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“He Didn’t Believe In The Vaccine”: 73 People Reveal The Moment They Understood Their Partners Were Dumb
Sure, opposites attract, but you still need to find some common ground with the person you’re dating. It hurts to realize that your significant other might be nowhere near as intelligent as you are. And for many people, that’s a deal-breaker, and they decide to end the relationship.
Internet users took to a brutally honest online thread to spill the tea about all the bizarre, spicy, and ridiculously cringey things their partners did that revealed that they were beyond dumb. We hope you’re ready for a big taste of secondhand embarrassment because their stories hit hard.
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#1
My ex-husband told me that no women had made major contributions to society because if they had, they'd be in the history books. That was when I realized I was not only married to a misogynist but a stupid one.
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#2
She got mad at me for disproving her take on vaccines causing a child’s autism… she was a nurse.
#3
When he asked me if I thought the Earth was flat and I said, “No, and that was proven centuries ago.” Then he goes, you should do your own research.
Ali 14 hours ago
We need some new vocabulary. When someone tells us they have researched something, have they; asked a few people, read a few articles, jumped down a conspiracy rabbit hole, stuck to trusted internet sites, gone to the library, enrolled on a university course, work as a researcher with rigourous oversight. You don't hear (for example) physics proffessers telling people to go do their research when people disagree with them, because to them research is years long dedication. If someone has gone down a rabbit hole, chances are they have spent a huge amount of time reading about whatever the subject is - technically this can also be called research and you can rarely help them with your own counter argument based on simple logic and common sense. New vocabulary could help.
Dating someone doesn’t mean that you have to commit to them for life. One of the joys and challenges of going on dates is discovering who you are as a person and what your values are. Then, you think about your partner’s values and behavior and look for common ground. There will be times when a single moment is enough to make you realize that, unfortunately, you are incompatible. Some things are complete deal-breakers in romantic relationships, and unless the other person is genuinely willing to change and grow very quickly for the better, everyone’s better off going their separate ways.
According to Marriage.com, incompatibility is what happens when there isn’t alignment between people’s core needs, beliefs, or lifestyles, “no matter how much they care for each other.” In other words, there’s a mismatch between values, and you’re left with individuals who want different things in life.
The earlier you spot these incompatibilities, the more room you have to potentially save the relationship. Of course, that’s not a given. Meanwhile, some couples are lucky enough to naturally share interests, hobbies, and habits.
#4
When he looked me in my face at 7 months pregnant, suffering with sciatica and said, "I know what it's like to be pregnant. I've been over-weight before."
Yes, he is still breathing, no we are not together anymore. Stripes make me look wider, and orange washes me out.
Elladine DesIsles 16 hours ago
She showed impressive restraint, even with the sartorial motivation to avoid prison garb.
#5
When he reprimanded a child for eating a pizza slice folded-in-half. He insisted that it doubled the calories.
“Addressing incompatibility in a relationship early on is crucial for several reasons. Ignoring or avoiding the issue can increase resentment, misunderstandings, and prolonged unhappiness. By acknowledging and discussing incompatibilities, there is an opportunity to find compromises, adapt, or determine if the relationship is viable in the long term,” Marriage.com explains.
One of the biggest sources of incompatibility is having different goals and visions for the future. If those visions aren’t aligned, you end up with lots of tension. Meanwhile, if you’re not happy with settling and looking for compromises, you may end up resenting your significant other.
Another big source of potential incompatibility is having different intellectual levels, which can lead to friction.
#7
He said he was going out of town and left. Then, two hours later, he bought something at the Walgreens a few miles from our house and entered my phone number so I could get the rewards points. I was emailed the receipt.
#8
My bf told my son’s pediatrician that he was allergic to chicken, when asked what would happen when he eats it, the [idiot] said “I don’t like it. It makes me want to throw up.” I just looked at him and said “stop talking!!” The doctor looked at him, sighed and said “that’s not an allergy, that’s you being picky.” He then followed up with, “but I can eat the skin when it’s fried, I’m not allergic to that.” The doctor just closed his eyes for a bit.
#9
My friend asked her boyfriend how much he thought homes were costing these days (Southern California) and this fool said $20,000.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 16 hours ago
Ahahahaahaa... oh, my. I'm a lifelong Southern Californian. You won't find a home for less than 850,000 here right now. Most of them are being sold for over 1 million.
“Intellectual differences might be ignored early on, as both enjoy each other’s company and unique traits. But once that phase passes, the gap can become more noticeable. While this doesn’t automatically make a couple incompatible, consistently feeling unchallenged or misunderstood intellectually can quietly chip away at the connection and closeness between partners.”
The key here is to look for hobbies and topics that engage both of you equally, and focus on valuing each other’s strengths that don’t just focus on academic or professional achievement.
What’s more, you have to be honest with yourself if the connection that you have with your partner, in terms of emotional closeness and shared values, is enough to outweigh the "intellectual gap."
#10
He sent me a picture of his cat to “prove he was home alone with his cats” it was a live picture.. you could hear the girl in the background.
#11
We took a vacation and went to a museum. We were discussing native children who were forced to marry white men. He said “some of them [girls] liked it” And at that moment I had to leave him.
#12
Ex of a long time but when he asked why we couldn’t take a train to Germany… we live in the US.
Have you ever dated someone who was either way smarter or much less intelligent than you? Did you manage to make the relationship work?
What advice would you give anyone who is dating someone who is far less educated and doesn’t have as much common sense? Do you think that intellectual compatibility between partners is fundamental, or are there more important things to worry about?
Join the discussion in the comments—we’ll be keeping an eye out for your thoughts.
#13
(Ex) I told him a grade schooler had been taken by ICE in our area from school and he started to ask if she was “legal”. I didn’t let him finish.
#14
He called me greedy for renegotiating my salary after signing the employment contract. I went to HR made my points and they resent my contract with a 9,000 raise. I was excited to tell him. The ninja got angry.
#15
“History isn’t necessary to learn because we live in the present.”
#16
When I told him I couldn’t sleep and he sent me prescriptions he had, so of course I googled them (not sleeping pills) so I ask him “when you took them how did you feel, you take them to sleep?” and he said I don’t take them but it’s sleeping pills because it says take them at night.
#17
When he told me that the reason why I was depressed was because I had darker skin. Yes… yes he was.
#19
I used to be a dog groomer and my ex flew off the handle because I got a movie theater gift card as a Christmas gift from a client, addressed from the dog. He grabbed my wrist and spat out "WHO THE [HELL] IS LUKE????" Luke. The DOG.
hannahbahngswife 17 hours ago
I know someone who has 2 wives. The second wife was his mistress that he cheated on the first wife with. He gets angry at the second wife whenever he sees her talk to any man. Sir, are you hearing yourself.
#20
When he didn’t know the difference between 12:05 am and 12:05 pm flight and had to buy another ticket… told me not to judge him.
#21
When we were visiting my family in Costa Rica and he kept referring to them as "Mexicans."
#22
He thought the ocean that borders California was the “Specific Ocean”.
Serena Myers 10 hours ago
I know someone who uses 'pacifically' for 'specifically' all the time. No, I haven't bothered to correct him, none of my business.
#23
When I found out he impulse-bought a new 60k jeep while already in debt.
#24
When we went to the zoo and she realized certain animals are real and not just a term I made up for a couple of her most obnoxious friends.
#25
He called Charlie Kirk misunderstood. I asked if he even knew what the man had said and done. He said no.
#26
When he FaceTimed me the day I moved out after we broke up asking how to use the dishwasher and vacuum.
#27
My ex used to react always with the same words
Haha
Haha ok
Ok
Hehe ok
Hehe
After the break up: He wanted to know if there was a new man by my side and I asked if he thought I'd turn into a nun and he asked what a nun is.
#28
I had to tell him how to spell my name the other day. 1 kid and 3 years later.
#29
We were playing 20 questions, guessing animals. It was her turn.
I asked if her animal was a mammal.
She said it was.
Her animal was a worm.
Daisydaisy 9 hours ago
I'm loving the image of all the baby earthworm puppies lined up drinking milk from mummy worm
#30
He tried to mansplain where my friend lives. After I just came home visiting her. And he had never visited her.
#31
I was reading a book about a live story based around The Berlin Wall and I was discussing it with my now ex.
He couldn't fathom that a massive wall had been built and people [passed away]. He thought I was making it up until I put on a documentary. He was also alive when it was knocked down.
#32
He said he was vegan when we met (I was vegan at the time) on our second “date”, he ordered a steak!
#33
Said he didn’t think depression was real. That actually grinded my gears, after seeing how upset I was he said he meant that he doesn’t think he’d ever be depressed.
Bored Birgit 9 hours ago
I don't think a broken leg is real and that you can't walk with it. I NEVER had a broken leg. /s
#34
He said the word “work” could only be a verb and criticized me whenever I said I’m heading to work.
Meanwhile, Merriam-Webster…..
work (2 of 3) noun
2: one's place of employment
#35
He had logged into his Gmail on my computer.
Went to reactivate his Grindr profile. I got a pop up notification on my desktop with the 2FA code.
He confessed the next day crying about it and I just said "oh I know".
This was many years ago. We're still friends but it's one of the funniest things that's ever happened to me.
#36
Ex partner. He yelled at me because I used the high ceiling kitchen lights. He said that when they run out because he wasn’t tall enough to reach them we wouldn't be able to do anything about them.
#37
Speaking for my wife; probably when I was working on an old truck and ran over my own hand.
#38
When he almost burned his apartment down making popcorn because he put 10 minutes instead of 1 min & the bag burned to a crisp and smoke detector went off as soon as I opened the door for it to stop before time finished. Then he crashed out saying I didn’t explain to him how to do It & how it was my fault…
#39
When he had me repeat TWICE where the spare key was kept, then crawled through the window of our house when he locked himself out.
#40
When I happened to call him and he was rushing me off the phone to get to western union so he could pay his "debts" to the IRS and avoid being arrested. It was a very common scam that usually targets the elderly.
#41
We had flown from WI to Vegas together. He was so pissed that his digital boarding pass for the flight home was wrong. He doubled-down that the time we would arrive back in WI was "impossible." I had to explain time zones to a 45 year old software engineer. The SAME timezones we flew through just 5 days prior. He still didn't believe me and insisted his boarding pass was wrong.
#42
He didn’t believe in fractions and time zones, I will not explain further because I’m still beyond disbelief and lost a few brain cells since then trying to explain it to him.
zububonsai 1 hour ago
Like, he has never sliced a cake or a pizza, or distributed fruit like oranges among his friends, like we all did in math class many moons ago? And he probably has never learned to bake, I suppose?
#43
When he recorded his encounter with a woman on MY phone. Had another woman ringing my doorbell at 2am every other night. Had a different woman calling his phone under a name he thought wasn’t suspicious.. I wish I was joking. All while I am very pregnant. Let him run around thinking I was unaware/believing his lies while I planned my successful escape.
setsuriseikou 15 hours ago
Hey, congrats on the escape, hope you and the little one(s) are okay now!
#44
He got food poisoning from Chili's and then ate the leftovers.
setsuriseikou 16 hours ago
Some of us have the "do absolutely not waste food" doctrine so deeply ingrained that we will not waste any food even at the cost of our health
#45
When I mentioned I wanted to go to barber school and he said “no man is paying for you to cut their hair.”
#48
My ex: I told him we should open a joint account and both our money into it(set amount a week) and have bills on auto pay went into detail and told him the account would only be able to accept deposits and not withdrawals. He told me “i don’t wanna do that because I feel that you’re going to be taking money out, and I don’t need my bills on auto pay I’ll just pay them wherever I can”. Like ohhh ok idiot.
#49
When he told me venting to him was not a safe space.
#50
He spilt juice in the bed.
Me: *irritatedly goes to get a towel*
Him: Did you get rice?
Me: Ice?
Him: No, Rice.
Me: Rice? For what?
Him: To put on the bed.
Me: 😑 like you do a phone?
#51
My ex asked me if bears are cats.
setsuriseikou 15 hours ago
No, but to my surprise, hyenas sort of are (their suborder is Feliformia).
#52
When he was driving a rental car under my name, on holiday, and I asked him to avoid potholes. He tried to argue with me that you were supposed to drive into them.
I procreated with that man so not sure if that makes me a bigger one. Though I’m grateful children get their intelligence from their mothers.
#53
When he would talk over me as I was making a strong point and connecting too many dots about something and he would literally say “blah blah blah” (like a child) and tell me it was word salad.
#54
An ex, when he said “I need to decompose” instead of saying “decompress” like ninja what?
hannahbahngswife 17 hours ago
This is the second time I'm seeing the word ninja and I think that it's replacing another word.
#55
When he mocked me for receiving help from my parents while in Practitioner school.
Colleen Glim 33 minutes ago
Nothing wrong with receiving help when you need it. My husband and I got help from our parents when times were hard and we’re in turn helping our daughters when they need it
#56
Every attempt to communicate was met with an argument. He didn’t have the capacity to process my concerns and considered me the problem. I asked for the basic communication and understanding. He didn’t have a clue.
#57
When his answer to every single question I could ever ask him was “idk.” I used to get so mad, like is there anything you DO know?!
hannahbahngswife 17 hours ago
I am guilty to being like that sometimes, but I blame my mother who hit me whenever I didn't know how to do something (that I was never taught to begin with). So now I am scared of saying or doing anything wrong, and I just "I don't know" things even when I know because I don't want to gamble the possibility that I'm wrong and the person gets angry at me. I am working on that.
#58
He asked me what the Michael Jackson movie was about.
#59
She got mad she didn’t know how to do something and got mad at me for reading the instructions.
#60
He sent me a screenshot of a girl texting him about me being out with another dude. And tried to draw through the messages but i still could read her saying he always let me get my way and she has been waiting on him to leave me basically.
#61
Ex partner, but when I had to make almost every decision cause when I let him be in charge, it was always a flop.
#62
I saw a lady on here say she went on a date with a man who told her the tree in his yard made limes, lemons and oranges, in that order.
Elladine DesIsles 16 hours ago
A grafted tree could definitely produce all three of these fruits (there is an apple like this in my backyard that originally produced three varieties, though over the years one has come to dominate). I'm not sure if they would ripen sequentially, though (no outdoor citrus here in Canada).
#64
When he wouldn't solve anyyyyy issues of his with anything straight on, just avoid, bury, and complain, spiral and freak out. Take any communication as a personal attack. Not take initiative to learn anything, even how to file for insurance, etc.
#65
I think I might win. When I told him I was studying Foundation Phase Teaching... he looked surprised and told me that; "I didn't know you were so into makeup."
#66
When he called a catlytic converter a cathlitic converter. When I corrected the word he explained that's just how HE says it.
#67
He called my regular day vocab “fancy lawyer talk.”
#68
We were driving and I said that’s a nice Benz .. she said… that’s not a Benz that’s a Mercedes.
#69
My ex, but when he mixed shredded cheese into cooked elbow noodles and asked me why it wasn’t turning into Mac & Cheese.😮💨
Ace 9 hours ago
Had to look up 'elbow noodles' to be sure, yes it just means macaroni, why would you use two different words for the same thing in the same sentence? Or did you not realise that cooking them and adding shredded cheese (+milk+flour, yeah I know) was actually the same thing as Macaroni and Cheese?
#70
Poured fresh hot grease down the drain.
#71
He unloaded the dishwasher and dishes were still wet when when he proceeded to put them in the cabinet.
#73
When he told me he couldn’t believe Breaking Benjamin spelled breath wrong and no one noticed. I said “?” with my face and he said yeah the “e” is missing.
liam newton-harding 7 hours ago
Breaking Benjamin is a band, Breath is one of their songs (@BP, do you purposefully edit out context in your own posts?)
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