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Wife Demands Husband Relocate His Children For Hers, He Starts Planning A Divorce Instead
Blended families can only work smoothly if people make compromises and try to understand each other’s perspectives. If one person tries to push their opinions on the other or makes entitled demands, it might cause a conflict that’s harder to resolve.
A man realized this when his wife told him that she was planning to move to be closer to her children, and assumed that he would be okay with uprooting his kids and going with her. He didn’t want to give in to her demands and considered ending their marriage instead.
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The poster shared that he had been with his wife for four years and that they both had kids from previous marriages, and hers were in her ex’s custody
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The woman was planning to shift to another state to be closer to her children, who wanted to move with their dad, and she expected her husband to join
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The poster didn’t want to uproot his kids’ lives, as he felt like they already had stability there and would miss their friends and family too much
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The man felt that he’d have to end his marriage, as his wife expected him to change his mind and wasn’t willing to compromise
The poster shared that he had been married to his wife for years, and they both had children from their previous marriages. Her children were under her husband’s custody, and since he was moving to another state, he was going to take the kids with him.
Therefore, she also felt like she needed to shift to be closer to them, because that’s the challenge in blended families—people also need to take their children’s needs into consideration. Apart from trying to make things work with their partner, they should also check in with their kids and understand their point of view for each situation. This can only be worked through with empathy and consideration for everyone’s feelings.
The man decided that he wasn’t going to take his children away from the life they already had, and he told his wife just that. She was disappointed by his decision and said that they’d not be able to make their marriage work if they were in different states. He knew that he had to stay firm in his choice.
According to Family Lives experts, children can’t just be uprooted from the place where they are comfortable. Once they make friends and connect with people in their vicinity, it can be difficult to move away from all that they’ve known and the bonds they’ve made. Parents need to be sensitive to their needs and take their feelings into account.
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The poster’s wife told him that they’d talk the matter through and come to a compromise, but in the meantime, she had been making arrangements for another place next to her ex and kids. It seemed like she wanted the OP to give up and shift with her, regardless of how it affected his children.
That’s why it’s clear that the man saw divorce as the only option, because his wife wasn’t willing to consider his or his kids’ needs. So, he didn’t see any point in taking things further or getting into fights with her. His children’s mental peace was of utmost importance to him, and she did not like that he did that.
People don’t get into relationships hoping that they’ll end; everyone wants to work things out with their partner. They might only think of ending things if there is incompatibility in their goals and values, divorce attorney Brette says. The OP and his partner definitely seemed to be on different wavelengths, so it made sense that they might not be able to work things out.
These kinds of situations might be difficult as both partners care about each other, but they also have to think about their children. Neither of them is wrong for wanting to be close to their kids, but there might have been other solutions that they could have explored.
Do you think the poster could have done anything differently instead of immediately thinking of divorce? Do share your honest thoughts below.
Folks felt that the man had made the right decision for his children, and many also understood his wife’s point of view
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Janelle Collard 3 months ago
Good for OP! Absolutely NTA. Too bad wifey thought she could get him to cave to her decision + move with her. If OP had to move him + his kids for his job, that's different. Having to move *your* kids to follow your stepkids is a huge ask.
Lee Gilliland 3 months ago
She's not interested in "talking things out", she's interested in hubby caving.
Jane Doe 3 months ago
This. They talked things out before they got married: "kids come first." They talked things out when she said her kids are moving and she is moving, too. She said, I'm moving to be by my kids. He said, I'm sorry. My kids and I are staying here. She said, wait, let's talk about this. He said, OK. She said, my kids are moving and I'm moving too. He said, I'm sorry. My kids and I are staying here. She said....
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Janelle Collard 3 months ago
Good for OP! Absolutely NTA. Too bad wifey thought she could get him to cave to her decision + move with her. If OP had to move him + his kids for his job, that's different. Having to move *your* kids to follow your stepkids is a huge ask.
Lee Gilliland 3 months ago
She's not interested in "talking things out", she's interested in hubby caving.
Jane Doe 3 months ago
This. They talked things out before they got married: "kids come first." They talked things out when she said her kids are moving and she is moving, too. She said, I'm moving to be by my kids. He said, I'm sorry. My kids and I are staying here. She said, wait, let's talk about this. He said, OK. She said, my kids are moving and I'm moving too. He said, I'm sorry. My kids and I are staying here. She said....
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