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The word incel is short for “involuntary celibate.” It’s most often used to describe men who say they want a romantic or sexual relationship but feel unable to find one. In many cases, that frustration gets aimed at women and girls through blame, objectification, and outright insults.
Online, incels gather in communities to swap stories and reinforce each other’s worldview. And while platforms like Reddit have banned some incel groups over violent content, there are still dedicated forums on the internet where they can post freely.
That’s what TikToker Kylie Brewer set out to show. In a video, she shared what it’s like inside one of these forums, and what she found was exactly as ugly as you’d expect—packed with misogyny, discrimination, and racism. She called the content “disgusting” and argued that websites like this should be banned.
Read more below, but be warned: some of the content may be upsetting.
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Screenshot of a female user undercover in online incel forums, revealing disturbing and harsh conversations.
Screenshot of a Reddit comment describing how incels live in a detached, destructive online world far from reality.
Screenshot of an online comment discussing women under 35, highlighting harsh views found in incel forums.
Screenshot of an anonymous forum post discussing the unnoticed existence of many women in incel forums.
Screenshot of a forum post discussing women’s experiences and challenges in incel forums and online dating.
Screenshot of an incel forum post revealing misogynistic views shared by users targeting women online.
Screenshot of an online forum post discussing perspectives found in incel forums where women go undercover.
Screenshot of an online comment discussing average men and women in the context of incel forum discussions.
Comment from an anonymous user discussing research on incel forums about gender messaging dynamics and physical attractiveness.
Screenshot of a comment from an online incel forum discussing desensitization to adult content among users.
Comment from incel forum user expressing harsh views on social Darwinism and loneliness in incel communities.
Screenshot of a harsh comment in an incel forum revealing negative attitudes toward women undercover.
Comment from an incel forum discussing harsh views on women’s appearance and social value in incel communities.
Screenshot of a user comment discussing challenges in dating and insights from women reading incel forums.
Screenshot of an online post discussing appearance effort in incel forums, highlighting harsh community views on women.
Screenshot of an anonymous forum post revealing incel community attitudes, highlighting the dark reality of incel forums.
Screenshot of a Reddit comment discussing public opinions, related to women going undercover in incel forums.
Screenshot of a Reddit comment humorously comparing incels and Excel, highlighting incel forum culture and language.
Screenshot of an online forum discussion showing users debating average appearance in conversations related to incel forums.
Reddit comment discussing distorted self-views and gender dynamics in incel forums from an undercover perspective.
Incel forums discussion showing distorted views on women and reality, highlighting incel community's mindset and behavior.
Screenshot of a forum post questioning if members are aware they are incels or refer to themselves as nice guys in incel forums.
Comment from incel forum discussing dangers women face with unwanted attention and red flags from incels online.
Screenshot of an online forum post discussing attention dynamics, related to women undercover in incel forums research.
Screenshot of an anonymous comment in an incel forum discussing hygiene and behavior of men.
Screenshot of a user comment in an incel forum discussing perceptions of average men and their desirability.
Screenshot of an online forum post discussing logic and reason in incel communities, highlighting toxic forum culture.
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Oleksandra is an experienced copywriter from Ukraine with a master’s degree in International Communication. Having covered everything from education, finance, and marketing to art, pop culture, and memes, she now brings her storytelling skills to Bored Panda. For the past six years, she’s been living and working in Vilnius, Lithuania.
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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.
this is an active epidemic among young men and even minors. I cannot tell you the amount of disgusting things that have been said to me, often because I've said something like 'hey lets not say slurs' or 'maybe you could respect their right to exist', here are some examples "I bet the girl who got r***d deserved it" "Im white, straight, and male, so I honestly don't care" "of course you'd defend them you're obviously sped"
They are a product of a sick society all around. really sad. 1st amendment covers them as well as nazis. you can say it doesnt or shouldnt but it does. plenty of case law to back it up. the internet is a horrible thing. i wish a mega sunstorm event like the one in 1859 would come and just wipe it out. we’d all be far far better off.
this is an active epidemic among young men and even minors. I cannot tell you the amount of disgusting things that have been said to me, often because I've said something like 'hey lets not say slurs' or 'maybe you could respect their right to exist', here are some examples "I bet the girl who got r***d deserved it" "Im white, straight, and male, so I honestly don't care" "of course you'd defend them you're obviously sped"
They are a product of a sick society all around. really sad. 1st amendment covers them as well as nazis. you can say it doesnt or shouldnt but it does. plenty of case law to back it up. the internet is a horrible thing. i wish a mega sunstorm event like the one in 1859 would come and just wipe it out. we’d all be far far better off.
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