“I’m Going To Report You To A Manager!”: ‘Old White Lady’ Mistakes Customer For An Employee, Gets Mocked Instead
InterviewThe customer isn’t always right. Especially when they assume someone is an employee… at a store they don’t even work at. Of course, nearly everyone has mistaken a stranger for a staff member at least once, even though nobody likes to accept it. But it’s how you handle the next moments of the conversation that truly defines the level of embarrassment you’re about to feel.
One shopper, however, showed her true colors after she approached a fellow buyer, lashed out, and just couldn’t admit her fault. This scenario comes from Redditor RainbowSprinkles4, who recently shared her encounter with an “Old White Lady” radiating powerful Karen energy at Joann fabrics and crafts store. As she detailed in a post on the ‘I Don’t Work Here Lady’ subreddit, she was browsing the shelves on Halloween when she heard someone shouting at her.
The rude lady addressed her with an accosting “you work here?”, and you already know it’s gonna be good. She started bombarding the woman with commands to get her fabric cut, but the user picked the perfect weapon to respond — humor. Read on to find out how the situation unfolded, as well as our interview with the Redditor, and be sure to share what you think of the whole exchange in the comments!
One lady had mistaken a stranger for an employee and lashed out at her in the store, refusing to accept the fact she doesn’t work there
Image credits: Kahyap Pictures (not the actual photo)
So the customer decided to have some fun and share the encounter online
Image credits: RainbowSprinkles4
Image credits: cottonbro studio (not the actual photo)
We got in touch with the author of the post who was kind enough to chat with us about the encounter. RainbowSprinkles4 explained that her boyfriend, who’s really into Reddit, inspired her to share the post online. “I texted him the story as soon as I left the store because I was basically in shock. He mentioned this subreddit, and I had been lurking on the site for a while and decided to give sharing it a shot,” the Redditor told Bored Panda.
The ‘I Don’t Work Here Lady’ online community is the perfect space for stories like this one. The forum, which is essentially a “derivative of subreddits like Tales From Retail” was created 8 years ago to offer a platform for people to share “stories about folks that go into other businesses and have irate customers mistake them for employees.”
The woman was shocked to see the story blow up on the platform to the extent it did. “For the most part, everyone has been commiserating from their own Karen experiences and getting a good laugh out of it. I love making people laugh, so those responses are my favorite. There have been a few people who thought I made it up, but honestly, who could make this up?”
We were curious to learn how the situation unfolded, and RainbowSprinkles4 was more than happy to give us an update. “Basically she kinda snarled at me, I don’t know a better word for the sound she made. Just a loud, ‘ugh!'” After this confusing exchange, the lady stormed off, “literally just left her cart in the middle of the store. It was really anticlimactic, but I’m kinda glad it didn’t escalate.”
Later on, the user joined the discussion in the comments to clarify some details
Still, the motivation behind the lady’s actions remains a mystery: “Who knows why anyone acts the way they do?” Redditor asked. “There have been a few people who have mentioned that it sounds like the effects of some kind of lapse in mental ability, and I hope it’s not that cause I would feel really bad for being so snarky.”
But the woman, who is currently working several jobs — “one as a teacher and one in food service” — has noticed a significant upswing in entitlement lately on all fronts. “I think we’re all feeling that rush and pressure, and it gets taken out on whoever causes that hiccup,” she added.
Emily Zitek, a professor at Cornell University’s School of Industrial and Labor Relations, told us in a previous interview that researchers debate whether entitlement in our society is getting more severe. “Some people think the data indicates that entitlement is going up, and others think that entitlement is staying the same.”
But why do people behave this way? In essence, “entitled individuals view themselves as unique, and they believe that they should receive rewards and benefits, such as more money, better grades, or preferential treatment, regardless of their performance or effort in comparison with others,” Zitek explained.
Psychological entitlement makes people more selfish, follow instructions less often, and make them more likely to believe that things that are unpleasant for them are unfair. And as many of us know from personal experience, dealing with such individuals is challenging. “People who have to interact with entitled people report lower well-being and burnout.” So if you ever find yourself in such a situation, you “should remember that this person’s claims are not based on merit and that if [you] reject this person’s request, the person will likely get angry or upset.”
This seems to be exactly the case here, and the author of the story shared her biggest takeaway from the whole experience. “The best answer is a witty answer. Sure, cussing someone out is cathartic, but there’s no better feeling than being devastatingly clever.”
Readers applauded the way this person handled the situation and chimed in with their own experiences
Once I mistook a customer for store employee(he was wearing same color tshirt) and asked him whether they have this(shirt or something)in M size. He started looking for it. There was a girl with him who started laughing and I realized he was shopping just like me. I apologized to him. I heard him saying to the girl that it would have been rude of him not to help me.
I made the mistake of wearing a red t-shirt into Target early in the morning when most of the people there are staff frantically restocking things.
Load More Replies...I'm tall and people in stores ask me to get stuff off of top shelves sometimes. They know I don't work there I think, But they know I can reach! I have had a few elderly ladies ask if I "work here?", I say no, can I help you though? Ha ha...like what I am going to be able to help with?? Oh yeah..the stuff on the top shelf....
Okay, okay... I've been guilty of this! I'm a shortie, so on a couple of occasions I've asked a kindly tall person to reach something on a tall shelf. On behalf of short people everywhere, we thank you for your tall stature and help! ☺️
Load More Replies...Good story—but I could do without the “old WHITE lady” description. Who gives a f@ck what color the person is here or in any other matter?
If you read the comments, the poster explains why she described her that way, and she’s not wrong.
Load More Replies...I'm starting to not find these funny anymore and more likely to think these old ladies probably just have mild dementia or the beginnings of alzheimer's or senility. So it just makes me sad instead.
Nope. Neither of those things are an excuse to be a douche nozzle to ANYONE. I've known several people with dementia and Alzheimer's, and NONE ofthem would have been this nasty. That's a reflection of the character of the woman, not her neurological state.
Load More Replies...I'm a Black woman and this happens to me ALL THE TIME. And it is ALWAYS older white women. RainbowSprinkles4 is just callin' it as she sees it.
Load More Replies...Last time this happened to me I (f66) was putting clothes I’d tried on at Kohl’s on the return rack in the dressing room. A 30-some year old woman demanded that I find her the shirt she’d tried on in a different size. When I explained that I didn’t work there she yelled at me for having my iPad (the case for which doubles as my wallet) with me. Apparently, carrying an iPad made me indistinguishable from a sales clerk, so it was my fault that she mistook me - and why was I putting clothes on the returns rack if I was just a customer. I mean, I dunno. Maybe because they have signs up asking you to put the stuff you don’t want there? I looked after she left in a huff. Of course, her dressing room was a mess of discarded try-ons laying in heaps and piles. Because, I guess “real customers” don’t clean up after themselves.
Yes, people, 30 something. I highly doubt she had dementia.
Load More Replies...I had a similar situation, only via a mix-up with Etsy. I received a heated message from a lady about her order, but she clearly messaged me by mistake. I replied: "Hello! I'm sorry, but you've accidentally messaged the wrong person, as I'm not a seller" . Then I explained how she could contact the person she purchased from. She responded: "Well, where is my order?? Don't you know? Find it or give me a refund!". I again explained that I wasn't a seller and that she should contact the proper person, then she got *really* pissed...saying she wanted a refund immediately, why can't I just tell her where her order was, and finished with "Don't contact me again!" Yeah, dementia is no joke.
She clearly doesn’t understand how Etsy works, and thought you were another Etsy employee.
Load More Replies...If it's egregious, or they ignore the first "I don't work here" I like to go with the mirror technique - pretend you think they're an employee offering you help. "Oh, no thankyou, I don't need any fabric cut today, I'm just looking at these frosting tips. Do you know if this is the whole range you stock?" Then you start Karen-ing back at them "You should be better informed about your product range/please don't take that tone of voice with me/please get me a manager."
I look like 13 yo (I'm 15) and STILL someone mistook me. I just told her where the item was (I shopped there daily) and that was it. Needles to say I had no uniform.
I had something similar. Was wearing a work polo shirt and was browsing/drooling in an electronics shop. Some woman demanded I help her find something. I refused and said i don't work there. She said she'd report me to the manager. I said OK, let's go find one. As we were walking through the shop she was muttering that she'd have me sacked. When we found a manager she went off on one at him. He was.....I don't know this guy, he doesn't work here. Woman left the shop in a major huff. Months later I was back in the shop getting some cabling and the manager came over to the cashier and said to her, "Do you know, this guy doesn't work here" and just walked off laughing away to himself. Had to explain the background to the very confused cashier
Once I mistook a customer for store employee(he was wearing same color tshirt) and asked him whether they have this(shirt or something)in M size. He started looking for it. There was a girl with him who started laughing and I realized he was shopping just like me. I apologized to him. I heard him saying to the girl that it would have been rude of him not to help me.
I made the mistake of wearing a red t-shirt into Target early in the morning when most of the people there are staff frantically restocking things.
Load More Replies...I'm tall and people in stores ask me to get stuff off of top shelves sometimes. They know I don't work there I think, But they know I can reach! I have had a few elderly ladies ask if I "work here?", I say no, can I help you though? Ha ha...like what I am going to be able to help with?? Oh yeah..the stuff on the top shelf....
Okay, okay... I've been guilty of this! I'm a shortie, so on a couple of occasions I've asked a kindly tall person to reach something on a tall shelf. On behalf of short people everywhere, we thank you for your tall stature and help! ☺️
Load More Replies...Good story—but I could do without the “old WHITE lady” description. Who gives a f@ck what color the person is here or in any other matter?
If you read the comments, the poster explains why she described her that way, and she’s not wrong.
Load More Replies...I'm starting to not find these funny anymore and more likely to think these old ladies probably just have mild dementia or the beginnings of alzheimer's or senility. So it just makes me sad instead.
Nope. Neither of those things are an excuse to be a douche nozzle to ANYONE. I've known several people with dementia and Alzheimer's, and NONE ofthem would have been this nasty. That's a reflection of the character of the woman, not her neurological state.
Load More Replies...I'm a Black woman and this happens to me ALL THE TIME. And it is ALWAYS older white women. RainbowSprinkles4 is just callin' it as she sees it.
Load More Replies...Last time this happened to me I (f66) was putting clothes I’d tried on at Kohl’s on the return rack in the dressing room. A 30-some year old woman demanded that I find her the shirt she’d tried on in a different size. When I explained that I didn’t work there she yelled at me for having my iPad (the case for which doubles as my wallet) with me. Apparently, carrying an iPad made me indistinguishable from a sales clerk, so it was my fault that she mistook me - and why was I putting clothes on the returns rack if I was just a customer. I mean, I dunno. Maybe because they have signs up asking you to put the stuff you don’t want there? I looked after she left in a huff. Of course, her dressing room was a mess of discarded try-ons laying in heaps and piles. Because, I guess “real customers” don’t clean up after themselves.
Yes, people, 30 something. I highly doubt she had dementia.
Load More Replies...I had a similar situation, only via a mix-up with Etsy. I received a heated message from a lady about her order, but she clearly messaged me by mistake. I replied: "Hello! I'm sorry, but you've accidentally messaged the wrong person, as I'm not a seller" . Then I explained how she could contact the person she purchased from. She responded: "Well, where is my order?? Don't you know? Find it or give me a refund!". I again explained that I wasn't a seller and that she should contact the proper person, then she got *really* pissed...saying she wanted a refund immediately, why can't I just tell her where her order was, and finished with "Don't contact me again!" Yeah, dementia is no joke.
She clearly doesn’t understand how Etsy works, and thought you were another Etsy employee.
Load More Replies...If it's egregious, or they ignore the first "I don't work here" I like to go with the mirror technique - pretend you think they're an employee offering you help. "Oh, no thankyou, I don't need any fabric cut today, I'm just looking at these frosting tips. Do you know if this is the whole range you stock?" Then you start Karen-ing back at them "You should be better informed about your product range/please don't take that tone of voice with me/please get me a manager."
I look like 13 yo (I'm 15) and STILL someone mistook me. I just told her where the item was (I shopped there daily) and that was it. Needles to say I had no uniform.
I had something similar. Was wearing a work polo shirt and was browsing/drooling in an electronics shop. Some woman demanded I help her find something. I refused and said i don't work there. She said she'd report me to the manager. I said OK, let's go find one. As we were walking through the shop she was muttering that she'd have me sacked. When we found a manager she went off on one at him. He was.....I don't know this guy, he doesn't work here. Woman left the shop in a major huff. Months later I was back in the shop getting some cabling and the manager came over to the cashier and said to her, "Do you know, this guy doesn't work here" and just walked off laughing away to himself. Had to explain the background to the very confused cashier


























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