34YO Woman Is Obsessed With Married Neighbor, Romanticizes His Life, He’s Shocked To Learn Truth

Most people’s perfect fantasy of life is that they’ll have a great career, a big house, and a wonderful partner. Unfortunately, if any one of these things doesn’t come true, it can cause a lot of pain and force some people to come up with delusional ideas to make it a reality.

This is what one woman did after she went through a breakup and started crushing on her married neighbor. Even though he gave her no indication that he felt the same way, she got so carried away with her obsession that he finally had to intervene.

More info: Reddit

Some people get so caught up in fantasies that they might end up losing track of what’s true and what’s not

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The poster shared that after she went through a breakup with her long-term boyfriend, she moved to the suburbs to stay on rent with her best friend and her husband

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The poster managed to strike up a friendship with her married neighbor and started crushing on him because he seemed kind and genuinely interested in what she was saying

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Even though the neighbor didn’t give her any indication of being into her, she wanted to be a stepmom to his kids, but that changed when she babysat them once

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Eventually, the woman’s obsession with the neighbor got exposed when he found her post about him online, and he told her that he didn’t want to be friends anymore

As the OP (Original Poster) had mentioned, she and her boyfriend had been through a messy breakup, which is why things were tough for her for a while. She also shared that they used to fight a lot and that he never listened to her when she spoke, which is probably why things didn’t work out between them.

According to experts, the end of a relationship can be extremely challenging and emotionally difficult, which is why people may find it hard to move on easily. This is often because they might miss the connection they had with the other person and might also feel daunted by the prospect of finding someone else.

That’s why the poster did her best to move on from her past relationship, and soon found herself developing a crush on her married neighbor. Although she didn’t plan to fall for him so hard, she couldn’t help noticing how kind and loving he seemed to be, not just with her but with his wife and children as well.

It can definitely be inconvenient to be smitten with someone who is married, and relationship advisors explain that, rather than ignore those feelings, it’s important for you to observe them instead. This analysis of your emotions can help them become less all-consuming and make it easier to slowly divert your attention elsewhere.

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The poster definitely didn’t seem like she wanted to get rid of her crush anytime soon, and she kept dreaming of marrying her neighbor in the future and becoming the stepmom to his kids. That’s why she jumped at the chance to babysit them when he contacted her after his pregnant wife got in an accident.

Unfortunately for the OP, reality hit her hard when she was looking after his daughters, because that’s what made her realize they were very difficult to control. Instead of that reducing her obsession, she began making up scenarios that his kids were acting out because of his “bad” relationship with their mom.

It’s clear that sometimes people get too carried away with their delusions like this, which is why mental health experts suggest that folks seek professional help if an obsession is taking over their life. It can also help to talk to close friends or family members in order to get a wake-up call about their behavior.

In this case, the woman got so carried away by her feelings that she posted about her entire experience online, and her story soon reached her neighbor. Luckily, that’s when he realized the truth and decided to end their friendship after letting her know that he didn’t reciprocate the affection she had for him. 

What do you think about the woman’s behavior, and have you ever come across someone who had such a strong crush on another person? Do share your thoughts on this story and experiences, if any.

Folks were glad that the neighbor found out about the poster’s true feelings and set a boundary with her

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