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Dad Texts Wife The Kitchen Is On Fire Because He’s Mad She Left Him With Baby Longer Than Expected, It Backfires When Cops Show Up
It’s no secret that being a stay-at-home mom is one of the most draining, physically and mentally demanding duties many women go through at some point in their lives. Studies suggest that stay-at-home moms report more depression, sadness, and anger, and that’s without taking into account societal pressure or getting overlooked altogether.
So this story from a fully exhausted 31-year-old SAH mom with a husband who’s working full-time shows the level of insanity so many women experience in what should be the comfort of their home. “My sister’s wedding is coming up and we already received an invite, but the thing is, I had to go dress shopping and get my hair done. I asked my husband on his day off if he could stay with our son for just 2 hours,” the woman who goes by u/Adjust-Ad3654 wrote on the AITA subreddit.
It seemed that the husband was less than happy with the prospect but finally “he shrugged, saying ‘fine, go… but 2 hours and not a minute more!’” Not only did he keep calling her every ten minutes asking when she’d be back, he sent her heart to her heels by texting something no mom would ever wish to hear. If that’s not manipulation at its worst, I don’t know what is.
Read the full story below, and be sure to share your thoughts in the comment section.
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One woman has recently shared a story of how her husband got so mad she left him with their baby and didn’t come back home earlier, he sent her a false text to frighten her
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Sinkvenice 4 years ago
Wow. Just... wow. This dude has serious problems that need to be addressed immediately. He thinks she lied to him, which is an unbelievably moronic thing to say, so his solution is to lie to her about the kitchen being on fire; WTF? Him and his family all sound like utter c**ts. He's throwing a temper tantrum because he has to look after the son he created and his family are angry because it was his one day off; He should’ve been looking forward to spending a whole day with his son. What's the point of being a parent if he's going to whinge about spending an incredibly short amount of time with his child? If what this woman says is completely accurate, there are so many red flags it looks like a field of poppies… or a field of red flags even :-) This is abhorrent, it’s emotional abuse. Either she needs to leave him or they both go to some sort of counselling. For the sake of their kid, at least. Hopefully their son will never know about this.
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
I don't think the counseling will work on his end (especially if he has to pay for it), but worth a shot. His family reinforces his behaviour by taking his side - he obviously looks to them for confirmation that his wife is the bad one in every situation.
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Squiddles 4 years ago
I know most people don’t like suggesting divorce…but yeah do it while you haven’t been out of the work force for too long. Do not trust this man, he’s emotionally abusive and his family supports it. Sharing joint custody is better than getting deeper and deeper into that.
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Kirsti Murch 4 years ago
He's actually abusive and needs to grow up, show her some respect, look after his child as well. ( he's not the babysitter!) Im glad the sister called the cops. Hopefully next time mum goes out she can enjoy 4 hours on her own.
Viviane 4 years ago
I don't think he'll learn from the consequences, since he blames his wife and got his family to join in the chorus of disapproval.
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zovjraar me 4 years ago
if all he's going to contribute to the family is money and a couple of hours with his kid, he can pay child support and see his kid on the weekends. she'd be way better off.
Trillian 4 years ago
Where do you all find these man-babies and why do you have actual babies with them?
Rocky Mom 4 years ago
It is like the whole God damn world doesn't understand the important meaning and impact of having a child, the planning of having a child, or that unprotected sex may lead to a child. I really dislike people. So, so many innocent lives affected by stupid humans. This is by witnessing the countless lives in devastation because of unstable, immature "parents"
Load More Replies... Adam Dee 4 years ago
This poor woman needs a divorce. He keeps the bills paid but not much else, from what I can see. Working full time doesn't excuse you from being a parent. The guy sounds like an absolute control freak and still sulks like a child - she needs to bin him off. No amount of counselling is going to fix this relationship.
Viviane 4 years ago
The only reason for trying counselling (or suggesting it) is to build a case against him. Him evolving would mean going against his family's views. He's not likely to do that.
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Flying Captain 4 years ago
My worst fear is that you commit and go through crucial steps of the relationship and then it turns out like that. Like you weren't able to see the signs before or even there were no signs before that.
K Witmer 4 years ago
It is very scary especially when you have a child bc your partner could really mess w your life if they are abusive or controlling in any way much harder to leave.
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kjorn 4 years ago
sometime when my kids were really young i litteraly wanted to cry of exaustion because i couldn't have a break. but you know what, that's my job! If that guy is too dumb to realise his job is to take care of his family then just get in a river and drown yourself dumb f**k
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
That's what principles and a moral compass are for - they override impulses. A few reddit commenters suggested that he might have anxiety. However, one nervous father admitted that he had been an asshole to his wife when the kids were very young (so he evolved). A person with anxiety pointed out that they themselves would not abuse a spouse over child care.
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Anna Heaslet 4 years ago
And on another note, the lying sounds like he has something going on mentally. Who lies about a fire just because they don't want to watch their child any longer?? This is ABUSE. Plain and simple. Him and his family can both go suck it.
abby smink 4 years ago
He's decided he's the babysitter and not the parent, and gets to "clock out" from what job whenever he pleases. Also, holy gaslighting, telling her it's all her fault. Run run run, he clearly doesn't care about the kid anyways and you can't even take a fraction of a day for yourself, you'll be better off.
Sinkvenice 4 years ago
Wow. Just... wow. This dude has serious problems that need to be addressed immediately. He thinks she lied to him, which is an unbelievably moronic thing to say, so his solution is to lie to her about the kitchen being on fire; WTF? Him and his family all sound like utter c**ts. He's throwing a temper tantrum because he has to look after the son he created and his family are angry because it was his one day off; He should’ve been looking forward to spending a whole day with his son. What's the point of being a parent if he's going to whinge about spending an incredibly short amount of time with his child? If what this woman says is completely accurate, there are so many red flags it looks like a field of poppies… or a field of red flags even :-) This is abhorrent, it’s emotional abuse. Either she needs to leave him or they both go to some sort of counselling. For the sake of their kid, at least. Hopefully their son will never know about this.
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
I don't think the counseling will work on his end (especially if he has to pay for it), but worth a shot. His family reinforces his behaviour by taking his side - he obviously looks to them for confirmation that his wife is the bad one in every situation.
Load More Replies... Squiddles 4 years ago
I know most people don’t like suggesting divorce…but yeah do it while you haven’t been out of the work force for too long. Do not trust this man, he’s emotionally abusive and his family supports it. Sharing joint custody is better than getting deeper and deeper into that.
Load More Replies... Kirsti Murch 4 years ago
He's actually abusive and needs to grow up, show her some respect, look after his child as well. ( he's not the babysitter!) Im glad the sister called the cops. Hopefully next time mum goes out she can enjoy 4 hours on her own.
Viviane 4 years ago
I don't think he'll learn from the consequences, since he blames his wife and got his family to join in the chorus of disapproval.
Load More Replies... zovjraar me 4 years ago
if all he's going to contribute to the family is money and a couple of hours with his kid, he can pay child support and see his kid on the weekends. she'd be way better off.
Trillian 4 years ago
Where do you all find these man-babies and why do you have actual babies with them?
Rocky Mom 4 years ago
It is like the whole God damn world doesn't understand the important meaning and impact of having a child, the planning of having a child, or that unprotected sex may lead to a child. I really dislike people. So, so many innocent lives affected by stupid humans. This is by witnessing the countless lives in devastation because of unstable, immature "parents"
Load More Replies... Adam Dee 4 years ago
This poor woman needs a divorce. He keeps the bills paid but not much else, from what I can see. Working full time doesn't excuse you from being a parent. The guy sounds like an absolute control freak and still sulks like a child - she needs to bin him off. No amount of counselling is going to fix this relationship.
Viviane 4 years ago
The only reason for trying counselling (or suggesting it) is to build a case against him. Him evolving would mean going against his family's views. He's not likely to do that.
Load More Replies... Flying Captain 4 years ago
My worst fear is that you commit and go through crucial steps of the relationship and then it turns out like that. Like you weren't able to see the signs before or even there were no signs before that.
K Witmer 4 years ago
It is very scary especially when you have a child bc your partner could really mess w your life if they are abusive or controlling in any way much harder to leave.
Load More Replies... kjorn 4 years ago
sometime when my kids were really young i litteraly wanted to cry of exaustion because i couldn't have a break. but you know what, that's my job! If that guy is too dumb to realise his job is to take care of his family then just get in a river and drown yourself dumb f**k
Viviane 4 years ago (edited)
That's what principles and a moral compass are for - they override impulses. A few reddit commenters suggested that he might have anxiety. However, one nervous father admitted that he had been an asshole to his wife when the kids were very young (so he evolved). A person with anxiety pointed out that they themselves would not abuse a spouse over child care.
Load More Replies... Anna Heaslet 4 years ago
And on another note, the lying sounds like he has something going on mentally. Who lies about a fire just because they don't want to watch their child any longer?? This is ABUSE. Plain and simple. Him and his family can both go suck it.
abby smink 4 years ago
He's decided he's the babysitter and not the parent, and gets to "clock out" from what job whenever he pleases. Also, holy gaslighting, telling her it's all her fault. Run run run, he clearly doesn't care about the kid anyways and you can't even take a fraction of a day for yourself, you'll be better off.
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