“I’m Scared To Tell My American Friends”: 11 Things That Are Normal In Denmark But Not In America
InterviewWith 33 hour work weeks, a $20 minimum wage, free university, free medical care and free child care, Denmark has been one of the happiest countries in the world for the last decade or more. Home of Hans Christian Andersen and hygge, many people around the globe have an idealized view of what it’s like to live in Denmark. But according to one mother from the US who actually lives there, there are certain cultural differences that might shock the average American.
In her series “Things That Are Normal In Denmark That I’m Scared To Tell My American Friends”, TikToker Annie In Eventyrland shares all of the culture shocks she has experienced since she moved to Denmark. Below, you’ll find many of Annie’s observations about how Danish children are treated, as well as an interview with her and some of the reactions her videos have received.
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It seems like age 7-8 is completely normal for a kid to walk to and from school by themselves, not really any later than 10, depending on where you live and where the kid's school is.
Im 64. I walked to school including kindergarden in my small town in W. MD LIKE 1/2 mile every day in the good ole USA. Thats not Denmark, that is the time we live in, fueled by internet which has destroyed communities despite pretending to make it more cohesive.
Load More Replies...This used to be the norm in the US too. I’m 61, and either walked, rode my bike, or took the school bus (on rainy days) to school from 1966 to 1977—got my license early that year (born in November, got license in November of 1976, but no car until 1977) and started driving myself to school.
I don't want to say my age, but it was common in the US even more recently. On one hand, I think people are paranoid and over-protective. On the other hand, we're so much more *aware* of the evil things that happen to kids now, that I can't really blame them. I don't know the stats, but I get the feeling that sex trafficking in the US has become much worse (?). Makes me want to lock my kids inside and never let them out of my sight.
Load More Replies...Yeah, perfectly normal in a lot of Northern/Western European countries.
Well, Denmark is a civilized country. The US is a sinister version of the Mad Hatter's Tea Party. My mom used to send me to the store starting as age 6. We lived on a 4 lane highway and I had to cross the road and walk a few blocks to get there. She even knew one of the kids across the street from us was kidnapped off the road one time. The 70's really was survival of the fittest.
In my little hometown most kids walked to school (I don't know about now) and the older kids looked out for the younger ones. I live in Australia.
The only reason I had to get a bus to school rather than walk was that I'd have to cross a very busy dangerous main road to get to school in Ireland without any zebra crossing.
It used to be normal, but people now are afraid to let their kids go alone. It's not just stranger danger, sometimes kids have to cross a busy street and not every driver is responsible.
People leave their babies outside in their strollers to sleep. To me, it's a sign of safety and trust in the community.
This reminds me of Danish actress Anette Sørensen who went to jail for leaving her baby in a pram outside a New York restaurant over twenty years ago. https://nypost.com/2017/11/25/i-went-to-jail-for-leaving-my-baby-outside-a-restaurant/amp/
Ohhhh man, the best part of this story is the judgy moms in the comments 😂
i see how that makes sense like in a safe community but do they mean OUTSIDE outside, like even in the heat or smth? sorry i dont have much experience w babies anyway and i live in the us so im a bit confused
Denmark usually doesn’t get that hot. We had a maximum of 31°C this summer and that was only for a few days. July is the warmest month of the year, with an average temperature of up to 21.7°C. Babies sleep in their prams all year round just like people of all ages take a dip in the sea all year round. Both are known to be very healthy.
Load More Replies...Mosquito nets are obtainable in Denmark, if need be..
Load More Replies...I dont. You have absolutely no heads up if the kid get to hot, to cold, wakes up crying, attacked by mosquitoes or a cat squashes them with love. I dont fear kidnap (Sweden) although wr actually had some cases of that to, but other risks.
To hear more about Annie’s thoughts on Danish parenting and how she ended up in Denmark in the first place, we reached out to her via email. She told Bored Panda that her family relocated to Copenhagen about three and a half years ago because the design company her husband works for opened an office there.
We asked Annie how she would compare living in Denmark to living in the US, and she told us, “Considering just the sheer difference in population, it's really hard to compare. But I am really thankful that Denmark is so safe. Copenhagen is listed as the safest city in the world, and I'm extremely grateful to be able to raise my children here. For that, I do prefer Denmark, but I would be lying if I said I didn't miss the occasional Target run from time to time.”
In Denmark, you can't name your baby whatever you want. In fact, there's a preapproved list that you can choose from. And if the name that you wanna choose for your baby isn't on there, it has to be approved. So we can't name our kids something like Malibu Barbie here, but there are even more common-seeming names that have been blacklisted as well.
It seems very racist. What if you immigrate from Sri Lanka or Madagascar and want to give your baby a traditional name? Are Chadwick, Barack, Romesh or Nishant going to be banned because they're not in the tradition of the country where they settle?
Load More Replies...I once heard of an American girl named Abcde (parents' choice). She was being bullied for that in school. I mean... really? That's the best name you could come up with for your child?
Abcde is surprisingly common name in the US. Almost 400 people have that as a given name. Way better name than those "Uniqueigh" names some like to give, imho
Load More Replies...In Germany, there is no fixed list, but a set of rules. For example, the name should not cause any trouble to the child. But if you can prove that a name is used as a name somewhere in the world, you can use it in Germany as well, without having to prove your personal connection to the place of the name’s origin. German Wikipedia has an up-to-date list of approved and declined given names that came before German courts. See “ Gerichtsentscheidungen über Vornamen” here: https://de.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vorname_(Deutschland). Approved names include Cosma-Shiva, Dior, Emily-Extra, Fanta, Michael Cougar, November. Among the declined names are Borussia, Hemingway, Moon Unit, Navajo, Rosa (as boy’s name).
It's same in Finland!! There are lists of names that were approved and not approved every year. It's weird someone would name their kids Beer.
France is the same way. The approved list is quite extensive and there is a bit of flexibility built in, but it will prevent names like "Moon Unit".
That's a great idea. Why do people have to give their kids such crazy names nowadays.
Probably because it's their choice and their child. A crazy name to you could have deep meaning for them or honoring their ancestry or they thought it was a great name.
Load More Replies...We really need this here in the US. We need to stop this trend of Bratleighs and Snotlynns. And don't forget about Marijuana Pepsi.
I named my daughter after my late mother Linda Kay. She loves her name. She is a brat sometimes, as am I, as I'm certain EVERY1 has been&willB @some point in their life. Glass houses&rocks. Whoever is perfect shouldB the1 to take the 1st shot..
Load More Replies...Heard this before of Scandi-region nations. Brilliant idea. Long overdue in the rest of the world. Lumbering someone with a daft-sounding or misspelt name is a curse, not "creative" or "unique."
Not really. It's inherently racist to suggest that 'approved' names only can be given.
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In the US, there's this perception that Denmark is just this extremely healthy country and everyone eats super clean and just eats whole foods, fruit, vegetables all the time.
And in the US, at least where I had my kids, which was in New York and then Portland, Oregon, there was a lot of stigma around giving your kids sugar or any kind of junk food.
Honestly, something that I really love about Denmark is how normalized treats are.
Doctors will literally recommend it if your kid is sick, they will say, "Well, have you tried giving them ice cream yet?"
Another food that's kind of demonized again, at least where I'm from in the US, is anything with bread, any carbs of any kind. Here in Denmark, you might have a pastry every day. You might have a pastry several times a day, and then pasta with some bread. You'd probably wash that down with a coke or a glass of wine, or several beers.
I do love how normalized fun foods are, and I think it actually sets people up for really healthy eating habits.
In Finland, it's sort of the same but people usually feed their kids healthy food ever day. Even school food is real food, not junk food.
The quality of the food in Denmark is way better than in the US.
Commercial ice cream recipes in Europe calls for 15-20% of total weight being white sugar and about 12% being fat from dairy sources. This would be considered "low fat ice cream" in the USA, with the regular ice cream having respectively 22-35% of sugar (both natural and processed like corn syrup) and 15-20% of fats.
Oh, and Denmark has a TAX on sugar. The more unhealthy the food, the higher the tax.
Load More Replies...Barring any conditions, allergies, or sensitivities, when it comes to food anything in moderation shouldn’t hurt you—-and slow down when eating it. So yes, have some ice cream. Just don’t go eating the entire quart or half gallon in one sitting. A couple dips should do. Eat it slowly to get the full flavor, don’t gobble it or you won’t even taste it.
In the US many sweets have added high fructose corn syrup that can be only broken down in the liver so it takes forever. Whereas in other countries real sugar is used and it's much easier for the body to burn it so typically those people can stay thinner without getting a visceral fat belly.
The Dutch have " hagelslag", chocolate sprinkles for breakfast.
Load More Replies...Ice cream and a hot drink can contribute to killing bacteria. With every fast paced change in temperature, a few of them die, others get weaker and die the next cycle. Add sugar and ethanol, and your cold will not be shorter, but a lot more bearable due to this.
Right, pouring myself a strong drink, getting an ice cream and having a black coffee! Got a horrible cold! 🤧 Though probably too late. Four days of the most vicious sore throat.
Load More Replies...We also asked Annie if it took a while to acclimate to all of the cultural differences, and she shared, “I honestly feel like I am still adjusting to the cultural differences here. I wasn't expecting it, but it feels like literally everything is different from what I'm used to in some way, for reasons big and small.”
“Learning to grocery shop in a foreign country took me a couple years to get down, and I still have room for improvement,” Annie admitted. “The hardest thing for me to get used to was, considering maternity leave and work life balance is so healthy here, there really isn't such a thing as a stay at home parent, which was my role for five years before making the move. It's been a lot having my entire identity change, but for the better.”
Something that seems to be very normalized here are afflictions of old, in particular, lice. I grew up in Texas and I never had lice in my entire childhood or early adult life. If somebody were to get it, it's kind of a big deal. But I will never forget, a few months after we moved here, as we were leaving my son's kindergarten, he was complaining that his head was itching, and sure enough, I looked at his scalp and there just was like the perfect pattern of lice eggs.
I ran back into the classroom and was like, "Oh my gosh, I just noticed my son has lice." And the teacher was like, "Okay, well, I'll send out an email and let everybody know." They were just so calm about it. Whereas I feel like in the US, people would be freaking out.
This is still a thing in my country too. You can easily get rid of it of course so maybe that's why it's not such a big deal?
My daughter had lice. My daughter with long hair, so thick that cheap hairbrushes would break if you tried to pull them through her hair. It was most definitely not easy to rid her hair of them. Not easy at all...
Load More Replies...Agreed. I don't have children, but I do currently live in Texas. The semi-rural area that I live in even goes so far as to send out a little mailer to everyone in the areas around the primary (eh..elementary) school when there is a lice outbreak. The OP's post is definitely not typical
Load More Replies...Honestly, I don't see how this would NOT be a thing in kindergarten and elementary school. Lice are not easy to get rid of if not everyone takes the same measures, and classmates will re-infect each other all the time. Our children have had them two or three times during elementary school, in 6 years time, so far.
We don't freak out about it, here in the USA, anymore. In fact we can't even send you home from school for it any more (in Illinois). I'm a teacher
I was in elementary school back in the 70s and it wasn't considered a huge deal. The teachers sent a note home. Your parents gave you look over and bought some lice treatment if you had any signs of critters. It mostly hit the kids who played little league baseball because they shared batting helmets. I never caught them myself, but I remember having my mom check for it a couple times.
Load More Replies...It has become less of a big deal here in the states too. I taught for 30 years, and where kids were sent home until lice were gone, toward the end of my career, parents were just notified.
Yeah. I'm in TN and lice happen. In fact it's so common that there are a couple of businesses that have been opened by nurses that solely remove lice. $100 and an hour later no more lice. After spending about 6 hrs trying to remove them from my daughters hair the school nurse still found some the next day. I was thrilled to pay and be done with it. We had to do it again a couple of years later.
In the late 90s, I was a substitute Aide in early Special Ed classes. One day we had to take the kids to the Nurse for a lice check, which blew my mind. Even more, was that they wanted to check me also. I thought about it, and then I thought, why nit ?
Same in Finland. The teachers will inform if anyone has lice or any pests.
Having lice has been so stigmatized in the US. It's considered the condition of "dirty unclean persons, when it's quiet the opposite. Lice prefer a clean environment.
The legal drinking age here is 16, you're allowed to buy alcohol of certain levels. In case you don't know, the legal drinking age in the US is 21.
Legally there are no age restrictions on energy drinks. There's just *recommendation* that energy drinks should not be sold to children under the age of 15. Many retailers choose to follow that recommendation, but it's not like it's illegal to sell energy drinks to those who are under 15.
Load More Replies...In the UK, children (16-17) can drink wine with a meal in a restaurant, if bought by an adult. This may have been tightened up, as I was allowed a very small glass of wine with my meal in a restaurant from about the age of 10. At home, it is legal (though not recommended) for children as young as 6 to drink alcohol. This is why for me, turning 18 didn't suddenly make want to go out and drink every night, as it was nothing new.
Alcohol abuse got worse when the drinking age was raised. When kids have to sneak they tend to drink too much. Also, they lost the opportunity to practice safe drinking at parties with adults.
in most places its 18, and countries w younger drinking limits have less alcohol related issues compared to the us where its 21
Or why not start feeding them beer-infused milk with the bottle when they‘re infants.
Load More Replies...Yeah, you can't buy a beer, but you can join the Army & get sent to kill people.
Wow,,l do think that is too young ,,l know we have sips with parents around, before we turn ,18 in Australia,,
We then asked Annie if she thinks many American parents could learn a thing or two from Danish parents. “One of the biggest differences between American and Danish parents is how relaxed they are, and with nearly a year of maternity leave, paid vacation and sick days, living in such a safe country, affordable childcare and no medical costs, why wouldn't they be?”
“For that reason, I think it would be pretty difficult for American parents to be as relaxed as their Danish counterparts,” Annie told Bored Panda. “But I do think American culture could stand to step back from helicopter parenting, having their kids in so many activities and having so many educational expectations for them at such young ages. Denmark is really good at letting kids be kids.”
If you drop your kid off at daycare, kindergarten, elementary school, any institution, they could leave at any point and you might not know where they are.
I honestly don't know how many times I picked up my kid from school and they were like, "Hey, we went to the theater today," and I had absolutely no clue that they were even gonna be going anywhere.
There's also been times that I've been out, like walking through the park and ran into my own kids with their school, not even knowing that they would be there.
Parents do get an email or messages in the online forum (AULA) when kids go on day trips or go outside.
They get an email when they go outside? So like, twice a day when it's warm? That seems like overkill.
Load More Replies...Be very sure that you didn’t miss an email or your child neglected to tell you. It would be most unusual that a school (public or private) took her anywhere without your consent. There are massive health, legal and saftey issues to this and I can't image a school or care center that would risk that. Are you certain you didn’t sign a blanket release form earlier in the year? Or, if a private school, on admission?
Kindergartens often take the kids out on trips without the parents knowing. It just something they decide on the day. Not a big deal. Very common. Same in schools. They can go on trips without parents knowing. But the big trips parents are notified about.
Load More Replies...In the us it’s like a two week notice and you have to sign a permission slip. This is crazy to me
I can't speak for Denmark, but schools in the US commonly send home permission slips before school trips. Parents must sign them and the child must return the signed slip to the teacher, to be able to go on the trip. Sometimes if a child or parent forgets to sign the slip or return it, then the parent will be called the morning of the trip and they'll be asked to grant permission for the child to go on the trip. Some schools are stricter and make the child stay behind, under supervision of school staff. Depending on the school and the particular trip, there may also be a fee involved which each parent must pay for their child to go on the trip.
Load More Replies...Isn´t this normal everywhere? Like you get an email or a call everytime they go out with the kids....? Angstculture incoming...
In the UK, parents will often get a notification in advance via e-mail if their is a planned field trip or outing.
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If you are ever visiting Denmark, do not be alarmed if you hear a four-year-old on the playground dropping an F-bomb. It's very normal to hear Danish kids using American curse words, very small kids, which is very jarring. Like I said, sometimes you'll hear around age four and five, and once they're in elementary school, it's pretty much the norm.
Monkey see, Monkey do. Children pick up the words, without fully understanding them. They just find them "bada**" to use. Remember danish is the first langage, not english. It would work the other way around too. I could teach english speaking children some really nice danish swearwords.
Load More Replies...Too all Danes, the F-word is a mild swear word. Since it's English and not Danish, it's just not considered that bad. There are Danish swear words that many Danes would consider highly offensive.
The funny thing is that people with higher education and vocabulary swear most. So the studies say anyway. 🤷♀️
I really don‘t like that one I must say. You shouldn’t teach your kids to scream „F**k dig!“ when arguing with others. Thank God in many sports clubs and schools kids are encouraged to watch their language.
Although this is normal in the U.S. too, I still don't think it is okay. It's not proper to be speaking like that. Adults too. Just because you are an adult, it doesn't make it any more ok to be cursing than children.
I used to think very much like you, but I just don't care anymore. I've got better things to worry about than policing "curse" words.
Load More Replies...When my daughter was in "dagis" (daycare for kids before school age), she kept using the s-word. As an American, I reminded her that while it is not a curse word in Swedish, it is in English, and her grandmother would just die if she heard her say it. Fast forward to my daughter at 4, and my mother did go into a coma, which we thought she wouldn't come out of. As we were sitting around the table the night before our flight to the US, my daughter, very contemplatively said, "Momma, does this mean I can say s¤#* now?"
This is also done in the US. A friend's 5 year old announced that when she grows up, she is going to murder someone in the US that we don't know. OMG, who does that?
“Something I love about Denmark is even though people aren't super outgoing here, everyone is always looking out for each other and each others' children,” Annie added. “If I am ever out with my kids and need a hand, people never hesitate to step in and help. I would love to see that same sense of community in cities all over the US.”
First of all, the actual school day is only from 8 to 1:30 PM.
Secondly, they don't call their teacher, Miss, Mrs. Mr. Ma'am, Sir. They just call them by their first name
If a kid is caught hitting, flipping somebody the bird, using a cuss word, the harshest punishment they're gonna get is probably just the talking to. Things like suspensions and expulsions are only used in extremely extreme cases.
My oldest son is in the US equivalent of the third grade. He just now started getting homework this year, and his homework is to read for 15 minutes a day in whatever book he chooses. He's also never received a grade. I don't know when that starts. Oh, kids here don't start reading until they turn seven, in the US, there's pressure to start reading by five.
I'm not sure if this is true, but since kids here are allowed to buy beer at the store at age 16, I've heard that some high schools serve their students beer in the cafeteria.
The last bit is not true. Unless there is a school party of some sort there is no beer for sale in high schools.
Universities do serve beer, some even wine. But as all their students are adults anyway, very few exceptions aside, what's the matter?
Load More Replies...In Finland there isn't much homework, but reading is suggested to start in pre-school. Also the beer one is kinda same here, but its non-alcohol beer. It's called "kotikalja", I think its the same as root beer?
Kids didn't used to have so much homework in the US. I'm in my 50s and we didn't get much homework in the lower grades. You'd usually have a project or a paper at one point during the semester but your daily work was something you could finish during the school day. My niblings are in their 20s now. Back when they were in elementary school, they routinely had a couple hours per night and always with something that had mandatory parent participation. It made for much too long a day for a little kid, and for the parents, especially those with more than one child.
Load More Replies...I went to an alternative school here in California and we called all the teachers and staff by their first names. They also tested you to see what level you worked at, and not what grade you were in. They also were famous for taking any kid that was kicked out of every single school for behavioral issues, and worked hard to reach them....they believed no one was "hopeless". I just went to our 35 year reunion, and one such kid told me that after going there, because of the love and support he got for the first time in his life, he turned his life around, got a degree, and became really successful. It was a really special place...Unfortunately, they lost their funding and the school is closing forever after this year :( My parents truly found a gem of a place for us. I'm still friends with everyone I met there, including my teachers.
Similar experience in GA with my youngest. Charter schools there are funded by the county or the state. The one my wife and sister worked at was incredible. What made me want my kid in it was the first PTO meeting my wife had to attend had 100% response to the invite from parents with only two not being able to attend due to prior work commitments. It was funded through the state. The county worked very hard to shut it down and switched to trying to take it over when it became clear the suit wasn't going to succeed in court. Now it is just another county school. Why wasn't the county focused on the needs of the children and not their budget?
Load More Replies...Scientific studies show that educational and social outcomes are improved by delaying the start of formal education until age 7.
Load More Replies...US here. When I was a child, we learned to read in first grade, (6 turning 7 YO). My son is now 6 and started first grade this year, they pushed reading in kindergarten quite a lot, but very very simple books. Nothing with words longer than 3 or 4 letters, just sight words and decodable CVC words. He had homework to read one “book” (just a few pages long usually) every three days in kinder. Now, in first grade the expectation is to read 20 min a day. He also had homework in kinder and now in first where a packet of 2-4 pages of worksheets comes home on Mon and is due on Fri. My understanding is that the US does not rank highly in education compared with other developed countries so I would never criticize how other counties educate their children. You guys are doing something right. Question though: Do your children have spelling tests? They pulled that from my son’s school and I feel like he needs that but I have no control over what they do. How does spelling work in other countries?
My son is in year 2 (age 6-7) in the UK and he's never been graded on work. Out of interest when does this start in the US?
My son received number grades in Kinder (ages 5-6 YO) in the US that were never really explained to us. Best I could decipher, 4 was exceptional/great, 3 was good/on track, 2 was needs support, 1 was needs improvement. The work that would come home in kinder either had a star on it (did it on his own) or a smiley face (got some help). His first grading period for first grade is literally next week so I’ll see what happens then.
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You can't just walk into any old store and buy whatever drug or supplement that you might want or need. And also there are a lot of drugs and supplements in the US that just aren't available here.
For instance, if you need Tylenol or infant Tylenol, which is actually called Panadol here, you have to go to a pharmacy or you can get them behind the counter at grocery stores, but you have to get it from behind the counter in every circumstance. In the US there are just aisles full of drugs in every supermarket.
I once tried to buy antihistamine at a drug store in the Netherlands. Apparently you need a prescription. When I nentioned at work how weird it was to be able to buy weed but not antihistanine, my collegue stated " the weed is probably better for you"
This is nonsense! Born and raised in the Netherlands and I've got hay fever. You can buy antihistamine anywhere, even in the supermarket. No prescription needed.
Load More Replies...In the UK you can buy Panadol of the shelf - but no more than 2 packets at a time. It is peculiar that countries have different standards for what is safe and what needs a prescription.
It's based on who they listen to: Capitalists or Experts
Load More Replies...I bet if they were over the counter they would be consumed in the same amount. I don't know anyone that is looking for their tylenol fix. I'm curious as to why they're behind the counter. What are they preventing?
I knew a kid that tried to commit unalive with what was basically the equivalent of Claritin (allergy meds). After she came back to school I was able to make her laugh by tell her she better never sneeze again after the stunt she pulled.
Load More Replies...In Finland you can get mild Ibuprofin, Panadol etc. without prescription but for example for 1mg Panadol you need a prescription.
Load More Replies...In germany you don't get anything in a drugstore oder anywhere outside of a pharmacy. Not even paracetamol or cold. Medicine.
From what I've learned recently, I wouldn't be surprised. By the way everyone: been going through some medical stuff and sorry for the TMI but I was dealing with severe diarrhea amongst other things and NOTHING over the counter would stop it. A family member brought me some cannabis and oh my God everyone needs to know that weed is a straight up cure for diarrhea. I'm not kidding, it doesn't help it. It STOPS IT. Completely. Not to mention it helped with my nausea and complete lack of appetite and PAIN. I am floored by the medicinal value of this plant. I mean, I always knew it was medicinal but I had no idea it was like this. It is amazing. I am so grateful for the weed it has been a blessing.
Ps this was meant to be a reply to someone in the comments, my bad
Load More Replies...What??? I never knew abt this. Like on road trips we’d be three hours in and someone would get sick from windy roads and sugar so we’d stop at a maverick (gas station in Idaho area) and buy some Dramamine and stock up on melatonin for the hotel nights. Can’t imagine having to go to a pharmacy specifically.
It’s no surprise that Denmark is one of the world’s safest and happiest nations, especially after hearing a bit more about how they raise their children. We would love to hear your thoughts in the comments as well. If you had the chance, would you raise your kids in Denmark? Or do you wish you had grown up there yourself? If you’d like to keep up with Annie and her family’s adventures in Denmark, you can find her TikTok Annie in Eventyrland right here.
In Denmark, once you start grade school, you take a sports class in the US we would call it PE or physical education. Afterwards, everyone, boys and girls, get completely disrobed and then they all get in a large shower together and it's supervised by their classroom teacher. Whereas in the US, we didn't even change into athletic clothes, and then afterwards, don't change out of our clothes and just go about our day.
we absolutely showered and changed. I've never heard of this before.
Load More Replies...So I'm English, but used to teach in Sweden and it was SO awkward for me when I had to share the changing room with students. In the UK it would be inconceivable for a teacher to do something like that and I never got used to it.
I live in Denmark and my 10 year old daughter tells me that boys and girls shower separately, in their own changing rooms.
American here, and we do lots of things wrong, but we absolutely changed into gym clothes and showered afterwards. And as much as my hormone-full teenage self would have loved it, not sure showering with girls would have been a good idea...
We never showered after, not once. There were showers, but no one ever used them, nor would we use the time to. Definitely changed clothes though.
Load More Replies...In Finland it's same! You have to have sport clothes or you will get a negative notification to your school's Wilma. You also have to shower so you don't smell
That seems fine. This isn't inherently sexual, they're kids and sexualizing them just taking a shower is kinda creepy
Hmm Depends on the age I would say. Imagine 12 year olds with their teacher watching. Sounds creepy
Load More Replies...In Japanese elementary schools, students used to change into and out of their gym clothes in the classroom, all together. I think now maybe they send boys to one homeroom and girls to another, but not sure, to be honest. It's been a long time since my kids were in elementary school.
We didnt change until middle school, and no one took showers afterward.....teachers were hardly in the locker room at all, they would never be allowed to supervise showers
I know it's totally normal and healthy, but my extremely modest, raised in a conservative home self, where we all bordered on being "never nudes" would have died if I had to be naked in front of anyone else, much less people of the opposite sex and an adult to boot. I'm sure I would have been more than a little curious about those opposite sex bodies too, to an unhealthy degree. Rationally, I know the Danish way of approaching nudity (and Finnish and many other countries) is probably a lot more healthy, but the extreme body-modesty mentality doesn't just leave you, and part of me feels icky about the whole thing.
Many viewers weighed in with their thoughts on these cultural differences in the comments as well










I'm 70 and in the US. I remember the freedom of summer for kids. Yes, we walked to school too, but in the summer, we weren't allowed to play in the house and mess it up. We were on our own from after breakfast until the street lights came on or it was time for dinner. Did we stay in our yards? Heck no. One kid would light out for a neighboring kid, and they would pick up others until a gaggle of us would converge at some meeting place with other kids. For me, it was the cooling landscape of a swampy marsh that ran through town or a local park. I mourn the sense of safety and independence the younger generations will never know. We learned to take care of ourselves, resolve petty differences and make decisions without the intervention of adults.
My wife and I were just in southern Europe and the most shocking and wonderful thing for me was seeing a full playground at 10 at night with no supervision. The parents were all obviously at restaurants down the street (but completely out of sight) and it was just so clear that there was nothing to worry about.
If you're "scared" to tell your friends something than that's the bigger issue!
If you're scared to tell your friends something I guess you just post it on the internet for them and everyone else to see.
Load More Replies...Letting boys and girls get in a shower together naked? Uh... No!
No, that is misunderstood. Boys and girls have separate locker rooms and showers. Always! And any child or parent expressing discomfort with showering or changing in a group (either boys or girls) is allowed to change and shower privately.
Load More Replies...Northern countries in Europe are safe. They are Finland, Denmark, Norway, Sweden and Iceland. Sweden has a bit of criminal activity but Finland is really safe even though its next to Russia! You can see kids walking alone at 10 pm because there's no fear of crimes or shootings: you cant carry guns freely.
Sweden just had its far-right party become the 2nd most powerful. Sorry if I decline to put it on a list of "safe" places. When the far-right has any power politically, a country becomes very prone to sh*tstorms. See: US, UK, Brazil, Russia, Hungary, Italy, etc etc etc
Load More Replies...In my country i won't let my 9yeaar old walk alone. Love my country but no way i am ready to take chance, Kidnappings / abductions happens so fast and you would even know where to start looking. SA is a beautiful country, not worth to be neglected me just every person is not a criminal bit i won't risk it.
I wonder how long this 'Anne from Eventyrland' has being living in Denmark. Lot of the things here are not accurate and some are downright false!
Please tell me which ones are false? I'm born in Denmark and been living here all my life. Please enlighten me.
Load More Replies...I'm 70 and in the US. I remember the freedom of summer for kids. Yes, we walked to school too, but in the summer, we weren't allowed to play in the house and mess it up. We were on our own from after breakfast until the street lights came on or it was time for dinner. Did we stay in our yards? Heck no. One kid would light out for a neighboring kid, and they would pick up others until a gaggle of us would converge at some meeting place with other kids. For me, it was the cooling landscape of a swampy marsh that ran through town or a local park. I mourn the sense of safety and independence the younger generations will never know. We learned to take care of ourselves, resolve petty differences and make decisions without the intervention of adults.
My wife and I were just in southern Europe and the most shocking and wonderful thing for me was seeing a full playground at 10 at night with no supervision. The parents were all obviously at restaurants down the street (but completely out of sight) and it was just so clear that there was nothing to worry about.
If you're "scared" to tell your friends something than that's the bigger issue!
If you're scared to tell your friends something I guess you just post it on the internet for them and everyone else to see.
Load More Replies...Letting boys and girls get in a shower together naked? Uh... No!
No, that is misunderstood. Boys and girls have separate locker rooms and showers. Always! And any child or parent expressing discomfort with showering or changing in a group (either boys or girls) is allowed to change and shower privately.
Load More Replies...Northern countries in Europe are safe. They are Finland, Denmark, Norway, Sweden and Iceland. Sweden has a bit of criminal activity but Finland is really safe even though its next to Russia! You can see kids walking alone at 10 pm because there's no fear of crimes or shootings: you cant carry guns freely.
Sweden just had its far-right party become the 2nd most powerful. Sorry if I decline to put it on a list of "safe" places. When the far-right has any power politically, a country becomes very prone to sh*tstorms. See: US, UK, Brazil, Russia, Hungary, Italy, etc etc etc
Load More Replies...In my country i won't let my 9yeaar old walk alone. Love my country but no way i am ready to take chance, Kidnappings / abductions happens so fast and you would even know where to start looking. SA is a beautiful country, not worth to be neglected me just every person is not a criminal bit i won't risk it.
I wonder how long this 'Anne from Eventyrland' has being living in Denmark. Lot of the things here are not accurate and some are downright false!
Please tell me which ones are false? I'm born in Denmark and been living here all my life. Please enlighten me.
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