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Teen Spent Summers In Dodgy Motels While Stepsiblings Were Spoiled, Finally Lets Parents Have It
Resentment can build up very quickly in families, especially if certain relatives or loved ones are treated better than others. This is often seen in blended families if parents favor some children. Kids then end up getting caught in the mistakes of adults and that affects their relationship.
This is what happened to one teen whose parents favored her stepsiblings. She didn’t want to cater to their needs anymore and put her foot down after many years of not being considered. Unfortunately, her parents did not take her side.
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The poster shared that when she was a teen, her stepsiblings used to visit their grandparents a few times a year and that she was roped into going along
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The teen felt bad because her stepsiblings were spoiled by their family, while she had to stay in cheap hotels and do nothing or was ignored by their relatives
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The poster’s mom kept making excuses for everyone’s behavior, but the teen started to push back on going on the trips as she got older
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After she kept getting forced to go by her mom and stepdad, she blew up at them about how it felt to be forced to go where one wasn’t wanted
The OP explained that her stepsiblings used to visit their grandparents a few times a year. At first, they’d go alone, but later, her stepdad insisted they all go as a family. Instead of all the kids being together, the poster had to stay in cheap hotels and do nothing, while the other children were treated very well.
When the poster was young, it made her feel left out and ignored when her mom and stepdad played favorites with the other kids. Usually, in blended families, parents need to do their best to treat each child equally and make them feel valued. This can only be achieved through prioritization and conscious effort.
It seems like even the stepsiblings began ostracizing their sister. They kept showing off the gifts and trinkets they’d get from their family, which made the OP feel sad and left out. This clear differentiation between how the children were treated went on for many years, and the parents didn’t seem to realize it.
The indifference from the mom and stepdad is what sometimes leads to sibling rivalry, where there can be lots of feelings of jealousy and insecurity that fester. In blended families, with the addition of new siblings or relatives, kids might often feel like they have to compete for affection and may struggle to know what to do if they don’t receive it.
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As the poster got older, she realized she didn’t want to be sidelined any longer. She stopped going on her stepsiblings’ trips so that she wouldn’t have to wait around for them. Her mom didn’t understand her reluctance to go and tried to convince her by acting like her childhood had been very fun and exciting.
According to experts, when parents play favorites, it can damage the non-favored child’s self-esteem. The long-term dangers of it are anxiety, depression, and low feelings of self-worth. It can also impact the kid’s future relationships and how they accept love from the people around them.
When it comes to blended families, parents need to respect, love, and cherish all of their children. They need to lead by example and make everyone feel included so that none of the kids leave anyone out. Although there may be misunderstandings and conflicts, it’s best to treat each child with care and patience.
The OP’s mom and stepdad clearly ignored her feelings for many years. They didn’t seem to understand what kind of impact their behavior had had on her. Hopefully, with a little bit of consideration, they’d be able to make her feel more included and also get her stepsiblings to make her a part of things.
What would you have done if you were in the OP’s shoes? Let us know your thoughts.
People sided with the teen and assured her that she wasn’t wrong for feeling resentful or confronting her parents
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Libstak 8 months ago (edited)
It could be stepdad had a secret fear his inlaws would try to run away with the kids as they were their late daughters children. The fact they were so unwelcoming even to him tells me there was ongoing tension. Doesn't make it right as he should have gone on his own and not dragged her along but her mum may have had her own insecurities about him doing that. What a terrible dynamic, they did not consider the pain it would cause her just thought about their own feelings.
Binky Melnik 8 months ago
I’m feeling extreme second-hand boredom on behalf of OP. I can’t believe parents are *this* stupid and unkind to drag a kid somewhere she’s not wanted so she can watch her stepsons have a blast. Had she been able to stay home with her mom, the money they’d save on a motel room woulda afforded them outings on their own. ☹️
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kayteeisdabomb 8 months ago
This world is an unfair and crappy place. That poor kid, what a horrible way to be treated. Hopefully they pursue an amazing education and live life on their terms once an adult
Nils Skirnir 8 months ago
The burden here is on the poor stepchild who has nothing. Probably no one’s even providing for her future. However, the blame here is on her natural parent, her mother, who is ignoring her daughters needs
Libstak 8 months ago (edited)
It could be stepdad had a secret fear his inlaws would try to run away with the kids as they were their late daughters children. The fact they were so unwelcoming even to him tells me there was ongoing tension. Doesn't make it right as he should have gone on his own and not dragged her along but her mum may have had her own insecurities about him doing that. What a terrible dynamic, they did not consider the pain it would cause her just thought about their own feelings.
Binky Melnik 8 months ago
I’m feeling extreme second-hand boredom on behalf of OP. I can’t believe parents are *this* stupid and unkind to drag a kid somewhere she’s not wanted so she can watch her stepsons have a blast. Had she been able to stay home with her mom, the money they’d save on a motel room woulda afforded them outings on their own. ☹️
Load More Replies... kayteeisdabomb 8 months ago
This world is an unfair and crappy place. That poor kid, what a horrible way to be treated. Hopefully they pursue an amazing education and live life on their terms once an adult
Nils Skirnir 8 months ago
The burden here is on the poor stepchild who has nothing. Probably no one’s even providing for her future. However, the blame here is on her natural parent, her mother, who is ignoring her daughters needs
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