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Man Ignores His Girlfriend’s Objections And Allows His Little Brother To Move In With Him
Interview With AuthorThere’s no stronger bond than the one we share with our siblings. Of course, not everybody is lucky enough to have a brother or sister who they could always count on, know that they will always be there for them, support them or give them a shoulder to cry on.
This Reddit user proved this right – he welcomed his baby brother into his house and didn’t even doubt this decision despite his girlfriend’s protests, which created drama about it.
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Siblings are the closest people to us, thus most of the time we are going to prioritize them if they need our help
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Man shares that his teen brother is trans and when he came out to their parents, they didn’t take it well and became simply unbearable
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The teen then asked to move in with the man and he happily agreed, but when his girlfriend found out, she was irritated
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She said it will be uncomfortable for her, but despite her protests, the man stated that his loyalties lie with his brother
A few days ago, a Reddit user shared his story online, asking the judges of Reddit if he was being a jerk for telling his girlfriend that he prioritizes his baby brother after he welcomed him to move in despite her protests. The post caught a lot of netizens’ attention and collected more than 9.5K upvotes and 2.5K comments.
The original poster (OP) starts his story by sharing that his 17-year-old brother is trans and when he came out to his parents, they didn’t take it well at all. While they didn’t kick him out, they were deadnaming him, continued booking him hair extensions and lash appointments and didn’t let him wear a male uniform. It became so bad that he took the train and asked to move in with OP.
OP welcomed him, but his girlfriend wasn’t too excited. In fact, she stated that she will not move in if his brother is there. Despite his explanation that the house is big and there’s a place for everyone, she kept saying that she’s uncomfortable with OP’s brother being near her and her son. Finally, he told her that his loyalties lie with his baby brother, who is homeless and vulnerable, unlike a grown woman with a high income and home of her own.
Community members stood by the author and gave him the ‘Not the A-hole’ badge. “NTA – you should be proud of yourself for standing by your brother and accepting him for who he is, you’re doing what your parents have failed to do and your brother will always love and respect you for that,” one user wrote. “Honestly, your GF doesn’t sound very nice. You are NTA, and your little brother is so lucky to have you supporting him,” another added.
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Bored Panda got in touch with the author of the story and he kindly agreed to share the reason he chose to prioritize his little brother over his girlfriend, the future of finding a living arrangement that satisfies everybody and if there was something he would have done differently.
“I mean, Will’s my little brother, he is still a child, I can’t just let him wander the streets because my girlfriend decides she doesn’t want him around,” OP stated. He adds that his girlfriend still wants to be involved very much, but is adamant that she doesn’t want Will nearby. “And because of my refusal – we’ve been distant.”
Speaking about the future of their living situation, OP noted that his brother is going to live with him until he is ready to leave. He emphasized that they have a couple of good universities nearby, so he imagines that he could stay while he studies. “Nico can wait if she wishes to still move in.”
Finally, the only thing OP shared that looking back now, he would do differently was probably to get his brother to inform him that he was coming sooner, so he could at least make his girlfriend aware of it.
And what do you guys think about this situation? Was the OP right to prioritize his little brother? What’s your opinion about this situation? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Redditors backed the man up and applauded him for looking out for his brother
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arthbach 1 year ago
I'm so happy to hear this big brother is putting their sibling's needs first. Someone needs to. Hopefully this will mean a fresh start for the baby brother, and new, improved time in their life. It's always good to know someone has your back.
Kate 1 year ago
And honestly, GF is throwing some seriously red flags here. He needs to dump her.
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Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 1 year ago
How someone deals with unexpected problems really shows their character. GF has shown herself to be selfish, rigid, and manipulative (calling the mom, saying this will keep them from having kids). And also now the OP knows his GF might potentially not be a safe person for his brother.
Marcellus II 1 year ago
"selfish, manipulative" -- you; "goal-focused, inventive/resourceful" -- LinkedIn version of the same.
Load More Replies... Libstak 1 year ago (edited)
She wants to take over his home, this smells materialistic. Move in her, her son and one on the way that's his, turn him over and baste him, he is done. Her arguments are nonsense without her being manipulative, simple as that. She loses gravity in her plans if 2 brothers are sharing a home that one of them owns. I believe he owns it because a 4 bedroom rent for a single male makes zero financial sense.
BarkingSpider 1 year ago
This would be a relationship ender for me. My siblings have come to live with my multiple times and my husband was nothing but supportive even though the situation was extremely difficult.
Kate Johnson 1 year ago
It's good that he found out about her before she moved in. Now he can move on and not waste anymore time on her.
dremetrius 1 year ago
Ugh. He is absolutely doing right by his brother shelter-wise, but c'mon. She's "a bit" traditional? She doesn't think parental abuse is "that bad"? She doesn't want a "hormonal teenager" that is nearly out of his teens in the house, and also they couldn't possibly start trying to conceive with a teenager in the house but she's BRINGING A TEN YEAR OLD WITH HER? And then when the red flags are already neon bright she "doesn't feel safe" with Will SPECIFICALLY living in the same house with her and her kid. Bud. Your fiancee is a transphobe. The woman who wants to have kids with you is cool with child abuse. Don't "double wrap", you dummy, RUN. Or in this case change the locks and direct her to the nearest road she can hit.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
YTH - you're the hero. Good for OP for being rational, compassionate, and supportive of his sibling. It's too bad it comes at a cost but GF has shown her utter lack of compassion, she has a lot of growing up to do to be a good partner, better to find out before moving in.
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago
As gay men, my husband & I grew up in an era where marrying wasn’t an option and parenting wasn’t a valid consideration. We’d planned our dual-income, two-home future to include lots of family time as guncles , but mostly travel & “us” time. I’d planned to retire at 45 to have many years of hobbies & leisure activities. My closest female friend abruptly lost her hubby shortly before she found out she was pregnant. I coached her & also grieved with her. She died shortly after childbirth. I’d promise her I’d raise her baby as my own if it came to that. I was in denial about her mortality. She wasn’t. Apparently my hubby wasn’t either. When he & I had to discuss what would happen if she passed, I was expecting a possible choice between commitments. The very first thing he said was, “we should look into foster/adoption classes. Just in case.” I never had to ask him to be a dad. I never had to make the choice. He just did what had to happen. He gave up a lot, our future plans.
arthbach 1 year ago
I'm so happy to hear this big brother is putting their sibling's needs first. Someone needs to. Hopefully this will mean a fresh start for the baby brother, and new, improved time in their life. It's always good to know someone has your back.
Kate 1 year ago
And honestly, GF is throwing some seriously red flags here. He needs to dump her.
Load More Replies... Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo 1 year ago
How someone deals with unexpected problems really shows their character. GF has shown herself to be selfish, rigid, and manipulative (calling the mom, saying this will keep them from having kids). And also now the OP knows his GF might potentially not be a safe person for his brother.
Marcellus II 1 year ago
"selfish, manipulative" -- you; "goal-focused, inventive/resourceful" -- LinkedIn version of the same.
Load More Replies... Libstak 1 year ago (edited)
She wants to take over his home, this smells materialistic. Move in her, her son and one on the way that's his, turn him over and baste him, he is done. Her arguments are nonsense without her being manipulative, simple as that. She loses gravity in her plans if 2 brothers are sharing a home that one of them owns. I believe he owns it because a 4 bedroom rent for a single male makes zero financial sense.
BarkingSpider 1 year ago
This would be a relationship ender for me. My siblings have come to live with my multiple times and my husband was nothing but supportive even though the situation was extremely difficult.
Kate Johnson 1 year ago
It's good that he found out about her before she moved in. Now he can move on and not waste anymore time on her.
dremetrius 1 year ago
Ugh. He is absolutely doing right by his brother shelter-wise, but c'mon. She's "a bit" traditional? She doesn't think parental abuse is "that bad"? She doesn't want a "hormonal teenager" that is nearly out of his teens in the house, and also they couldn't possibly start trying to conceive with a teenager in the house but she's BRINGING A TEN YEAR OLD WITH HER? And then when the red flags are already neon bright she "doesn't feel safe" with Will SPECIFICALLY living in the same house with her and her kid. Bud. Your fiancee is a transphobe. The woman who wants to have kids with you is cool with child abuse. Don't "double wrap", you dummy, RUN. Or in this case change the locks and direct her to the nearest road she can hit.
FreeTheUnicorn 1 year ago
YTH - you're the hero. Good for OP for being rational, compassionate, and supportive of his sibling. It's too bad it comes at a cost but GF has shown her utter lack of compassion, she has a lot of growing up to do to be a good partner, better to find out before moving in.
ॐBoyGanesh 1 year ago
As gay men, my husband & I grew up in an era where marrying wasn’t an option and parenting wasn’t a valid consideration. We’d planned our dual-income, two-home future to include lots of family time as guncles , but mostly travel & “us” time. I’d planned to retire at 45 to have many years of hobbies & leisure activities. My closest female friend abruptly lost her hubby shortly before she found out she was pregnant. I coached her & also grieved with her. She died shortly after childbirth. I’d promise her I’d raise her baby as my own if it came to that. I was in denial about her mortality. She wasn’t. Apparently my hubby wasn’t either. When he & I had to discuss what would happen if she passed, I was expecting a possible choice between commitments. The very first thing he said was, “we should look into foster/adoption classes. Just in case.” I never had to ask him to be a dad. I never had to make the choice. He just did what had to happen. He gave up a lot, our future plans.
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