Friends Reject Woman’s Idea For Her 40th B-Day Celebration, Make A New Plan She Can’t Afford

Birthdays are special and meant to be enjoyed with the people you love. It’s also important that whether there’s a big party involved or just a small event, the person whose birthday it is should be having the most fun. Sometimes, though, entitled guests make things a bit more difficult.

This is what a woman faced after she decided on a lowkey but enjoyable series of events for her 40th birthday party. Unfortunately, her friends didn’t like her ideas and took over the whole occasion, which left her feeling dejected.

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Sometimes, even the best of friends can struggle to tell each other the truth, especially when it has to do with money troubles

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The poster explained that she had been struggling with her business and work for a while, which is why she and her partner had to rein in their expenses

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Since she was due to celebrate her 40th birthday party, she decided to book a craft class followed by lunch at a restaurant, but her close friends didn’t seem too fond of the idea

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Her best friends of 10 years had all done big things for their 40th birthdays and it seemed like they wanted to take over her event and convert it into a grand weekend trip

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The woman felt hurt by how her friends’ had steamrolled her plans and knew that she wouldn’t be able to afford to go but didn’t know how to tell them 

An important thing to understand is how much the OP valued her close friendships. She had maintained ties with them for over 10 years and kept meeting them regularly. So they had really strong bonds that she had never questioned before.

The trouble only began when she hid her money problems from her best friends. That’s why she didn’t want to have a grand event for her birthday, and decided to keep it simple and fun. Unfortunately, her friends, who didn’t know she was going through financial difficulties, probably thought they were helping by converting the initial plan into something bigger.

According to experts, before telling anyone about the money troubles you’ve been having, it’s first important to be honest with yourself. If you’re lying or not facing the situation it may only comfort you in the short run but make you miserable later on. It can also make the situation feel incredibly lonely because you don’t want to own up and ask for help.

Once you do face your financial struggles head-on, you can let your friends know exactly where you stand. You don’t have to reveal every little detail but it’s essential to explain to them what your limitations are and how they can possibly work around it. Being in this situation doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom, it can become better by just being honest.

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In this story, unfortunately, the OP’s friends took over the planning very quickly. They decided to do her birthday event as a girls’ weekend away and quickly started looking at flight bookings. It’s obvious that the poster felt bad about how quickly they rejected her idea and she really didn’t want to go through with it because of the excessive costs involved.

In such cases, there are a few things a person could do. They could suggest a cheaper alternative that fits their budget while still being enjoyable for everyone else. Cozy home gatherings and personalized gifts can be a touching way of maintaining connections with people. At the end of the day, your financial goal is of utmost importance and it’s okay to say no to costly events you can’t afford.

The OP also wanted to cancel her friends’ extravagant plan and not have to worry about how much all of it would cost. It hurt her to think they didn’t like her idea and made her feel sad that she couldn’t afford to go at all. All in all, it must have been embarrassing for her to figure out what to say to her friends, who were excited and had gotten carried away with enthusiasm.

Hopefully, the OP realizes that her friends care more about her happiness than a random trip they planned. Although it might seem embarrassing for her to reveal her money troubles, it might help strengthen her bond with her besties and make her birthday more enjoyable.

What would you do if you were in her situation? Do you think there’s an easy way out of this dilemma? We’d love to hear your thoughts.

People told the poster to be honest with her friends and to figure out what their true intentions were behind their actions

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