“Go Find Their Fathers”: Dad Shuts Down Ex’s Demands To Parent Her Other Children

Breakups are seldom smooth-sailing experiences for the couple. While amicable separations are possible, many typically involve a longstanding tug-of-war over who is to blame and what they could’ve done better. 

However, other cases can get very ugly, all because one person decided to complicate things. In this story, a woman cheated on her partner, with whom she had two sons. Upon their separation, she began forcing her ex-boyfriend to father her children with other men. 

Things only worsened further after the man rightfully rejected her demands. Scroll down to see how everything unfolded.

Some ugly breakups have prolonged aftershocks

Woman upset and arguing with partner in kitchen, highlighting issues of cheating and co-parenting children with others.

Image credits: drazenphoto / Envato (not the actual photo)

For this couple, it was because the woman had unreasonable demands for her former partner

Text excerpt about a man refusing to include his ex's other children on outings with their two sons in a co-parenting conflict.

Text from a man explaining split custody and child support after his ex cheated while raising children with other men.

Text about woman who cheated on partner, asking him to care for her children with other men after breakup.

Text about a woman in a new relationship asking her partner to also care for her children with other men.

Text excerpt about a woman cheating on partner and wanting him to care for her children with other men.

Text excerpt about woman wanting partner to care for her children with other men after she met her husband.

Text excerpt discussing a woman who cheats on her partner and the absence of fathers in her other children's lives.

Text discussing a woman cheating on partner who wants him to help care for her children with other men.

Man happily playing outdoors with children, symbolizing partner caring for children from other men in complex family dynamics

Image credits: halfpoint / Envato (not the actual photo)

Her unhinged behavior only worsened after a few interactions with their sons

Alt text: Text about a woman who gets angry when her partner spends time with her children from other men, involving cheating issues.

Text stating a woman discusses her oldest son and her desire to make up for his lack of birthday gifts.

Text discussing a woman who cheats on her partner and expects him to care for her children with other men.

Image credits: Nearby_Storage4795

Entitled women are also likely to be believers of “benevolent sexism”

Woman wearing black shirt with message about respect, related to woman cheats on partner and childcare issues.

Image credits: The frolicsome Fairy / Unsplash (not the actual photo)

In the story, there was a clear display of a sense of entitlement in the woman’s behavior. After ruining the relationship through infidelity, she had the audacity to force her ex to father her children with another man.

According to a study published in the Social Psychological and Personality Science journal, women with a high sense of entitlement are more likely to support benevolent sexism. 

Unlike misogyny, benevolent sexism implies a woman’s inferiority and dependence on a man. But in the case of entitled women, the research suggests that they tend to use it to their advantage to gain support from a man and essentially make their lives easier. 

“It tells us that one factor underlying women’s endorsement of sexist attitudes toward women is the propensity to feel more deserving than others and wanting to feel special,”  the study’s lead researcher, Matthew D. Hammond, told PsyPost, adding that benevolent sexism in these scenarios is a “self-protection motivation.” 

In the story, the woman did it through her insistence that her ex-boyfriend support her by fathering her other children, which was downright nonsensical. 

And when a former partner begins to act unreasonably, boundaries are necessary. Life coach and licensed therapist John Kim, LMFT, has one piece of advice: Don’t let them guilt you. 

“You’re not the bad guy for setting boundaries. You’re not cruel for cutting them off. You’re doing the hard, necessary work to get your life back,” he wrote. 

The man did exactly that. He stood his ground, which caused the woman to “blow a fuse.” But that’s not his problem, as he was just doing what was best for him and his sons.

The man answered questions that provided more insight into his story

Alt text: Online discussion about woman cheating on partner and expecting him to care for her children with other men.

Reddit user discusses woman who cheats on partner and expects him to support her children with other men.

Comment discussing a woman who cheats and wants her partner to care for her children with other men.

Alt text: Excerpt of an online discussion about a woman cheating and expecting partner to care for her children with other men.

Online discussion about child custody challenges when a woman cheats and expects partner to care for children with other men.

Online discussion about woman cheating on partner and expectations for him to care for her children with other men.

Reddit user discusses woman who cheats on partner and expects him to care for her children with other men.

Online discussion about woman who cheats on partner and expects him to care for her children with other men

Online discussion about woman cheats on partner and issues of shared care for her children with other men.

Text of online discussion about woman cheating on partner and conflicts over caring for children with other men.

Screenshot of an online discussion about a woman cheating and expecting partner to care for her children from other men.

Online discussion about woman cheating on partner and expectations for him to care for children with other men

Text conversation about a woman cheating on her partner and issues with caring for children with other men.

Forum discussion about woman who cheats on partner and expects him to care for her children with other men.

Alt text: Man discussing custody struggles due to woman cheating and bringing other men who care for her children.

Text conversation discussing a woman cheating and expecting partner to care for her children with other men.

Most people sided with him and called out his “deranged” former spouse 

Alt text: Online comment about a father refusing responsibility for children with other men, discussing partner and parenting care.

Text comment about a woman cheating and a man being a responsible dad despite her choices, honoring his children.

Screenshot of online discussion about a woman cheating on partner and expecting him to care for children with other men.

Screenshot of an online comment discussing a woman cheating on her partner and involving him in caring for her children.

But others couldn’t help but feel bad for the children, who were caught in the middle of their warring parents

Comment discussing lack of empathy and the importance of including children in shared care situations.

Reddit discussion about woman cheats on partner and the challenges of caring for children with other men.

Text conversation discussing consequences of a woman cheating and the impact on children from different fathers.

Commenter discussing family dynamics after woman cheats on partner and wants him to care for children with other men.

Poll Question

Total votes ·

Thanks! Check out the results:

Total votes ·

Newsletter

Subscribe to Access
Exclusive Polls

Subscribe

By entering your email and clicking Subscribe, you're agreeing to let us send you customized marketing messages about us and our advertising partners. You are also agreeing to our Privacy Policy.

Thank you! You've successfully subscribed to newsletters!

Anyone can write on Bored Panda. Start writing!

Follow Bored Panda on Google News!

Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda!