Sister’s Family Tries Shaming Man For Not Paying $190 For Their Son’s Steak, Despite The Man Warning The Boy Not To Order It Interview
A deal is a deal, whether it’s a serious agreement or a silly game. However, some people agree to things only to pout when they have to hold up their end of the bargain.
The redditor u/International_Set522 made a deal with his brother-in-law after taking the family out for dinner. Their agreement was based on whether or not his nephew—the BIL’s son—could finish his meal. The amount of food that was left resulted in the brother-in-law having to put his money where his mouth was and the redditor turning to the AITA community.
Bored Panda has reached out to the OP and he was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. You will find his thoughts in the text below.
Some people are more keen on holding up their end of the bargain than others
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This person refused to pay for his nephew’s meal after making a deal with the boy’s father
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Even though the OP’s brother-in-law didn’t seem happy about the situation, he kept his word
The OP wanted to treat his family to a nice dinner, but he didn’t think his nephew could finish a three-pound steak, which is why he suggested opting for a smaller option. He admitted to Bored Panda that he was somewhat annoyed that his sister didn’t tell her son to pick a reasonable meal. “It wasn’t the price I cared about, it was the portion size. I took them to a nice restaurant, not an eating contest,” he said. However, his brother-in-law thought the OP simply didn’t want to pay for the pricey meal, which eventually led to the BIL paying for it himself, adhering to a deal they made.
Research shows that the majority of people tend to keep their word. It pointed out that promises encourage people to get into voluntary commitments about future behavior, which enables human cooperation. Promises have a strong binding effect on people’s behavior as they are expected to act a certain way, which leads to them typically keeping their word. However, according to the research, they don’t expect others to do it to the same extent.
Even though the OP’s brother-in-law didn’t seem to be too happy about the situation, he kept his word and paid for his son’s meal. Whether or not people like the promises they made, keeping them can have a positive effect on them.
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The OP refuses to pay for food that goes to waste, and unfortunately, tons of it does every year
Before ordering, the OP wasn’t sure if the family would take the leftovers home or the meal would end up being wasted. According to the Food And Agriculture Organization Of The United Nations, roughly one-third of food that is produced for human consumption is lost or wasted globally, adding up to around 1.3 billion tons per year. The World Counts revealed that up to this point in 2023, over 560 million tons of food has already been wasted globally this year.
“My sister and I grew up poor. We never wasted food,” the OP told Bored Panda. “And we learned how to stretch a dollar for our food budget. The thing is I don’t think they were trying for leftovers. I have no problem taking her and filling her fridge and pantry when I visit. I just think if you order a meal at a nice restaurant you should savor it and walk away satisfied but not waddling. Once again, this was a very nice restaurant. If I had taken them to Golden Corral or something where it was all you can eat, I would expect them to gorge but not put food on their plate that they weren’t going to eat.
Even though food waste is a problem of grand proportions, there are small steps each person can take to try and scale it down. The European Food Information Council (EUFIC) pointed out that people can start by reducing food waste at home by planning their meals and properly storing their food, for instance. Moreover, familiarizing yourself with the differences between the ‘use by’ and ‘best before’ dates as well as ways to repurpose waste when possible can also help reach the goal.
Among other things, EUFIC suggested that avoiding serving too much can help minimize food waste as well. The OP was sure his nephew wouldn’t be able to finish the whole meal, which is why he proposed a deal to his father who believed otherwise (since, as the redditor later pointed out, he refuses to pay for food that goes to waste). Their agreement ended in the brother-in-law having to pay for the steak and the OP asking the AITA community if he was a jerk for making him do so.
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The majority of redditors didn’t consider the OP a jerk, even though a few thought otherwise
I think the YTA people have a good point. If I’m invited out for dinner - and somebody else is paying - I’ll commonly order one of every item on the menu. And take whatever I don’t eat home to eat later. If I’m invited round for dinner, il lest what they give me, then go through their cupboards to see what else I can eat. Sometimes I’ll pour a couple of bowls of milk and cereal, with no intention of eating them, or pour their best liquor down the toilet. No, wait, I don’t do any of those fingers. And the OP is 100% NTA.
Was ready to downvote, not gonna lie :-P
Saaaame but had a good laugh instead 😂
Yup, he got us good in the beginning, LOL!!
Yep haha
My jaw kept dropping as I read this 😂 "....order one of every item on the menu"
Almost got me but great response
You almost had me Ron lol
Made me laugh Ron, one of the same
Hahaha
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I thought this was going to end with you are always starving and need to hoard food. Then when you started saying "dump cereal out" and I started getting MAD! One time I was staying with some cousins and we offered to use our food stamps to buy groceries and she was letting her daughter dump everything out in the trash and just waste it. Then her husband came home and opened a 2 liter right in front of me and started chugging it right in front of my face then dumped the rest down the sink. I said F**K THAT and after that we did the grocery shopping in secret and hid our food downstairs. Did not stay there very Long. And they offered for us to move in almost insisted so it's not like we were putting them out.
Got me in the 1st half lol
Best comment of the week take my upvote 😆 😂
You brat! You almost had me swallowing that whopper! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't understand those YTA people here, being treated for a meal doesn't mean you can outright abuse the offer and eat as expensive as possible. OP was generous for even offering to pay for this even though it's extremely expensive and obvious that one child can't eat it, and he clearly stated beforehand that BL would have to pay for it if the kid can't eat it.
The YTA are the AH that when treated to something get the most expensive meal possible just because it’s on someone elses dime, sinple
Exactly.. this family was totally taking advantage of the uncles generosity.
And be cheap as hobos if they ever treat others
I 8nce took my niece to a restaurant knowing she would order the most expensive thing. But that's why I took her there. It was her dream to try especially this dish and it was the only restaurant that had this and we both knew it would be expensive and it was her special birthday gift AND it was the sole reason to go out. Still, when she saw the price she tried ordering something else but a promise is a promise and I knew what it would cost. I feel that's the only situation were ordering the most expensive dish when invited is reasonable. When the one treating you knows beforehand that it's your favourite food and invites you to get it. Otherwise it's just so tacky and rude to order the most expensive thing when treated just because it's the most expensive thing. It's incredibly entitled and ungrateful. Also I can see the leer of that guy through my screen although there is no photo. He only did it gor the lolz and to stick it to OP. It's just nasty.
There's nothing wrong with that. Gifting an expensive meal that they'll actually eat makes perfect sense. I'm assuming your niece probably ate and loved the whole thing. That really makes the gift worthwhile for both of you. Very different to eating a quarter of a three person meal. Which incidentally means the kid wouldn't have even finished a *regular* size meal.
They felt entitled to that meal and their choice reflected that. They'd be going to Applebee's from here on out, if I dealt with them at all.
Exactly! If my kid is not paying for the meal himself, he's not getting a $90 steak let alone a $190 steak! I would go even stricter on the budget if I'm not paying.
Depends on the restaurant, if it's one where a standard size meal is around $90 then fair enough. That's the choice you make going to that restaurant. It's only a problem if they're choosing something that's obviously not a "standard meal".
I stand by what I said. I can't imagine taking my kids to a restaurant where a standard meal is $90
They are probably people who do the same thing as the kid and abuse generosity. Or are swimming in cash.
It is assholish to abuse somebodys generosity. People like these lack some basic human… things. Empathy? Shame? Brains?
My parents would NEVER have allowed me to order a 190$ dish, especially not when someone else is treating. BIL is TA for allowing this, and for all that came afterwards.
Exactly! How come the parents didn’t speak up and teach their some some manners about not being ridiculous and abusing someone’s hospitality. That was embarrassing. I think the BIL must have jealousy issues and just wanted to try to stick it to the host in some perverse way.
I'm a fully grown adult and I'd never order a $190 dish, even if I was paying for it!
I think the YTA people have a good point. If I’m invited out for dinner - and somebody else is paying - I’ll commonly order one of every item on the menu. And take whatever I don’t eat home to eat later. If I’m invited round for dinner, il lest what they give me, then go through their cupboards to see what else I can eat. Sometimes I’ll pour a couple of bowls of milk and cereal, with no intention of eating them, or pour their best liquor down the toilet. No, wait, I don’t do any of those fingers. And the OP is 100% NTA.
Was ready to downvote, not gonna lie :-P
Saaaame but had a good laugh instead 😂
Yup, he got us good in the beginning, LOL!!
Yep haha
My jaw kept dropping as I read this 😂 "....order one of every item on the menu"
Almost got me but great response
You almost had me Ron lol
Made me laugh Ron, one of the same
Hahaha
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I thought this was going to end with you are always starving and need to hoard food. Then when you started saying "dump cereal out" and I started getting MAD! One time I was staying with some cousins and we offered to use our food stamps to buy groceries and she was letting her daughter dump everything out in the trash and just waste it. Then her husband came home and opened a 2 liter right in front of me and started chugging it right in front of my face then dumped the rest down the sink. I said F**K THAT and after that we did the grocery shopping in secret and hid our food downstairs. Did not stay there very Long. And they offered for us to move in almost insisted so it's not like we were putting them out.
Got me in the 1st half lol
Best comment of the week take my upvote 😆 😂
You brat! You almost had me swallowing that whopper! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't understand those YTA people here, being treated for a meal doesn't mean you can outright abuse the offer and eat as expensive as possible. OP was generous for even offering to pay for this even though it's extremely expensive and obvious that one child can't eat it, and he clearly stated beforehand that BL would have to pay for it if the kid can't eat it.
The YTA are the AH that when treated to something get the most expensive meal possible just because it’s on someone elses dime, sinple
Exactly.. this family was totally taking advantage of the uncles generosity.
And be cheap as hobos if they ever treat others
I 8nce took my niece to a restaurant knowing she would order the most expensive thing. But that's why I took her there. It was her dream to try especially this dish and it was the only restaurant that had this and we both knew it would be expensive and it was her special birthday gift AND it was the sole reason to go out. Still, when she saw the price she tried ordering something else but a promise is a promise and I knew what it would cost. I feel that's the only situation were ordering the most expensive dish when invited is reasonable. When the one treating you knows beforehand that it's your favourite food and invites you to get it. Otherwise it's just so tacky and rude to order the most expensive thing when treated just because it's the most expensive thing. It's incredibly entitled and ungrateful. Also I can see the leer of that guy through my screen although there is no photo. He only did it gor the lolz and to stick it to OP. It's just nasty.
There's nothing wrong with that. Gifting an expensive meal that they'll actually eat makes perfect sense. I'm assuming your niece probably ate and loved the whole thing. That really makes the gift worthwhile for both of you. Very different to eating a quarter of a three person meal. Which incidentally means the kid wouldn't have even finished a *regular* size meal.
They felt entitled to that meal and their choice reflected that. They'd be going to Applebee's from here on out, if I dealt with them at all.
Exactly! If my kid is not paying for the meal himself, he's not getting a $90 steak let alone a $190 steak! I would go even stricter on the budget if I'm not paying.
Depends on the restaurant, if it's one where a standard size meal is around $90 then fair enough. That's the choice you make going to that restaurant. It's only a problem if they're choosing something that's obviously not a "standard meal".
I stand by what I said. I can't imagine taking my kids to a restaurant where a standard meal is $90
They are probably people who do the same thing as the kid and abuse generosity. Or are swimming in cash.
It is assholish to abuse somebodys generosity. People like these lack some basic human… things. Empathy? Shame? Brains?
My parents would NEVER have allowed me to order a 190$ dish, especially not when someone else is treating. BIL is TA for allowing this, and for all that came afterwards.
Exactly! How come the parents didn’t speak up and teach their some some manners about not being ridiculous and abusing someone’s hospitality. That was embarrassing. I think the BIL must have jealousy issues and just wanted to try to stick it to the host in some perverse way.
I'm a fully grown adult and I'd never order a $190 dish, even if I was paying for it!