Man Must Pay Cheating Wife 20 Years Of Alimony, Plots An Epic And Life-Ruining Revenge In Return

A messy divorce is often a brutal game of chess. Most people just try to survive, trading pieces and hoping for a draw. If you are lucky, everyone plays by the rules, begrudgingly accepting the painful but predictable outcome.

But for one “finance guy,” a man who lived by the numbers, his wife’s betrayal wasn’t a move to be countered; it was a game to be ended. Checkmate was never going to be enough. He needed to flip the board over and take all the pieces with him.

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Unfortunately, in some divorces, legally speaking, cheaters sometimes prosper, and it feels there is nothing you can do about it

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But one well-off finance guy took matters into his own hands when he was ordered to pay a massive settlement to his cheating wife

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He was unwilling to reward her betrayal, and he hatched a secret meticulous plan for revenge

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He sold their house, moved all their assets to his home country, and then vanished, cutting off all payments

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He felt safe from U.S. law as he left her with nothing, but his grown children are now divided on the matter

A man who spent over 20 years working 12-hour days as a quantitative analyst (aka a finance bro) to fund his wife’s “extremely easy-going” stay-at-home-mom lifestyle recently discovered her long-term secret: she was cheating on him with her friend’s husband. The discovery immediately led to a divorce, a battle that would not be fought on a level playing field.

The court’s decision was a bitter pill for him to swallow. She was awarded half of their investments, 90% of which were held abroad in his name. To add insult to injury, he also had to pay 20 years of alimony. In his mind, instead of justice for a partnership, it was a reward for her betrayal, a price he was absolutely unwilling to pay.

So, this finance guy did what a finance guy does best: he found a loophole. He played along, pretending to cooperate while secretly orchestrating a grand, international escape plan. He sold their house, moved every last penny of their assets to his home country, and then, after stringing her along for a while, made his final move. He boarded a plane, vanished, and immediately stopped all alimony payments.

Now, safe in a country where she has “no legal recourse,” he has left her with a pittance, a brutal act of financial revenge. But his victory has come at a cost. His own children are now split, with his son on his side and his daughters siding with their mother. He’s now asking the internet to be the final judge in a family war of his own making.

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The court’s initial alimony ruling, while infuriating to the husband, is a standard outcome in a high-income, long-term marriage. As legal experts explain, spousal support is calculated based on the “marital lifestyle.” A 20-year marriage where one partner was a SAH parent almost always results in a significant award. Her infidelity, while emotionally devastating, is not a factor in a no-fault state, making the court’s decision a legal reality.

This situation is also a classic “gray divorce,” which, as the BBC notes, still has a divisive impact on adult children. They are forced to navigate the emotional fallout and are often put in a position of taking sides, just as his have. His decision to continue supporting the kids financially while cutting off their mother is a common, though fraught, attempt to separate his parental role from his spousal anger.

However, the husband’s “perfect” escape plan comes with an enormous and irreversible personal cost. To protect his assets in his home country, he wrote that he had to renounce his U.S. citizenship, as China does not recognize dual citizenship for adults. This means he can likely never return to the U.S. to see his children or attend major life events like weddings or graduations without significant legal hurdles.

His act of financial revenge was a legal maneuver at first, but it became an act of self-exile. In his quest to punish his ex-wife, he has also inflicted a second, profound loss on his children, who have now not only lost their intact family but also their father’s physical presence in their lives. His “victory” is a lonely and permanent one. Cut off your nose to spite your face much?

Do you think his decision to take flight instead of fight was a rational one? Tell us what you would have done in the comments section!

The internet was wildly divided, with some celebrating his cold revenge while others reminded him of the lasting scar he is leaving on the kids

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