Dad Gives Kids $150K Each, They Blow It All Then Get Mad Because They Didn’t Get An Inheritance
Let’s be honest: greed can bring out the worst in people. The lust for wealth and everything that comes with it makes folks do strange things, even when family is involved. This can lead to some less-than-ideal situations and plenty of drama.
One person turned to an online community to share how, after inheriting their dad’s entire estate, their entitled siblings are planning to sue them amid claims they “poisoned” their dad against them. Now they’re asking netizens for legal advice.
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Greed can make people do some nasty things, all in the name of wealth and power
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One person, who inherited their dad’s entire estate after taking care of him up until his last breath, was gobsmacked when their siblings demanded a portion of their inheritance
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The person refused, based on the fact that their dad had already given their siblings $150K each as an advance on their inheritance, which they blew on cars and vacations
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Furious, the siblings have been blowing up the person’s phone, accusing them of turning their dad against them, and threatening to sue for “undue influence”
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The siblings have said they’ll drop the lawsuit for $100K each, but the person told them they’ll see them in court, before turning to netizens to ask if that’d be a jerk move
When their father passed away, the original poster (OP) thought the hardest part would be the grieving. Instead, the real drama began at the reading of the will. The dad had left his entire estate to OP, clearly disinheriting their two siblings, Mark and Jenna. Turns out, 10 years back, Mark and Jenna each got $150k as an advance inheritance.
Rather than use it to start businesses (like they promised) they treated it like a winning lottery ticket, wasting everything on vacations, cars, and lifestyle upgrades. When their dad refused to give them even more, the siblings retaliated by cutting him off and bad-mouthing him to the whole family, claiming he was “hoarding their money.”
Meanwhile, OP became the only one who ever showed up. They handled doctor’s appointments, finances, hospice visits, the whole unglamorous reality of caregiving. The will was drawn up by a longtime attorney friend and included a clause stating the siblings already received their share. Iron-clad. Crystal clear. Still, Mark and Jenna erupted like a vending machine had eaten their last dollar.
Now the siblings have lawyered up, accusing OP of using “undue influence” and demanding $100k each to make the problem disappear. OP has point-blank refused. Sure, the legal battle may cost a lot, but when someone disrespects a parent then demands a payout, beating them in the court they dragged you into would be pretty much priceless.
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From what OP tells us in their post, they’re not only dealing with entitled family members, but greedy ones too. What’s the best way to deal with an inheritance dispute, though? And do Mark and Jenna even have a case? We went digging for answers.
According to the pros over at DIY Investor, family feuds over inheritance are on the rise, with the final quarter of 2024 seeing an all-time high in quarterly applications to block probate (translation: contest a will) in England & Wales.
The legal eagles from Giambrone Law say resolving a family inheritance dispute through alternative dispute resolution (ADR) like mediation or arbitration is often a more cost-effective solution compared to a court case, and less drama for everyone involved. Maybe OP can investigate those options if it’s going to save them money.
Now, just because OP’s been served with papers doesn’t mean Mark and Jenna have an actual shot. According to Justia, simply persuading a testator (OP’s dad) to write or revise their will in a certain manner doesn’t rise to the level of undue influence. Instead, a court will look for evidence that the influencer (OP) took advantage of the testator. Good luck finding that.
Here’s hoping the sinister siblings get nothing but laughed out of court, because the will sounds like it’s watertight and it seems OP’s integrity can’t possibly be questioned, especially after all they did for their dad in the twilight of his life.
What do you think? Should Mark and Jenna get a slice of the inheritance, or should OP crush them in court? Share your thoughts in the comments!
In the comments, readers seemed to agree that the original poster definitely wasn’t the jerk in the whole mess and speculated on whether the siblings even had a case
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Weirdly this went the other way for ours once wife#3 died and the family reunited a couple of years later. Unfortunately the joy de vie fabulous person in ours died last year, however, my suggestion of opening the family chat further to extended family rather than just the [surname] family has been great as some of us had lost touch with them a long time ago. But I readily agree that inheritance has broken many families apart.
Load More Replies...All future communications from the ingrates (and their flying monkeys) should be passed on to the estate lawyer, with no reaction whatsoever from OP. Since it sounds like the lawyer was a long-term associate of the father, he will not only have the facts of the estate planning but also the reasons behind decisions made by the father.....and he will be the most believable "witness" in front of the probate court / trial judge (if it comes to that).
Been in the exact situation. As soon as the gravy train stopped due to illness of parent they cut communication with parent and couldn't be bothered with them emanymore. Took the judge all of five minutes to tell them pound sand they get nothing. Especially because the will was made before the parent got sick . It is a shame poster may lose contact with nieces and nephews for now, but when they're older hopefully they'll understand unless they are like they're parents.
Really hope they put that "give us $100k and we will go away" in writing. And what sweet emotion said there.
F**k these pople. I'd sooner blow through the money going to court with them than give them a dime. And, yes, I know that it wouldn't work that way as the assets would probably be frozen until verdict or whatever. But my point is that I'd rather literally burn this money than give them a cent.
Who the heck, sitting on 150k, blows it on frivolous things like cars & vacations ?
You would be surprised. Just think of how little time it takes for some lottery winners to end up bankrupt, then apply it to irresponsible brats like the bro and sis in this story. Zero understanding of the value of a dollar means money just gets wasted if they ever have any. They don’t pay off prior debts, they don’t invest any of it, they don’t buy a house and pay it in full or to the point where the monthly payment is practically nothing, they don’t even put any money into investments for their own children’s futures. They blow it on c**p and them it—-and all the junk they bought with it—-is just GONE, and they’re worse off than they were before because of their own spendthrift ways.
Load More Replies...If there is such a thing as 'undue influence' - which the siblings are arguing - there must be such a thing as 'due influence.' As in "due to the siblings' wasteful spending, abandonment when he was ill, and public smack talk, father was influenced to wash his hands of them.' But, I do think OP should see if there is a way to make the sibs pay his court costs when they lose the case. Too often, people file unfounded suits in the hopes that the legal costs will pressure the other party to settle despite being in the right. Being able to assign court costs to the offending party helps de-incentive those sorts of bad lawsuits.
Maybe give the sibling’s children an inheritance they cannot touch until they are 30.
Let go of your emotions and listen to your lawyer. It may be cheaper to offer them a settlement to make them go away rather than lose the whole estate to lawyer’s fees. It’s not right or fair but it may be the most practical solution.
Weirdly this went the other way for ours once wife#3 died and the family reunited a couple of years later. Unfortunately the joy de vie fabulous person in ours died last year, however, my suggestion of opening the family chat further to extended family rather than just the [surname] family has been great as some of us had lost touch with them a long time ago. But I readily agree that inheritance has broken many families apart.
Load More Replies...All future communications from the ingrates (and their flying monkeys) should be passed on to the estate lawyer, with no reaction whatsoever from OP. Since it sounds like the lawyer was a long-term associate of the father, he will not only have the facts of the estate planning but also the reasons behind decisions made by the father.....and he will be the most believable "witness" in front of the probate court / trial judge (if it comes to that).
Been in the exact situation. As soon as the gravy train stopped due to illness of parent they cut communication with parent and couldn't be bothered with them emanymore. Took the judge all of five minutes to tell them pound sand they get nothing. Especially because the will was made before the parent got sick . It is a shame poster may lose contact with nieces and nephews for now, but when they're older hopefully they'll understand unless they are like they're parents.
Really hope they put that "give us $100k and we will go away" in writing. And what sweet emotion said there.
F**k these pople. I'd sooner blow through the money going to court with them than give them a dime. And, yes, I know that it wouldn't work that way as the assets would probably be frozen until verdict or whatever. But my point is that I'd rather literally burn this money than give them a cent.
Who the heck, sitting on 150k, blows it on frivolous things like cars & vacations ?
You would be surprised. Just think of how little time it takes for some lottery winners to end up bankrupt, then apply it to irresponsible brats like the bro and sis in this story. Zero understanding of the value of a dollar means money just gets wasted if they ever have any. They don’t pay off prior debts, they don’t invest any of it, they don’t buy a house and pay it in full or to the point where the monthly payment is practically nothing, they don’t even put any money into investments for their own children’s futures. They blow it on c**p and them it—-and all the junk they bought with it—-is just GONE, and they’re worse off than they were before because of their own spendthrift ways.
Load More Replies...If there is such a thing as 'undue influence' - which the siblings are arguing - there must be such a thing as 'due influence.' As in "due to the siblings' wasteful spending, abandonment when he was ill, and public smack talk, father was influenced to wash his hands of them.' But, I do think OP should see if there is a way to make the sibs pay his court costs when they lose the case. Too often, people file unfounded suits in the hopes that the legal costs will pressure the other party to settle despite being in the right. Being able to assign court costs to the offending party helps de-incentive those sorts of bad lawsuits.
Maybe give the sibling’s children an inheritance they cannot touch until they are 30.
Let go of your emotions and listen to your lawyer. It may be cheaper to offer them a settlement to make them go away rather than lose the whole estate to lawyer’s fees. It’s not right or fair but it may be the most practical solution.


























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