Mother-In-Law Insists On Holding Her Newborn Grandchild First, Goes Ballistic When The Wish Doesn’t Get Fulfilled
We’ve all heard the cliché saying that goes something along the lines of you don’t get to choose your family – and while it’s true (to some extent), you are in no way obligated to put up with the mistreatment that your so-called “loved ones” subject you to.
Be it your parent, your spouse or your overstepping in-laws – it’s not your responsibility to fix them, nor should you be expected to cater to their demands, especially when you’ve tried tirelessly to set boundaries.
Cutting people out of your life works wonders, yet it’s not always an option, especially if you’re in a similar position as the author of the post, where your significant other heavily sides with the source of the problem – in this case, his mother.
I mean, they don’t call them monsters-in-law for nothing, huh?
Now, jokes aside, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer that will be able to unite your family closely together; however, it’s worth thinking about putting your own well-being first.
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You know what they say: “The best mother-in-law is the one that lives very far away”
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“AITA for not letting my MIL be the first person to hold my baby?” – to get neutral feedback and find out whether she’s indeed a jerk in this rather absurd scenario, this new mom turned to one of Reddit’s most philosophical forums. The post has managed to garner nearly 8K upvotes, as well as 1.9K worth of comments.
Woman scolds daughter-in-law after she breaks her unofficial promise to let her hold her newborn grandchild first
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The author started her post off by saying that when she met her now-husband’s mother, she hoped to build a healthy bond; however, the majority of you will probably agree that not many folks can boast about having incredible relationships with their in-laws, and as it turns out, the OP is no exception.
The woman says that her mother-in-law is a touch bossy and blames her behavior entirely on the fact that her husband is her only child. When she got pregnant, her MIL made an absurd request to be the first person to hold her newborn, and it’s not hard to guess that the woman also wanted to be present in the delivery room. Needless to say, the OP refused and her husband agreed to keep her out of the room, but only if she’d fulfill the request.
The baby was born several days ago, and the OP’s spouse’s only concern was getting his mother to hold the child first – yet, unfortunately for the grandma, she was out of town attending a wedding.
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The man said that his mother wouldn’t be back for another couple of days, and it’s safe to say that there was absolutely no way to keep their word and let the MIL be the first person to hold the baby.
The author’s mom and sister were a great help during the recovery period, as her husband had to return to work. Both the OP’s mother-in-law and spouse knew about this arrangement, yet they still decided to cause a scene.
The MIL scolded the couple for betraying her, causing the man to lash out at his postpartum wife. He accused her of not having any respect for his mother, which is quite peculiar, as technically speaking, his mother would’ve never been the first person to hold the child, as it’s usually the privilege of the obstetrician.
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The man continued to call his wife all sorts of things, ranging from “unbelievably selfish” to “cold-hearted”, and later uttered that he should’ve let his mother be present in the delivery room.
What do you think about this monstrosity of a story?
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You have got to wonder about the mentality of some people. We’re the expecting the midwife to just hand the baby to the MIL straight from the womb. I think my parents were the first people after my wife and I to hold our son. Or it could have been my SIL. To be honest my wife was the first to hold, then me. After that I don’t know. But then this situation never came up as our families are not batshit crazy.
My wife had an emergency C-section. She held our daughter for a few minutes, then they had to sew her up. So I held my Daughter for an hour or so alone in the room, while they looked after her. It was AWESOME. That little girl who had never seen eyes before just stared into my eyes while i talked gently to her. My ex-wife never forgave that time. She hates me for having a closer relationship with my daughter than she does.
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Oof, my advice is to look for a sale on time machines, then go back to a year or two ago and get out of that relationship.
They were half price last August, you should go and get them then.
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uhm I literally have no words for this situation. So MIL wanted to be the first person to hold the baby, but she was out of town... soooo other people held the baby, as expected. And what about the mom? Was she just expected to not touch the baby? And why is husband taking MILs side? Too many questions. Edit to add: MIL seems very controlling in all of this. She chose to be out of town while the mom was very pregnant, then was upset she wasn't the first to hold the baby. Plus she wanted to be in the delivery room? It all seems very off-putting to me.
The whole point is getting to hold the baby. There's no reason to act like this unless someone is keeping you from holding the child. Then by all means go off. But who cares if you're 1st or 12th in line? As long as you get to do it is the point and what you want. Hold the damn baby and enjoy it. No one is stopping you from doing that but you. So worried about being the 1st to do it that you don't do it at all. Goodness I avoid anyone this controlling and difficult at all costs. I wish this Mama luck and hope she doesn't have to deal with this MIL ever again.
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You have got to wonder about the mentality of some people. We’re the expecting the midwife to just hand the baby to the MIL straight from the womb. I think my parents were the first people after my wife and I to hold our son. Or it could have been my SIL. To be honest my wife was the first to hold, then me. After that I don’t know. But then this situation never came up as our families are not batshit crazy.
My wife had an emergency C-section. She held our daughter for a few minutes, then they had to sew her up. So I held my Daughter for an hour or so alone in the room, while they looked after her. It was AWESOME. That little girl who had never seen eyes before just stared into my eyes while i talked gently to her. My ex-wife never forgave that time. She hates me for having a closer relationship with my daughter than she does.
Load More Replies... Oof, my advice is to look for a sale on time machines, then go back to a year or two ago and get out of that relationship.
They were half price last August, you should go and get them then.
Load More Replies... uhm I literally have no words for this situation. So MIL wanted to be the first person to hold the baby, but she was out of town... soooo other people held the baby, as expected. And what about the mom? Was she just expected to not touch the baby? And why is husband taking MILs side? Too many questions. Edit to add: MIL seems very controlling in all of this. She chose to be out of town while the mom was very pregnant, then was upset she wasn't the first to hold the baby. Plus she wanted to be in the delivery room? It all seems very off-putting to me.
The whole point is getting to hold the baby. There's no reason to act like this unless someone is keeping you from holding the child. Then by all means go off. But who cares if you're 1st or 12th in line? As long as you get to do it is the point and what you want. Hold the damn baby and enjoy it. No one is stopping you from doing that but you. So worried about being the 1st to do it that you don't do it at all. Goodness I avoid anyone this controlling and difficult at all costs. I wish this Mama luck and hope she doesn't have to deal with this MIL ever again.
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