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Men Are Refusing To Date Women With Hip Dips, Expert Reacts
Interview With ExpertA tweet claiming men are refusing to date women with “hip dips” is gaining traction on social media, leading to discussions about people who have extremely specific “types.”
Having a romantic type such as the classic “tall, dark, and handsome” or a preference for redheads is nothing new.
Beyond broad preferences like height or hair color, social media has amplified how worryingly specific some dating “must-haves” can be.
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Highlights
- A viral tweet claimed some men refuse to date women with hip dips, sparking heated debates about dating preferences on social media.
- Expert Denise Marigold explains attraction is complex and real connections often override narrow physical checklists like hip dips.
- People’s dating preferences are also influenced by beliefs about what traits are controllable or changeable.
A viral tweet sparked debate by claiming some men refuse to date women with hip dips
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An expert has since weighed in on these very niche “types” and whether they have any connection to society’s beauty standards.
Posted by @BrianAtlas, the message at the center of controversy reads, “Hiplet trend of men refusing to date women with hip dips is INFURIATING women. If it’s okay for women to have a height preference, it’s okay for men to prefer to date women without hip dips.”
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“Y’all are just making up stuff to dehumanize women,” one woman replied under the X post, which has amassed 6 million views.
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“Men are allowed to have preferences, that’s not dehumanizing. Would you date a man shorter than you?” @BrianAtlas countered.
“I think these men are looking for excuses to not date women,” someone else wrote, while another asked, “Wait, hips are bad now?”
A social media user accused the man of trying to “dehumanize” women with his ultra-specific romantic “type”
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Though some people may describe their ideal partner with a checklist of physical traits, experts say real-life connections don’t always work that way.
Denise Marigold, a professor of Interpersonal Relations and Social Psychology at the University of Waterloo, shared that people’s romantic preferences are often more complex than they appear.
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“People typically rate physical attractiveness as significant in selecting a mate, and there are some universals. For instance, we tend to find more symmetrical faces more attractive,” she told Bored Panda.
“But to a large extent, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Moreover, when we get to know and like someone on a deeper level, we often begin to find them more physically attractive.”
An expert said attraction is far more complicated than checking off a list of physical traits
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Asked about preferences for very specific features such as hip dips, Marigold said these ideals are influenced by both personal attraction and cultural beauty standards.
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However, she stressed that there is an important difference between someone’s “ideal” partner and the people they are actually attracted to in real life.
She said that when we strike a connection with someone, that mental checklist is often thrown out the window.
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Marigold added that social media can reinforce unrealistic beauty ideals, but in recent years, it has also provided a space for people to accept themselves for who they are and question those narrow definitions of beauty.
“There is lots of social media promoting idealized versions of bodies, but there are also lots promoting body positivity/acceptance, reminding us that health comes in many shapes and sizes and our bodies don’t determine our worth.”
Our beliefs about what people can and cannot control shape how we judge potential partners
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Moreover, the expert noted that our dating preferences, whether for physical traits or personality, are influenced by our perceptions of what can and cannot be changed.
“There is some debate about what you can control – for example, some people believe body shape is more controllable than it is. And some ‘personal choices’ may actually be less controllable than we believe.
“Those underlying beliefs are significant in how we judge people, and determine whether they would make a good partner or not.”
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Ultimately, Marigold argued that highly specific physical preferences do little to predict relationship success.
Instead of focusing on whether someone is tall or short, has a specific hair color, or has a particular body shape, people should consider the deeper qualities that matter most in lasting relationships.
“Most of what determines relationship satisfaction over the long-term cannot be determined by a static list of qualities,” Marigold stressed. “What’s more important is how we communicate, provide care and support, and weather stresses and transitions.”
Science suggests the happiest couples have one surprising habit when it comes to their partner’s flaws
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While some flaws such as lying and aggressive behavior are definite red flags, science suggests that minor flaws are not true deal-breakers when you genuinely like someone.
In a 1990s study cited by the UC Davis psychologist Paul Eastwick, the longest-lasting relationships were those in which people justified their partner’s faults with “yes, but” statements, such as, “She is messy, but I wouldn’t ask her to give up her free-spirited ways for anything.”
The tweet sparked a debate about dating preferences and highly specific “types”
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Bertha Madott 1 week ago
F77. TWO hip replacements. Scars galore. TWO knee replacements worse scars plus lumps and bumps around kneecaps. I swear on my parents grave: I used to have legs better than most models. Now!?!? Ha ha ha. And my DH M88 worships the ground I walk on. He loved me with the walker, the wheelchair, the canes and the crutches and the stability poles. There is a lot more to love and dating and friendship than hip dips. Ps. Celebrating 50th anniversary soon
Kate Johnson 1 week ago
Who cares what worthless shallow men prefer. Most of them are living in Mommy's basement anyway.
Tabitha 1 week ago (edited)
When you’re lonely and desperate for companionship, you don’t double down on your preferences and pass by everyone until you find that unicorn, you loosen up on your preferences to give people who check many, but not all, of your boxes—-to open the field up more, rather than narrow it. You usually find real gems amongst those you used to pass by. ALSO, we tend to end up with people who are pretty much on par with us, looks-wise, and if you aren’t perfect, you should not demand perfection from potential dates. How do I know this? I didn’t get married until I was almost 40. I was also engaged 3 times before I met my husband. So I did A LOT of dating, including taking breaks from it after bad breakups when I concentrated on myself. I learned early on (still in my teens) that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince. It took me 25 years of dating and kissing frogs, and finding a few princes who weren’t MY prince, to finally find a prince who was meant for me. We just celebrated our 25th anniversary. So be patient, work on yourself (the most important thing), get to like yourself, date as many people as you can (you will attract more of them as you work on yourself, btw), and eventually the right one will come along. That was my experience, as someone who wasn’t lucky enough to have a childhood or high school sweetheart who turned out to be my soulmate.
Anyone-for-tea? 1 week ago
I almost agree, apart from the lonely bit, but not being restricted by the impossible standards I might have set for men when I was in my 20s has certainly helped. My current partner is the furthest from what “requirements” I used to have, and it’s probably the best relationship I’ve ever had (okay, it is!) and he is different in nearly every superficial standard I adhered to previously.
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cptn_gali 1 week ago
why are we even debating this? People have preferences. People who impose their preferences on others are lame. you like what you like and you seek out what you like. there's no need to broadcast it. why is this even a thing? what's next people making a stink about not liking pizza with cheese? then get it cheeseless?
Rick Murray 1 week ago
But, seriously, look at her eyes, look at her personality, look how she treats service staff. Stop paying attention to her curves, in time they'll change.....just like your hair will.
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dean tirmizi 1 week ago
a bit like saying women wont date short men, both things are stupid and both thing we cant control
antoinette maldari 1 week ago
Do you know who the US President is? If so, there's your answer.
Load More Replies... Doctor Strange 1 week ago
Who the FCK cares if someone isn't physically perfect? I'd be thrilled just to find someone who I can love and be loved by in return. I'm not going to demand she look like she stepped out of a magazine. Hll, even the women in the magazines don't look like the women in the magazines in real life. Do I care about 'hip dips', whatever they are? NO. Do I care if she laughs at my jokes? How her head fits against my chest? If she'll hold my hand as we go grocery shopping? Those are things that matter.
J J Jettflow 1 week ago
It’s hilarious watching the internet meltdown over this whole "hip dip" dating debate. For years, men have been told we have to meet a strict checklist of unchangeable physical traits just to get a foot in the door—whether it’s being over 6 feet tall, having a perfectly chiseled jawline, or meeting specific genetic standards we have absolutely no control over. But the second men turn around and point out a natural, unchangeable anatomical trait on women, it’s suddenly a massive crisis and an outrage. You can't have it both ways. If the standard is that we're allowed to judge people on unchangeable bone structure and genetics, then it goes both ways. The irony of being enraged by the exact same energy you’ve been putting out for years is wild.
Flat_Alien 1 week ago
Bp, do you really earn that much out of rage bait articles that it justifies posting this s.h.i.t ?
Joanne Earle 1 week ago
I've read this article and looked at the pics and I still have no idea what the hell a hip dip is supposed to look like.
Peter Bear 1 week ago
It's becoming increasingly clear that all members of the 'manosphere' are closeted gay, or ace, because they certainly don't like women in any form.
Robert Higuera 1 week ago
LOL! Some incel men who can't get women to date them make up reasons why they're not dating women. ;D
Spencers slave no more 1 week ago
Please can someone explain to me, as a woman, what in god's name hip dips are?
antoinette maldari 1 week ago
I read the article and looked at the pics and I still really don't know, either.
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tori Ohno 1 week ago
What's with the "height" complaint over and over from men? Any woman who had ever insulted you because of your height has done so because she knows it'll get to you. What did say or do before she insulted you? Hmmm? It's ridiculous how some men will even argue with a woman about what she finds attractive. These things are what men value about themselves and each other. I digress. This hip dip thing is a crock. They're trying to insult women in order to hurt them is all. Real men don't even know what it is, and don't care. They judge the whole person for who she is, they don't judge the whole person because of her hip shape. (Which technically is her bone structure)
SM 1 week ago (edited)
Hmm, so immediately it has to be that she insulted him, and of course it was his fault? I have certainly talked to women and they have stated that they only date men that are like 6' or taller. This was just in general conversation. Frankly I had never heard about "hip dip" and for sure we shouldn't judge people on one narrow aspect like this, but the truth is that people are attracted to different things, and that is just how it is. I like women with short haircuts even though most men think otherwise. You are fooling yourself if you believe you and all women are beyond that. Should it be the only factor? Of course not. But it does play a role.
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Robert Beveridge 1 week ago
I looked at the diagram, I looked at the pictures, I read the article, I still have no idea what we're on about here.
Pawsome 1 week ago
It's when the curve on the side of the hip has a dip in it, due to fat distribution or lack of fat/muscle in a specific place. It's natural. Some women have it, some don't
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Frank Sherbet 1 week ago
It's OK for people to like what they like. And to not like what they don't.
Vincent H 1 week ago
I am finding the comments super interesting. My two cents: It's a preference much like women have preferences. I think those who are highly offended should re-evaluate whether or not they are being too sensitive and ask themselves if they have ever had a preference or requirement (height , weight, hair, skin color, eye color, etc). If you have, then you really should not be crapping on a persons hip preference (woman or man). If they don't want you, they don't want you. It's that simple. You are how you were made, don't try to change a thing.
yhwhzson 1 week ago
As a man, I've never even heard of such absurdity being an issue. Just another meaningless slight by weirdo men to unnecessarily add to the endless list of women and girls' needless obsessions. Men that are petty enough to be on social media about hip dips are more than not "dip 💩s"
Earonn - 1 week ago
Shhhh! Don't tell the shytes to shut up! Let them wave their red flags all over the place! Or do you want to end with one of those incel losers because he's been told to hide his opinions? Only tell girls and young women, that this is insane and a warning sign, and that everything's fine with their bodies, no matter the shape of their hips.
Brooke Monfort 1 week ago
Not so surprised. Shallow behavior and perspectives are encouraged in men these days, and they usually don't need much coaching in that regard. Whatever.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago (edited)
🤣🤣and they wonder WHY no girls will go near em lol ,!,also to those men BEAUTY IS ONLY SKIN DEEP !! it’s what’s inside that truly matters ! and by that it means men as are saying this shite ,you all are ugly as sin !! Both inside and outside and out .let that sink in dudes and wake up to yourselves already !
Rafael 1 week ago
Took me until the drawing to even know what this was about. I am not a native speaker, but I didn't knew this characteristic even had a name. My wide has hips like this and I love it, was never a problem for me, or for anyone else I've ever met. What's next, criticising women for having bendy knees or hard teeth?
Герберт Майн 1 week ago
Why do people treat hip dips as a sign of being overweight when it is a pelvic shape trait?.. If a women has a wide pelvis (not hipbones, mind you, pelvis), she will have hip dips. In any weight. Because it is literally pelvic bones and hip bones stucking under the skin. You can't change it. Ever.
tapetum lucidum 1 week ago
Today I learned the English term for a part of my body that my husband always loved and still loves :). Some men have the strangest preferences. But the sane ones are hopefully still a majority.
Ru Bee 1 week ago
I'm a woman and I don't know what a hip dip is! The diagram didn't really help either.
SM 1 week ago (edited)
I'm a guy, and it isn't too clear to me either. First time I have seen the term. Best I can make out is "no dip" a rounded curve to the hips from top of hip to the thigh. Where "dip" means that say in the middle of the hip it curves in, and then back out.
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Harley Rider 1 week ago
To every pot there's a lid. I like thin women. I don't like fat women. I noticed years ago a pattern women tend to follow: Get slim, get married, get fat, get divorced, then slim down to get husband #2. I told my wife from the start, 'get fat; get gone'. Now I'm sure there are plenty of men who like fat women, just like there are some women who like short men, and good for them. But nobody has to change their preference just because someone who can't find a mate thinks they should be settled for.
tapetum lucidum 1 week ago
I hope, for your sake, that you continue to live up to your wife's preferences. It's not like men's body can't and won't change over time...
Load More Replies... Bertha Madott 1 week ago
F77. TWO hip replacements. Scars galore. TWO knee replacements worse scars plus lumps and bumps around kneecaps. I swear on my parents grave: I used to have legs better than most models. Now!?!? Ha ha ha. And my DH M88 worships the ground I walk on. He loved me with the walker, the wheelchair, the canes and the crutches and the stability poles. There is a lot more to love and dating and friendship than hip dips. Ps. Celebrating 50th anniversary soon
Kate Johnson 1 week ago
Who cares what worthless shallow men prefer. Most of them are living in Mommy's basement anyway.
Tabitha 1 week ago (edited)
When you’re lonely and desperate for companionship, you don’t double down on your preferences and pass by everyone until you find that unicorn, you loosen up on your preferences to give people who check many, but not all, of your boxes—-to open the field up more, rather than narrow it. You usually find real gems amongst those you used to pass by. ALSO, we tend to end up with people who are pretty much on par with us, looks-wise, and if you aren’t perfect, you should not demand perfection from potential dates. How do I know this? I didn’t get married until I was almost 40. I was also engaged 3 times before I met my husband. So I did A LOT of dating, including taking breaks from it after bad breakups when I concentrated on myself. I learned early on (still in my teens) that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince. It took me 25 years of dating and kissing frogs, and finding a few princes who weren’t MY prince, to finally find a prince who was meant for me. We just celebrated our 25th anniversary. So be patient, work on yourself (the most important thing), get to like yourself, date as many people as you can (you will attract more of them as you work on yourself, btw), and eventually the right one will come along. That was my experience, as someone who wasn’t lucky enough to have a childhood or high school sweetheart who turned out to be my soulmate.
Anyone-for-tea? 1 week ago
I almost agree, apart from the lonely bit, but not being restricted by the impossible standards I might have set for men when I was in my 20s has certainly helped. My current partner is the furthest from what “requirements” I used to have, and it’s probably the best relationship I’ve ever had (okay, it is!) and he is different in nearly every superficial standard I adhered to previously.
Load More Replies... cptn_gali 1 week ago
why are we even debating this? People have preferences. People who impose their preferences on others are lame. you like what you like and you seek out what you like. there's no need to broadcast it. why is this even a thing? what's next people making a stink about not liking pizza with cheese? then get it cheeseless?
Rick Murray 1 week ago
But, seriously, look at her eyes, look at her personality, look how she treats service staff. Stop paying attention to her curves, in time they'll change.....just like your hair will.
Load More Replies... dean tirmizi 1 week ago
a bit like saying women wont date short men, both things are stupid and both thing we cant control
antoinette maldari 1 week ago
Do you know who the US President is? If so, there's your answer.
Load More Replies... Doctor Strange 1 week ago
Who the FCK cares if someone isn't physically perfect? I'd be thrilled just to find someone who I can love and be loved by in return. I'm not going to demand she look like she stepped out of a magazine. Hll, even the women in the magazines don't look like the women in the magazines in real life. Do I care about 'hip dips', whatever they are? NO. Do I care if she laughs at my jokes? How her head fits against my chest? If she'll hold my hand as we go grocery shopping? Those are things that matter.
J J Jettflow 1 week ago
It’s hilarious watching the internet meltdown over this whole "hip dip" dating debate. For years, men have been told we have to meet a strict checklist of unchangeable physical traits just to get a foot in the door—whether it’s being over 6 feet tall, having a perfectly chiseled jawline, or meeting specific genetic standards we have absolutely no control over. But the second men turn around and point out a natural, unchangeable anatomical trait on women, it’s suddenly a massive crisis and an outrage. You can't have it both ways. If the standard is that we're allowed to judge people on unchangeable bone structure and genetics, then it goes both ways. The irony of being enraged by the exact same energy you’ve been putting out for years is wild.
Flat_Alien 1 week ago
Bp, do you really earn that much out of rage bait articles that it justifies posting this s.h.i.t ?
Joanne Earle 1 week ago
I've read this article and looked at the pics and I still have no idea what the hell a hip dip is supposed to look like.
Peter Bear 1 week ago
It's becoming increasingly clear that all members of the 'manosphere' are closeted gay, or ace, because they certainly don't like women in any form.
Robert Higuera 1 week ago
LOL! Some incel men who can't get women to date them make up reasons why they're not dating women. ;D
Spencers slave no more 1 week ago
Please can someone explain to me, as a woman, what in god's name hip dips are?
antoinette maldari 1 week ago
I read the article and looked at the pics and I still really don't know, either.
Load More Replies... tori Ohno 1 week ago
What's with the "height" complaint over and over from men? Any woman who had ever insulted you because of your height has done so because she knows it'll get to you. What did say or do before she insulted you? Hmmm? It's ridiculous how some men will even argue with a woman about what she finds attractive. These things are what men value about themselves and each other. I digress. This hip dip thing is a crock. They're trying to insult women in order to hurt them is all. Real men don't even know what it is, and don't care. They judge the whole person for who she is, they don't judge the whole person because of her hip shape. (Which technically is her bone structure)
SM 1 week ago (edited)
Hmm, so immediately it has to be that she insulted him, and of course it was his fault? I have certainly talked to women and they have stated that they only date men that are like 6' or taller. This was just in general conversation. Frankly I had never heard about "hip dip" and for sure we shouldn't judge people on one narrow aspect like this, but the truth is that people are attracted to different things, and that is just how it is. I like women with short haircuts even though most men think otherwise. You are fooling yourself if you believe you and all women are beyond that. Should it be the only factor? Of course not. But it does play a role.
Load More Replies... Robert Beveridge 1 week ago
I looked at the diagram, I looked at the pictures, I read the article, I still have no idea what we're on about here.
Pawsome 1 week ago
It's when the curve on the side of the hip has a dip in it, due to fat distribution or lack of fat/muscle in a specific place. It's natural. Some women have it, some don't
Load More Replies... Frank Sherbet 1 week ago
It's OK for people to like what they like. And to not like what they don't.
Vincent H 1 week ago
I am finding the comments super interesting. My two cents: It's a preference much like women have preferences. I think those who are highly offended should re-evaluate whether or not they are being too sensitive and ask themselves if they have ever had a preference or requirement (height , weight, hair, skin color, eye color, etc). If you have, then you really should not be crapping on a persons hip preference (woman or man). If they don't want you, they don't want you. It's that simple. You are how you were made, don't try to change a thing.
yhwhzson 1 week ago
As a man, I've never even heard of such absurdity being an issue. Just another meaningless slight by weirdo men to unnecessarily add to the endless list of women and girls' needless obsessions. Men that are petty enough to be on social media about hip dips are more than not "dip 💩s"
Earonn - 1 week ago
Shhhh! Don't tell the shytes to shut up! Let them wave their red flags all over the place! Or do you want to end with one of those incel losers because he's been told to hide his opinions? Only tell girls and young women, that this is insane and a warning sign, and that everything's fine with their bodies, no matter the shape of their hips.
Brooke Monfort 1 week ago
Not so surprised. Shallow behavior and perspectives are encouraged in men these days, and they usually don't need much coaching in that regard. Whatever.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago (edited)
🤣🤣and they wonder WHY no girls will go near em lol ,!,also to those men BEAUTY IS ONLY SKIN DEEP !! it’s what’s inside that truly matters ! and by that it means men as are saying this shite ,you all are ugly as sin !! Both inside and outside and out .let that sink in dudes and wake up to yourselves already !
Rafael 1 week ago
Took me until the drawing to even know what this was about. I am not a native speaker, but I didn't knew this characteristic even had a name. My wide has hips like this and I love it, was never a problem for me, or for anyone else I've ever met. What's next, criticising women for having bendy knees or hard teeth?
Герберт Майн 1 week ago
Why do people treat hip dips as a sign of being overweight when it is a pelvic shape trait?.. If a women has a wide pelvis (not hipbones, mind you, pelvis), she will have hip dips. In any weight. Because it is literally pelvic bones and hip bones stucking under the skin. You can't change it. Ever.
tapetum lucidum 1 week ago
Today I learned the English term for a part of my body that my husband always loved and still loves :). Some men have the strangest preferences. But the sane ones are hopefully still a majority.
Ru Bee 1 week ago
I'm a woman and I don't know what a hip dip is! The diagram didn't really help either.
SM 1 week ago (edited)
I'm a guy, and it isn't too clear to me either. First time I have seen the term. Best I can make out is "no dip" a rounded curve to the hips from top of hip to the thigh. Where "dip" means that say in the middle of the hip it curves in, and then back out.
Load More Replies... Harley Rider 1 week ago
To every pot there's a lid. I like thin women. I don't like fat women. I noticed years ago a pattern women tend to follow: Get slim, get married, get fat, get divorced, then slim down to get husband #2. I told my wife from the start, 'get fat; get gone'. Now I'm sure there are plenty of men who like fat women, just like there are some women who like short men, and good for them. But nobody has to change their preference just because someone who can't find a mate thinks they should be settled for.
tapetum lucidum 1 week ago
I hope, for your sake, that you continue to live up to your wife's preferences. It's not like men's body can't and won't change over time...
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