero
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, friend of the decade

    Laura Williams
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Admittedly it is gross but that's what you do for friends. I cleaned my friends vomit off the side of her dad's car. She always got grounded for stupid stuff. I figured she would never get out of the house again if they found out. She couldn't handle liquor.

    SobyKay
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is a better friend than I could ever be. Kudos to you!

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    #10

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets People in my personal life who find out I'm a professional domme, instantly feel free about telling me their darkest secrets.

    I know who's secretly gay, I know who's on steroids, I know who's kinky, I know who has erectile dysfunction, I know both men & women who were brutally sa'd as children, I even know someone who's k****d a guy (he wasn't boasting or bragging, he seemed really shook up about it. I might be the only one he's told)

    So, my most disturbing secret is that I'm a trauma-sponge for absorbing everyone else's disturbing secrets.

    Masked_Daisy , Cord Allman / Unsplash Report

    Katie Lutesinger
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh my god you kissed a guy?! Horrifying! (Yes, I know. That's the joke).

    Ace
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    TBH that's exactly how I read it too, given the context.

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    Insomniac
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because so much of what they do is psychological, I've often thought that it should be a health care profession, and clinical therapy programs should offer courses specifically geared toward treating trauma through Dominance. Get rid of the stigma and let it be a normalized way of seeking treatment for those it can help.

    Cold Eagle
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have to agree, it's widely helpful with certain situations and traumas, as well as often attractive to those on the spectrum due to the set rules etc. Those same elements easily cross into treatment once again.

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    Guigsy Gwiggins
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All this fluxing censorship is ridiculous. We all know what the words are just print them. And if we don’t, we try figure them out and discuss it. What is the point

    Laura Parker
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly!! I’m so sick of it! Saying someone was ‘unalived’ instead of killed or murdered is childish and ignorant. It also doesn’t make the victim any less dead!!

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    Angelshark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope the OP has a good therapist. People trauma dumping on you can be it's own form of trauma.

    Simon B
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's supposed to be unalived

    Laura Parker
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The most ignorant term I’ve ever heard! I’d better not see it added to the next edition of Webster’s dictionary either!

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    Georgia Ireland
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too, but it's because I'm a Listener. Many times in my life, people have come up to me and started spilling the beans about anything and everything. I feel for you. Good luck and blessed be.

    pelemele
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same, sometimes people I don't know at all and who I'll never see again start to tell me about their lives when I haven't asked. I just listen calmly and greet them when they're done. It's quite strange.

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    Riley Quinn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've known plenty of sex workers, and it's not at all unusual for their clients and friends to treat them like a therapist or a confessional box. People trust sex workers to keep secrets.

    Rachknits
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same when people hear I'm a therapist and you'd be surprised (or maybe not) how many people have done things far far worse than you can ever imagine

    Binny Tutera
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to be a hair stylist. You wouldn’t believe what people told me!

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    Lyoness
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A trauma sponge. Now I know what to call it.

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    #11

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I accidentally stepped barefoot into a boiling, maggot-infested raccoon corpse. It got stuck on my foot like a slipper and I tried to shake it off, something popped and got a spray of blood and s**t all over me. Then I puked on myself and stumbled home.

    Pizzasaurus-Rex , Henry Dinardo / Unsplash Report

    Roger9er
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Man, that is disgusting indeed!!🤢🤢

    ShellsBells
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I chose the wrong article to read while eating my bagel.

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    censorshipsucks
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ok that was the most disgusting thing I've read or heard about in a looong time.

    Jason
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hit a dead one in the middle of the night on my motorcycle on a dark 2 lane road going way too fast. Was picking pieces of rotten raccoon out of my motorcycle for months. Also off of me for hours.

    François Bouzigues
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Am i a bad person for laughing my head off ? The description is hilarious.

    Eroe Infinito
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reading this with MY imagination almost made me vomit.

    Littlemiss
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I laughed way too hard at this. I have stepped on many a dead thing my cat has dragged in, mice, rats, snails and slugs.

    Hphizzle
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s a story for the grandkids.

    Robert Beveridge
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Raccoon Slipper" (to the tune of Moon River)

    KariAdoresHerKats
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry but the image of that is hilarious 🤣

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    #12

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I’m an alcoholic. no one is aware of how bad it’s gotten but i’m drinking to almost blackout daily and going to work ill every single day. i still do my job fine but the second i’m off it’s all i want to do and i can’t stop myself anymore. it’s been like this for almost 2 years now what i’m doing to myself while acting completely fine to everyone disturbs me but i’m really struggling to get myself help :/.

    Lolaiero , John Matthew / Pexels Report

    Roger9er
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But please, please, do and try to get help, OP. It will kill you. Alcohol is poison.

    January Tempis
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was such a relief when my body and my a whole self started experiencing alcohol as poison. It's a magic thing that only happens when it happens.

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    ADJ
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No one is aware... in fact everybody is aware but they do not want to talk about it.

    Lew k
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My brother is going through it right now. I think I’m his head he’s hiding it well but his lies and excuses are so far fetched it borders on pathetic. Honestly I think he’s told us he had Covid about 15 times. Every time he loses a job or drops contact until someone has to go check on him. He had covid again. It’s a terrible thing. My secret is I’m not equipped to deal with it. Me and the wife just watched the pattern to it’s final conclusion with my FIL a few years ago and I don’t think I have the capacity to go through it again. We had him live with us, paid for treatment facilities multiple times as soon as he could sneak away he’d drink till he blacked out. Refused to try to get better or admit he had a problem. Ultimately he drank himself out of existence. Now watching my brother do the same thing all I feel is anger not sympathy.

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    Stannous Flouride
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope that just the act of admitting to a bunch of random strangers on the interwebs is the first step towards your recovery.

    Laughing otter
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought I hid my alcoholism vert well. After I got sober I found out that EVERYONE was aware of my drinking. They just didn’t know how to talk about it.

    Sue Denham
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please, please reach out to people who can help. You deserve a healthy life.

    Mela (qu33nwh0)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please seek help, you just need to reach out 💗

    Farah Kamal
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you find a way to stop :)

    Lew k
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Congratulations on the first step. You just admitted to having a problem. Get yourself to a meeting. You don’t even have to be fully ready to quit but start getting that support as soon as possible. Find something in life worth quitting for. Your health, your family, whatever it takes and work those steps and when you fall down get up and work then again! You got this.somewhere inside your stronger than your addiction.

    ShellsBells
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I totally agree. I know a lot of people (including myself) have the excuse of "no one knows what I'm going through," before their fist meeting. That gets proven wrong quickly. I've seen some of the strongest people stumble, but they prove they are stronger, admitting that stumble, and are proud that they are on day one again. It's scary until you realize that you are stronger. I'm embarrassed by my situation and the consequences I faced, but I will share it in an instant if I know it even has a marginal chance to help someone.

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    Kevin the Manager
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I believe the term is "functioning alcoholic." I really hope you can get some help, because there IS a road to recovery, and at some point, the "functioning" part of your experience will drop off. I agree completely with Roger9er.

    Pyla
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People know, trust me.

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    #13

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets During my worst periods of dealing with bulimia, if I had no food on hand to binge and purge, I would steal lunches from people at work or pick things out of the trash. I was never caught.
    The shame, guilt, and disgust with myself was always there, but it took intensive counseling, medication, and working with a specialist on other issues to help me to stop.

    skootch_ginalola , Artem Labunsky / Unsplash Report

    Hphizzle
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The bathrobe IN the bath water???? This makes me so uncomfortable just looking at it.

    Robert T
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Stock photo and BP couldn't possibly risk someone seeing some boobage, let alone a nipple!

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    Jonny Dio
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dealing with bulimia is a serious staff. You've already won.

    Sue Denham
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Glad you got the help you needed.

    Bec
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you for sharing. Now we know that we should even have empathy for lunch stealers. You never know what someone else is going through

    Meli Wolf
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Great that you found a way, even when it was hard and long, to get out of it! I feel you and you are not alone. I was hardcore bulimic myself, in my darkest days puking in plastic bags stored in my closet overnight when i couldn't use the toilet (shared flat) withoout noticing and lots of more disgusting stuff. And yes, been there, too with stealing and even defrauding to get money for food. This wasn't us, it was the evil addiction (that is how i see bulimia, makes to me more sense than calling it eating disorder). But we were stronger in the end!

    Sweetie Dahling
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh yeah I've done the plastic bag thing myself too. And I also think it's more of an addiction. For me it's still there but at least it's not a daily thing anymore. Really hope I can get over it at some point because it's been close to 20 years now and I'm so tired of it...

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    Violet1854
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So proud of you, human. You’ve come so far and you should be proud of yourself!!

    Lee Banks
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So very gld you made it through! I hope there are people in your life that understand, and keep you on track. Amazing job seeking help.

    Kevin the Manager
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad you are finding relief by getting help. The strength you show in admitting you have a problem, and the humility you display in letting others in to help you reveals an inner grit that I truly wish everyone could find. BRAVO!

    Watermelon
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really hope that picture is not actually you. There are so many things wrong and it only gets worse the longer you look.

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    #14

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets My family think I finished the computer science degree, but I dropped out. However I've been working in the sector for about 25 years in a row without any trouble and people (employers and colleagues) seem to think that I'm quite competent. It's not disturbing per se but for my parents it was a big deal that I finished my studies. My dad passed away three years ago without knowing. My mom is 83 and she is still proud of me and I hope things stay the same till she dies.

    DeesoSaeed , Kelly Sikkema / Unsplash Report

    Phoebe Bean
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the person is successful in the chosen career path, everything is fine. Parents were happy, so mission accomplished.

    Jason
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I dropped out of high school and was homeless when I was young. Been in tech 25 years. People that ask what school I went to are surprised. My dad always said I would be a loser and he was the cause of my homelessness. He was always about money, I make 6x what his highest paycheck ever was, but that doesn't matter. I have a family that I care about and would protect no matter what, that's what matters.

    censorshipsucks
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a friend who dropped out in first year and he's now a CTO and was a high-end developer. ICT is one of those sectors where people care less about your degree and more about can you do the job

    Paul C.
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad was a very skilled Aircraft fitter. He was self employed and companies head hunted him to be in charge of up to thirty guys for very specific contracts. He had no qualifications everything was learnt hands on from just after the war up to his passing in the early eighties. If his lack of a degree or qualification was brought up, guys would say, either he's with us or we are out. When I met them so many came up to me and said that they genuinely weren't sure who they would go to for advice.

    Riley Quinn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand the need to protect people you love from information that they have no control over and that would hurt them.

    Pyla
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My sister is a VP of a large bay area company, no college, loads of moxie and get to it kind of thinking.

    LJ Robinson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am sorry. I am glad you are doing well, but a lie is a lie. Come clean. You won't have the guilt or worry after. When you tell the truth, there's nothing left to hide. Sounds very cut and dried, but I know it isn't. Best of luck to you.

    Alexandra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she tells her mother, she may not have the guilt of keeping a secret, but she will have the guilt of seeing her mother hurt. How does that help her, especially given her mother's age? A lie is a lie, that's true, but it's often used as a reason to unburden yourself at the expense of others.

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    Robin DJW
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you! It's almost impossible to get IT work w/o a degree. I worked in IT for 20-something years before I retired, without a degree, but the time for that to be possible has long passed.

    Kate C
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband works as a visual designer for a major corporation, he is the go to guy for almost every major project and often has to turn down assignments because he has requests from so many project managers. He never lied about it, but the corporation does not know he does not have a college degree and he told me that if it came up they would probably let him go despite the fact that they hand over all of their recent grads to him for training. I have two degrees and I can tell you my husband is a lot smarter than I am, so let's stop measuring a worth and abilities by whether a person holds a degree - and firms might find themselves with some really super employees that were being overlooked.

    Kevin the Manager
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This strikes me as one item of potential guilt that can be released. If you told your mother now that you never actually graduated, what would the gain be, other than clearing your conscience? It's possible that she would be able to see that, in the end, it doesn't really matter because you are gainfully employed and (hopefully) happy. I could see a scenario in which you both have a good laugh about how you successfully "got one over" on literally everybody, but if you're positive it would just cause her unpleasantness, do what Elsa did, and "Let It Go."

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    #15

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets When we first met he made me promise “if I ever gain too much weight you have to tell me to hit the gym.” We laughed about it but that was almost 5 years ago, and now he has gotten pretty overweight and I don’t know if I’m supposed to keep my promise or just let him choose his own path with his weight. I’m still attracted to him and love him more than ever, but I want him to be healthy…

    Hot-Neck-9524 , Towfiqu barbhuiya / Unsplash Report

    Northlander72
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, if he made you promise, your should uphold that promise.

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    Sue Denham
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That last sentence - that's exactly what you should tell him.

    Deborah B
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about saying "Time for both of us to hit the gym?" Or take up hiking, or dance, or cycling. Take up something active together. You'll both be healthier, and it can be something fun you share, not you telling him he's fat.

    Moomin from Denmark
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hit the gym together. make sweet looove afterwards, - and he will be happy.

    Hphizzle
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bring it up as a “how are you feeling?” type of question. If good, leave it alone. If not great , suggest working out together.

    Aliaksadr Lukauski
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Its not about attractiveness, its dangerous

    Corvus
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Promises should be kept.

    René Sauer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Better: Suggest you go together. So it doesn´t look like you are shaming him.

    Esme J.
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or say “I’m going to the gym, come with me?”

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    #16

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I never had a gf but told everyone I did have one and that she broke up with me. I was so good at lying about it that I myself believed my lie and somehow I felt really sad and depressed. Than I even remembered memories I never had and afterwards I was like wtf am I doing.

    To_know0402 , Josh Willink / Pexels Report

    One Linus
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We all tell ourselves stories

    Daddy’s Girl
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes we comfort ourselves in very strange ways. Life can be difficult.

    SobyKay
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one is a new kind of sad I can relate to. I too used to disengage from reality as a child, I had whole storylines and characters made up that affected my emotions greatly, like it was all real :(

    Kare Deter
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I did too but my 'fantasy life' was much more desirable than the abusive hell I endured as a child. Interestingly enough, that 'fantasy' disappeared the day I left home. I had no support so I invented my own for coping.

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    megasmacky
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My lingerie model girlfriend and I feel really bad for you.

    Alexandra Nara
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    our primal brainparts can't differ between reality and fiction,so if you repeat a story often, it becomes more real each time. When the memorypath is digged in, it's reality for our mindmachine

    Kieran N
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i did this when i was 11 and i'm pretty sure everyone knew i was lying but no one told me they knew i was lying 😅 i am 24 and still just as lonely lol

    Riley Quinn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're not the first person who has told the same lie so many times that you actually believe it. If this persists, you might want to talk to a professional to learn why and how to break this habit.

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    #17

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets As a teen, I caught my parents' house on fire playing with pyrotechnics in the garage and then staged it to look like an electrical fire so i wouldn't get in trouble. I was regarded as the hero who put the fire out before it consumed the house (I was home alone at the time), but really, I was the cause. They had all of the electrical redone in the house as a precaution against another fire... I never came clean.

    Spencetron , Simon Berger / Pexels Report

    censorshipsucks
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    did you learn to not f**k around with pyrotechnics as a result, or did you learn how to f**k around with them without causing harm? If so, lesson learnt, no harm done.

    PFD
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of my teachers set fire to the living room as a kid. Like a serious fire. Lied to everyone about what happened. Forgot having done so. Decades later brought it up as a funny memory at a family dinner ("remember when I set fire to the curtains?"). Room fell silent: it turned out they'd blamed his older sister, a smoker, and she'd spent 10 years paying off the vast repair bill.

    Michael Danhauer
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You should think about therapy... People don't usually let their lies cost others thousands of dollars...

    JB
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fun fact: if you are a child setting fires, you are unlikely to die in a fire you set. Your little brother or your little sister, however, is far more likely to die in a fire you set.

    JB
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did I say "fun fact?" I meant devastating.... Devastating fact.

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    Riley Quinn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I think I'd take this one to the grave. My brother wasn't so lucky when he started one of our fields on fire. We tried to put the fire out while my parents were at work, but the fire tower saw the smoke and radioed it in. No dessert or TV that night for any of us.

    Vylnce NA
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You definitely went the more difficult route. I simply got the paint out of the attic and repainted the ceiling area I set on fire. Cleaned up put everything away. My parents noticed a "paint smell" in the garage for a few days. After that, I was home free.

    TalontShow
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm kinda impressed the fire marshall didn't catch on to this charade lol

    Rachel Pelz
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wasn't there a criminal investigation about the cause of the fire? If so, chapeau. You fooled specialists then.

    Upstaged75
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I once broke a window and blamed it on the neighbor's kids. :) My parents still have no idea. (It happened in the 80's)

    Pyla
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    they raised a douche canoe

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    #18

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets My best friend is actually his uncle's kid. Apparently he confessed to it on his death bed. The mum won't admit anything and he can't talk to anyone else in the fam about it.

    _TLDR_Swinton , Kamaji Ogino / Pexels Report

    Insomniac
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am really hoping by uncle he's means Dad's brother, not Mum's brother.....

    Susie Elle
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And for the sake of it, I hope it was consensual and not forced

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    DadManBlues
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If he wants drama, surprise the fam with DNA tests.

    Riley Quinn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Family. What can be said about these people that hasn't been said, written about, or put on celluloid throughout history. Whoa, just showed my age. It's not celluloid. It's all digital.

    Invisible Potato
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    who is whoms kid? i need a bigger papers and new set of crayons to figure this

    Ashlie Dearest
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, brother and sister had a child? 🤨🤮

    Angela C
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or mom slept with dad's brother, which is the way less creepy option

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    #19

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I have a serious skin picking problem. I can just sit for hours straight in front of a mirror and inspect every pore on my face/chest/hands. It's gotten so bad that i have little scars all over my face. But i literally cant stop doing it.

    skrozokejpekara , Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels Report

    Insomniac
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's related to anxiety and OCD. There are medications that can help ease the compulsions.

    Marie Dahme
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dermotilomania. Yup its real. I feel this one deeply.

    Irene
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i have this BAD. i have scars all over my arms and legs.

    Anga
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have it on my belly, legs, boobs, armpit. Meds help a bit.

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    Mona
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do too, plus several other anxious habits. I feel you <3

    Awkward lady
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel this too. I still do it now.

    3 possums in a coat
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me it's all alog my legs, arms, back, hands and my chest. does anyone know anything that might help?

    Nom nom nom
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I watch pimple popping videos. Its crazy but it fullfils that need a lot. I have ocd and i feel the person in the video gets "clean". Its also incredibly relaxing... just before bed to make you sleepy is the best

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    January Tempis
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have it with my fingers. If I can't pick up them I feel very uncomfortable. I was told it's a natural response to surviving sexual abuse.

    Insomniac
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is. So many seemingly weird things are. Sexual abuse causes lifelong trauma. If possible, please seek some professional treatment like EMDR. Easing the distress of the trauma eases symptoms.

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    and_a_touch_of_the_’tism
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah… I have this too. Not for hours but I can spend a solid forty minutes poking holes in my face and picking my scalp. I’m trying to stop bc I hate the way it makes me look, but it’s so satisfying and it’s hard to quit.

    January Tempis
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it releases dopamine. I was told recently to try eating spicy food or peppermint or chocolate or mangoes. So I made a spicy mango salad and had Junior Mints for dessert. It was so good. And I forgot about picking for a while. Maybe we just need to keep jalapeno peppers around 😂

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    Lulu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do the same thing!!! I want to throw away all my mirrors but I can't since my family needs them too. It's such an addiction!

    Insomniac
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Medication and therapy can help. If you can get into a psychiatrist and get a full diagnostic, they can pinpoint the cause of the addiction and treat that, which will ease the symptoms. It's important as you get older to do that, because skin doesn't heal as quickly and you're more vulnerable to infections, including some pretty disgusting ones.

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    Riley Quinn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I strongly recommend you find a qualified therapist. I found this on the International OCD Foundation site: Skin picking disorder (or "Excoriation") is a disorder where a person: Picks their skin over and over again, AND. The picking is often or bad enough to cause tissue damage AND. It causes a lot of distress and/or problems with work, social, or other daily activities.

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    #20

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets That I haven’t been happy since he asked me for divorce a couple of years ago…. I was ready to follow through and last minute he backtracked, but he never said he was sorry, and I haven’t been able to fully come back from that…. I don’t think I love him the same since

    wookieejesus05 , RDNE Stock project / Pexels Report

    Deborah B
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It feels like you've detatched from the relationship, possibly because he broke trust by asking for the divorce, and the two of you haven't properly worked through that. Either leave, or ask for marriage counselling, so you can move on, with him or without him.

    John Mosley
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that's a normal response, he totally destroyed your sense of security. He committed an unforgivable breach and then backpedaled but left the mess. I'm sure you still love him but he ruined it. Not your fault but I think it's time to shake the poo off your shoes and walk!

    Flora Porter
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're 50% of the marriage. Why are you letting him call the shots?

    Almost sunny
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I certainly wouldn't, get rid of him.

    January Tempis
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If he doesn't have the courage to leave, you might have to be the one to do it. It's not easy but it's so worth it.

    BM85
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He hasn't said sorry, you haven't said you're unhappy. You clearly didnt see the divorce coming when he suggested it. Sounds like you both have trouble speaking to each other, and communicating how you feel which would likely resolve issues you both have.

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A former BF and I had lived together for a while and had talked (briefly) about getting married. He'd been married before and was seriously dragging his feet. Even though I was on the pill, I got pregnant. The first words out of his mouth were, "Well I guess I HAVE to marry you now". I was completely devastated that he could say something so cruel. Any love I had for him disappeared right then. I miscarried the next week and moved out the week after that.

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    #21

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I used to not eat and basically starve myself to feel hungry, just to feel.. something, and I had control over that aspect. Tough home life with being groomed by mom and s**t. No contact for a couple years, and never had any sort of connection or love or emotions for family, it's still hard to feel anything but I have an amazing fiance. 100% classic narcissism abuse.

    cory140 , Dmitry Schemelev / Unsplash Report

    timmitchinson
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you for your openness and honesty. Even now most people refuse to contemplate the idea that women/mothers can be the abusers

    Rachknits
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you find peace, you deserve to

    Cherry Blossom
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please seek professional help you deserve it, the fault/blame/shame lies with your mother not you. You owe it to yourself to be happy and go forward in your relationship with your fiancé. Learn to love and be loved. Please don’t allow your abusive past, spoil your chance of a good life. I wish you many years of happiness together 🌹

    Magenta Blu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do the opposite. Do anything for stop feeling. Avoid sleeping and thinking and even stopped talking.. everything for avoid feeling... I don't care what but just stop the inner pain.

    Riley Quinn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been in psych units with cutters. One thing they all had in common was the need to feel something. Self-harm in any form is a way through the numbness they feel. There are numerous other reasons behind self-harm. I recommend professional care before it gets out of hand. Starving yourself is extremely detrimental to your health.

    #22

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets Not a single person I've met in the last 10 years knows anything true about me. Not my name, not my profession, not my family life, not where I'm from etc. I've created an entirely fake person, and that's who I am to everyone that I meet now. Even my girlfriend.

    poundmypoontyrone , Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels Report

    Tamra
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel really sorry for this person's girlfriend.

    Donkey boi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For those wondering, OP's explanation in response to a comment: 'I have lots of unprocessed trauma, and I learned a while back that just pretending to be someone else helped me to ignore the pain of it all. So now I'm just permanently that someone else I started pretending to be.'

    Magenta Blu
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Fake till you make it"... If I pretended I was normal, someday I may forgot I got badly wounded... I cover my pain under a thick layer or pretend to be fine until one day everyone is convinced I'm ok... Including me. I know why people do this. Not everyone is able to deal with their past

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    Marie Dahme
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand this. I fight the urge to do it when people ask about my family, or personal questions ...such as my very large abdominal hernia. People who do have had abusive, traumatic childhoods and sometimes to appear normal or like everyone else, we want to lie rather than tell the truth. Because in all truth , many of us who came from dysfunctional homes don't want anyone to know that...least we be judged and people think oh yeah that explains a lot. No one wants to hear about your CPTSD, depression, anxiety amongst other things. So you want people to think you had a Leave it to Beaver family or you have zero family rather than tell the truth. Remember the part in Good Will Hunting where Will snaps on Skyler and tells her the abuse he suffered as a child ? It's like that.

    Couragetcd
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The best way to answer the tell us something about yourself that is used as an ice breaker is to say, "And something personal about myself is that I don't feel comfortable talking about my personal life.". You're welcome!

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    Mitchell
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That sounds oddly liberating

    setsuriseikou
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Despite the fact that you have to stay alert 24/7 to not let any true info slip, while keeping in mind all the fake info?

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    censorshipsucks
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like a fun thing to do but must be a nightmare to maintain.

    Magenta Blu
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not really... If the true was a nightmare, lies become quite easy

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    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you in witness protection or just really in need of therapy?

    Ari Maranichi
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People say I am an interesting person but sadly, I actually don't tell people half the things about me until I know them so well that they tell me their secrets. I actually have multiple personalities that I treat like people, to the point where I give them names, emotions, and I draw them a lot.Doing this does help me get rid of pain and anxiety which is a bonus I guess.

    Steve Hall
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Understandable in todays world.

    Almost sunny
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know you can just move without having to change your identity! Like just move further than a town away.

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    #23

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets My friend’s younger brother took a dump in the litter box as a teen “to see what it was like”. Their mom, an RN, saw it and declared “there is a human SH*T in the litter box!” Whenever anyone brings up anything litter box-related, I think of this.

    chantalily , Nadiye Odabaşı / Pexels Report

    El Dee
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She sure knew her s**t..

    Scott Rackley
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you can't tell cat s**t from human, damn.

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    Tabitha
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m 63, and have had cats practically my whole life. There are times, in my daily scoop of the litter box, that I swear my cats have made human size turds—-and no, none of the humans who have ever lived with me ever squatted in the cat box. Absolutely amazes me how the body of a ten pound cat can even create then hold a human size turd until they can get to the litter box.

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have two cats and two dogs. One of the dogs is a puppy who is about 55 lbs at 9 months. He produces prodigious poops that reminds me of something my dad used to say when I was a kid: "How does this dog eat one pound of dog food and produce five pounds of shít?!" It is a relief to clean the litterboxes after picking up after the puppy XD

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    Eric S.
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    George Clooney told a similar story on Graham Norton. When he first came to LA trying to start his acting career he was staying at a friend's place. Said friend adopted a tiny kitten and George dutifully cleaned the litterbox, but friend didn't realize and expressed concern to George that new kitten wasn't pooping. George did not say anything, kept cleaning the box, and eventually dropped a massive deuce into it, perplexing the owner about how a tiny kitten could extrude a poo about as large as it was.

    madbakes
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel like anyone could tell the difference between cat poop and human poop, not just a nurse.

    Ashlie Dearest
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Were they under the influence, or are they just stupid?

    Ashlie Benson
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Knowing someone who has done this...almost always just stupid.

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    weatherwitch
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's the further fact that he then Left it there that gets me 😮🤢

    MushroomHead22
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this sounds like a re-write of another story that started the same, but ended with a grand mother who was shocked that the cat could produce such a huge poop....

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    #24

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I hid the remote control to the living room TV for absolutely no reason at all, and kept it hidden for probably a week. My dad began to have a meltdown by the 6th-7th day, so I just put it under a random blanket on the couch where I knew he would find it. What a weird kid I was.

    KittysOnKeyboarghjfg , Karolina Grabowska / Pexels Report

    Full Name
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That is not remotely funny.

    LakotaWolf (she/her)
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not supposed to be. This post is literally titled "People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets".

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    Robert T
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Friend of my took the hands off the clock and hid them. His parents still hadn't found them by the time they moved 40+ years later!

    EvilNob
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got myself a second remote control for our TV. My dad got dementia and he used to watch the whole night long the doku channel, but really loud. I couldn't sleep because of it, but he slept always with the remote in his hand, and woke up if I tried to use it. Then he made a huge fuss about it that he wasn't sleeping at all and that I'm the worse, because he can't watch the TV because of me. With the extra remote I was able to make it quite without waking him up.

    Aussiegirl
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bought myself a remote control because my husband does the same thing 😂

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    Stannous Flouride
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was a kid we had to walk through a thick forest of ugly shag carpet to change the channel. (Not mine)

    Almost sunny
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to get blamed for a missing remote and i didn't even touch it!

    Chantel Atwell
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd LOVE to do that to my hubby (he's obsessed with the TV) - but he'd figure out how to make it work within 24 hours - get a new remote, etc. He wouldn't just sit around complaining about it. It's THAT important to him.

    January Tempis
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a television addict and I figured out how to control it with my phone when I can't find the remote 😂😂

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    Ashlie Dearest
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only thing any human has control over, is themselves. That's it.

    Kevin the Manager
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is God-level fuc*ery of the finest kind! May your pranks live on, even after you shuffle off this mortal coil!

    Insomniac
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I'm really mad at my dad, I hide his remotes. It's the worst thing I can do to him that wouldn't land me in jail.

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    #25

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I once felt overwhelmed with the compulsion to run through a farmer's wheatfield, I felt very naughty.

    --Azazel-- , Magdalena Krekels / Pexels Report

    mandy the capibara
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hahaha, I see what so did there. How is the dancing progressing, theresa?

    Eroe Infinito
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was younger. Like 16-17. I was at my friends house and across the street was a cornfield. Well, I let my intrusive thoughts win. And one night I went across, covered myself in corn and would jump out at passersby to scare them as the "Corn Man!"

    PFD
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I, like 30 years older than that, am now racking my brains to think of the nearest cornfield.

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    Kevin the Manager
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I heard you won an award, because once you stopped dancing, you were outstanding in your field...

    Chewie Baron
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    Premium
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And now she wears £900 leather trousers.

    JB
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought all women did this every 28 days or so? Along with horseback riding, playing tennis in a white dress, and randomly spinning on a beach.

    Roger9er
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seems not too evil to me, sounds like fun!

    Jan Moore
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was about 8 years old we lived in Germany. My house was right on the edge of a wheat field, we had always been told not to mess with the field but we got really into playing army and started making paths through it. The farmer caught us, he grabbed on kid and shook him yelling. The rest of us ran, some to my house and we hid on the stairs. Only problem, we left the door open and he went right into the living room where my parents were napping. Took awhile for my Dad to get him calmed down. Can't remember what our punishment was.

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    #26

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I'm often emotionless but i'm hiding it through jokes and acts.

    Elendil_Stipho , Andrea Piacquadio / Pexels Report

    Isa Wan
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Would be worth to get checked on depression...

    Lotekguy
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or sociopathy. Those who can't feel normal emotions may learn how to hide it by observing and imitating what they see others do in various situations. The Dexter series had some basis in actual psychology.

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    censorshipsucks
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like my ASD masking thing. I mostly feel nothing much until someone enters the room then I put on a show to look like I am present.

    Karin Nachtkrapp
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Literally me *Looks at comments* Ah Beans

    Lyoness
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A mental health evaluation is definitely in order.

    Szzone
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    God I'm the other way around, often it's so difficult to act professionally and stay calm and collected when I want to shake my hands, talk loudly, laugh, be dramatic, or cheerful, or frustrated and angry, or just straight up sing along to what I'm listening to as I work.

    One Linus
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We all project the persona we want others to see. It's normal.

    Anna N.
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not normal to have flat emotion s though.

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    Laura Williams
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Would be worth getting it checked for any mental health issues.

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    #27

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I had a sexual relationship with someone for months, not knowing he have a wife and a newborn baby. We're in our early 20s, I asked him if he has a girlfriend, and he said no, which was technically true because he actually has a wife.

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    Tabitha
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You were lied to, and had no reason to doubt the other person’s honesty at the time, so it’s not your fault. You went into the relationship honestly. The lying SOB you were with did not. As long as you broke it off the millisecond you found out the truth, your conscience should be clear.

    Laura Williams
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very true worse are the people who keep going with the relationship when they know about the other woman.

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    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read something the other day about how there's no such thing as a "homewrecker". No. A spouse who opens the door to infidelity is the homewrecker, not the poor person who gets involved with them.

    A pug with bananas
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    🎵 pathological liaarrrrr 🎵 (the dude with kids)

    OnlyMe
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's on him, not you. He's a c*nt

    Riley Quinn
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't your secret or shame. It's his. He's the PoS that cheated on his wife and child and lied to you.

    Ashlie Dearest
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just stay single, and avoid anyone else's drama and baggage.

    Pyla
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    1 year ago

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    You are a gross person, too. This isn't just the Men As Trash motif, this is Woman is Trash as well.

    censorshipsucks
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    1 year ago

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    Oh wait. So he's saying he f****d a guy who was married with a kid? That's ok, the guy needed to explore to find out if he wanted marriage and kids, and you just helped him find out.

    Sue User
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You assumption that the OP was a male does not compute. Why would a make ask another male they were going to have relationship with if they had a girlfriend? And why would the married guy need to "explore"to find out if he wanted marriage and kids after he had marriage and kids?

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    #28

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets That his mother is an exhausting gossiping windmill of geriatric nonsense.

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    Dread Pirate Roberts
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love the creative last line of the description 😆

    Kevin the Manager
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me, her mother is an over-opinionated, unforgiving, judgmental, bourgeois martyr with a serious helping of self-loathing and an unfortunate disdain for mental health therapy. Phew! That felt good to write!

    Littlemiss
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh I know how this feels, this is my mother to a tea. Knows everything about nothing from sitting on her couch watching TV nonstop.

    Mark Fuller
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG. So relate!!! I love my MIL, but that's the most perfect description.

    censorshipsucks
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shame but she probably really appreciates seeing you and really likes you. It's a good deed you are doing listening to her.

    Riley Quinn
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know people of all ages gossip, but it seems, at least where I live, that the geriatrics thrive on it.

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    #29

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets Before my dad died, he told me about my mother’s affairs. One with his childhood best friend. I’ll never tell anyone else.

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    Little Wonder
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not really, unless you can tell me who posted this?

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    Kare Deter
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dad did not need to burden you with that information.

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    #30

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets My husband and I look so happy on social media but in reality we argue every day and our marriage is falling apart.

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    Trillian
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't you feel completely stupid to take smiley pics for social media in the midst of a crumbling marriage?

    Hphizzle
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You, and so, so many others. 😔

    censorshipsucks
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's because you no longer respect each other, and, because you have different life goals, and, because you see each other as obstacles to those life goals. Sort out your life goals and align them, or, get a divorce.

    Captain McSmoot
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is true for, dare I say, the vast majority of couples that post nearly every aspect of their lives for others to see.

    Scott Rackley
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, a performance. Nice. Try out at the local theater.

    Kevin the Manager
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I took care of this by setting up a nature trail camera in both my kitchen and living room, to capture us during our arguments as well. Those photos end up on FB along with the happy ones, just to keep us humble...

    Riley Quinn
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does anyone besides tweens and teenagers actually believe these social media stories of happiness abundance? Maybe it's time for all of us on social media to let our hair down and be just a bit more forthright.

    Steve Hall
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Social media is the key phrase here.

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    #31

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets Sometimes I make loud farting noises late at night to see if I can wake up the whole house. I consider it a victory when I’m asked if I’m feeling ok the next morning. .

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    Tamra
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I kind of want to laugh at this, but as someone who often gets awakened in the middle of the night, this would enrage me beyond belief. Let people sleep, dammit!

    Idgafwyt AllDat'N'ABagOfChips
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a difference between having to actually fart and just making loud obnoxious farting noises, just to disturb those sleeping in the same house. As someone with trouble falling and staying asleep, you would be sleeping with one eye open.

    Doofnuts
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think this is hilarious. (dammit, I'm just a really old child)

    Mike F
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm feeling just wonderful, since I &hit my pjs last night!

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    #32

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets One time I had to go number 2 so bad but our bathroom was occupied. So I went outside and the dog immediately gobbled it up.

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    One Linus
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Then he licked you

    Jane Jayne Jain Jeign Jein
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had a boyfriend who had a dog and one day while taking it for a walk he started to feel unwell so I held on to the dog while he went in the bushes. When he came back I let the dog off the lead and it immediately ran into the bushes and rolled around in the boyfriends rectal deposit. Came running back looking really pleased with itself too. Boyfriend was mortified, dog stank, I laugh every time I remember it

    censorshipsucks
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YUMMY. Tbh I have seen this happen in person too.

    ChugChug
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've seen this as well. Dog gobbling up fresh human poop. Apparently there is still lot of nutrients in it and dog see it as food...

    Laura Williams
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ewwww. Next time hold those buttons cheeks together with your hands.

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    #33

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I brushed my sister‘s toothbrush over a soap bar when we were little because I thought that’s what she did too. sometimes my toothbrush tasted a little soapy. Never talked about it with anyone. First time writing it down.

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    Riley Quinn
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I caught my ex washing the toilet with my face cloth. When I snapped at him, he played dumb because he knew damn well where the toilet rag was kept. Okey-dokey a-hole, two can play this game. So, I started cleaning the tight spots with his toothbrush.

    Ashlie Dearest
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Did you have a potty mouth, when you were little?

    Dog Lover
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I brushed my teeth with soap once because I thought they’d come out cleaner than using toothpaste. They’d didn’t and it tasted terrible.

    Bewitched One
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe you were getting the brushes mixed up lol and you were the one doing it to both of them

    John Mosley
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    COuld have cleaned the toilet with it and then told her about it after she used it. Our house was savage.

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP’s toothbrush tasted soapy? Sounds like their sister gave them a bit of payback, unless the sister is the one who started it, as OP wasn’t clear whose toothbrush tasted like soap first.

    PFD
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think OP is implying the sister was actually using his toothbrush (perhaps electric) for something else. And he misidentified the resulting unfamiliar taste as soapiness.

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    #34

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I tell people I can get them exotic meats...hippo steaks, giraffe burgers. It's all goat.

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    lenka
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are an AH. Not because you lie to people about what kind of meat it is, but because you are condoning the demand for these animals. If they think they are getting it from you, they will also try to get it from other even less scrupulous people who will pay poachers for the real deal.

    Carrie B
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All of the arguments and this is a reference to The Office. Calm down everyone.

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    Katelyn Marie
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is from the office, all of you should be downvoted for not realizing.

    Katelyn Marie
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    https://www.reddit.com/r/DunderMifflin/comments/2lsmbf/i_can_get_you_exotic_meats/

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    CK
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would anyone want to eat those animals anyway?

    censorshipsucks
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    why would someone want to eat cow or pig? What is the difference? Here in Africa you can get these meats (genuinely) at specialised butchers and specialised restaurants. It's not unusual.

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    Deeelite
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    DWIGHT schrute? Is that you?

    Jason
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My goats don't appreciate this. Though if they keep escaping I might volunteer them

    Phoebe Bean
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This reminds me of the movie The Freshman with Marlon Brando and Matthew Broderick.

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    #35

    "I Never Came Clean": 35 People Reveal Their Most Disturbing Secrets I want to see a large plane crash in person. I don't hope for it to happen, I just want to see it if it happens to occur.

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    Jonny Dio
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is really disturbing.

    random username
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is it though? People are fascinated by calamities and catastrophes, that's why distaster movies turn billions in profit. And why news programs are full of information about disasters which have no impact whatsoever at those who watch them.

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    Almost sunny
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Okay, buy a plane and crash it with only you in it.

    WindySwede
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was hoping they meant an remove operared one. 😶😕 But this works, atleast better than anyone else getting hurt..

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    Gabriele Alfredo Pini
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    1 year ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People congregate to see disaster from the dawn of time. Nothing new, here. This is why we use escapism: to esperience things we cannot (and after a certain we don't want) esperience in reality.

    KinoEel
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s weird because I get that feeling to, watching a plane fly overhead while walking my dog I wonder what i would do if it crashed in front of me, I’d never want it to happen but it’s just a random intrusive thought

    Jane Jayne Jain Jeign Jein
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's exactly what half the people at any air show like the red devils think too - They're not willing it to happen, but if it is going to happen anyway then they want to be there to see it. To Robert Beveridge, in the UK we call it rubber necking when people slow down to gawp at accidents

    Lyoness
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    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's actually called desensitisation and it's a normal human reaction to things that scare us. It's the reason horror movies are so popular - the more you're exposed to something frightening the less scared you are. Mental health professionals call it "exposure therapy". This is an extreme example but it's very common.

    CD Mills
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yikes! Not me! If I see red and blue lights up ahead I start looking for a side road. I am Anti-Looky Lou, I DO NOT WANT TO SEE ANYTHING! Nopety nope nope nope!

    Kevin the Manager
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YouTube has many videos of planes and airliners crashing and or exploding. While definitely a morbid fascination, the same urge drove me to find those videos. They are as jarring to watch as I expected.

    Doofnuts
    Community Member
    1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People are attracted to the unusual, bad or good. It's just who we are.

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