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Estranged Aunt Reveals Dark Family Secret To Teen, She Tells “Parents” To Get Lost Forever
Many decades ago, my grandfather was married to my grandma’s older sister, and they had a baby daughter, but my grandad lost his wife during WWII. A few years later, he remarried my grandma, and she legally adopted her niece – but they both strove to preserve the child’s memories of her birth mom. Even now, while my aunt is over 80, she cherishes these childhood memories – some of the most precious of her long life…
In the story we’ll tell you today, from the user u/Original-Leading-324, it was exactly the opposite. The widower dad remarried his sister-in-law, but they did everything they could to erase the kid’s memories of her real mother. Only years later, another aunt opened the teen’s eyes to the truth.
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The author of the post had two elder sisters, one of whom apparently got terminally sick soon after delivering a baby daughter
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Soon after losing his wife, the kid’s dad remarried her sister, and they did their best to erase any memories of the kid’s real mom
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The author was the only relative who disagreed with this, and she was estranged from the sister’s family for years
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However, when the niece was 18, she had a conversation with the auntie by chance – and she opened her eyes to the ugly truth
The Original poster (OP), a 36-year-old woman, had two elder sisters, “Jane” and “Kim.” Kim, according to the author’s words, allegedly had a terminal illness and had gone a few years after giving birth to a daughter, “Laura.” Some time later, “Tom,” the kid’s father, remarried Jane – thus automatically raising the author’s suspicions of an affair. However, that wasn’t even the strangest thing.
The father and stepmother did everything possible to ensure that the kid remembered her real mom only as her late auntie, and literally threatened to go no contact with other relatives, forcing them to do the same. Even their own parents. The only one who disobeyed this demand was our heroine – and she never saw her niece again.
And so, many years later, when the niece was already 18 years old, she wrote to the OP on social media. About a matter completely unrelated to the family. It so happened that Laura was planning to study in the same field where the author works, and she asked her aunt for professional advice. The aunt and niece had a video chat, one thing led to another, and the conversation turned to family.
Our heroine couldn’t resist and, at some point, revealed to Laura who her birth mother was. The aunt always had a mental image of her sister, crying over the realization that she would never know what her daughter would be as an adult. The author showed her niece several videos her mom had recorded for her many years ago and explained what her legal parents had done.
Now, according to the OP, this confession effectively destroyed her sister’s family. After this conversation, Laura forced Jane and Tom to confess to what they had done, after which she moved out of the house to live with her girlfriend. And now the sister and brother-in-law accuse the aunt of ruining their lives, while the author, in turn, believes she did the right thing.
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Perhaps the girl’s father and his new wife had the best of intentions in trying to erase the baby’s true mom from her memory, but most experts, on the contrary, argue that it’s important for a child to preserve memories and emotional connections with their late parent. At the very least, the truth will eventually come to light.
For example, psychologist Diane Ingram Fromm explains in her book “Stepparenting the Grieving Child” that it’s always important to preserve the memory of a late parent. Children should always be able to talk about them, to cherish their memory without shame, without feeling guilty or disloyal.
“Keeping mementos can also help children feel connected,” this dedicated article at the Morrissett Funeral and Cremation Service website claims. “There are countless ways to help foster connections and keep memories strong.” As we can see, the couple did their best to do quite the opposite. And they got what they deserved a decade and a half later.
The overwhelming majority of commenters on the original post also believed that the author did everything right. Even though her niece’s dad could never have cheated on his wife with her sister, they still tried to tear a very important page out of the kid’s life. So what do you, our dear readers, think about this case?
Most people in the comments sided with the author, claiming that she actually did the right thing here
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Kate Johnson 1 week ago
What incredibly vile, selfish, horrible people those "parents" were. If I was the daughter, I'd never speak to them again, and cut them entirely out of my life forever. They are liars and entirely untrustworthy. You could never trust them in any capacity after that. Hope they're suffering. They deserve to.
Scott Rackley 5 days ago
NTA, I do not have the capacity nor the patience to remember the lies of others, nor do I have the obligation to repeat them.
Jenna Kay 5 days ago
My ex-husband thought he wanted to be a father, when I got pregnant, that changed. His custodial rights were terminated right after my daughter was born, he is not even listed in the birth certificate (my state allowed that). My husband and I met when my daughter was just over a year old. We got married when she was 2 1/2. I have always told my daughter that daddy (my husband) chose to be with us, that he loved us so much he wanted to be with us forever. We could have hid this, we could have never told her, but WHY? She deserved to know, and she says knowing he chose her makes it so much more special!!
roddy 6 days ago
My husband’s cousin was in a similar case. He was raised by an aunt and uncle and didn’t learn it until he was an adult and the revelation was deeply disturbing to him. His mother was mentally disabled (he knew her just didn’t know the connection) and his father was unknown. I don’t know what the best thing to do would have been in his case. Maybe best if he’d never known.
Bewitched One 5 days ago
I hope you don’t mean mentally disabled as in to the point she was unable to consent? If so that just makes it so much worse. The fact that the father is unknown leads me to think to worst
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tameson 4 days ago
Just wanted to add that children almost always find out the circumstances of their birth. They overhear their relatives talking. Or they find a copy of their birth certificate. Or an adoption certificate. Or they find a family photo collection with photos of their dad and an unknown women and them when they were an infant. Or they take a DNA test. Or, as in this case, a relative chooses to tell them. I know of one case when a teen boy found out he was the product of a r**e when he saw it written in his therapist's file. THEY FIND OUT! If you don't want to cause major trauma later on, like what happened in this story, then tell them the truth as soon as they are old enough to hear it.
Crystalwitch60 5 days ago (edited)
As someone who knows almost nothing about my mother , she died when I was 8 mths old all I know is her name her age when she died (19)her height (4ft 11) n only ever saw one pic of her when I was around 10 ish so 50 yrs ago I know nothing , bar the truth behind her death (my father ) eventually . Tom n Jane are vile cruel inhumans !, the lass had every right to know her mother , it’s disgusting to keep her memory n life from her, op was 100% right to tell her the truth, n as for tom throwing those letters away ,I’m so angry for Laura seriously who does that 🤬op NTA , n that YTA is likely Tom or Jane to lol deluded ah
Kate Johnson 1 week ago
What incredibly vile, selfish, horrible people those "parents" were. If I was the daughter, I'd never speak to them again, and cut them entirely out of my life forever. They are liars and entirely untrustworthy. You could never trust them in any capacity after that. Hope they're suffering. They deserve to.
Scott Rackley 5 days ago
NTA, I do not have the capacity nor the patience to remember the lies of others, nor do I have the obligation to repeat them.
Jenna Kay 5 days ago
My ex-husband thought he wanted to be a father, when I got pregnant, that changed. His custodial rights were terminated right after my daughter was born, he is not even listed in the birth certificate (my state allowed that). My husband and I met when my daughter was just over a year old. We got married when she was 2 1/2. I have always told my daughter that daddy (my husband) chose to be with us, that he loved us so much he wanted to be with us forever. We could have hid this, we could have never told her, but WHY? She deserved to know, and she says knowing he chose her makes it so much more special!!
roddy 6 days ago
My husband’s cousin was in a similar case. He was raised by an aunt and uncle and didn’t learn it until he was an adult and the revelation was deeply disturbing to him. His mother was mentally disabled (he knew her just didn’t know the connection) and his father was unknown. I don’t know what the best thing to do would have been in his case. Maybe best if he’d never known.
Bewitched One 5 days ago
I hope you don’t mean mentally disabled as in to the point she was unable to consent? If so that just makes it so much worse. The fact that the father is unknown leads me to think to worst
Load More Replies... tameson 4 days ago
Just wanted to add that children almost always find out the circumstances of their birth. They overhear their relatives talking. Or they find a copy of their birth certificate. Or an adoption certificate. Or they find a family photo collection with photos of their dad and an unknown women and them when they were an infant. Or they take a DNA test. Or, as in this case, a relative chooses to tell them. I know of one case when a teen boy found out he was the product of a r**e when he saw it written in his therapist's file. THEY FIND OUT! If you don't want to cause major trauma later on, like what happened in this story, then tell them the truth as soon as they are old enough to hear it.
Crystalwitch60 5 days ago (edited)
As someone who knows almost nothing about my mother , she died when I was 8 mths old all I know is her name her age when she died (19)her height (4ft 11) n only ever saw one pic of her when I was around 10 ish so 50 yrs ago I know nothing , bar the truth behind her death (my father ) eventually . Tom n Jane are vile cruel inhumans !, the lass had every right to know her mother , it’s disgusting to keep her memory n life from her, op was 100% right to tell her the truth, n as for tom throwing those letters away ,I’m so angry for Laura seriously who does that 🤬op NTA , n that YTA is likely Tom or Jane to lol deluded ah
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