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Woman Torn Between Loyalty And Career After Friend Gets Fired Over Controversial Online Work
Certain jobs require people to push themselves to the limit or do things that other folks might not be comfortable doing. The only issue with this kind of work is that if it’s inappropriate or too out-of-the-box, it might cause problems in the individual’s daily life.
This is what happened to one woman who was working as a financial mistress, but got found out in her workplace, and ended up losing her job and friends as a result. She tried to salvage things by asking a coworker for help, but it resulted in a lot of drama.
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What most people don’t realize is that they can even get in trouble with their employers if they act unsuitably outside of company hours
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The poster shared that her friend Joanne, who helped her get a job at her company, got fired after people found out that she was an Instagram financial “mistress”
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Joanne didn’t just lose her job; she also got shunned by her friends, so she asked the poster to stick up for her and also help her get reinstated at their workplace
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The poster felt like her friend deserved the backlash she faced because she already had her dream job and still jeopardized it by being a sugar baby
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Even though the poster did her best to help Joanne mend things with her friends, the other woman insulted and berated her, which led to their friendship ending
Even though the OP had been friends with Joanne since her university days, she didn’t know that the other woman moonlighted as a sugar baby. That’s why she was shocked when her friend suddenly got fired and everyone in the workplace found out that she acted as a financial mistress.
Although consenting adults should be allowed to do whatever they want after work hours, sometimes folks who engage in “inappropriate” interests might get in trouble with their employers due to it. This might mainly be because companies are concerned about their image and don’t want their employees jeopardizing it.
This is exactly why Joanne got in trouble with her workplace and had to leave, even though it was her dream job. She also got shunned by her friends, who couldn’t understand why she was doing that kind of sugar baby work, even though she was already making quite a decent salary.
It can definitely be difficult for folks to comprehend why anyone would want to be a financial mistress and how it even benefits the other person. According to psychologists, when consenting adults engage in this behavior, it can often be comforting for the subject to have someone else take control of their money, and it may even make them feel safe.
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What put the OP in a very tough position was when Joanne asked her to help her get her job back and also to convince their friends that her sugar baby work wasn’t a big deal. Even though the poster didn’t approve of her extra career, she felt a tiny bit obligated to do something since Joanne had helped her get her job.
The problem that most folks might have with someone being a financial mistress isn’t often about their work, but more importantly, about the morality of their job. To many people, this career can seem unethical as it raises questions about unequal power dynamics and the kind of customers that might require such a service.
This is also why Joanne’s friends had cut her off, as they were disgusted by the fact that her main clients seemed to be married men. They felt that she had put her dream job aside just to pursue work that could possibly bankrupt vulnerable people and end relationships.
Since the group was so hostile towards Joanne, the poster let her know that nothing could be done about the situation. Unfortunately, this complicated things even more as the other woman lost her temper and began insulting the OP, which led to their long friendship ultimately ending.
What are your thoughts on this story, and do you think the poster should have stood up for her friend? We’d love to hear your opinions.
Most folks felt that Joanne was in the wrong and that she had also been a bad friend
What do you think ?
FreeTheUnicorn 1 hour ago
So you weren't working at work and got fired fair enough, but if your friends would disavow you because of what seems like only fans or findom, you're better off without them. OP should cut ties with the prejudiced friends and make a judgement call about whether or not to help her friend get her job back based on if she thinks she'll do a good job or not
Ace 1 hour ago
I don;t understand what she got fired for. In the UK you would need to have very good reasons to terminate employment, and nothing she's doing outside of her work, unless it has a direct impact on it, could be taken into account. An instant dismissal such as implied here could only be done as a result of gross misconduct. like violence, theft or serious insubordination. Even then they would officially be employed for the length of their notice period, minimum 4 weeks, and a formal written justification for the termination would need to be given. So this story just doesn't bear scrutiny. I'm afraid. In other words; Fake
FreeTheUnicorn 49 minutes ago
Uploading an explicit photo using work tech will do it. All the jobs I've worked in the UK you sign something when hired about what the computers can be used for. In some companies uploading anything that isn't work is an issue but just about everywhere will fire you for even looking at explicit photos at work, let alone uploading them.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 1 hour ago
So you weren't working at work and got fired fair enough, but if your friends would disavow you because of what seems like only fans or findom, you're better off without them. OP should cut ties with the prejudiced friends and make a judgement call about whether or not to help her friend get her job back based on if she thinks she'll do a good job or not
Ace 1 hour ago
I don;t understand what she got fired for. In the UK you would need to have very good reasons to terminate employment, and nothing she's doing outside of her work, unless it has a direct impact on it, could be taken into account. An instant dismissal such as implied here could only be done as a result of gross misconduct. like violence, theft or serious insubordination. Even then they would officially be employed for the length of their notice period, minimum 4 weeks, and a formal written justification for the termination would need to be given. So this story just doesn't bear scrutiny. I'm afraid. In other words; Fake
FreeTheUnicorn 49 minutes ago
Uploading an explicit photo using work tech will do it. All the jobs I've worked in the UK you sign something when hired about what the computers can be used for. In some companies uploading anything that isn't work is an issue but just about everywhere will fire you for even looking at explicit photos at work, let alone uploading them.
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