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77 Things People’s Situationships Said That Made Them Pause And Reconsider Everything
We love labels. But in some cases, assigning one is just impossible. A situationship is a romantic or physical — for the lack of a better word — connection that lacks commitment, expectations, and therefore, definition.
It sits in the gray area: more intimate than friendship, but not exclusive.
To get a clearer sense of what that looks like, we invite you to jump in with us on an online thread where people have shared the most diabolical things their situationships have said to them.
And technically, can you even be mad at someone if you were never really together?
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#1
“You know you don’t have to message me every time to let me know you got home safe? x”
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#2
We were hanging out and I asked “do you think about me when I’m not around?” He responded “I don’t think about you even when you are around”
#3
“I don’t wanna sound insensitive but would you still wanna come over?” The day my mom passed away from cancer
#4
“I thought I wanted you, but now that I have you, I realised I don’t want you”
#5
We were at the club and the dj said “single ladies put your hands up?” And this guy said “yo put your hand up” and lifted my hand for me 😭😭😭😭😭😭
#6
“ I don’t want anything serious with you but I don’t like the idea of you seeing other people”
#7
“Do you think we’ll go to each others weddings” while we were on a trip together
#8
“I might be getting back together with my ex, but I’ll keep you updated”
#9
He said he was busy....
He was busy getting married
#10
“I am happy with you but I don’t want to miss the opportunity to possibly be happier with someone else”
#11
"when I am with you I enjoy every moment but when we are apart I don't think about you at all"
#12
“I want you to be my girlfriend” *30 min later “sorry I changed my mind I didn’t think this through”
#13
"you are such a great girl. you have SO much love to give. I just don't want it"
#14
“I can totally see myself marrying you and having kids with you, but I won’t”
#15
He texted me months after I ended it to come over, I replied I’m on a date. He said “great take the leftovers to go for us please”
#16
He ended things with me because and I QUOTE "I need to keep on top of my laundry."
#18
“The only reason I saw u today is becaus the girl i’m talking to is on vacation”
#19
i finally ended things with him and he told me he was proud of me
#20
“Realizing how horrible I treated you makes me want to treat her better”
#24
He rushed us both out of his house early the next morning so he could go to his dentists appointment, both hopped in our separate cars, but I waited in my car and watched him circle the block and go back in the house 😂😂😂
#25
Flew to London from New York to see him and he only wanted to lay on the couch after work, and when I mentioned how far I flew he said “you could’ve flown from the moon and it wouldn’t have mattered” :D
#26
“You’re the perfect girl. I’d marry you right now if there weren’t so many options out there”
#27
“Have fun at your friend’s birthday, hopefully you meet the love of your life”
#28
“You didn’t answer, you’re learning, proud of you”
Andrew Keir 3 hours ago
Silence is often a good reply - especially if the other person is starting a fight
#30
I told him i felt like he hated me sometimes to which he said “you know in order to hate you that means i gotta care about you which i dont”
Andrew Keir 3 hours ago
That comment is best seen in a rear-view mirror, getting smaller with time
#32
We’re on a romantic date and he said “this situation is perfect to say ‘i love u’ the problem is that i don’t”
#33
I told him I needed to put myself first and put my energy into someone that actually wants me . And he said “ Periodt” 😂😭😩
#34
Not a situationship but my ex husband said to me while we were married, “why do you let me treat you so badly?” 😅
#35
We were hanging out with our mutual friends and he texts me “so bored, kinda wanna leave”. So I say “me too”. Then he says out loud “you can leave if you want” 😐
#37
“i’m sorry your heart was collateral damage of my boredom”
Andrew Keir 3 hours ago
"Collateral damage" - ah, there's a phrase that translates as "yes I did it, and IDGAF"
#38
“You’re a star that refuses to shine” like wtf does that even mean
#39
I asked him why he kept leaving and coming back (8 times in the span of less than two years) he said "it's because you always let me" I was left speechless
#40
“Don’t be sad Its over, smile because it happened” 😂😂😂
#41
“I’m emotionally in love with you but not physically attracted to u”
Michael None 1 hour ago
You can't want an honest relationship and then get mad when the answers aren't always what you want them to be.
#42
Me: “I love you” him: “I have love for you”
#43
I told him that I was okay being in a situationship because I would rather have that than not have him in my life at all and he said “yikes” 😐
#44
I told him “all I’m asking for is the bare minimum “ he said “but I am giving you the bare minimum “ 🫠
#46
“We don’t have to talk everyday” fast forward we are 5 years in, married with a baby on the way 😅
#47
He broke no contact saying “i miss you” then ghosted me RIGHT AFTER and when i pointed it out he said “just cause i miss you doesn’t mean i have to talk to you” LIKE????
#48
”If we started dating can we break up for summer and do whatever we want and then start dating again in october”
#49
“Let’s not confuse intimacy with love”
#51
“I left my phone at work” for 4 days????
#52
“In like 8 years from now on my wedding day I’m gonna be looking at my wife walk down the aisle and think about you and how you’re the one who got away”
#54
Confessed to his face that I was in love with him and he said “why would you say that”
Andrew Keir 2 hours ago
He might just be shy / ND / socially inept. The first two are curable.
#55
”I didn’t wish you a happy birthday cus I wasn’t sure if you’d want me to” excuse me 😃
#56
He was a pilot and he’d bring his cat over to my place every time he went on a trip. One day, he texted me casually, “Hey, I met someone new and we’re dating now. I’ll bring the cat over on Sunday.”
#57
“I love you”, for the first time, exactly 30 minutes before cheating on me
Andrew Keir 3 hours ago
It's known as a 'pre-apology' , like when you say 'sorry' just before doing something bad. Hint - it's never a good sign.
#58
“You’re everything I want in a person, I just don’t want you to be my person” 💀
#59
“You need to value yourself more” 😭
Andrew Keir 2 hours ago
Is this a variant on the "You deserve someone better than me" trope? *Might* be a shy guy being honest ...
#61
I don’t see myself dating you right now, but that doesn’t mean that I’ll never see myself dating you at some point in the future
#62
Told me I reminded him of Carrie Bradshaw
#63
“I need to end the casual part of our relationship because I’m starting to catch feelings for you and I can see myself being with you and I care for you but I promised myself I would never be with a *my job role*” We met at work and do the same job 🙄
#64
“I can see myself marrying you” after ending things with me
#65
“I’d rather stay in because if we don’t work out I’d have wasted my time and money”
#66
“can’t keep texting you everyday, what if i meet someone i like…”
#67
“I’ve never made a plan in advance. I don’t do calendars, I’m spontaneous.”
#68
he broke no contact after ghosting me for a month. he asked if i miss him, i said no and this was his response 💀
Loosey Goosey 2 hours ago (edited)
Breadcrumbing. Giving someone just enough attention to keep them interested and prevent them from moving on because they're your back up plan.
#69
“You deserve love and I don’t have any to give” then got married a year later
#72
“I don’t want a relationship” soon after I sense that his energy has gone off with me. I asked him “are you talking to someone else?” He goes “yes I am and I want something serious with her, not you” 💀 💀 💀
#73
Don’t tell anyone about our situationship because I would get bullied
#75
“I just use tinder as entertainment purposes when I’m bored, I don’t talk to them, you’re the one I want”
Andrew Keir 2 hours ago
A possible reply - "I use you as entertainment purposes when I'm bored"
#77
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What do you think ?
Julie S 5 hours ago
I don't get the "situationship" thing it's like having your cake and eating it. Seems someone is always going to get hurt.
Loosey Goosey 2 hours ago (edited)
They rarely end well because one person usually wants to turn it into an actual exclusive relationship, and the other doesn't. The person who wants the relationship thinks that by making themselves available to the other person they'll realise how wonderful they are and change their mind. Then jealousy and resentment set in when the person who wants a relationship doesn't get it. Relationships take time to develop and require work, but situationships give people instant gratification.
Load More Replies... Dreempannda 7 hours ago
My crush at the time told me he didn’t want to have a relationship with me. He did offer to have s.e.x with me so he could insure my first time was with someone very good at it. Politely declined and ran.
Jane Doe 4 hours ago
Like a healthy, confident person should. Well done you for not accepting less and then letting your heart get broken because you created a narrative in your head where he changed.
Load More Replies... Milly Vanilly 4 hours ago
When a guy once told me: “I didn’t know if you were beautiful enough at first, but you are” as if I was supposed to feel good about that, I noped out real quick!
Julie S 5 hours ago
I don't get the "situationship" thing it's like having your cake and eating it. Seems someone is always going to get hurt.
Loosey Goosey 2 hours ago (edited)
They rarely end well because one person usually wants to turn it into an actual exclusive relationship, and the other doesn't. The person who wants the relationship thinks that by making themselves available to the other person they'll realise how wonderful they are and change their mind. Then jealousy and resentment set in when the person who wants a relationship doesn't get it. Relationships take time to develop and require work, but situationships give people instant gratification.
Load More Replies... Dreempannda 7 hours ago
My crush at the time told me he didn’t want to have a relationship with me. He did offer to have s.e.x with me so he could insure my first time was with someone very good at it. Politely declined and ran.
Jane Doe 4 hours ago
Like a healthy, confident person should. Well done you for not accepting less and then letting your heart get broken because you created a narrative in your head where he changed.
Load More Replies... Milly Vanilly 4 hours ago
When a guy once told me: “I didn’t know if you were beautiful enough at first, but you are” as if I was supposed to feel good about that, I noped out real quick!
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