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Woman Brings Out Her Husband’s Ashes And Bursts Into Tears After Rude Guy’s Demands
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Losing a loved one is one of life’s most difficult experiences, and how we handle it looks different for everyone. For this woman, grief took on a form she hadn’t quite expected.
One fateful day, a pushy salesman appeared on her doorstep, demanding to speak to “the man of the house.” Not realizing he was talking to a widow, he refused to take no for an answer—so she decided to give him exactly what he asked for, in a way he’d never forget.
Read on for the full story.
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Unaware she was a widow, he refused to leave, so she decided to give him exactly what he asked for
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Clinical psychologist, EMDR therapist, and founder of The Travel Psychologist, Dr. Charlotte Russell, offered her expertise to Bored Panda, explaining that the woman’s response was completely reasonable given the circumstances.
“It was her assertiveness that really stood out to me,” she said. “She was being pressured by a salesman who was intrusive, sexist, and quite rude. She stood up to him by bringing out her husband’s ashes, which shone a light on the inappropriateness of his behavior.”
Dr. Russell encouraged people to respond confidently when confronted with disrespect and rudeness, especially when it triggers difficult emotions.
“So, assertiveness and humor appeared to be part of this woman’s coping,” she added. “That’s completely okay.”
Dr. Russell noted that we all experience grief differently. This is especially true in cases of bereavement, as each relationship we lose is unique, so it’s essential to find a way to process the loss that feels right for us individually.
“Of course, as psychologists, we know there are approaches that can facilitate this process and others that might hinder it,” she said. “However, there is certainly no ‘one-size-fits-all’ or single ‘right’ way to process trauma.”
“What is important, however, is that we have a range of strategies and not just one or two,” Dr. Russell concluded. “If we rely solely on humor to cope, this is unlikely to be helpful. But if we use humor in some situations and have one or two close friends we can be genuinely honest with about our feelings, this is much healthier.”
Commenters offered kind words and admired how the woman dealt with the situation
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Sivi 1 year ago
I was maybe 3, someone rang the doorbell, mom was upstairs so I opened the door to what I think was those religinion people. Asked to talk to an adult, I called the dog as I was told she was an adult dog. Guess a 60+kg newfoundland dog was scary as they ran when she gave them a mighty bark as a hello :3. that dog worked overtime babysitting me.
Christina Dutta 1 year ago
A pushy salesperson rang me shortly after my husband had died. They wanted to talk to him and would take no for an answer, Eventually I said "you can't, he's dead". Stunned silence and they rang off. I don't thing people often use the word "dead" these days, it's all euphemisms.
Traveling Lady Railfan 1 year ago (edited)
This is incredible. Reading this post, and reading what you're saying... I feel such a connection right now. I had the same thing happen to me. EXACT same. And I did the same thing that you did. I pulled the blunt old "he's dead" comment out and yeah, amazing how quickly that stops the conversation doesn't it. (PS I'm really sorry that you had to be part of the widow/widower club, too)
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Sivi 1 year ago
I was maybe 3, someone rang the doorbell, mom was upstairs so I opened the door to what I think was those religinion people. Asked to talk to an adult, I called the dog as I was told she was an adult dog. Guess a 60+kg newfoundland dog was scary as they ran when she gave them a mighty bark as a hello :3. that dog worked overtime babysitting me.
Christina Dutta 1 year ago
A pushy salesperson rang me shortly after my husband had died. They wanted to talk to him and would take no for an answer, Eventually I said "you can't, he's dead". Stunned silence and they rang off. I don't thing people often use the word "dead" these days, it's all euphemisms.
Traveling Lady Railfan 1 year ago (edited)
This is incredible. Reading this post, and reading what you're saying... I feel such a connection right now. I had the same thing happen to me. EXACT same. And I did the same thing that you did. I pulled the blunt old "he's dead" comment out and yeah, amazing how quickly that stops the conversation doesn't it. (PS I'm really sorry that you had to be part of the widow/widower club, too)
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