29 Things People Considered To Be Their Hill To Die On But Later Changed Sides Drastically
You may not know, but Galileo Galilei did not actually utter his famous words “And yet it turns” after he recanted his “heretical” scientific works at the request of the Inquisition. Some will call this cowardice, others - prudence, because the great scientist thereby saved his life...
However, people know many examples when someone was incredibly persistent in their point of view, erroneous or not, and after some time, under the influence of various factors, changed their opinion to the diametrically opposite one. And this viral thread in the AskReddit community is dedicated to just such cases.
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I used to be anti government healthcare. I got shot in Afghanistan and the VA ruined my f*****g life. My case was right at the heart of the VA scandal. I was extremely anti government health care and just frankly anti government after the Marine Corps. Then I lived an adult life in America. I watched a little girl die from horrific cancer over social media. She had a major campaign pulling for and it was pretty big thing in the community. My girlfriend (now wife) was friends with the family and we learned a lot about them and the girl. It was very beautiful and dramatic watching her live the rest of her short life. When she died, the family was annihilated by debt, and driven into abject despair. These f*****g vultures pecked them into pieces after they lost their daughter. It hardened me against the idea of private healthcare. I was a f*****g moron for believing that universal healthcare was some kind of evil. I was horribly wrong. We can't do this s**t without coming together. It has never worked. I really truly believe the reason the VA will never be fixed is because who's gonna give a f**k about a grown man getting f****d up in a war, when kids die like this, and their family gets destroyed.
Not recent, but I’m a boomer so we were raised to believe homosexuality is wrong. I never got worked up about it, but the idea was there. I got to thinking about it and realized it’s none of my business. What led me to that was the observation that the only difference is that they sleep with different people. How does that concern anybody else?.
It is always a concern for those who want to be able to tell you how to live your life. In the U.S. that would be primarily fundamentalist Christianity. The current Speaker of the House is an unapologetic Bible-thumper who wants to install a theocracy to replace our democracy. They want to outlaw abortion, but Republicans are always trying to cut funding for kids. Forced births, but after that you're on your own. Evil and despicable.
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Amazing how many social issues are ultimately not an issue at all when you think about them logically. Always keep in mind that a witch hunt is predicated on a lack of critical thinking and an emphasis on exploiting fear!
Yes, religion has played a huge role in demonizing "others".
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Donnie Dictator is campaigning against Immigrants. If elected he'll go after gays, then any other minorities. It's what Dictators like Adolf or Putin do.
Society, especially the media, are way too obsessed with who is sleeping with who. Like, mind your own business dumbass!
I'm a boomer and I was taught LGBTQ was just different. At the time, there was very little information about LGBTQ but I knew various people who identified as all. BTW - I'm a US southerner who is Christian. My parents and church did something right.
I appreciate that this person came to their senses, but frankly even boomers and older generations knew better than to discriminate (on the basis of whatever). My grandmother, born in 1905, was more openminded and accepting of others than many people today.
Fortunately at least a few of us boomers escaped that. My mother made it very clear that being gay wouldn't make her love me a bit less. As it happens, I'm straight, mom, but thanks for the support anyway.
I think people tend to forget that a lot of boomers were hippies… Or just not stupid and religious. Even my grandma who was a Great Depression kid never had any issue with it. (My other grandma was a different case… but she wasn’t terribly bright, and highly Catholic. She was also racist, which tracks.)
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The world would be a better place if people would mind their own business about things that don't affect them.
I don't see how being a "boomer" leads to one being raised to think being homosexual is somehow wrong. I was born in 1958, so also fall into the perception of being a baby-boomer, yet, I am open to people being whom they are. I have trans friends, homosexual friends (of both genders) and I really don't care about their sexuality. Lucky them! No, in the OPs case, it is just how they were raised, it has nothing to do with which generation you are.
Actually, it was far more common for people to be taught homosexuality is a bad thing in the past, such as during the Boomers’ childhoods. The last few decades have made amazing strides and now the younger generations are way more tolerant of LGBTQ+ than their parents or grandparents. (Keep in mind this is in general, there are homophobic Gen Z’s and tolerant boomers and everything in between). These are easy statistics to find online. I’m glad you were raised right, not every boomer is homophobic, but it’s very easy to prove that there are generational differences in attitudes towards gay folks. Please don’t forget that your personal experience doesn’t dictate the truth for everyone else :) the world was very different 60 years ago and you just got lucky. You can’t genuinely tell me you think the attitude towards LGBTQ+ folks was exactly the same in the past as it is today without any changes or advancements in tolerance.
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60 years ago I grew up with two homosexuals living next to us. They babysitted my siblings and me. They were great guys! I never understood the bias against them. However, there are two types homo's as well as hetero's: the ones who are just ordinary loving people, and the ones who show off their sexuality a lot. Nobody has a problem with the first type, I think...
No, I'm afraid you are wrong. There are definitely people who have a problem with both, as in they can't mind their own business, they have to push their beliefs on others.
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The stranger this is to think about history, how cultures especially before Christianity did have such hang ups for a lot of things. Like the old joke, when the Greeks visited the Romans they were SHOCKED! by the orgies. Not that they had orgies, but that the roman ones included women.
You don't need to interact with anyone's sexuality unless you're interacting sexually
Funny, my dad, a boomer too, surprised me recently with a tolerating comment towards the LGBTQ community where I know that in my youth, it wasn't always the case. Nice to see him grow, even at his age.
My parents were "greatest generation" (is there another word? They grew up during the Depression and WW II - my dad was in the army and sent to Italy during the tail-end of WW II) and they were NOT racist or homophobic. My mom had lesbian friends and my dad didn't care about people's orientation at all. You'd think that growing up in South Africa they would have been racist, but they weren't. (My dad used to joke that he hated all races and was just a misanthrope. My mother was threatened with arrest when she tried to make the apartheid police stop abusing Black people during a 'pass raid' in the '70s.) They didn't vote for the National Party in 1948 either (the Nats' platform was if they got into power they would institute apartheid). So I don't think we can judge based on what generation someone is.
I'm an elderly boomer (74) and I've never cared what someone does in their bedroom providing a) it doesn't involve children or animals, and b) it's consensual. Why should I even be aware of what someone's proclivities are? Likewise I won't share in your pride/rainbow exhibitions because I just don't care. I've never expected anyone else to celebrate my 'straight' lifestyle - I don't expect them to pressure me to 'celebrate' theirs. Time to leave this prurience alone, and just get on with living.
Gay man here. The boomers and their toxic homophobia made it so me and people like me couldn't even consider we were gay till we were far away from them. My dad was an "I'll kill you if you're gay" kinda guy, and so were all his friends and relatives. Such hell they put us through.
I’m a boomer and I’ve never thought homosexuality was wrong. It’s my parents generation who believed this 💩. And yes I know there’ll be folks from each generation who are a-holes for a variety of beliefs. As OP said, how does who anyone sleeps with (as long as there is consent) concern anybody else?
I was about 10 years old when my 20 something Jahovas Witness babysitter took me to Friendly's to inform me that my favorite aunt was gay so I shouldn't stay at her house anymore because her girlfriend was in fact a girlfriend. (We loved staying over there, much better than the actual male child molester our moms were aware of but thought we were too smart, luckily we were but now we know why our little cousin slept/hid with us) this was 1982. my reaction was "So?" Then I cried to my mom later that night and asked why I was supposed to be upset.
I have spent my adult years in the theater and every other person is gay. They are the most creative people I know. They are also the most loving people I know.
I grew up in the 70s and 80s when it was mocked and derided. By the time I was 17-18, I realized it didn't matter. I couldn't "choose" to be gay, I just wasn't. And I thought "If you could choose, why would you choose a life of harassment and abuse?" No one would. At that point, it just didn't mean anything to me. Unfortunately, I probably was a bad ally because when people came out to me, I was indifferent. I thought I was giving them equality, but I was actually ignoring a difficult act on their part.
You know what upsets me about the gay movement? That people are so bad at minding their own business and insisting on telling others how to live their own lives, the gay people have to fight for this and make it a much bigger deal than it should be. Note these "people" telling people what they should or shouldn't do/be are usually the same ones claiming that people are trying to take away their freedoms. Reminds me of Musk's idea of freedom of speech. He gets to say whatever he likes, but if anyone ever questions what he says, he does everything in his power to shut them down.
That is literally how I have always thought about it. I just didn't understand, who automatically thinks about whom someone sleeps with when they meet them to be able to decide if they like them or not?! Who does that?! When you meet a straight couple you don't go "Oh they f**k each other, and that's cool"?!!
If people choose to share that information okay. Who am I to pass judgements? At the end of the day. Love knows no boundaries and people are lucky to find real love.
Is is of no concern - just don't push it in our faces and make yourself entitled over it or anything else "different".
No. One. Is. Normalizing. Pedophilia... are you insane?! Sure, there have been child molesters for hundreds if not 1000s of years. That's a fact. But no one is trying or wanting to NORMALIZE pedophilia. Though many republican govt officials have been caught molesting children. Some Democrats also, yes. Humans can be disgusting af. But no one is wanting to normalize it. Jesus absolute christ, man.
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The nice thing about lesbians is that we tend to respect "no" more readily than men do. Also less likely to take rejection as an invitation to engage in psychotic and/or criminal behavior towards the one who rejected us.
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I grew up thinking labor unions were mobbed up organizations that wanted to bring Communism to America. Today, as an old man, I believe strengthening organized labor is the only way American workers will ever get a fair shake.
In this collection, made for you by Bored Panda, there are many stories, from small and funny to sad and even tragic, when people made a drastic 180 in their views on a variety of things. This could be political views or a phobia regarding insects, taste preferences or some kind of mental block in our head - or even just a prejudice about a certain movie genre. It’s not even this that’s interesting, but how people come to such changes.
It wasn't recently, but my biggest change has been about abortion.
When I was in my early 20's I felt that the fetus had a right to life and abortions should only be performed when it's medically necessary or in the case of r**e/incest etc.
Years later I came to the conclusion that an unwanted pregnancy is a situation with 2 bad choices: either terminate the pregnancy or force a woman to go through an unwanted pregnancy and bring a life into the world that is likely to be born into a bad situation. Now I trust the potential parents' decision...if they feel that having the child is a bad idea, then it likely is, and abortion should be an option for them because it is the choice that will likely result in the least amount of suffering.
Currently, most of my political opinions lean right, but pro-choice is the issue I feel most strongly about.
I used to be a super judgemental Christian. I hated the LGBTQ community and had no problem showing it. I met a trans woman who I couldn't help but fall in love with. I tried really hard not to but I couldn't live without her. I did a lot of thinking and research and came to the conclusion that God isn't real. If he is then he's cruel and I didn't want anything to do with him anyway. I'm now so happy and engaged to this gorgeous transgendered woman and I've never been more sure that im where I should be. We're both insanely happy.
Electric vehicles are not good for the environment.
They are a plot to save the dying automotive industry. Mining the materials needed to produce EVs wreaks havoc on the environment and involves child slave labour particularly in the Congo.
EVs are heavier than petrol cars so there is additional wear on the roads and the tyres.
We need more walkable cities. More local stores within walking distance of people’s homes. Doctors, dentists, libraries, everything. More of them, closer so that people can walk or ride bikes instead. That is how we can protect the environment.
EVs are not going to save us.
“In fact, it cannot be said that a person can be an absolute adherent of any beliefs throughout their entire life,” says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and certified NLP specialist, to whom Bored Panda reached out for a comment here. “The fact is that we are regularly exposed to the influence of various kinds of factors - in childhood this is mainly due to our parents and upbringing, and we unwittingly adopt the views inherent in our family.”
“Then, when the period of growing up begins, the already established mindset undergoes inevitable changes due to the fact that now the entire incoming flow of information is refracted through the prism of our own experience. And in the future, any changes that occur in our consciousness are the result of our experience, impressions and reflections over what's happening."
“Moreover, I would even rather say that it's not very natural when a person never changes their views - after all, flexibility is always inherent in the human mind. The main thing is that these turns in our perception benefit us and those around us,” Irina summarizes.
We totally believed that vaccines caused autism up until our 100% not vaccinated kid was given an educational label of autism.
We took questionable child birth classes at 22 and expecting our first that told us a lot of b******t about the “evils” of vaccines, epidurals, and baby formula…all of this backed up what the conspiracy theorist who taught biology at our dumb Bible college (thankfully, we outgrew that nonsense) told us about these things, so we stupidly believed them.
We of course stopped doing delayed vaccines immediately after that (we were never 100% anti vaccines, just anti vaccines for kids under 3), and got our kids caught up pretty quickly.
This was all 14 years ago now, though, so not really recent.
I was a conservative into my early-mid 20s and then I hard flipped on every single policy. None of that s**t makes sense if you think about it at all. I wasn’t an extremist, but they definitely tricked me into believing b******t like trickledown economics.
I’m not a project that needs to be constantly worked on. Growth is important, but sometimes…you just gotta be. 🐝.
Often our prejudices are only in our heads - and only when we finally decide to break this psychological barrier and try something new, it may well turn out that in reality everything is not as we pictured inside ourselves. Well, or our negative perception will only be confirmed - this also cannot be discounted. Be that as it may, it’s worth trying, experimenting and not being afraid.
We had Miracle Whip in my house growing up. I thought it was just a brand of regular mayonnaise. I hated it.
One day I had a sandwich with actual real mayonnaise on it, it was the best sandwich of my life up to that point. I looked into it and Miracle is some weird thing that's to mayonnaise what margarine is to butter.
I hated beer until my late 20s, when I finally had something besides Bud Lite or Coors.
Miracle Whip is a low-fat version of mayonnaise with added sugar, mustard, garlic, and paprika.
I was terrified of snakes until I was in 10th grade (so... Not recently lmao, I graduated in 2018) until my biology teacher had 2 corn snakes and one of them was so sweet. Her name was Maisy and was just so cute. She would let us pet her, she'd curl up to me and fall asleep.
I used to not like mashed potatoes, but it turns out my parents were just super f*****g bad at making them.
For example, don’t be afraid to leave your comments. Especially if you also have an interesting story behind you of overcoming or changing your own views on something or someone. So please be brave now, just write your own tale here - and who knows, maybe you'll also inspire someone to share one more great instructive or just amusing experience!
People are inherently good/decent. Nope, I’ve been corrected and humbled numerous times.
At birth, people are egoistical, aggressive savages. Empathy and kindness are learned behaviour. If children are not taught to be socialised human beings, they're no better than wild apes. We are not inherently bad, but were beasts with no knowledge of right and wrong. We have no morals by nature. It's learned behaviour and we get worse and worse at teaching our children how to be kind. Humans are animals, that have made themselves believe, that we're not.
I'm an avid gardener and used to hate the idea of cut flowers. These days, I consider cut flowers as plants paying rent.
I used to hate standardized tests and thought they were just a way for people to buy their way into better schools and were an inaccurate measure of true academic ability.
Then I saw an article in defense of them that basically admitted that everything I thought was true, but every single other current metric is easier to buy with money and an even worse measure of academic performance. Learned that day that flawed tools are sometimes the only tool you have.
That was not where I was expecting that argument to go, but… yeah that’s a fair point.
I always considered myself Christian, but over the last 16 months or so, I feel far more agnostic. I still respect religion. I just don’t feel like I really have much use for it anymore.
I thought fish tasted weird, until my dad some years ago accidentaly "overcooked" the fish ny accident. It tasted great! Turns out its not supposed to have the consistency of gelatin.
Brussels sprouts. My dad always said he hated them growing up so I assumed he was right and never ate them. Had some recently and they were delicious!.
They actually used to taste really bitter if you didn’t cook them right, but I think that’s been selectively bred out, so they’re much more friendly and accessible. I love some Brussels sprouts, roasted in olive oil with a little salt and pepper.
I used to hate spiders. Even the smallest ones would give me the creeps.
One day I was at a petting zoo with my kid, she was around four at the time. We went to see a snake and a spider and while we were there I ended up holding the spider in my hand. The spider guy asked me if I wanted to hold it. I think I didn't want to show my kid the fear, so I just went with it. It was a big fella.
Something clicked in my brain. Something about that spider being so big I could actually feel its weight instead of just the tickly feeling of a normal spider.
From that day my fear was cured. Spiders are just like ants or flies to me now.
That my phd matters. I've been destroying myself over it while the institution I study at has completely failed to support me.
I thought without the Dr I would be a failure.
I realise now that I'd rather earn good money in a job I like and travel and live happy rather than keep making up for their failure.
I’m conflicted bc I love learning and I really do want to go to higher levels of schooling, but I also don’t know what I want to do with my life and I’d feel bad if I was just pouring money into classes/degree I’d never use…
I decided I don't hate my mom anymore and actually wish she was here. The 10 year anniversary of her passing was about a week ago and I was sitting on my bed mulling over my feelings as well as a lot of things my dad had said about my mom when we'd visited her grave for the first time in a while that morning. My thoughts were going at such a rapid pace that it took me a second to even realize what I'd thought when I absorbed that being mad at her for the ways she f****d me/my life up was useless, she could've changed as a person by now had she not passed, I've become an adult and understand the nuances of life, and I miss my mom.
I recently changed from being a proponent of small government to a fan of big government.
The best government follows the will of the people and looks out for their wellbeing, and the best way to do that is to have a lot of checks and balances that prevent a small group from imposing their will on others.
Likewise, it's less prone to corruption since more people hold power, and it's harder to influence from the outside.
You shouldn't want a big or small government. You should want the right sized government. If big government is the right size, it isn't big. This is like when politicians say they want to get rid of regulations. Well which ones? Some are good some are bad. A blanket statement like that is just dumb.
I was dead set against blue cheese. I got some regular mild buffalo wings from dominos one night and thought f**k it, I’ll get one dip of blue cheese and if I don’t like it I’ll just toss it out. I ordered 2 ranches just in case. I actually love blue cheese now. S**t tasted so good haha. I get it all the time now.
Okay but let's be honest here .. domino's is serving blue cheese flavoured dip .. not the real stuff
I thought Elder scrolls online is a boring online game that I'll never like especially since trying it once.
I was extremely wrong!! I play almost every day, with my wife. I absolutely love this game's the world, the missions, the everything!.
That people should adopt or foster instead of doing IVF, etc.
We started trying and I found out I have basically no eggs left (premature ovarian failure). I'd always said I'd "just adopt" if I couldn't have kids. Turns out actually being told I can't completely changed my view on things, and now we're doing donor egg IVF. I completely understand now why people put themselves through this stuff, as hard as it is.
Also, adoption is not cheap or easy like people assume, and has its own set of ethical issues (as does donor conception, but we've tried to inform ourselves as best we can so that we do it as "right" as possible, and try to do what is in the best interest of our future children). Fostering is not something just anyone can (or should) do, and is obviously not a guarantee of a happy family since the goal is reunification. .
This leads to the question how much an adoption costs in their country. Of course a child needs clothes, food and other things, but the costs of adoption only, sum up to a few hundred Euros in my country. Of course it costs more for a child from another country, but that depends.
I was team creamy peanut butter all the way back to kindergarten. Then during the pandemic, I changed to crunchy peanut butter. I saw the jar in the cabinet and thought it looked really good and now it's my preferred peanut butter. I think I was going through a midlife crisis.
I used to believe it was useful to have police patrolling. Now I don’t. We don’t need police looking for traffic violations or monitoring sidewalks. We need them to come when called. We need them to investigate crimes.
At the very least we need to completely cutback on the police state.
I had a big hangup about blood and gore in movies, to the point where I wouldn't even see 300 in theaters with my ex 17 years ago.
I just watched it, and it's like a switch flipped in my brain: it's all stylized. I'm certainly not going to watch SAW anytime soon, but the fear is greatly diminished.
Onions.
I used to hate them, but like them now.
But I still don't like sweet onions. Taste like onion flavored apple. Worst of both worlds.
My grandfather used to grow his own red onions and eat them like apples.
I used to have an uninformed view of abortion, I knew what it did and was like yeah, sounds bad that’s a baby but it’s the mom’s choice. Then I got older and roe vs wade got turned and I did more research. Holy s**t, abortion is important. It should be available to women everywhere without bible thumpers telling them they’re going to hell
Hi KillerKiwi! I know very little about the whole abortion topic. You say you did more research and discovered how important it is, and I am trying to learn. What made you decide abortion was so important? (Not trying to debate, I just know so little and I would love to know)
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I was a very picky eater as a kid. One of my friends is an excellent cook and he dared me to let him make a food I hated. He assured me he wouldn't be offended if I didn't like it as long as I tried it once. I said okay. That's how I learned, as much as I love them, my parents are just not good cooks.
Funny how many of us learned that (our parents not being great at cooking) as we get to adulthood. I made myself a great cook to the point of my oldest brother coming over to eat; he was a sous-chef at the time.
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When I was in my 20s, I once spent more than half a year on welfare. I saw how it's a trap designed to punish people for being on it, but is simultaneously designed to make getting off welfare next to impossible unless (like me) you're single without kids. Very few people who are on welfare want to be, most want to work and have a better life but roadblocks are put in their way.
I was a vicious, nasty, horrid little racist as a kid and teen. I have no idea where I got it from. As far as I recall, my parents weren't racist. My extended family wasn't racist. My friends weren't racist, nor were their parents. But I would look at other nationalities and just think the most awful things. Then my folks pulled me out of my regular school and sent me to a private school where--for the first time--I actually had to interact with people who didn't look just like me. Completely blew my mind and made me ashamed of myself.
That is interesting, usually it is the other way around, the private schools catering to a given group, and the public schools being the ones that are more mixed.
Load More Replies... OK, so I thought I was a defeatist. I had a terrible accident, did therapy (rehab, water, physio, sports, massages. Edit: and Chinese acupuncture) and I can now touch my face, do pretty much anything, except play pool again. Took me 12 years. I only stopped because I was tired of getting drugged (the pain is awful). In my head, I should have been stuck without the use of my arms and hands.
Wow, congratulations! I'm so very sorry you went through such an awful thing (and so much pain), but while obviously it's been hell you've clearly learned and grown as a result.
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More of a controversial subject than most. But, I have come to believe that life ending services should be available for anyone who requests it. Why should people have to endure living a life they want to end? Why should they be ostracized for this?
I was raised on a "college is the only way survive". my mom constantly told me "college first", when I told her anything I wanted to do. ( I had a near-death experience and heard my mom tell me "college first.) I have a degree. Biggest mistake ever. I work as a janitor, with higher pay and better benefits than what my degree would earn me.
My husband was 100% against seafood with the exception of fast food fish sandwiches when we first got married. I on the other hand love it especially shellfish. On our 1 year anniversary he took me to a great local seafood place, where I ordered snow crab legs. He was watching me with fascination cracking and eating so I said try a bite. At first he refused but I asked if he ever tried it he said no. I asked him how does he know he doesn't like it if he hadn't tried it he said his parents didn't. After some more prodding I finally got him to take a bite. He was hooked! lol
My change happened during COVID. I always that in a time of disaster or big change, people would listen to the science and just go along with what was needed. Boy was I wrong. The number whiny, soft boobs out in the country amazed me. Simple thing. Wear a mask. Unbelievable how weak people really are. And lengths they went to to avoid it. There was a gas station with a McDonald's I used to stop in on my way to work everyday. This little pussy would go in every day with no mask. And he had the drive thru option. The store wouldn't say anything and Mr pussy started wearing his gun. These weak little fools are too stupid to just go along and then we let the weaklings have their guns on top of it. It really opened my eyes to how weak the US is. About the only positive is that clowns like this were more likely to die from COVID. The downer is these people have kids/ families who
OK, not exactly a hill to die on, but when I was little I hated crinkle-cut French fries. Then one night I had a dream that I lived on a farm, and the pigs had crinkle-cut fries for tails. The people who lived on the farm pulled them off and ate them on occasion. I ate one and liked it. Ever since then I have enjoyed crinkle-cut fries.
I used to have an uninformed view of abortion, I knew what it did and was like yeah, sounds bad that’s a baby but it’s the mom’s choice. Then I got older and roe vs wade got turned and I did more research. Holy s**t, abortion is important. It should be available to women everywhere without bible thumpers telling them they’re going to hell
Hi KillerKiwi! I know very little about the whole abortion topic. You say you did more research and discovered how important it is, and I am trying to learn. What made you decide abortion was so important? (Not trying to debate, I just know so little and I would love to know)
Load More Replies... I was a very picky eater as a kid. One of my friends is an excellent cook and he dared me to let him make a food I hated. He assured me he wouldn't be offended if I didn't like it as long as I tried it once. I said okay. That's how I learned, as much as I love them, my parents are just not good cooks.
Funny how many of us learned that (our parents not being great at cooking) as we get to adulthood. I made myself a great cook to the point of my oldest brother coming over to eat; he was a sous-chef at the time.
Load More Replies... When I was in my 20s, I once spent more than half a year on welfare. I saw how it's a trap designed to punish people for being on it, but is simultaneously designed to make getting off welfare next to impossible unless (like me) you're single without kids. Very few people who are on welfare want to be, most want to work and have a better life but roadblocks are put in their way.
I was a vicious, nasty, horrid little racist as a kid and teen. I have no idea where I got it from. As far as I recall, my parents weren't racist. My extended family wasn't racist. My friends weren't racist, nor were their parents. But I would look at other nationalities and just think the most awful things. Then my folks pulled me out of my regular school and sent me to a private school where--for the first time--I actually had to interact with people who didn't look just like me. Completely blew my mind and made me ashamed of myself.
That is interesting, usually it is the other way around, the private schools catering to a given group, and the public schools being the ones that are more mixed.
Load More Replies... OK, so I thought I was a defeatist. I had a terrible accident, did therapy (rehab, water, physio, sports, massages. Edit: and Chinese acupuncture) and I can now touch my face, do pretty much anything, except play pool again. Took me 12 years. I only stopped because I was tired of getting drugged (the pain is awful). In my head, I should have been stuck without the use of my arms and hands.
Wow, congratulations! I'm so very sorry you went through such an awful thing (and so much pain), but while obviously it's been hell you've clearly learned and grown as a result.
Load More Replies... More of a controversial subject than most. But, I have come to believe that life ending services should be available for anyone who requests it. Why should people have to endure living a life they want to end? Why should they be ostracized for this?
I was raised on a "college is the only way survive". my mom constantly told me "college first", when I told her anything I wanted to do. ( I had a near-death experience and heard my mom tell me "college first.) I have a degree. Biggest mistake ever. I work as a janitor, with higher pay and better benefits than what my degree would earn me.
My husband was 100% against seafood with the exception of fast food fish sandwiches when we first got married. I on the other hand love it especially shellfish. On our 1 year anniversary he took me to a great local seafood place, where I ordered snow crab legs. He was watching me with fascination cracking and eating so I said try a bite. At first he refused but I asked if he ever tried it he said no. I asked him how does he know he doesn't like it if he hadn't tried it he said his parents didn't. After some more prodding I finally got him to take a bite. He was hooked! lol
My change happened during COVID. I always that in a time of disaster or big change, people would listen to the science and just go along with what was needed. Boy was I wrong. The number whiny, soft boobs out in the country amazed me. Simple thing. Wear a mask. Unbelievable how weak people really are. And lengths they went to to avoid it. There was a gas station with a McDonald's I used to stop in on my way to work everyday. This little pussy would go in every day with no mask. And he had the drive thru option. The store wouldn't say anything and Mr pussy started wearing his gun. These weak little fools are too stupid to just go along and then we let the weaklings have their guns on top of it. It really opened my eyes to how weak the US is. About the only positive is that clowns like this were more likely to die from COVID. The downer is these people have kids/ families who
OK, not exactly a hill to die on, but when I was little I hated crinkle-cut French fries. Then one night I had a dream that I lived on a farm, and the pigs had crinkle-cut fries for tails. The people who lived on the farm pulled them off and ate them on occasion. I ate one and liked it. Ever since then I have enjoyed crinkle-cut fries.
