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Diamond Star, the only sort of men who'd ogle and grope girls of 4 or 5 are the sort of men who have a serious problem and need to be kept away from all children. As I understand it, they can't be taught to respect the girls - they need to be kept away from them and, if possible, supported (yes, really - such support programmes exist) so that they can avoid doing anything dreadful.

(For those who misunderstand my point about supporting adults who are attracted to small children in order to help them avoid them doing anything dreadful, I mean stuff like this: https://stopso.org.uk/)

Dear lord. I explain I was referring to a scheme which reduces the risk of children being sexually abused, and I get several downvotes for that? What kind of loony objects to protecting children from sexual abuse?

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I'm a man. I was once a little boy who obviously spent time around little girls. I noticed *LOTS* of things, but I've never come across the behaviour described. The fraction of men with a sexual interest in little girls really is tiny. I accept the truth of the report, but I can't get my head round the idea of this being commonplace - in what sort of societies?

More downvotes. Why? I accept the initial report, I present my experience. I’ve read things and seen things, and of course I know that very young girls - boys too, don't forget - get sexually abused - but I also know that the fraction of men overall with an interest in doing so to VERY young girls is very small. And so I wonder: how and where did this happen? I explain my experience, I ask questions - and then get downvotes rather than answers. I wish I understood.

You're a man. Your experience is not relevant. Did you have large breasts as a teen? Were you a sexualized girl? No. So of course you didn't notice anything, cause it wasn't about you. So kindly stick your experience where the sun doesn't shine, because it's not relevant at all

My grandparents who raised me also did a lot of international travel, to the North America, South America, North Africa, Middle East, Central and South Europe....everywhere I went men were doing the same thing, oogling a f*cking 5yrs old and trying to get near me, grandma batted their leering hands away from me sometimes but didn't catch them all.

I seek information. This is what I am curious about. When I was little, I was at family gatherings with young girls present as is totally normal. There was no "ogling" of four year old girls, no-one sticking their hand up anyone's skirt. If anything like that *had* happened, the perpetrator would have been stopped instantly, expelled, and never permitted near young children ever again. I know my family. The same applied to the same family's gatherings by the time the children had grown up, got married, and had brought their own little girls along. Shoving a hand up the skirt of a little girl is Just Plain Wrong and I'm absolutely certainly that none of my close living relatives has ever done it, and certainly never at a family gathering. So what sort of family gather permits this sort of thing to happen? I seek information. I suppose I'll just get downvotes again... 😕

I know about girls being sexually abused. Boys too. And I don't doubt your report. But I'm struggling to understand how you suffered like this from the age of four. Hardly any men have the sort of mind which would cause them to "ogle" a four year old in my experience. 14 years old is a different matter, but it being commonplace at four or five? My brain just keeps saying "Does not compute".

"In your experience". As a man. You're kind of making my point for me. As a man you don't get it, understand it, can't fathom it.....because you're a man, and are only working on your own very limited experience. Men are like this in all corners of the world, all societies, all races, all creeds, all wealth levels. If there's an opportunity, most men will take it, even if its entirely wrong and disgusting. This is the world women live in, which majority of men are ignorantly and blissfully unaware of because they "just can't get their head around it". I'm not trying to be douchy towards you and be argumentative, but, buddy, you gotta open your eyes more and go talk to more women. You're very underinformed.

Surly Scot, I know I don't know everything, But I do know something about male sexuality, and I do know that "normal" men have no sexual attraction towards girls of four or five, and the fraction of those who have is very, very small. I have seen and heard things you might be surprised at and in any case I'm working on a lot more than my personal experience or what I've heard from those I've met personally, many of whom are women. That's why I'm having trouble getting my head round your report - I don't doubt it, but wow, how come?