Woman Makes Parents Upset By Moving Out As They Expected Her To Pay Rent For Her Brother Too
Money talks, and in this case, it’s almost screaming, as we delve into this real-life family drama. On the grand stage of complicated family relationships, there are often moments that feel like pages ripped straight out of a sitcom script. This is one such story – a rollercoaster of generosity, misunderstanding and self-preservation.
Our leading lady (we’ll just call her Sarah) was living the good life in her parents’ spare house, paying a fraction of the market-price rent and plotting her future homeowner takeover. Suddenly, she found herself in a pretty sticky situation when her brother and his family moved in with her.
Strap in, folks, because this story is about to get wild.
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Would you cover rent for your down-on-his-luck brother if everyone just expected you to do it, instead of asking?
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Woman rents her family home after parents move out, allowing her to live there while she saves up to buy the house
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Sarah was living comfortably in her parents’ second home, rocking that parental discount on rent. After making a deal with her folks, Sarah and her husband started saving up, planning to snag the family home at a steal. But life, as it often does, threw her a curveball. Her brother and his family were in desperate need of a roof over their heads after the wife racked up some impressive debts. Being kind-hearted people, Sarah and her husband opened their doors, allowing the brother and his family (wife and kids) to move in with them, expecting a temporary pit stop, not a permanent staycation.
But oh, how quickly the plot thickens! A dispute started between Sarah and her brother, faster than you can say “drama alert.” Turns out, Sarah was expected to cover her brother’s part of the rent as well, leaving her feeling more like an ATM than a family member. And the worst part, Sarah’s parents were on her brother’s side, asking her to cover his side of the rent, as their family couldn’t afford to pay anything.
According to an article on family conflict, “One of the most common types of family conflict is money. Unfortunately, when money is at stake, people get lost in their pain and anger.” However, if all the parties involved in the conflict are willing to resolve the issue, they must start by asking themselves the following question: “Is the money at stake more important to me than my family relationships at stake?”, the article states. This is what was on Sarah’s mind, seeing her family’s reaction to the situation.
After racking up huge debts, the brother and his family move in with the woman, expecting her to cover their part of the rent as well since they can’t afford to pay
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Feeling disappointed in how her family had treated her, Sarah and her husband made a power move and bought a home of their own. Having already saved up enough money for a down payment, Sarah and her hubby packed their bags, waving goodbye to the chaos, and heading for smoother seas, but not before covering the rent to Sarah’s parents’ spare home. Now, the question on everyone’s minds: is Sarah the villain in this real-life drama? Did she abandon ship when her family needed her most, or is there more to this story than meets the eye?
At first glance, it seemed like Sarah had hit the jackpot with her parents’ offer. But when her brother and his family crashed the party, the terms of the deal went up in smoke. Was Sarah supposed to play fairy godmother to her brother’s crew? Not in her book. Sarah’s decision to move out was a direct response to the financial burden of covering her brother’s share of the rent. Was it fair for her parents to drop the bomb on her alone? Debatable, to say the least.
However, even after moving out, Sarah’s mom expected her to continue to cover the entire rent. “She wanted the rent. I said I wasn’t living there anymore. She said I was breaking our deal.” When did it become normal to expect someone to pay for another family’s entire living expenses? Because this is what Sarah’s parents requested from her, trying to guilt-trip her by saying that her brother couldn’t afford to pay anything, due to his debts. As Sarah refused and politely suggested that the sister-in-law get a job, as she was unemployed, her mother pulled out her claws, striking back at her daughter: “she said I was being cheap and vicious to my brother and to my parents.”
Disappointed at how her family treated her, the woman and her husband move out of the parents’ home, leaving the brother and his family behind, but she was still expected to pay rent
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People in the comments side with our storyteller, saying that she never agreed to support her brother and his family, while trying to start a family of her own, and she shouldn’t feel guilty for leaving. Other netizens point out that Sarah probably would have never been able to own that home, as long as her brother’s family needed it, so buying a house of her own was the best decision she could have made.
According to an article by the online publication Investopedia, it would be a good idea to think twice before just giving money to a family member. “When a loved one is struggling financially, take a pause before providing money and consider whether they have a plan for avoiding the same pitfalls in the future.” There are other ways to help a family member struggling with debt, and not being forced to pay their rent and expenses for them. Instead, someone could “Consider providing them with a job, or help them to create a bill-paying plan”. A personal loan would also be a good idea, as long as the terms are accepted and understood by all involved. “Talk frankly, put the terms of the loan on paper, and have both parties sign. This will help ensure that each party is clear on the financial arrangement they’re entering into.”
Family drama is the ultimate rollercoaster ride, with twists and turns you never see coming. So, as you sip your tea and ponder this epic saga, who do you think was wrong in this story? Share your thoughts and let us know your verdict in the comments below.
People in the comments say that the woman is not a jerk for moving out and for not covering her brother’s rent
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Never Assume! Should have confirmed the arrangement with the brother before he moved in. Even if it's family, it's worth getting it in writing and giving receipts (even if electronic) so everyone knows where they stand.
Yes. ESH. Why did she not ask how much brother was going to contribute to rent? Did she not make it clear that she was buying a house INSTEAD of continuing to pay for future ownership of the family home. Parents should have put the 'deal' in writing if they still have a mortgage. Communication breakdown all around.
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SIL needs to get a job to pay off her debts. That’s why they got evicted in the first place. Is the OP expected to support her brother and his wife forever?
Exactly! They would bleed OP dry. They aren't responsible adults, and Mom enabling them will guarantee that they never WILL become responsible. At this rate, she could lose the house, all because she wants to pamper her golden boy and his wife. Glad OP made a break for it.
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NTA.. hands down!! You're NOT at all responsible for your SIL's debts & brother's poor choices in life (he picked her). She caused the damages & so will need to get a job to fix them. Hope this is a huge lesson for you to NEVER assume again & get everything in writing.
Never Assume! Should have confirmed the arrangement with the brother before he moved in. Even if it's family, it's worth getting it in writing and giving receipts (even if electronic) so everyone knows where they stand.
Yes. ESH. Why did she not ask how much brother was going to contribute to rent? Did she not make it clear that she was buying a house INSTEAD of continuing to pay for future ownership of the family home. Parents should have put the 'deal' in writing if they still have a mortgage. Communication breakdown all around.
Load More Replies... SIL needs to get a job to pay off her debts. That’s why they got evicted in the first place. Is the OP expected to support her brother and his wife forever?
Exactly! They would bleed OP dry. They aren't responsible adults, and Mom enabling them will guarantee that they never WILL become responsible. At this rate, she could lose the house, all because she wants to pamper her golden boy and his wife. Glad OP made a break for it.
Load More Replies... NTA.. hands down!! You're NOT at all responsible for your SIL's debts & brother's poor choices in life (he picked her). She caused the damages & so will need to get a job to fix them. Hope this is a huge lesson for you to NEVER assume again & get everything in writing.
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