16YO Eats Cousin’s B-Day Cake Just Because He Wanted To, Livid When He’s Not Welcome Next Year
Parents love their children; that’s like a universal truth. However, coddling them too much, not reprimanding them when it’s actually needed, and letting them do stupid things that can ruin someone else’s special day is just downright bad parenting, isn’t it?
The original poster’s (OP) sister laughed it off when her 16-year-old son ate the cake even before blowing the candles at OP’s son’s birthday party. Of course, he got excluded from the next one, but this offended his mom, and she even called out her sister instead of considering her obnoxious son’s behavior!
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At the poster’s son’s (Cillian) last birthday, her 16-year-old nephew (Robbie) ate the custom-made cake worth $140, before it was even cut
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Her sister, Robbie’s mom, claimed that he was “hungry,” but the angry poster asked her sister to pay her back for the expensive cake
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Her sister accused the poster of being fat-phobic, as Robbie has a weight problem, but that is not what the poster was implying
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Cillian didn’t want to invite Robbie to the party again as he had also made fun of him last time, but this just infuriated the poster’s sister
In today’s story, our Reddit user is very stressed because of the conflict she had with her sister over their sons. It started during OP’s 14-year-old son’s (Cilian) last birthday when they found out that someone had eaten off a huge portion of the custom-made, $140 cake before blowing the candles. Her sister laughed it off, saying her son (Robbie) had eaten it because he was “hungry”.
Of course, OP was furious because there was a lot of food at the party, but he conveniently zeroed in on the cake, so she had to get a replacement cake from Walmart. Later on, when she called her sister and mentioned how upsetting it was, and asked for the money back, the woman called her fat phobic!
Turns out that Robbie has a weight problem and has been having issues with binge eating since he was around 13. Now, nowhere had OP implied this, yet her sister pinned the false accusation, and the poster also mentions how she expects everyone to bend over backwards for Robbie.
Now, fast forward to Cillian’s birthday this time, he wanted a friends-only party with just 2 other cousins, and he didn’t want Robbie at all. Apparently, Robbie had embarrassed Cillian by poking fun at him and his friends, had got his plus one without invitation, and of course, ate the cake. However, things didn’t go down well with his mom, who got another opportunity to label her sister as fat-phobic.
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After OP vented online about how stressed she is by the whole situation, folks were quite outraged by her sister. They said it’s pretty evident that Robbie’s mom enables his behavior, considering how she laughed it off when he ate the cake.
It has been observed that enabling inadvertently reinforces undesired behavior, and it doesn’t help kids when parents protect them from the natural consequences of their actions. As per Psychology Today, “Enabling can foster a sense of entitlement and a lack of accountability.”
That’s exactly what’s happening in this story, isn’t it? Folks also pointed out that since the mom doesn’t reprimand Robbie for his obnoxious behavior, he will keep repeating it and never learn. Moreover, people were also stunned by the amount of cake that he ate, as OP says it was equal to almost 20 slices, and that’s a lot!
Studies have revealed that the prevalence of obesity among U.S. children and adolescents was 19.7%, which means that approximately 14.7 million U.S. youths aged 2–19 years have obesity. Robbie could be one of them, as netizens highlighted that the mother fails to understand that Robbie has an unhealthy relationship with food, and instead of curbing it, she’s just enabling it.
People also found it disconcerting that Robbie had the gall to make fun of Cillian and embarrass him at his own birthday party. This just shows how little consideration he has about other people’s special days. It’s no wonder that Cillian didn’t want to invite Robbie this time around, and folks also felt that since it is his birthday, it’s his choice, and OP’s sister can’t really object to his personal wishes.
Honestly, we completely agree with netizens, who didn’t hesitate to call out Robbie’s behavior and his mom’s irresponsible actions. What about you? If you were in OP’s shoes, how would you have handled the situation? Let us know in the comments!
Netizens instantly called out the poster’s sister for enabling her teenage son instead of actually checking his unhealthy relationship with food
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The problem is not the 16 year old's weight, but his behaviour, and also his mam's behaviour.
I was going to say it sounds like they have a problem with his attitude,.not his weight.
Load More Replies...The title needs to be fixed: Mother of morbidly obese teen projects her problems with her sons weight onto other family members rather than getting professional help, drama ensues.
Result would be the same even if the kid wasnt fat. Show uo with an univited guest, bully and behave like a jerk, eating the birthday cake?! I dont care if this kid weight 8lbs or 800 its a hard no.
Load More Replies...(1) Robbie needs realize that actions have consequences, and (2) Robbie's mom needs to stop coddling that brat
I striggle with binge eating disorder, and I would never even consider taking someone elses food
This is what undermines all forms of discrimination. No, folks, it's not picking on you because you're not a straight white able-bodied average sized male, sometimes it's just your bad behaviour. Being a minority with issues doesn't excuse being an AH.
Seriously. I think this made me more angry than anything. Robbie’s mom is right about one thing though. He _does_ have it hard. She is not teaching him boundaries and excusing behavior that will make it hard to retain friendships and even acquaintanceships. He is in for a a lonely life
Load More Replies...The child's 250 lb at 16 unfortunately I don't see the kid making it another 10 years. With a mother like that and his eating habits and self-control this kid's going to eat himself into a grave and his mother is allowing it.
Oh ffs, he's 16! More than old enough to have some f*****g self control, weight issues or not.
My kids always had a party with friends as kids, and then we’d have a family dinner and cake with the relatives. Is there something mentally wrong with the cousin who ate the cake!? He’s 16! Not a toddler who doesn’t know any better. His parents should be getting therapy for him and monitoring him if he compulsively eats, or bringing extra healthy food for him to eat if he’s so hungry.
NTA. The mother is enabling her son's binge eating by laughing it off. Not to mention that him binging and needing to loose weight, and him being a tw*t who steals someone's birthday cake is unrelated. He can't behave and neither can she, so they can't come
She needs to tell her sister (and I'm sure she has) that she doesn't have a problem with his weight. She has a problem with his behavior.
The mom won’t listen. OP just needs to post on Facebook the basic facts from last year so they don’t have to deal with a bunch of phone calls from relatives
Load More Replies...First thing, OP, get off Facebook. Then you don't have to read the nasty comments about you for not letting piggy come to the birthday party.
Eat half her wedding cake, and when she says something accuse her of being fat phobic.
I hate the narrative that any push back against someone with a weight issue is "fat phobic". F**k off.
The OPs nephew was 16, not 6. Unless he has a mental disability that would make him not understand what he did this is unacceptable behavior. Binge eating is a symptom of a larger issue and that issue with kids is usually bad parenting or abuse.
Cillian is definitely old enough to decide what kind of birthday party he wants and who he wants to be there. Robbie is definitely old enough to know better and his Mama should have told him no to touch it. She should also definitely pay for that expensive cake and stop saying that ppl are fat shaming him. She needs to get up off of her lazy a*s do some freaking parenting and get him to the Dr. Start out with the PCP and get any needed referrals. Robbie also sounds like an a*****e.
If the 16 year old has a legit eating disorder, he needs to be in intensive therapy. It sounds like he isn't at the point where he can be around food like cake because he hasn't recovered to the point of being able to exert self control. That isn't his cousin's fault. His mother is failing him and allowing him to use his disorder as an excuse for poor behaviour
Sister is the issue. Instead of getting her son help (theres no reason he should have been that hungry to eat the equivalent of 20 pieces of cake). She enabling her sons behavior. She refuses to sew the problem. She blames everybody for his behavior. Your son has the right to invite who he wants to the party. Go no contact with the sister because she'll never stop him from pulling this kinda of stunt again. She definitely owes you half the price of the cake. And she needs to get her kid.to a specialist. There might be a health issue triggering hes exorbitant eating.
Regarding that last comment, the 16 year old probably has no friends his own age if this is how he acts. I’m overweight, have been my whole life and I’ve still never been able to eat a whole half of a huge cake & eating party food
Fat or skinny, the kid is an a-hole. Mom's an enabler. He lost the privilege of going to a party through his own actions.
When I was 17, my aunt, who was 37 at that time, ate the rest of my birthday cake. She didn’t ask me if it was okay; she just did it. And there had been more than a couple of slices’ worth left. I was so shocked and dismayed (I had been looking forward to enjoying the cake some more) that I was rendered speechless. Also, it had long been pounded into my head that I must always “respect my elders,” so I never confronted her about it. She’s always been a compulsive over eater, but I don’t think that’s a valid excuse for eating someone else’s food. That incident made me lose so much respect for her. Just rude; any civilized person would resist doing something like that!
Does anybody recall when parents wiki be mortified if their kids did such things?
1) fatphobia is not a thing, lazy people just find justification less work than self-discipline. 2) Robbie wasn't born that way, his mother MADE him into a blubbernaught, and is making that everyone else's problem. 3) It's Cillian's party and he can cry if he wants to.
someone who wants and can? if you have the money, why not?
Load More Replies...The problem is not the 16 year old's weight, but his behaviour, and also his mam's behaviour.
I was going to say it sounds like they have a problem with his attitude,.not his weight.
Load More Replies...The title needs to be fixed: Mother of morbidly obese teen projects her problems with her sons weight onto other family members rather than getting professional help, drama ensues.
Result would be the same even if the kid wasnt fat. Show uo with an univited guest, bully and behave like a jerk, eating the birthday cake?! I dont care if this kid weight 8lbs or 800 its a hard no.
Load More Replies...(1) Robbie needs realize that actions have consequences, and (2) Robbie's mom needs to stop coddling that brat
I striggle with binge eating disorder, and I would never even consider taking someone elses food
This is what undermines all forms of discrimination. No, folks, it's not picking on you because you're not a straight white able-bodied average sized male, sometimes it's just your bad behaviour. Being a minority with issues doesn't excuse being an AH.
Seriously. I think this made me more angry than anything. Robbie’s mom is right about one thing though. He _does_ have it hard. She is not teaching him boundaries and excusing behavior that will make it hard to retain friendships and even acquaintanceships. He is in for a a lonely life
Load More Replies...The child's 250 lb at 16 unfortunately I don't see the kid making it another 10 years. With a mother like that and his eating habits and self-control this kid's going to eat himself into a grave and his mother is allowing it.
Oh ffs, he's 16! More than old enough to have some f*****g self control, weight issues or not.
My kids always had a party with friends as kids, and then we’d have a family dinner and cake with the relatives. Is there something mentally wrong with the cousin who ate the cake!? He’s 16! Not a toddler who doesn’t know any better. His parents should be getting therapy for him and monitoring him if he compulsively eats, or bringing extra healthy food for him to eat if he’s so hungry.
NTA. The mother is enabling her son's binge eating by laughing it off. Not to mention that him binging and needing to loose weight, and him being a tw*t who steals someone's birthday cake is unrelated. He can't behave and neither can she, so they can't come
She needs to tell her sister (and I'm sure she has) that she doesn't have a problem with his weight. She has a problem with his behavior.
The mom won’t listen. OP just needs to post on Facebook the basic facts from last year so they don’t have to deal with a bunch of phone calls from relatives
Load More Replies...First thing, OP, get off Facebook. Then you don't have to read the nasty comments about you for not letting piggy come to the birthday party.
Eat half her wedding cake, and when she says something accuse her of being fat phobic.
I hate the narrative that any push back against someone with a weight issue is "fat phobic". F**k off.
The OPs nephew was 16, not 6. Unless he has a mental disability that would make him not understand what he did this is unacceptable behavior. Binge eating is a symptom of a larger issue and that issue with kids is usually bad parenting or abuse.
Cillian is definitely old enough to decide what kind of birthday party he wants and who he wants to be there. Robbie is definitely old enough to know better and his Mama should have told him no to touch it. She should also definitely pay for that expensive cake and stop saying that ppl are fat shaming him. She needs to get up off of her lazy a*s do some freaking parenting and get him to the Dr. Start out with the PCP and get any needed referrals. Robbie also sounds like an a*****e.
If the 16 year old has a legit eating disorder, he needs to be in intensive therapy. It sounds like he isn't at the point where he can be around food like cake because he hasn't recovered to the point of being able to exert self control. That isn't his cousin's fault. His mother is failing him and allowing him to use his disorder as an excuse for poor behaviour
Sister is the issue. Instead of getting her son help (theres no reason he should have been that hungry to eat the equivalent of 20 pieces of cake). She enabling her sons behavior. She refuses to sew the problem. She blames everybody for his behavior. Your son has the right to invite who he wants to the party. Go no contact with the sister because she'll never stop him from pulling this kinda of stunt again. She definitely owes you half the price of the cake. And she needs to get her kid.to a specialist. There might be a health issue triggering hes exorbitant eating.
Regarding that last comment, the 16 year old probably has no friends his own age if this is how he acts. I’m overweight, have been my whole life and I’ve still never been able to eat a whole half of a huge cake & eating party food
Fat or skinny, the kid is an a-hole. Mom's an enabler. He lost the privilege of going to a party through his own actions.
When I was 17, my aunt, who was 37 at that time, ate the rest of my birthday cake. She didn’t ask me if it was okay; she just did it. And there had been more than a couple of slices’ worth left. I was so shocked and dismayed (I had been looking forward to enjoying the cake some more) that I was rendered speechless. Also, it had long been pounded into my head that I must always “respect my elders,” so I never confronted her about it. She’s always been a compulsive over eater, but I don’t think that’s a valid excuse for eating someone else’s food. That incident made me lose so much respect for her. Just rude; any civilized person would resist doing something like that!
Does anybody recall when parents wiki be mortified if their kids did such things?
1) fatphobia is not a thing, lazy people just find justification less work than self-discipline. 2) Robbie wasn't born that way, his mother MADE him into a blubbernaught, and is making that everyone else's problem. 3) It's Cillian's party and he can cry if he wants to.
someone who wants and can? if you have the money, why not?
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